Short spoken monologue (YouTube) explaining the difference between men "chasing" vs "pursuing" women in courtship. Speaker argues chasing feels frantic and uncomfortable for women, while pursuing establishes a safe, respectful pace; emphasizes women set boundaries and own the pace of courtship.
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Wildflower said. Do you think men should chase? I don't think men should chase. I think that they should pursue. And there's a difference. And I think a lot of women actually get confused by this. What do I mean by pursue? Being pursued is like a marathon, like jogging, right? Getting chased. Like, girl, when you were playing tag when you were five years old and you were running for your life because you thought that that person was going to tag you and you would be it and you would die, Honey, that doesn't feel good, right? Your heart is beating like crazy. You think that your life is on the line. A lot of these men will chase you, and because you're not used to having a lot of attention, you'll, like, eat it up, girl. Don't eat the chase up, girl. If he's trying to see you three, four times a week, girl. You set the pace of the courtship by your boundaries. So you got to make sure that you're owning the pace, okay? Because those guys that will chase you will not like the fact that you are doing things on your pace. Guys that pursue you will already create a pace that is safe. Yeah, there's a difference.
