A short monologue advising against using prepared lists of questions on first dates. The speaker argues that canned questions feel inauthentic and are easily gamed; instead one should bring topics of genuine interest and judge a partner by actions and consistency over the first two months.
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Jen said questions to ask on the first dinner date. I never give my clients, like. I give them, like, a list of 160 questions that they can use and be inspired by. But I don't want you coming to a date with questions. It's too canned, it's too programmed, and it's not authentic. Have topics that you may want to talk about that you're really interested in or passionate about, like topics that maybe you've talked to your best friend about that week, but don't come with questions. I think people think that, oh, my God, if I just ask certain questions, I'll be able to figure out if this guy is good or not. Girl, these guys can just answer any question, however, is going to satisfy you so that they can sleep with you. Just like you have canned responses to in your interviews for a new job. Like, why do you have that gap? Well, because. Da, da, da. Right. Don't think that these questions on these dates are going to save you, because they're not. It is about the actions, and it's about the consistency and dependability over the first two months. That's what you're looking for.
