A short YouTube monologue (speaker: Anwar White) advising against entering or returning to relationships for financial reasons. The speaker argues women should attain financial independence, warns that relying on a man’s money creates a disempowered dynamic that will require “payback” (e.g., sex, control, abuse), and asserts wealthy/powerful men are likely to cheat again as a function of ego and access-seeking.
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Jasmine said, should I go back to an ex? Well, it depends on why he's an ex, but my 99.98 answer is no. She said for his money he's begging to come back after he cheated. No, girl, get your own money. Why do you need a man's money? You're. Here's the thing. I already know that if you went back to him it would never work because you are going into that relationship in a very disempowered state. You already don't have any money, you don't have any power because you're needing and using him for money. This is the huge difference. I love shar7, but this is the huge difference between me and her, right? That you've got to deal with your own money wound before you get into a relationship. And I'm talking to you Jasmine, but anyone else that is in that situation.
Okay, you can't use a man to be your fafsa.
And if you do know that there has to be payback. Some of the girls are okay with using, getting a fafsa, going to college and then never paying back their loans. But that doesn't work out in relationships. There's always, you always have to pay it back. And you pay it back in a variety of different ways. Whether it's sex, whether it is abuse, whether it is control. There's a variety of different ways. But you will have to pay it back. You do not have your own money and you are focused on just his money. I need you all to know that. Okay, here's the thing. If he has money, he will probably cheat again.
He will cheat again.
Very powerful men like to cheat because it's an ego thing they want. Just because, just like he's getting more and more money, he's going to want more and more p and more and more women. And I'm not saying this to like burst the bubble. I think you guys come to me for the real deal, Holyfield and I'm trying to, I'm trying to like you know, clock the T so that you guys don't act a fool and.
You know.
Don'T get played at the end of the day, at the end of the, at the end of the day, here's the thing. He's only trying to come back to you because he wants to know that he has access and he has power over you.
And the fact that you're even considering this lets me know that he already does. No man should have power over you. You have to have agency and power over yourself. When a man has power over you, it is very hard to institute or implement boundaries, okay?
