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Quick snippet of my guest appearance of me discussing why I decide to “Stay out of my feelings.”

12 Dec 2022 · 1 min

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In this brief monologue, the speaker reflects on a recurring pattern he observed in his own life: most poor decisions stem from being "in his feelings"—allowing emotions to dictate actions. He explains that whenever he loses his temper, the outcomes range from violent behavior, destructive speech, to deepening harmful habits. The core insight is that not only feeling emotions but being irresponsible with them leads to negative consequences. By recognizing this pattern, he advocates for staying out of his feelings as a strategy for better decision‑making and personal responsibility.

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Number one thing that trips us up in any given moment is when we get in our feelings. And when I started getting into this, when I learned about it, when I was kind of reverse engineering, uh, all of the poor decisions that I've made in life, right, uh, they all boiled down to me being in my feelings. Mm-hmm. So every time I lost my temper, I either did something violent Or I either said something that was destructive, or I took a deep dive into a, um, destructive habit, right? I mean, there's a lot of different things that have happened as a result of me being in my feelings, but not just being in my feelings, being irresponsible with how I feel.