Anwar White advises that a new long-distance partner should visit within four to six weeks to prove they're serious. Don't always travel to them, and host visits in your city so you control the environment and can have multiple dates to test compatibility fast.
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Okay. Oris said, hello, I'm starting a long distance relationship and the guy wants to meet me. How can I know if he is a provider? We are the same age. Well, he needs to come to you, and you need to let him know that. And one of the things about long distance relationships that I say is that he. He has to come to see you within the first four to six weeks if he's really serious. If he's not, then he's a pen pal. And pen pals were really cute in third grade. They're not cute now. So that's what I would say about that. I have. I have clients who. There are men that are flying from Florida to New York for a first date within two to three weeks. So for those women and that are thinking, oh, my God, I can't. I don't think a guy would ever do that for me. I literally see it every week. So it's very possible. But you have to set a boundary and you have to share with him. Actually, I would feel more comfortable if you came to me.
If you. A lot of women were like, oh, I'll just come to him. He'll buy the ticket. Everything that's excess time, that's labor on your end, that you should not be doing, you are setting a precedent here. And because for the guys that try to fly you out, please understand that you're on his turf when that happens, right? And you're going to be out of sorts a little bit because it's not your city, so you might not know how to get around. Right. You want to be in your home base just in case things go left and he needs to stay in a hotel room. And you should have two to three dates a day and see how things go. If things don't work out, you home, you chilling, and you go from there. Don't go to somebody else's home turf, girl. It's like, you know, in high school, like, you would go to, like, an opposing team's field or basketball court, and it was like, home court advantage. You want to have the home court advantage. You hear me?
It's important, especially as a woman, because you want to feel safe in your interactions and you don't want to have that passive pressure that happens when a man pays for you.
