Two speakers argue women shouldn't aim to be approachable in public because some men treat approaching strangers as a game. They recommend curated spaces like museums and conferences instead, and warn against engaging with men who interrupt you during everyday tasks like shopping or getting gas.
Chapters
Yesterday.
Lexine said, how do I look more approachable to talk to? Well, here's the thing. You don't want to be approachable. And I know that sounds really crazy for many of you, but men are hunters. And so if the men that approach.
You in the wild.
Are hunting you, they think you're weak women, weak prey. So that's why like when you're out.
And about and you look a hot.
Mess, that's when they will, you'll get approached. The most people were talking about the hard wig soft life. The women with the jacked up wigs.
And oftentimes the jacked up makeup are.
Getting approached because they're considered weaker. They're considered like, this girl looks crazy. If she can't even like reject the.
Fact that she looks a hot mess.
She won't reject me.
Guys, guys will go for women that.
Won'T get rejected by. This is important. This isn't about. So I don't want us to be focused on like getting approached.
I want us to like focus on making connections in curated spaces, either with.
A visible or invisible velvet rope.
So for example, I'm going to talk.
To people that are at a museum. I'm going to talk to people that are at like house gatherings with like minded individuals.
I'm going to go to conferences, I'm going to go to specific, let's say.
Sorority or fraternity organizational events. I'm going to go to certain hotels or airport lounges. I'm going to go to Trader Joe's or Whole Foods because not everybody's going to go there.
Now. And I'm going to have conversations and make connections there.
What I'm not going to do is.
Be hunted in the wild.
If I'm at a gas station, if I'm at the mall, if I'm at.
Walmart, I'm not going to give any of those guys the time of day because that's the wild.
If a guy is approaching you and interrupting you while you are living your life and doing the things that you.
Have to do for life, he doesn't respect you. Trust me. And guys that do that are oftentimes they're trying to getting seven, eight numbers a day. This is a challenge and it's a game for them.
A lot of women are like, oh.
My God, he got my number. I feel so special, girl. He's gonna have 50 numbers by the end of the week and then he's gonna go down the list and try to sleep with each and every one of them.
And if you don't believe me. Talk to guys that are in relationships. Talk to the guys in your life that are husband material and ask them if they would ever do that. The answer will be no.
