Anwar White shares dating stories from his past, including relationships with a janitor and a man in Germany with drug problems, to show that messy histories are normal. He argues for dropping shame, learning from your choices, spotting patterns, and forgiving yourself.
Sam said, and where's a friend that will tell you how it is? That should be what you're called. Well, thank you so much. I try to come from a place of love and respect and, like, I hope you all understand that, like, there's no judgment here. Girl, I've been that, girl. I slept with the guys I shouldn't have slept with. I gave time and energy to guys that had nothing. Like, we're not doing a damn thing. Girl, There was one time that I was. And this is no shade, girl, but I'm sharing this tea with you so that many of y' all don't think, like, oh, my God, like, my love life is a mess. Girl. There was one time I was entertaining a janitor from like, from like a horse races. And, like, he didn't have a car. Girl, I was picking him up. We were hanging out in my car because there's nowhere to really hang out, girl. Girl, I was dealing with a man in Germany who was, like, addicted to drugs and wanted me to sell drugs for him. Girl, I've been there, done that. And I'm sharing this with you and being honest and vulnerable because I think it's important to understand that. I don't want you to have shame about your dating past. I want you to own it, honor it, learn from it. Yeah, There are moments where we lose ourselves, and I think it's important to understand where those moments are so that we don't repeat the patterns literally. In my course, what we are doing right now is understanding what our top patterns are and also forgiving ourselves. And I want to share that with you as well, okay?
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Dating Pitfalls of the Smart and Successful Woman - Get Your Guy Podcast S1 E2
