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What's a situationship?

Name: What's a situationship?
Uploaded: 2024-05-09T13:57:22+00:00
Duration: 6 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: Short monologue/advice from Anwar White discussing the concept of a 'situationship'—a boundary-light romantic/sexual arrangement—addressed to a person…

9 May 2024 · 0 min

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Short monologue/advice from Anwar White discussing the concept of a 'situationship'—a boundary-light romantic/sexual arrangement—addressed to a person missing a former neighbor after six months of no contact. The speaker reframes missing the person as missing the feelings experienced with them, links situationships to boundary patterns learned from parents, and advises doing boundary work and seeking those feelings in new people/experiences.

Somalia said, my last situationship is my neighbor. It's been six months, no contact. I miss him. Advice?
Yeah. One, if. If y' all have situationships, couple of things. That's a boundary. That's a. That's boundary work that needs to do.
Yeah. That lets me know we have boundary work that we need to do. Because a situationship is only a situationship to one person. Yeah. It also means that if you are okay with being in a situationship, it means that you probably were in a situationship with one of your parents, if not both of them. And that's not shade that this is a call in Right. If you're missing him. I want to reframe that and I want to reframe it so that you understand that like you probably don't miss him. What you do miss is the feeling that you had when you were with him. So your job is to figure out how can you get that feeling in new people and new experiences. Okay.