A dating coach explains why modern dating feels broken: apps prioritize swiping over connection, the pandemic killed social skills, and women's rising education and income have shifted traditional gender roles. Many people on dating apps aren't actually looking for relationships.
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Dominic said. Why is the dating scene trash from everyone's perspective? Our point of view, dating is the hardest that it's ever been. Right. And one of the reasons for that it are the dating apps. You have a lot of people on them that aren't serious. Here's the thing. And the pandemic exaggerated this a little bit more. But oftentimes what's happening is many people aren't going out as much as they used to. And so dating apps becomes a way for them to socialize without actually socializing. A lot of people are still working from home and so the way that they're socializing is through dating apps, but they're not serious about meeting people or getting into relationships in a serious way. So that's part of it. Yeah. The other thing is that culturally gender dynamics are changing mass. The. The allocation of masculine and femininity is changing or feminine energy is changing. Before, let's say in the 50s and 60s, men were 90% masculine and women were 90% feminine. And now you have, I would say most women are mostly masculine, right? And you have a lot of different men that are more feminine. So there's this disconnect, right, of what was and what is. And so now you have to find your match. It was easy to find your match when you were 90. Everybody was 90% masculine and you were. And everybody was 90% feminine. But now let's say you're 60% masculine, 40% feminine. Relationships are about compliments, so you've got to find your compliment. Now, part of my job as a dating coach is to help you have the majority of that be in your feminine energy. Everyone is full of both feminine and masculine energy. But I want to make sure that the balance you have majority feminine so that you can attract more masculine, energetic men.
The other reason why dating is so difficult is because women are making more money, they have more agency and more independence and are going to college more and are starting to have better jobs. And this is especially true and an exaggerated truth for the black community. So if I make 50% more than you, if I have more degrees than you, how are you going to let this guy lead you? And he barely has a ged, no shade, and is about to graduate from of RAI or ITT Tech.
