Disapproval equals danger. That's the wiring.
22 Aug 2026 · 1 min
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In this segment, Dr. Aziz explains why many people, despite years of personal‑development reading and therapy, repeatedly fail to enforce their own boundaries. He describes a deep‑seated survival system that equates another person’s disapproval with danger. When a client feels that someone might be angry, sad, or otherwise disapproving, the internal wiring triggers fear of losing connection and a blow to self‑worth, causing the client to override the conscious desire to say “no” and instead say “yes.” This explains the persistent pattern of people‑pleasing that persists across decades, highlighting that intellectual knowledge of boundaries is insufficient without addressing the underlying emotional wiring.
