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You don't want a man who is obsessed with you!

Name: You don't want a man who is obsessed with you!
Uploaded: 2025-12-07T18:44:35.771060
Duration: 1 min 1 s
Channel: Anwar White
Description: A short YouTube monologue (creator: Anwar White) advising viewers not to seek or celebrate a partner being "obsessed" with them. The speaker…

7 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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A short YouTube monologue (creator: Anwar White) advising viewers not to seek or celebrate a partner being "obsessed" with them. The speaker distinguishes healthy pursuit and falling in love from obsession, warns that seeking obsession can make it hard to tell the difference between genuine affection and love bombing, and gives an anecdotal example (frequent calls) plus a humorous pop-culture aside.

This is important because you have a lot of dating coaches out here saying, do this so that he'll do that. Make him obsessed with you. You don't want a man obsessed with you.
That's scary.
You want a man to pursue you. You want a man who is really into you, falling in love with you. You don't want a man that is obsessed with you.
A lot of people are saying you want him obsessed. The interesting thing about looking for a man that's obsessed is that it's going to be very difficult for you to differentiate between a man that is obsessed with you and a man that is love bombing you. So when you're looking for a man that's obsessed with you, you are going to start to attract more love bombers.
Yeah, honey.
It's true. You're going to be like, oh, my God, he's calling me every, you know, two or three times a day. He's reaching out to me. He is obsessed with me. And this is how I love it, girl. Unsolved Mysteries.
And they just brought the show back on Netflix, so right on time, girl. If you want to be on it, no, shade.
Don't do it.