Why is it hard to be different from your family?

They be hating on you bad. Yeah. It's so interesting. You know, I've gotten quite a bit of success on Tick Tock. And I've noticed that a lot of my colleagues, they don't like me as much as they used to. Girl.

So here's the thing, and I tell this to a lot of my clients that are successful.

And I'm telling this to you now because this isn't like a woe is me situation. This is actually very important as it pertains to your dating life. A lot of women will stay single because they're successful in other parts of their life. And if they get their guy, it's like the ultimate success. Yeah. And for many smart and successful black and brown women, it feels really hard to be very different than the rest of your family. Like, it actually is very tribal. And so sometimes we will downgrade ourselves to be a part of our families, because.

Back in the old days when you were outside of the tribe, it meant death. And so. But what I want to offer to all of you is that be successful.

Success is your birthright. And you being single and not having a man is not going to bring you closer to people that you might not have a lot of commonality with anymore. Yeah. Because here's the thing. If you continue to make yourself small and downgrade yourself or your family, you will do that with men, and you will choose men that are not on your level. And I say this with love and respect because I was that girl. Not anymore.