Currency - Module 2- Deepening

Sam. Hello, gorgeous. Human beings of currency. Okay, I have a feeling today is going to be a big call because the amount of good questions on that thread, I was just like, oh, my God, these are all so good. This is all so good. I again, I just have to tell you, I've been glued to this group. Like, I cannot get enough of your shares, your breakthroughs. It's like, this is the greatest thing. I can't even tell you how good this is. And like, every single person getting a breakthrough from another person's breakthrough, from another person's breakthrough, like, this is. This is the dream for me. Like, I'm so happy I can't tell you. So thank you for doing the work like this. This is really what. What personal development is about. You can take a hundred courses if you want. If you don't do the work and you don't get the breakthroughs, there's absolutely no point. And you guys are actually doing exactly what you're supposed to be doing for this to be valuable to you. And I'm just watching it all happen. And I want to do the moon. If I could do the mo, I would do the moonwalk. That's basically what would happen. Okay, so let me just see who's on here. April is here. Lindsay. Safian in the house. Maria is here. Hello. Louise. Isabella on camera. So good. Jillian. Monique. Sarah. Hello. Hello. Driving careful. Cole. And Nicolan is here. Kristen, Karina. Kat. Sandra. Hello. Jasmine, Emma. Michaela. Hello. Cassandra. Chloe. Heather. I love you. Nadia. Paula. Kathy. Alwyn. Odessa. Dr. Cassia Suarez. I love that. Bridget, Rika. Carla. Heidi. Lisa. Diane. Oh, my gosh. I love. I love seeing your faces. Margot is in the house. Brittany, Magellan. Hello. Hello. Michelle. Rosa. You've. I've loved your shares. Rosa. In this group, I feel like you're really, really doing the work. I'm so impressed. Mash Brits. Hello. Hello. We've got Lisa in the house. Ariel, Jess. Who else is here? Let me see, let me see, let me see. Paola. Paola. Two paolas. Back to back. Sandy. Nicola. And this is who I'm seeing. Oh, there's another page. Oh, my gosh, there's a lot of people on camera. Can we just look at the second page for a second? Oh, my gosh. Lloyd. I haven't seen so long. She'll. Amita's here. Alina. Shelley. Catherine. Jennifer. Still. Pascal. Michelle. Hello. Linda. Claire. This is wonderful. Jessica, so good to see you. I've loved your post on your social media recently, Jessica. I feel like you're in the vibe, you're in the zone. You're breaking through stuff. I can feel it. Linda, Marita, Lena, Danielle, Maria, Celine, Yelli, Kimberly. Yay. This is so great. Lauren, so good to see you. Oh, my gosh. You guys are all popping on Demi, Nick, Jesse, Lauren, Lucy. Oh, my gosh. So cool. So good to see you. Hi. Tiffany in the house. Dr. Tiffany in the house. Fiona, Lisa, Jackie. Oh, V.C. hi. I haven't seen you in a while of that smile. Oh, my gosh. Cindy, Renee, Ariana. Ariana, Agnes is here. Ashley, Ruth, Katya, Chantal. Oh, my gosh. So many people. Catherine, thank you for being here. You guys, this is so great. If I've missed you, I'm so sorry. Marina. Hello. Hello. If I've missed you, I apologize. I'm so happy to see you. And the energy is just lovely when we're all on camera. Isn't this great? Okay, I'm gonna take a second and land in all of this amazing energy. And we're gonna do. Before we get started with the Q A, we're just gonna do another one of those, like, protection moments. So, again, if you hear something in this and the question is like, I don't want to think about that. That's not my frequency, and I don't want to think about it. You can do one of two things. Either just tune out for a minute, which is fine, or if you want to just be like, let me just check what the answer is going to be and see if I can apply this answer to something else that's valuable to me. Sometimes the question is not in alignment, but the answer can be valuable. And I try to answer in ways that everyone gets value from the answer. So I think that's really important. The other thing is, if my answer is not correct for you, I want you to be okay with that. So instead of fighting it or asking me like, but. But what about this? Just notice that it's different for you, and that's okay. I found, like, the. The greatest things that have helped me stay true to myself is when I hear something that really resonates with me. I. I'm really happy to learn it. And when I hear something that really shows me the opposite, I'm like, I'm really grateful for that as well. I'm grateful that I can see what I believe in through contrast. So don't worry if I say something that you're like, oh, I don't agree with that. That's actually perfect. That's part of. That's part of our uniqueness. And you actually know more about yourself when you know what you love and what you don't love and what you agree with and what you don't agree with. So I'm. I have zero problem with you disagreeing. None whatsoever. But there's no, there's not necessarily a reason for you to get. Either get upset about that or to be like, I, you know, I disagree because, like, let's keep it clean so we can really answer the questions. But if you want to make a post about how you disagree about something and you want to bring your perspective, feel free to do that. But just to keep the. The Q and A clean, let's do that. And the last thing I want to say is, at any point, if you need to go, don't, don't stay beyond what you can stay just because you feel bad for staying. I'm going to go above and longer than I probably said I would on, on this call because there's just too many good questions. But what that means is you may be done at a point, and I don't want you to stay just because you feel like you have to. The replays are available. You'll always have the replay. So follow yourself, your energy, trust yourself, no fomo. You're gonna be fine. Okay? Oh, my gosh, these questions, okay? And I'll tell you what I love about the questions is that because sometimes I'll be like, this is such a good question. And I once had someone