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What to do when the guy you're dating has all the qualities you want but isn't attractive?

Name: What to do when the guy you're dating has all the qualities you want but isn't attractive?
Uploaded: 2024-05-24T13:30:33+00:00
Duration: 56 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: Short advice monologue (Anwar White) on dating someone who has desirable qualities but lacks physical attraction. Main guidance: if attraction doesn't…

24 May 2024 · 1 min

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Short advice monologue (Anwar White) on dating someone who has desirable qualities but lacks physical attraction. Main guidance: if attraction doesn't grow within about two to three weeks, end it rather than "faking" attraction; staying will likely reduce the relationship to roommate-level and cause self-distrust. Emphasizes honoring one's feelings, not pretending to enjoy physical intimacy, and avoiding self-abandonment.

Okay.
Freckles said, the guy I'm dating is so unattractive to me. He has most of the qualities I'm looking for. I'm struggling. If the attraction level is not increasing over two or three weeks, you're gonna have to let it go, and it sucks. It's one of the hardest things to do in dating because they have everything else. But, girl, you can't continue to be with him, because if that were the case, then y' all are just gonna be roommates, and you could have gone on to Craigslist for that if it was still available.
Right? So that. That's what it. That's what it means. It means it's not meant to be. You can't fake the funk. What are you going to do? Pretend to have, you know, pretend to like him kissing you? Right. And instead you're completely disgusted. If you don't want a guy to kiss you, you shouldn't be with him.
Don't fake the funk. Because what happens is when you ignore that, what happens is that you start to not trust yourself.
Everything in your soul is saying, don't be with this guy. But then you. Are you continuing to try to make it happen.
That's when you start to abandon yourself, and you create the pattern of abandoning yourself. Okay?