The speaker separates transactional relationships, which dissolve when the shared activity ends, from relational ones built on genuine mutual interest and shared values. Decide who gets front-row seats in your life and who gets bleacher seats based on what each relationship actually is.
Ask yourself a question: the relationships in your life, are they relational or are they transactional? See, the relationships in our life that are transactional are usually when people only come to you when they need something, or you find yourself only bonding over a mutual interest. So sometimes it's like because you like to go out together, or You work in the same profession, or you have some of the same hobbies or habits. Those type relationships are transactional. And what's important to understand about that is that the thing that you mutually bond over, whether it's trauma, whether it's recreation, whatever it is, when that thing goes away, more than likely the relationship will go away. But relational Relationships are not built on— they're not prompted by something in the middle. It's a genuine interest of each other, quality characters, beliefs, values, things of that nature. And those are the relationships that last the longest. So just evaluate your life and ask yourself, the relationships around you, are they relational? Or are they transactional? And let's be clear, both type of relationships serve a purpose. I just want you to be intentional about the level of access that you grant someone into your life, because quite frankly, we have some people that's in the front row seat of our life that definitely need to be in the bleachers, and there's some people we got in the bleachers who absolutely need to be in the front row.
I was literally kicked off a Southwest flight before for being disrespectful.
