A dating coach argues women shouldn't initiate early in courtship because it creates emotional investment that makes it harder to walk away. Finding a partner takes roughly 150 to 200 conversations, and detachment is key to success.
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150 to 200 conversations.
Honey, you'd be surprised. Is. Is there ever a scenario where women initiate conversation via text, slash, call, or meeting in person? And if not, why? So great question, Mara. Early in the courtship, there is no initiation of that. He's got a. He's got to make it happen. He's got to make it work. And the reason why we don't initiate do that is because.
The way that you win in dating is based on detachment. You want to be as detached as possible because you're going to need 150 to 200 conversations to find your person. And if you're attached to each and every person that you talk to, and most women are, by the way, then dating is going to be very difficult and very, very challenging. So the reason why we're not going to be initiating is because there's something called the IKEA effect, and it is this when you. They found that most people that buy IKEA furniture hold onto it much longer than any other furniture. And the reason why they do that is because they've invested not just money, but also sweat in the fact that they have put in and actually invested in making it. So each and every time, let's transfer over to dating that you are calling or texting, you're putting in investment into this potential courtship that is happening, and it's going to make it harder for you to step away when you need to. And most of the time, you're going to need to step away. Now, is there a time where that changes? Yes, there is a time within the courtship so that I share with my clients exactly when that thing flips. Okay.
But y' all gotta be a client for me to tell you when that is and why.
