Dating coach Anwar White (14 years' experience) explains how the people you feel attracted to reflect unmet needs, past wounds, and stages of healing. He lists common partner "types" (e.g., bad boys, emotionally unavailable, older men) and gives an interpretation of what each attraction suggests about the viewer, plus practical healing steps and a CTA to book a call.
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Girl, your type is not your type. Actually, your type is your trauma and your healing. So as a dating coach for 14 years and as your fairy godbrother, I wanted to share with you what your type, what sort of personalities you are attracted to and what that means for you. Because at the end of the day, these guys are acting a fool in these dating streets. And so while they continue to act a fool, I want you to continue to be on your healing tip. Yeah. So without further ado, I'm going to share with you what personality types mean about you. Now, girl, if you're into bad boys, it means that you are too good. You're a good girl. I'm talking to the Christian girls out there and the smart girls for their own good. It means that we have some repression and I want you to heal that. I want you to say the thing that you don't want to say. I want you to do the thing that people told you not to do. You're gonna have to embody the totality of who you are. So that's for bad boys. Now if you're into good boys, there ain't nothing wrong with you. Girl, please continue to go for the good guys, please. Now if you're into the less attractive guys, it means that you probably have abandonment issues because you're trying to get with some guy that is not on your level because you don't want him to leave. Okay? So that is for the less attractive guy. If you are going for guys that are uber attractive, super attractive, it probably means that we, we have some self esteem issues and thoughts and feelings about our own looks that we need to kind of embody, explore. And you can do that with a therapist. You can also do the things that are going to make you feel good about yourself physically. Now, girl, if you're into the old men, it means that we have some, obviously some parental wounds and issues. And it means that we have some unsatisfied needs of love. Instead of going for the old guy, no shade, you can find surrogate mentors, individuals to fulfill those needs within yourself so that you don't have to look for it in a partner. Now if you're going for the younger guys, it means that you're looking for control. And these are a special shout out to the oldest siblings, the oldest daughters who had to take care of their siblings and their parents. What you're going to need to do is find the fun little girl inside. Whatever you like to do between the ages of 8 and 12, I want you to get back into that so that you can bring some more fun into your life instead of playing Miss Responsibility every goddamn day. Now, if you are going for the emotionally unavailable guy, it means no shade, girl. You're emotionally unavailable and you're going to need to start talking about your feelings. Now if you go for a guy that is physically unavailable, he lives abroad, he's in a relationship, it means that you have commitment issues and it means that you're going to have to start to engage in activities on a regular basis to find small ways to be committed to yourself so that you don't have to find that or run away from that in your dating life. And finally, if you are into the needy guys, it means that you are hyper independent and that is a trauma response. So that means that you're going to have to learn how to ask for help and feel confident doing so. Oftentimes what happens is because you couldn't rely on other people, you will find overly needy people to satisfy that need. When in reality, you have to find an internal trust within yourself. Now, if you're looking for someone that is dominant or you're attracted to someone that is dominant, it means that you probably don't have the boundaries that are needed to be in a healthy relationship. And you're gonna have to be boundaried up. And you can practice those boundaries at work, with friends and with family members. Now, at the end of the day, girl, if you're not attracted to anything or anyone or you're not attracting anyone, you probably need to book a call with me so that we can get you active in these dating streets. But I hope this is helpful. Let me know if you have any questions in the comments below and if anything resonated with you.
