Short monologue arguing that spending money is a poor metric for a man’s worth or readiness for a relationship. The speaker warns that wealthy men can use spending to manipulate or control partners, especially targeting women with financial insecurities; stability, security, and happiness are presented as better indicators than expenditure.
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Sweet Sparkle said, can you speak on how we measure a man by how much he spends on you? It's distorting expectations. Money doesn't mean anything. There are. There are rich or wealthy men that will spend money on you because it doesn't mean anything to them, and they know that that'll just make you feel good so that he can do whatever he wants with you. A lot of wealthy men will try to financially control you, especially if you have money wounds. And this is especially true for black and brown women. So I just want us to be aware of that. Right. It doesn't mean anything.
It really doesn't. I wish it did. So many women don't have a dating strategy, so the way that they would evaluate men is, okay, he spends money on me, so that means that he's ready for a relationship that doesn't. There's no correlation there.
I hope that you're hearing me.
Yeah. What matters more is does he feel stable, secure, and happy with whatever he's doing in his career. There are investment bankers that hate their life, but have a ton of money and snort coke every night and go to strip clubs because they just feel empty inside and will be able to spend a ton of money on you. How do I know this? I went to business school with all of them.
So doesn't mean anything. Again, time is more expensive than money.
