How Long Will They Mourn Me?

So my thought for today is, uh, you know, I constantly— it feels like on an ongoing basis I could be scrolling down my timeline, uh, I might be looking at a Facebook memory, right? You know how when the memories come up and I might be looking at an old post and I'll look at the comments and then I'll see like somebody name, I'll be like, oh, it's a trip, I haven't seen this person's post for a while. Go to their page and they're passed away. I often get notification. Did you hear about such and such? And they have passed away. And it'd be like, you know, really here one day, gone the next. But what's interesting to me, you know, when I go to people's pages, if I look at the activity prior to them passing, very low engagement. But then when They pass away, it's flooded. Like, it's overwhelming with all this, all the condolences and things of that nature, and rightfully so. And then I've— I go to, you know, about a dozen funerals a year, it feels like, if not more. You know, uh, shit, just a couple of months I went to 2 funerals in 1 day, and this upcoming Thursday I'm going to 2 funerals in 1 day. And so we know people are like passing away, but here's the thing I wanted to bring out. Because I always think about when I go to funerals, I'm always tripping off like the front row, like, because people that sit in the front row are usually the closest to the deceased. And then afterwards, after the service, right, everybody usually starts to gather, but it's very few conversation about the person that we're actually there for. Folks unconsciously really start to move forward with life Relatively quickly. Like most of the times when I go to a funeral, it's like a— it's almost like a high school reunion or a reunion of some sort because you see people that you haven't seen in a while. And so that's where the conversations are at. And then I know, because I'm guilty of this, we profess a lot of love for the person that has left us. But, you know, we don't do a good job at checking on their kids or checking on their mother or checking on their husbands and wives. Like, you know, we say we'll be there for— we, most of us would be like, if you need anything, let me know, but we never really circle back to see if they need anything. And so I want to encourage you today, what's the whole purpose of the post? Let's not keep waiting till someone is passed away to acknowledge their existence. And then let's do a better job. If you're truly connected to the individual and we truly have love for who— like them, for them, like we say we do, Let's be more presence. Let's let's remind the people who have left behind that you're still here, and I know life goes on, and I don't think that we intentionally do it. But just imagine, right? How it's gonna be like when you leave, right? The cycle we gotta we gotta since we're conscious and we're still alive, we want to be the one to kind of break the cycle. You know, I always think about like what my funeral is going to look like, and I know. Right? I know without a shadow of a doubt my funeral is going to be packed because I've touched a lot of lives. And I feel like a lot of people are going to wear like I Never Worry shirts, and people are going to talk about emotional intelligence. And my thoughts, the thoughts of me might last a little bit longer because I got books and online training. I have a footprint that will remind you every now and then that I existed. But eventually, like that'll all go away, and that's a trip. Like whenever I'm sitting at a funeral, I always think about like man, what is my funeral gonna be? Like how is everybody gonna show up? Why are they showing up? But then like the people I leave behind, will people really you know check on them and take care of them? Or will I just be a passing moment like everything else? That's why the dash is important, right? They talk about the dash, right from the day you know you're on your. On your tombstone, right? You have the day you were born and then the day you die. And they say the dash in between is what's important. I seen a post the other day where it said, it sure would be nice if we could rest in peace while we are alive, right? Instead of waiting till we're dead to be at peace. You know, Tupac had a lot of profound things to say, but one of his hottest tracks that I like from his older album, it was called How Long Will They Mourn Me? And that's something to really think about. I think about it. How long will they mourn me? Like, how long will this energy and this love that I'm putting out here, how long would it even last? And I do think that that's why I wrote the books, because I know that books last, outlast people, right? Books will be here long after I'm gone. So it's my reasonable effort to leave footprint long after I'm gone so that people can benefit from my existence. But really, how long will they mourn me? I know it won't be long because I've been at some funerals of some pretty great people, and like I said, they— we already talking about something else and they don't even be in the ground yet. So I encourage you to be present in this moment, maximize this day. And as people transition away from this earth, I want you to be a little bit more committed in how you follow up and check on them and be there for the tribe, for the community, uh, for the family like you said you were. And don't wait till someone's gone to let them know how important they are to you. The time is now because this moment right here is truly the only moment that we have. And You know, like I say, either you can enjoy the moment or destroy the moment. Peace and love.