Jealousy mixes love and hate: you admire something but resent not having it yourself. That dual feeling signals what matters to you. With emotional intelligence, you can channel the attention jealousy demands into motivation to learn and achieve it.
Let me run something by you real quick. Jealousy is a cold emotion because it's confusing, and it's because it's a combination of love and hate, right? And that's why it becomes confusing. It's like you love what you see, but you hate that it's not you doing it. And that's where jealousy comes from. It's, it's, it's being envious of what you're seeing, because if you didn't love it or like it or have interest in it, you wouldn't even be paying No attention. And so when you look and you see who's doing it or how it's getting done, it creates a level of jealousy. But jealousy could be good if you have emotional intelligence and you redirect that energy to be like, wow, this has my attention. I really love what's happening. Instead of hating, being envious, being jealous, you start learning how to get to the thing that's gotten your attention in the first place.
I was literally kicked off a Southwest flight before for being disrespectful.
