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When should you ask the “What are we” Question?

Name: When should you ask the “What are we” Question?
Uploaded: 2025-03-22T22:00:29+00:00
Duration: 5 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: A short monologue advising listeners (addressed to women) never to ask 'What are we?' in a relationship. The speaker argues that asking cedes power to…

22 Mar 2025 · 0 min

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A short monologue advising listeners (addressed to women) never to ask 'What are we?' in a relationship. The speaker argues that asking cedes power to the partner; instead, one should define and communicate their own desires and let the partner decide whether to match them or be let go.

Someone said, when should I ask the what is this what are we? Question? Don't ever ask that question.
Don't ever ask, what are we? Because when you do that, you are giving away or abdicating your power, and you are allowing him to dictate and define what the relationship is. Your job is actually to dictate and define the relationship for yourself and let him know what you're feeling and what you want. And he has to respond and figure out if that's what he wants as well. And if that's the case, great ride into the sunset, girl. But if he's not ready for what you're ready for, gonna have to let him go.
Okay, don't ask the what are we? Girl, you already lost.