say, what makes a good question? And what makes a good question to me is what the answer that comes to mind is. And I'm like, oh, my gosh, the answer is so valuable. So what creates a good question is the answer that I know will be valuable. Okay, so the first question I'm going to answer is from Tanya, and she says a question related to large sums of money received through inheritance. I've received windfalls twice in my life. Both times I burned through the money because of the grief, shame, and emotional turmoil that were tangled up in it somehow. I now don't go big in my business as I'd like, even though I value my work and I don't feel as worthy to receive large sums of money because I don't trust myself to be a wise steward, because it feels like I don't value it. I'd love your perspective. So there's a bunch of stuff in this question. First of all, have you ever had the experience in your life of having money, even if it wasn't a large amount? And either Spending it faster than you thought you would, or needing it for something and then feeling copious amounts of guilt and shame around that and feeling like maybe you're not worthy or you're not good with money or something's wrong with you. Right? So even without big sums of money, we can feel that it can happen to us. The most important thing to realize when we're dealing with things like that is we make one time thing a pattern. When it comes to money and life and relationships, we want to be really careful with what we create as a pattern and what is an isolated event. And so if I want to solidify something, one of the easiest ways for me to solidify something is to turn it into a pattern. So you'll notice when you're upset with a friend and you really want to drive a point home that they haven't responded to your text message, you will say something like, you just never answer me these days. Whether that's the truth or not doesn't matter. It sounds worse. You'll tell your partner, you just always assume the worst of me. You never understand. You won't. Dot, dot. This is like absolutes. And we do this just so we can feel more solid in our point. A very wise thing to do is to not do that unless the thing you're trying to prove is actually something you want proven. So you don't want to make pattern out of an isolated event. It does not benefit you whatsoever. So when we look at, okay, twice in my life, I had a windfall and I spent the money. And now I don't want to have big money because I'm going to do what I did, maybe last time, but that's a pattern that we don't want to connect with. So that's the first thing I'm going to give as feedback on this. Now, the next part is. This is like an interesting thought, but there is a very big difference between making money and keeping money. And what I would really love for you to understand is that you may love to make money and not care about keeping it. There are people who don't really know how to make it, but really keep it. Like they make $2. They made $2 in 1987, and they still have it. And they're trying to live off nothing so that they never have to spend the $2. Like, there are people who make no money and really want to keep everything. There are people who make tons of money and they don't care about keeping it. They're making more next month. And then there Are the people who can do both, who can make a lot of money and save a lot of money. So what we're looking to do is to say, do I value both currencies? Do I value the currency of receiving money and keeping money? Or do I only value the currency of having money? Or do I only value the currency of saving money? And you can be really honest with yourself about that because there's nothing wrong with it either way. You would be following your alignment. So when I look at my journey with money, when I first started making money, I was one of the people that really did not care about having money left in the bank. There's a question later on that I'll answer that really drives this point home. I didn't really want to have loads of money in the bank because my thought is if I had money, people would either want it or I would attract something bad and it would end up leaving anyway. And so I actually really enjoyed spending it because it felt like I had full control over my money. But I was aware of this. I knew this. I had a zero value in saving money. Plus, I thought, I'm more motivated when I need it, so I'd rather just spend it, have the time of my life and get excited about making more. I loved living on minimum needs. So, no, like just living from hotel to hotel. Very minimal car payment. I'd been bankrupt. I had no debt, I had no nothing. I was just bankrupt. Like, I had no money and I just made some money to pay my. My desired lifestyle and that was it. Then Kevin was like, I would really like us to do this differently. He said, I'd love us to live ahead of our money. And I said, I don't know, what does this mean? And he said, well, instead of spending everything we've got and then making more, I would love for us to, you know, because. Oh. Because at this point, I had no debt because I was bankrupt. But Kevin had a credit card where to get points. We would just put everything on the credit card and then pay the credit card off. Put everything on the credit card, pay the credit card off. I felt very comfortable with this. Kevin did not. He was like, I would love us to have the money in the bank to pay off the credit card always. And then you choose what you want to do with it, but we pay it off. I want to live ahead of our money. And when we started doing that and there was money left at the end of the month, I was like, this just changed my life. I now realize the value of having Money left over at the end. And then we had the thought, what if we built a net worth? And then I realized I love to spend. And I also loved building a net worth. And this is what changed my relationship with worthiness and worth, because the concept became something I was building instead of like, I'm not worthy and I'm