Anwar White argues matchmakers have roughly 5% success rates because even perfect matches fail without healed trauma and relationship skills. A dating coach should be in a healthy relationship themselves, since dating and relationships require different skill sets.
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May 6, 2025
5% (speaker asserts this is for white women)
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Okay. Metamorphosis Global Love Institute Matchmakers Conference. Girl, I'm not going to that conference. I'm not a matchmaker. And if you are a black woman and you want. Are you thinking about getting a matchmaker? Don't.
Don'T.
Don'T. Those matchmakers don't know what to do with you, girl. Their success rate is 5%, and that's for the white girls. So you probably going to need to divide that by 10 to know what your potential success rate is.
And if you don't believe. If you don't believe me.
I want you to think to yourself.
Have I met a black woman that used a matchmaker and is now happily married?
Please let me know in the chat.
My point exactly.
People are talking about, oh, my God, he's not even a matchmaker. Why would I be a matchmaker?
Because here's the thing that a lot of people don't understand, especially if you are a black or brown woman.
Even if I put your perfect man in front of you, you might not be ready for that relationship yet. Based on the trauma that you might have experienced in your lifetime. We've got to be able to heal that so that you're ready for the best relationship of your life.
That's the work that we do. In my program.
Someone said, the matchmaker I went to was single.
I want to say something, and I think it's really important, and I've gotten a lot of ish about this, but I do think it's important to understand that if you do decide to get a dating coach, and guess what, you don't have to.
I actually think it's very important for you to get with one that is in a healthy relationship. And the reason I say this is because the skills that you need to have while dating, there are different skills that you are going to need to develop while you're in the actual relationship. Y' all can get into an actual relationship tomorrow. It might not be a great one, but each and every one of you can get into a relationship. There are different skills associated with dating versus relationship. And those people that have that perspective will also be thinking about that while they are coaching you while you're dating.
