A short YouTube monologue (Anwar White) arguing that being "demure" conforms to patriarchal expectations and limits women from taking authority in relationships and life. The speaker contrasts "princess/daughter energy" with "queen" energy, emphasizes coaching work that trains women to state their wants directly, and gives a concrete anecdote where a client demanded ice cream immediately ("$10 cash app. Get your ice cream, babe"). The piece closes with an exhortation against remaining demure.
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Okay. R. Hood Snow said yes. Amor, please. Deb, this demure. Trin, don't do it, girl. Demure is all about conforming to a patriarchal society.
You can't be demure if you're running things.
And I talk about this with my head coach all of the time, but.
Some of us aren't ready to take the throne.
If you want to keep being demure, be demure. But that's giving princess energy and not queen energy.
Okay? That's giving daughter energy.
And most of us were raised to be daughters and not women. So please understand that the women that are doing things, you know, all those friends that you're like, oh, my gosh, she's such a. I don't understand why she has a man. It's because she's not demure. It's because she speaks her truth, and she tells these men what she wants, and she gets it. One of the thing that we're. One of the things that's happening in my program is that my women, my ladies, are actually understanding that they get to tell each and every one of these men exactly what to do, and they'll do it.
One of my clients posted in the Facebook group not too long ago, literally, like a day or two ago, she's like. She told a man, I want ice cream. And he's like, oh, my God, I got you next time. She's like, no, I want it now.
$10 cash app. Get your ice cream, babe. Boom. What did Montel Jordan say? This is how we do it.