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Why are you all considered 'Harvard' in Dating?

Name: Why are you all considered 'Harvard' in Dating?
Uploaded: 2024-01-22T16:27:47+00:00
Duration: 52 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: Short YouTube monologue by Anwar White responding to a question from "Asia" about whether ambition and success make someone less desirable. The speaker…

22 Jan 2024 · 1 min

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Short YouTube monologue by Anwar White responding to a question from "Asia" about whether ambition and success make someone less desirable. The speaker argues ambition doesn't reduce desirability but narrows the pool of potential partners because many men may feel unable to "take care of" a high-achieving partner; the speaker reframes high-achieving people as "Harvard" and encourages selectivity and confidence ("you're for the few, not the many").

Asia said. Why has ambition and success made me less desirable?
I don't think it's made you less desirable. I actually think a lot of guys desire you, but they just know that they won't be able to take care of you. And that's how men find value in relationships. You're probably making more than them. So what can he provide you?
It doesn't mean that you're less desirable, per se. It just means that he won't be able to make things happen for you like he wants to. But that's okay. You're for the few, not the many, right? I want all y' all to know that you are Harvard.
You don't have to accept a lot of people.
And that's okay. You just accept the best of the best.
Don't ever feel guilty about that.
Okay?