This content was created by DB Bedford. This content was uploaded by DB Bedford. This is a YouTube video titled "YouTube Employee Calls the Police on Black Man | Emotional Intelligence" published 2019-07-14. It features DB Bedford (Speaker A) presenting an "EI in the News" commentary about a viral incident in which a man called the police on another person who had followed him through a door. The excerpt contains audio from multiple participants (Speakers B, C, D) involved in the original confrontation and Bedford's analysis. Bedford explains emotional intelligence concepts—situational awareness, emotional storyboard, and emotional bias—critiquing the caller's reaction, noting the accused was waiting for someone with a disability, and discussing the racial and viral aftermath.
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Peace family, DB Bedford here, your emotional intelligence consultant, and I'm back at you again with another, uh, EI in the News segment. Um, you know, this particular, uh, situation is one that unfortunately it, it's happening, uh, far too many times. I mean, we've seen it Um, with the, the Barbecue Becky situation, which I actually had an opportunity, uh, to interview those guys that was, that was involved in that situation. We've seen it happen across the country with the person who fell asleep in the dorm room, the Starbucks situation, and, uh, here we go again with another situation that if the person that I'm about to speak on the one who makes the call exercised just a little bit of emotional intelligence, they would not be in a situation that they're in. And so this situation comes where there's a gentleman, he's with his son, and there is someone who comes through the door. You know, typical, you ever go into someplace, you go through the door and somebody trails behind you and comes behind you? I do understand that there should be some Level of concern, right, of who is coming behind you.
Call box and have them come down.
They don't have to do that. You could just walk away.
I'm gonna call the police.
Oh yes, yes, call the police. Remember that, uh, I remember this exactly happening when I used to live in my own condo, and then people used to call the police all the time.
Sir, I'll hold the door here for you.
That is okay. Nobody's asking you to hold the door.
You could do whatever you want.
But I'm recording you right now, and you're going to be the next person. Look at this.
You don't need to threaten me.
I'm not threatening you. You are. I'm not threatening you.
You're going to be the next person.
What? You're just gonna be the next person on TV. Just remember that. And you have your son with you. That's why I asked you if that's your son.
But this is kind of where emotional intelligence kicks in, and you might be wondering, okay, what part of emotional intelligence plays in this? Well, number one, one of the domains of emotional intelligence is what we call situational awareness. And situational awareness is, is your ability to tap into the vibe and the energy of any situation so you'll know what to embrace and what to stay away from. And so to look at things through a logical lens. And so in this situation, yes, This person may have came in behind them, but then we have to pick up on the energy and determine, use some discernment. Is this person actually a threat?
He tailgated through the door as I left.
He walked in.
I tailgated through the door.
He appears to be African American.
Appears to be African American.
I don't know.
Thirty-five software engineer.
Pink polo shirt.
All good, all good.
Soft engineer, brother.
Yep, pink polo shirt and tennis shoes, jeans. Yeah, you have to be here for when they call them, right?
So in our 30-day EI experience, we talk about a couple of the EI elements, and one of it is the, uh, what we like to call the emotional storyboard, right? And you got to be careful of the stories that you tell yourself. So if you take a moment to just look at this little bit of clip, you'll see that the guy is calling the police saying that the guy, other guy was trespassing. Now all against his son who's right here, who can clearly— his son doesn't feel threatened. He doesn't see, he doesn't feel like this guy is violating anything. He's trying to tell his dad and his dad like, no. And this gentleman in his head, whatever story he's telling himself, he He can't get over his own, what I like to call in the 30-Day EI Experience and our emotional intelligence platform, your emotional biases, right? Like how you personally feel about things. Now, I don't know what his biases are, but I will say that he's got to be standing on some type of personal issue not to look at the bigger picture of things to see that that this fella is really not a threat. You've, you've, you've watched him long enough, so you have this whole description in case something happened. Nothing has happened yet. You want to call the police even after he warned you that, listen, man, you about to go viral. And in the end, right, um, this— it, it comes out to be that he actually was waiting on someone.
Hi, Kathy.
Told you.
I love you, baby.
Let's go now.
It took you so long to get here.
Daddy, look what you got us into. Let's go.
My friend is handicapped. Just give me one second while you be an asshole to— in front of your kid, okay? Remember, I'm recording you.
And, um, I think he made a mention that the person he was waiting on was actually handicapped, uh, had a disability. And so it really made this gentleman probably feel, you know, very small afterwards. And I seen some Uh, news footage where he apologized, uh, but that video got over 1 million views. And of course, by popular opinion, people are going to go to the racist comments, right? And I don't know if the guy is racist or not, but now it appears to be that.
And why?
Because his inability— this is the power in emotional intelligence. The reason why we do this, because it's his everyday situations that people are putting themselves in. Number one, emotional intelligence. Emotions— how do I feel? Intelligence— what do I do with that feeling? So even though he probably felt this guy may be an intruder, maybe a trespasser, he had nothing to support that. So he could have had that feeling, his action could have been something different. He could have took a picture of him, he He could have just videoed him and then went about his business, and if something happened later on, he had the footage. Because of the story he told himself, his ego got in the way. His son is right there trying to convince him not to do this. He still calls the police, and now he done went viral, and now he's the next person on a long, a growing list of individuals that get all up in their feelings. And make poor decisions. Okay, so I keep sharing and I'll keep sharing, say, hey, the higher the emotion, the lower the logic. This guy was clearly in his feelings, either about his biases, his personal, um, experiences, or whatever is happening. He couldn't see the logic in the situation. So I want to caution you guys out there as you out there every single day. Your situation might not be calling on someone unreasonably But you may make a poor call on something if you're in your emotions and you're not able to separate how you feel based on the action you take on how you feel.
Okay?
So again, DB Bedford, your emotional intelligence consultant. Just wanted another section of EI in the News, and I just want to encourage you to practice emotional intelligence. I want you to practice getting up every day and looking at the world through the lens of emotional intelligence. Because it is the number one asset that we all can benefit from, both personally and professionally. I'll see you on the next segment of EI in the News.
