Anwar White argues most adults date like they're in junior high, chasing popularity and looks. The cheat code: pick someone attractive to you who has high intellect and emotional intelligence, not the hottest person with endless options.
But here's the gag. This is why I wanted to talk about this. Because earlier in the session, I was talking to one of my clients and I was telling her, most of us are still dating like we are in junior high and high school. And this is not me coming for you. This is me helping you understand that we actually are going to need to recalibrate the way that we are dating. Most of us are going for the popular, the hottest guy, the most popular guy. And that is actually not the way that you're going to get your husband.
Someone said, tevin Campbell, girl. Me too. Me too. And I had a better chance than you did.
Someone said, oop. Go on.
What I mean to say is.
I think it's important to understand that the popular guy is probably going to treat you like shit because he has 10 other women that are chasing him and he doesn't have to be with you.
The guy that is the hottest is the same thing. Right. It's important to understand some people are so attracted to charisma, and most of these guys will have it. A lot of us will search for things that we feel like we don't have within ourselves. So if you're a quiet girl, you're a shy girl, you're someone who plays small, you're going to lean into the guys that really play big and that take up a lot of space. Yeah.
So this is why I always say girl.
Go for the. In terms of attractiveness, go for the. I don't want to say mid guy, but someone who is attractive to you but has top intellect, top emotional intelligence. Because guess what, girl.
That'S the cheat code.
That's the cheat code.
Yeah. This is important. Okay.
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Dating Pitfalls of the Smart and Successful Woman - Get Your Guy Podcast S1 E2
