Anwar White argues you should date for how someone makes you feel, not your usual type. He contrasts his former preference with his husband, emphasizing that the right partner produces security, happiness, and growth.
Anwar White.
May 14, 2024.
Okay. All right, let me see these other questions. Lisa said, is it good to date outside your usual type? Yes, girl, please do it. Ladies, please understand that like as someone who gets people into relationships every week, I always ask my clients, is this guy like your type? 95% of the time they say no. They say no. But it's the happiest and the most safe and secure that they've ever felt and been. And I want that for you as well. So success in dating is kind of like dating a lot of different people. And through the process of dating, figuring out not who your type is, but what type of feelings you want to feel while you're in that relationship, you should be your type. And understanding what sort of feelings you have, that's your type. Because your exterior type is not really your type. Unfortunately, your type is who you sleep with.
But your husband probably won't be your type. And that's not me bursting your bubble, it's just based on my experience. Yeah. So for example, my type was.
6, 2 light skinned guys who had graduate degrees from Ivy League institutions.
And I am married to a white teacher who is five, eight.
And rounder.
And that's not shade. Love him to death. Love every bit of him. Right? But happiest I've ever been, safest I've ever been. This man has given me the confidence and the security to be and play full out as it, as it pertains to my coaching business. Like I wouldn't, I. You wouldn't see me if I didn't have my partner. Right. And that's the crazy thing about love and dating and relationships. Because many of us are brought up to think.
Boys are just gonna get in the way of your education. Because that is the passive or active kind of reinforcement that we get from our parents. Because they want you in the books. Because they know that there aren't going to be a lot of men of color that are, that you can rely on and you have to rely on yourself. So they want you to get that education.
So in your head you think, okay, these men are a distraction. Dating and love can be a distraction. And I want to offer with the right person, it is actually, it's exponential.
It levels you up.
Yeah.
So your type is not your type. But you know, wow, while we're waiting, honey.
Get it, get. You know, you can have your type girl.
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