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Why don’t we ask men out?

Name: Why don’t we ask men out?
Uploaded: 2024-08-29T20:00:03+00:00
Duration: 14 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: A brief transcript excerpt of Anwar White responding to a listener question about whether a 26-year-old should ask her 45-year-old tutor out. White…

29 Aug 2024 · 0 min

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A brief transcript excerpt of Anwar White responding to a listener question about whether a 26-year-old should ask her 45-year-old tutor out. White advises against it, citing social norms ('we don't ask men out') and, centrally, problematic power dynamics and the risk of mistaking safety under power for genuine affection. The piece is conversational and cautionary.

Poison Ivy said, Anwar, is it a bad Idea for me 26 to ask my tutor 45, out for coffee? Yes. Why? Because one, we don't ask men out, and two, girl, he's twice your age. What is he going to do with you? Teach you how to drive? No, Shade.
Don'T do that. What happens, and this happens a lot, even at work, is when you have a man that has a little bit of the power dynamic is off or different, you will actually, like, start to have feelings for him. Because you like feeling safe under the power, you might not actually like him as much. So I want to offer that, yeah, we're kikiing and we're having fun, but there are things that are happening inside that.
We gotta.