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Why should you never think that you can keep someone?

Name: Why should you never think that you can keep someone?
Uploaded: 2024-04-23T13:35:18+00:00
Duration: 52 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: Speaker rejects the premise that one can or must "keep" a partner, calling that the wrong question. Instead they advise that the role is to "be"—to…

23 Apr 2024 · 1 min

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Speaker rejects the premise that one can or must "keep" a partner, calling that the wrong question. Instead they advise that the role is to "be"—to discover and excavate your true self rather than perform behaviors to retain someone. The excerpt combines critique of common tactics (changing appearance or behavior) with a call to self-exploration and authenticity.

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Let's see the questions. Ultimate. Ultimately, what is the number one determining factor to keeping a man interested for longevity? Wrong question. And I say that with love. There's no. There's no. Like, you can't keep anybody. That's not. That's not your job. Yeah. The nature of that question lets me know that you're focused on, like, that you have to do something to be, like, to be in a relationship. That's kind of the masculine, energetic way of thinking about it. Instead, I want you to understand that all you have to do is be there. Oh, my God. If I put my hair in a certain way, if I lose that weight, if I da, da, da, da, da. If I say this this way, do that this way.
That'S not it, girl.
And the sooner that you understand that you just have to be. And sometimes your being right now is not a full being. That really truly the essence of who you are. And most of us actually have to do a bit of excavation, a bit of exploration to understand who that really is. Because, no, shade, many of us don't know who we are right now. Many of us are still living in the same person that we were 10 years ago. And that might not be your true tea. Okay.