Julissa explains why men self-deprecate around women they like: it triggers a fixer response and creates trauma-bonding. Her advice: don't rescue him with reassurance. Let him sit with it.
Julissa, why do men self deprecate to women they are interested in? I'm turned off because a lot of women have a savior and a fixer complex based on some of their lived experiences as they were growing up. And it's one way to trauma bond and connect with other women. Like women that actually.
Are givers.
Yeah. So someone. If a man is like being self deprecating, let him. Oh my God. I'm. I'm not really good at those things.
Don't be like, oh no, you are. Don't say that. Don't give him any of that. Oh, okay.
Just like that.
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Dating Pitfalls of the Smart and Successful Woman - Get Your Guy Podcast S1 E2
