Anwar White shows how tone and word choice shape whether people feel cared for. A friend told an ex 'don't bother me unless you're ready' in a hostile tone, signaling indifference despite the literal message. Love can exist in relationships but feel absent when expressed coldly.
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Best friend said, I went backwards to a former interest that asked me not to bother him unless I was ready for him. Even that language alone, that's not it. That's not how we talk with individuals. Right. This is the thing. It's not even just about what they say. It's about how they say it. And for so many of us who have been in parental relationships where we know that they love us, but the way that they say things doesn't feel like love. We might actually bypass the tone and the language around how we're being spoken to. We can't do that.
Yeah, he could be like. He could literally say all the right things, but if the tone is jacked up, we have to honor that.
And that tone was jacked up.
I don't like it. That's not what it looks like. As someone who gets people into relationships every week, like this week, I had three of my clients get into a relationship, and then one of them is moving in with her guy. And then last week, it was another three. Yeah, I see it every week. That's not what it sounds like.
