65 year old grandmother pulled from car by police

DB Bedford here, your emotional intelligence consultant, and I come to you today to have a discussion with you about a couple of important strategies when it comes to emotional intelligence. I was taking a look at a video of a 65-year-old grandmother that was pulled over back in Georgia. Now allegedly the story is that she made an unsafe lane change And she was pulled over by the police. When the police engaged with her is to give her a ticket. She gets a ticket for the lane change, but the grandmother is unwilling to sign the ticket. When she— when she's unwilling to sign the ticket, the situation escalates. And the reason why we're going to look at this video, because it's a classic example of how in a moment's notice, if you are not Self-aware and, and really honest about how you're feeling. And if you don't have the ability to manage your reactions, it can cost you, uh, your career. It could damage relationships. It could change the whole trajectory of your life. So let's take a look at this video where the grandmother is pulled over and the police officer is wanting her to sign a ticket. And let's see what happens when she refused to sign a ticket.

Come on.

The 65-year-old grandmother wailing in this dashcam video had just been pulled over by police in Alpharetta, Georgia. It took 6 officers to take Rose Campbell into custody.

I'm so hurt.

The incident starts calmly with the first officer telling Campbell that he's stopping her because she swerved onto another lane. She refuses to sign the ticket.

My supervisor needs to come here! The encounter escalates.

The third officer using strong language.

Hey, get out of charge! Shut the fuck up and get out of the car!

As backup arrives, she's pulled out of the vehicle. Then they restrain her. That third officer, James Legg, was suspended.

So situations like this, when you think about these type of situations, and we hear about it all the time, whether it's with the police, whether it's at your job, even might be you at times where you don't really understand the strategy of emotional intelligence and embracing the fact that you are responsible for how you act no matter how you feel. And see, a lot of people, when they are not feeling well or they feel strongly about something, then they, they tend to act what we like to address as an emotionally charged situation. And then your behavior sometimes is not what you would do when you look back on a situation. And so for this situation, you know, these officers did not exercise any level of emotional intelligence. And because when you look through the lens of emotional intelligence, one, you know, you got to be self-aware. You got to know about your own mood and attitude. Two, you have to be able to manage your reactions. And three, there's a social awareness aspect to it where you always look through the lens of emotional intelligence and you observe and evaluate the person that you're talking to, The environment that you're in so that you can make a sound decision to increase the chances of a positive outcome when situations arise. Now, there were quite a bit of officers on the scene. It looks like it's about 5 or 6. One of these officers should have recognized that this was an elderly woman, and I'm not saying an elderly woman cannot be of any threat, but surely they have been well trained enough to handle a situation. There was no discussion of weapons. There was no discussion of violence. It seems simply because she refused to obey the order to sign the ticket, this officer appeared to take that very personally, which is a strategy we use in the EI platform to never take anything personally, even when it feels personal. Because whenever you feel personal about— feel personable about something, you tend to overreact. So he did not like that she didn't want to sign the ticket. He started giving her commands to get out the car. Now, it's not unreasonable for someone to want to know why they have to get out the car, you call for a supervisor. But instead of waiting, right, the officer could have simply been patient, waiting. He waited, he had backup, he could have called for a supervisor, and the situation could have got handled or been handled much differently. Now, of course, we only see so much of the tape and we don't know all of the facts. We only know what was reported, but Apparently lost his cool and his temper and acted inappropriately, both with his words and with his actions.

Today, Legg resigned. In a letter, he writes, "I feel I acted appropriately and the way that I was trained," but he adds, "Maybe I should not have used profanity." Important.

But what we can say is this: factually, even his own department said he acted did not act appropriately. He must know that he didn't act appropriately because he resigned. Now, I don't know how long he'd been in law enforcement, and I don't know how long he planned to stay there, but I'm willing to bet that when he got up that day, he did not plan to change careers or change police departments. And now you're making national news. The police department now has to do some PR work to try to establish that it's not all of their officers. Police officers across the country constantly have to try to defend what their true mission for the community is because of bad officers that are making poor judgment for the lack of emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is that skill set that nobody can afford not to have. We need emotional intelligence in every aspect of our lives, personally and professionally. So organizations and companies are going to have to start taking a look at making sure that after they give their employees their— the hard skill sets, the technical skill sets, they must understand that we also need We need these soft skills, interpersonal skills, communication skills, which can only be accomplished through emotional intelligence. Because our mood and our attitude is the, is the number one driver of how we receive information and take in information on a day-to-day basis. Emotional intelligence is that skill set that we all need and we must have. Here at I Never Worry Consulting, we have packaged this together in a way where it's very easy for you to digest and it can be Practically use in your everyday lifestyle. So go ahead and join our community. Click on the subscribe button below and join our academy for free at ineverworryacademy.com. If you want to get a, a free digital copy of our book, you can text the word emotions to 21000. This is a couple of ways that we are doing what we can to raise awareness to as many people as possible about the importance of emotional intelligence. Thank you for joining us. I'll see you on the next trending topic.