Anwar White advises Black women dating white men to have early conversations about race, watch for fetishization, and check whether he respects Black culture. Look for empathy, a dating history across races, and genuine cultural interest.
K Block said, this is the first time I'm considering stepping out of my race. I had no idea. I have no idea what I'm doing. Girl.
Why are you treating these white men like they're aliens? They're this. Girl, they're the same as most of these black guys. They're just probably not going to approach you like, some of these very bold black men will. Right? Doesn't mean that they're not feeling you or checking for you, though. Yeah.
Not much difference. Right? Here's what I want you to do, though, because many y' all are acting like y' all are running across the freeway trying to date these white men. Honey.
I want you to. You're gonna have to talk about race a little bit early in the conversation, and you're gonna want to. You're gonna want to see, is he allowing me to take up most of the space as it pertains to this and honor my lived experience. There are white men that are going to be like, oh, my God, that doesn't really happen, does it? Or that's a lot. I don't really believe it. Versus.
Welcoming you with sympathy and empathy. Oh, my God, I'm so sorry that's happened to you.
That really sucks. Right? That's one thing. The other thing that you want to see with some of these white guys is you want to make sure that he's dated a variety of different women. You don't want him to just date black men to black women. That gets into fetish territory, and that can get really scary. If he's talking anything about your skin or any of your black features. Like, honey, when I was in Germany, some of these men were talking about my skin felt different, smell different. They do the contrast thing. Girl, girl. It's disgusting. It's giving silence of the lambs.
Don't, don't, don't. Don't talk to those white guys. The other thing is you want to see if he is integrating into or has interest in black culture. Does he watch black movies, black shows? Right. Does he know the difference between Biggie and Tupac?
Those sorts of things. That's also something that is very important. Okay. Those are just some of the things. But in my last podcast episode, I actually did a whole episode and the podcast. My podcast is called the get your guy coaching podcast on how to safely date a white man.
Girl. Some. Now my podcast episodes, I'm, like, acting a fool. Like, I'm. Y' all need to, like, reel me in because I'm really talking about the bullshit that we really need to talk about. Yeah. So I go through all of this on the podcast episode. So check it out. It's on all of the platforms. Just search my name, Anwar White. Or get your guy coaching and you will find it. Yeah, because I want. I want everyone dating at least one white man. I'm calling this winter. White Boy Winter. So if you don't have a white boy on your roster, girl, you're not dating. You're not dating. Not this winter. Yeah. You hear me?
I don't give a lot of directives on these lives, but I'm doing one right now. White Boy Winter. Wbw.
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