DB Bedford covers three emotional biases that cloud judgment: projection, confirmation, and status quo bias. He teaches self-monitoring prompts like pausing to ask why something bothers you, and recommends a 24-hour reflection period before acting on strong feelings.
All right, welcome back, day 3. All right, so let's see how we knocking them down. You know, this should be relatively smooth for you. You know, you should be starting to feel where we're going with this. Very simple, short, impactful nuggets, right, that you are stacking on top of all of the learning that you've already had. So this is very important. So I'm glad that you were able to make yourself back. And listen, even if you miss a day or so, you just go ahead and go back and watch them all at once. So even though your videos will come one day at a time, they will remain there once they are there. All right, so, so far we talked about the emotional willpower, right? Being able to resist those urges. We talked about your emotional capacity, making sure you understand when you get up every single day, you only can take so much. Now today we want to talk about Those emotional biases, right? Yeah, you know, we all have biases, and basically that's when, you know, we are basically only seeing things from our way, right? We want things to be the way that we want to be them, in its simplest form. And I say emotional biases because we behave— we have a strong feeling about it, right? So I want to tell you about 3 particular biases that you should look out for on a day-to-day basis. And so Number one, this first bias comes from, and you should have picked this up in one of your presentations, right, when we talk about your projection bias, right? And your projection bias is usually activated when you see something you don't like and you want to speak on it and you wonder why it's a struggle for you to use your willpower. Well, that's because you have a strong belief, right? So you are projecting your biases onto the next person. So when you see somebody do something that you wouldn't do, when you hear somebody say something that you wouldn't say, it automatically messes with your inner— gives you an inner conflict, right? And so you're ready to respond, you're ready to react, and that's where that emotional willpower comes in. That— but I want you to pay attention to that projection bias. When we're practicing emotional intelligence and we are embedding ourselves in this emotional wellness I want you to always remember, as soon as something rubs you the wrong way, I want you to practice to stop looking at and saying, this person made me mad, or this situation rubs you the wrong way. And I want you to start asking yourself, why does that bother me in the first place? So projection bias. Confirmation bias is when you take a situation that happens to you and then you go call people that you know Pretty much subliminally, right? Or either you consciously or unconsciously realize this, but you'll call somebody so that you can tell them what you just went through because you know they're probably gonna side with you, right? That's confirmation bias, right? You want to talk to somebody who's more than likely going to agree with you. The challenge with that is, what if you were wrong in a situation? What if you didn't see the whole thing? What if there was something you could have improved on? Well, if somebody you trust and respect validates that, then you're probably not going to be able to see the opportunity to improve in that situation, right? So that's why you want to be mindful with the confirmation bias. I'm not saying you don't go to folks because we all need to hear from different people, but make sure that you're not going to your cousin that always ride with you, you know what I'm saying, no matter what, or somebody who can't see any wrong with you. You want to make sure you have people on your team that can help you see that new perspective. Okay. And the last one is your status quo bias. And this is if you're somebody who just do not like things to change. You need everything to be the way that it's always been. And if you're one of those people, then I know the minute you see change, the minute something is changing, right, you start to feel a certain kind of way. Why? Because you would prefer that it not change. You prefer that there will be no— there's no flexibility, there's no adjustment. This is how it's supposed to be, so this is how it is. And if you or somebody you know is doing this, that's where we get the status quo bias from. So you want to be mindful of those biases, right? Because they're very important. They will help you, right, make better decisions along the way. Projection bias, confirmation bias, Status quo bias. If you keep those in mind, they will help guide you. It'll just give you an opportunity to rethink or reimagine a situation that you're approaching so that you can get the best results possible. Most importantly, think about those biases within yourself and see if you can observe those in others. Take 24 hours to marinate on it, and I'll see you tomorrow. Peace.
It was my 3rd day participating in DB Bedford's 30 Days to Emotional Wellness program, and I gotta tell you, I had a heart check this morning. You know, when it came to confirmation bias, that was smooth sailing. I have a great circle, a strong circle of accountability partners and mentors that hold my feet to the fire. And when it came to status quo bias, that was smooth sailing for me too, because, you know, I, I look forward to change, I get excited about change, and I embrace change. But when it came to projection bias, That's where the heart check came in, because I don't always respond to, um, things when they rub me the wrong way. You know, if I see something or I hear something that I don't necessarily agree with, I've pretty much mastered not responding to it or speaking on it. But the fact that I had the thought anyway, I realized I need to deal with that. Why do I think and feel the way that I think and feel? You know, is it because of a past experience? Is it because of ignorance, a lack of knowledge, or something that, um, has absolutely nothing to do with what I'm seeing or hearing? So I can't, um, congratulate myself or pat myself on the shoulder simply because I'm not allowing what I'm thinking to exit my, my mouth. I need to do a better job of challenging myself around what my thoughts, beliefs, and feelings are. So that's my homework for today and just moving forward in life. You know, I, I really want to become a better person, not just for myself, but for everyone that, that's around me and everyone that I'm connected to. So DB, thank you for that. Um, I'm gonna keep sharing this with you guys. I hope that you are benefiting from this program the same way that I am. But I hope that you check it out for yourself because I think that you'll be incredibly blessed. Have a great day. In the meantime, get out and get some sunshine and tell somebody that you love them.
I was literally kicked off a Southwest flight before for being disrespectful.
