A short YouTube monologue (by Anwar White) advising women to explicitly communicate desires and needs to male partners rather than assuming men will intuitively know. The speaker argues socialization—observing mothers doing domestic/emotional labor—leads women to expect partners to 'just know', whereas men act based on what has worked with previous partners; therefore women should state preferences clearly.
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Nichelle said, once I start directing, I get turned off. Here's what y' all need to understand.
There's so much expectation that men are just supposed to know and figure it out. No, you're gonna have to tell people what you want and what you need for the rest of your life.
Women, here. Here's what I've learned and the difference between women and men. Because, like, when we grow up and we see our mothers just, like, doing things because it's expected in our. And, like, in the brain of a woman or a girl growing up, they think that, oh, like, that is. That's the expectation that, like, people are just supposed to know what to do because that's what an intimate relationship looks like to you because of how your mother is shown as. Without understanding that, like, for men, they don't know. You got to let them know what's going to work out for you. The things that they are going to do, they're going to do it because it's been, quote, unquote, successful for women that they've interacted with in the past.
You have to let them know, no, I like this. I don't like this.
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And that's for every aspect of your relationship. Now, if after a year, he's still not doing the things that he needs to do, that's when we got to be like, okay, dude, you're out.