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Why shouldn't you feel butterflies?

Name: Why shouldn't you feel butterflies?
Uploaded: 2025-12-07T18:43:42.312343
Duration: 41 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: Short spoken piece advising that feeling 'butterflies' (nervous excitement) at the start of attraction is not desirable; instead, the speaker recommends…

7 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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Short spoken piece advising that feeling 'butterflies' (nervous excitement) at the start of attraction is not desirable; instead, the speaker recommends feeling calm, centered, and safe. The speaker suggests that attraction scored 5/10 or higher is acceptable and that attraction starting below a 5 is unlikely to grow into a lasting connection.

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Kaylin A said, should I let attraction grow? He's a great guy and has all the things, but no butterflies. You shouldn't be having butterflies at the beginning, honey. That is, that's anxiety. That's what the patriarchy wants you to believe so that you lose all your critical thinking skills and they can do whatever they want with you. It shouldn't be butterflies. You should actually have a calm within you. Right. You should feel very centered, very safe, at peace with your guy. There's here's the thing. If he is if the attraction is a five or more, great keep on rocking on meaning. And if it's growing with time, if it started out it was less than a five, it's probably not going to go anywhere. That's what that's how I think about it.