Anwar White, a dating coach, tells women to stop treating men like fathers or putting them on pedestals. Instead, adopt a confident mindset, flirt playfully, and embody three roles: homie, lover, and friend. Prepare yourself to thrive in a quality relationship, not just find a partner.
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Do a little flirt. Flirt. Because this is, like my favorite part to, like, talk with the boys. And they are boys, by the way. Ladies. Yeah. A lot of the women, when you're engaging in your dating life, you. Sometimes we bring a certain daughter energy into dating, and so we're treating a lot of these men as if they are our fathers and putting them on a pedestal, and they shouldn't be on a pedestal. So that is the first advice that is very important when you are bantering and flirting. You can't. They can't be on a pedestal. You actually have to be on the pedestal. You have to. You have to understand that you are the queen. If you all have ever seen that music video by Michael Jackson, remember the time. And Iman is on her throne, and all of these men are coming and trying to entertain her.
And she's saying yes or no, right? Or sometimes she's saying this. You have to have that level of. Of, like, mindset if you're gonna do this, right? Okay. Okay.
So let's talk. You put yourself on a pedestal, and then there's no roster. No, no, no, no, no, no. That's not it. That's not it. The thing is, it's not about roster, right? You. You five steps ahead. It's not about men. This is about your interaction and the way that you connect with them. Because once you master that, you can get any roster. Many of you all are so focused on just getting the guys and getting the roster and meeting quality men. This stuff is not about that. My work is not about that. I want to be very clear about that, because here's the thing, and I'm going to say this with love and respect. A lot of people, if your perfect person came today, you would not be ready to thrive in that relationship. And so my job as a dating coach is to get you ready for that best top relationship.
Okay? And I'm saying that with no shade.
I'm saying that with absolutely no shade. Okay? Very important. You can't be girl. You can't banter. You can't flirt. If you can't banter and flirt now, how are you supposed to do that with your man?
That's what it's about. He's not coming home because he wants to have intellectual debates with you. He can do that at work.
He's coming home so he can have fun. He can chill. He can talk.
And you got to be able to do it. Oh. I always tell the girls, you got. You got to be homie, lover, friend.
Homie, love. A friend. And some of us are just the homie. That's where you get friendzone. Some of us are the lovers. That's where you get deed down. And some of us are the friend. The nice girls that become counselors for the boys. You actually have to learn how to embody and encompass all three of those.
So that you can get it.
Yeah. MG said, I really appreciate your honesty. Supported with years of experience. Relationship wisdom at its best. Someone said, I'm sick of being the counselor cuz you haven't mastered the other two things lady. Yeah. Max said, you have sisters. I have two.
I have two. Yeah. So.
That'S what I'm talking about. And Bam said, omg. I'm the counselor. Stop it. Stop it now.
