Short advice-focused monologue teaching how to ask for help. The speaker instructs listeners to start by asking trusted people using simple phrasing (“Can you help me?”), explains why learning to ask for help benefits relationships (gives others a sense of value), and warns that rigid independence can lead to overwhelm and burnout.
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Nicole said, I don't know how to ask for help. Okay, let me tell. Let me teach you. Okay? This is what you say. You have someone in front of you and you say, can you help me? Four words, girl. Four words. Yeah, I'm playing around. Here's the thing. Start with somebody that you trust, that you feel safe with, and go further and further out. What I know is that you're going to need to learn how to ask for help because your future husband is going to want to help you with absolutely everything. And if you don't know how to ask for help, he won't feel like he is of value to you. And he will find a woman that he feels good around that he can do things for. So you're going to need to learn to ask for help. You can play Ms. Independent, but Ms. Independent is Ms. Overwhelmed, Ms. Burnt Out, Ms. Stressed. So you can. You can be that girl. You can be the girl that doesn't have a care in the world, doesn't drive anywhere, doesn't hold any bags, doesn't use her hands for anything that's of manual labor. It's up to you.