Anwar White explains why a man might block someone in dating: often not for no reason but because the person appears judgmental, which undermines emotional safety. He urges viewers to consult honest friends, recognize when professional-critical habits spill into personal life, and favor vulnerability over sarcasm to build connection.
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Lena said, amwar, baby, I was talking to a guy and he blocked me for no reason. No, girl, he blocked you for a reason. But sometimes, here's the thing, A lot of us don't understand how we are being perceived because some of us, and I don't know if this is you or not, I'm just talking in generality because I think someone needs to hear this. A lot of us think that we're funny or that we're being light hearted. And actually you're being shady or you're being mean or you're being very judgmental. And no one wants to be around a judgmental person. So sometimes.
We'Re gonna need to talk to our friends and really ask them and sit them down, be like, girl, tell me the truth, am I a judgmental bitch?
Because most of the time when guys do that, it's because you're judgmental and they don't feel safe around you.
And talk, talk to the friend that's going to give it to you straight, no chaser. They will probably say, well, girl, sometimes, sometimes your shade hits a little hard.
Right, let's go deeper here. A lot of us are judgmental one, because we actually get compensated to be critical and to have high judgment in our jobs. So we will translate that into our personal lives. So I get that. But this dating thing has to be heart led, not intellect led. Emotional safety is very important when it comes to dating. And if you are being judgmental, you will never deeply connect with a man.
When he says he wants peace, he really wants emotional safety.
Even if you are judging something that has nothing to do with him or the relationship, if he sees and observes you being judgmental in his head, he's going to say, if she can be judgmental about this, she can be judgmental about me.
So something for us to think about and consider, as we might say, really flippant comments that we think are funny or sarcastic. Girl, sarcasm is the antithesis of vulnerability.
