In this short monologue, the speaker reflects on how friendships—both personal and professional—can fall out of sync when unresolved disagreements linger beneath the surface. He explains that when a conflict occurs, the thoughts and feelings we keep to ourselves or share with others become an undertone that persists even after we appear to be “cool again.” This hidden tension can cause the friendship to repeatedly falter or feel off‑balance. To restore the proper “frequency” of the relationship, the speaker advises reverse‑engineering past grievances: revisit what was said, thought, and felt during the conflict, and then have an honest, calm conversation about those moments. By openly acknowledging each other’s perspectives, the lingering undertone is cleared, allowing the friendship to return to a healthier rhythm.
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Hey, I want to talk to you guys this morning real quick about the frequency of friendships. And you know, sometimes you will find out, or you start to realize, that the frequency of your friendships, whether it be personal or professional, can be off a little bit. So I want to help you out because you might not even trip off this, but if you're friends for any length of time There's a good chance there came a point where you guys didn't see eye to eye, right? You guys probably, you know, was at odds at something and you never got even about it. And what do I mean by that? It means that when you guys got mad at each other or you wasn't seeing eye to eye, how did you speak about each other to others, or what did you tell yourself? Because that level of energy does not just go away because you guys decide that, okay, you're cool again. So that becomes the undertone of the relationship. And so if you're trying to realize— sometimes you're trying to figure out why you guys are quick to fall back out so quickly, or things are just not quite the same, you got to go back and reverse engineer the things that you said while you were mad. Why you guys were at odds? And if you didn't say anything to anybody else, what were you thinking? How were you feeling? Because if you don't go back and address that, then I just kind of that kind of rides with you and it lays dormant. And so how do you how do you make it right? Well, if you guys are truly friends, you know next time you're out having a drink or at the house chilling or just in a general conversation, it's always best to have. Difficult conversations when things are not going on. So you might consider, right, just, you know, releasing yourself from that by just, you know, being honest about, you know, how you might have felt and what you might have said during that period of time when you guys wasn't on the same page. And, uh, you might find out they said some things about you, uh, you guys have a good laugh about it, and then all of a sudden you'll feel that frequency of friendship back on the right path. All right, you guys, peace and light.
