A short YouTube monologue (March 30, 2024) by Anwar White offering direct dating advice to Black women about why ex-partners return. The speaker argues that returning exes are not signs of destiny but often boredom, insecurity, or lack of other options, and urges viewers to enforce boundaries, prioritize self-love, and cut off on-and-off partners.
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Girl, the reason why that man, your ex, has come back is because he hates you. He doesn't love you. Now, don't come to me talking about, well, he's looking at my IG stories. Girl, I also hate watched Housewives of Atlanta and Potomac over the last couple of seasons as well as. And just like that doesn't mean anything. Yeah. The reason why I'm talking about this is because a lot of us are hurting our dating lives because we have this. I call it the squatter in your love building that you can't get out of. And it's going to be impossible to find your guy, your person, when you have that person taking up that real estate. So, as your fairy godbrother, I wanted to talk to you about what this means when he comes back. Because we're playing ourselves now. Our job is not to figure out why he has come back. Right. There can be a variety of different reasons. I'm going to go through what I think are 95% of those reasons. We have to honor the what and not the why. And the what is he's not your man. And your future husband, your future person would never be put in this position to not be your man. Please understand that. Yeah. So it's going to be a little bit of tough love, girl. Not because I hate you, but it's because I love you.
But, honey, when he comes back, it is because he is bored. It is because he is corny with an H. It is because he can't stand your glow up because he has glowed down. And he is trying to take your glow up away from you. He feels like it's a betrayal that you're doing well and that he's not. Yeah. So he's. Think of him as a colonizer. He's trying to colonize your glow up. Okay. The other reason why he comes back is because nobody else wants him. And if nobody else wants him, then you shouldn't either. At the end of the day, now, I know the girls are like, oh, my gosh, it's a sign from the universe. No, it's not. Oh, my God. The King of Pentacles told me. I don't care about the King of Pentacles. Your fairy godbrother is telling you to cut him off. Yeah. This quote unquote, on and off love story is not a flex. When a guy comes back into your life, you need to take it as an insult and not a flex. So if he comes back, and he will, during birthdays, during holidays, during even warm weather, don't accept him, block him on everything, even LinkedIn, girl. Because he will try to find his way to get back into your life because he wants to figure out if he has access to you or not. He shouldn't. Yeah. Sometimes we hold on to the idea of this ex because we feel like we can't do better or we miss the feeling. It looked like and it felt like to be with him, but we. I just want to offer. You don't miss him. You just miss the feeling. Yeah. So with all that said, don't let your ex come back into your life. You're going to have to be in love with your boundaries and with yourself more than with your trauma and with the attention. And if you need help with that, definitely book a call with me. But other than that, girl, you got this. I'm rooting for you. My kids are playing Uno, so I'm gonna have to go and play uno with them. But just like Uno, like, you gotta let go of that last card to win. And it's the same with men. I hope this helps.
