Why Black girls are touched deprived! #singleblackfemale #singleblackmoms #singleblackwoman #blackgi

Hey, girl. Did you know that you need four hugs a day just to survive? You need eight hugs a day just to maintain, and you need 12 hugs a day just to actually grow. Black girls over the age of five are only getting about one hug a day on average. I am Anwar. I am a dating coach for black and brown women. And the reason I'm talking about this is because I've been doing this work for about 12 years now. And I know that the majority of my clients and the women that I talk to that are black or brown actually feel uncomfortable when people touch them. This is what we call touch deprivation or starvation.

Hey, girls. So I wanted to just follow up on this video because there's a lot of context in terms of why that's the case, why black women are so uncomfortable actually being touched. And it's historical, right? This is one of the reasons why I'm a dating culture of black and brown women. Black and brown women have unique challenges that they have to actually overcome and endure if they're going to be successful in love and dating. And this is just one of them. So the context in terms of why black women are touched, starved and deprived is slavery, right? So often it was very difficult for families to stay connected because babies were taking. Being taken away from their families. So most moms and dads actually didn't touch their children and their babies because they didn't want to be connected. So they didn't want it to hurt so much when the babies were taken away. Also because there were so much grape and other things happening for young girls that families actually did not want to continue to re traumatize them by unwanted touch and unwanted caressing, intimacy, anything of that nature. So this is some of the context in terms of why we're not touched when we're growing up, but we get to change that. We get to break generational curses and we get to love on our children, children as much as possible. So I hope that this helps for you to understand why that's the case. And I just want to say much love to you all.