not worth it, and I'm not worth it was like, I'm building my net worth. It'll become, as ever, big as I want it to, But I also get to spend as much as I want because that's a currency that's important to me. So you want to notice, you could take this course and you could say, look, I actually don't really care so much about hoarding money or having tons of money in the bank. I don't care about that. And I always thought I should because people told me it was the responsible thing to do. But in this chapter of my life, I don't really care. I just want a lot of money to come in and I want to feel like I can do whatever I want with it. That's what I want. I want to spend. I want to be able to do whatever I want. I want that. And you might take this class and say, you know what? I realized I. I only spend it so that I look like I have money, so that people hire me because I look like I have money. Because if I did what was aligned for me, I would just have like a million dollars in the bank and live a very natural lifestyle, but I would be able to talk about the money in the bank. That's what I would prefer. And some of you are going to want a hybrid. So you. You get to just decide what's your thing. It's not everybody wants the same thing. It's also very freeing. So when you say, like, I don't. I'm not worthy of receiving large sums of money because I spend it, it's like, but what if you're. What if what you value is spending large sums of money? Then you are worthy of receiving large sums of money. Because the thing we forget and we feel guilty about overspending, and I totally get that. But do you know what happens when you spend your money? Like, where does it go? Doesn't go in the garbage. It doesn't start floating in the ocean. It goes to someone else. It circulates. There is no wasting money. There's just like, I want money in circulation through me. Why would you not be a match for huge sums of money if you feel clean with that, but you've got to feel clean with that. If there's guilt that you are losing the money, that you're wasting the money, that you're getting rid of the money. Yeah. Then of course it's like, okay, universe, block, God, block here. Because there it's not, it's not right. The way the money is being utilized is not right. But if you can get behind the. You're utilizing your money, it will always come for you. If you say money in my hands is good for the world, because every time money comes into my hands, it circulates in amazing places, why wouldn't you be the place? Especially if the economy absolutely needs money to move, then why shouldn't money come through your hands? As a matter of fact, during times where everyone's hoarding their money, it would probably be best for you that the money and for the world that the money goes into your hands because more businesses will get money, more people, more, more, more, more money will circulate because of you. So we need to have spenders and people who are willing to spend their money so that the money moves. If we only have people who want to build wealth and don't want to spend, then the money is just built and it's stuck, which doesn't work for the economy. We actually need both. So what if your worthiness to overspending was actually something that was programmed? That's not even real, Simon. True. You never even contemplated it. You get to say, I love to spend because when I spend, money circulates and I love to grow my net worth because I like to provide for my financial future. Those are two valuable reasons to do what you do. What's often missing is the valuable reason why. The valuable reason why I love to spend and it's very valuable for me to spend because it circulates money. I love to save. And it's very valuable for me to do that because I secure my financial future. It's perfect. It's perfect. I forgot one thing I wanted to say at the beginning of this call. This is actually quite cool. So today I'm gonna, I wanna, I wanna do a little process with you. I forgot this. So this call slipped in. This question slipped in right at the beginning. And it reminded me of what I wanted to do. Today is quite special because it's a super moon, it's a blue moon. And so what a blue moon is, is when there's two full moons in the same month. So sometimes, like there's 31 days in the month of August, it'll happen that there'll be two full moons in the same month. So you know how the expression they say once in a blue moon? Well, what basically a blue moon means is that there's two full moons in the same month. And what this creates is a lot of opportunity for releasing and manifesting and creating in your life. Like it's a beautiful opportunity. So this entire call, I wanted to set the intention that like once in a blue moon, you get a piece of information in your life that changes your life. What if that was on this call? So I wanted to just set that that thought with you. And so if you can just anchor into that thought, once in a blue moon, something comes along and it changes your life. What if that was today? Wouldn't that be nice? Just a little intention like that. And I wanted to remind those of you who are in the AFE that Nicole is doing a super moon session today at 6:00pm so if you're in AFE, that's going to be a really awesome thing to be a part of. If you can make the time. Patricia says, Melanie, it feels like blue moon each and every time I listen to you. Yay. You changed my life three years ago. So excited for that blue moon. So amazing. I'm going to do a sound healing. Brilliant, brilliant, brilliant, brilliant. For the first time in my life, I'm very close to being debt free. And it's the first time my adult life. I'm 48, so that becomes a huge success for me. I'm so happy. Yeah. On that note, why wouldn't it be today? Why wouldn't it be today? Okay, so once in a blue moon, the perfect thing comes at the perfect time and it changes your life. Why not today? So the next question is from Lisa. I have a hard time determining what the value is that I bring to entrepreneurship and believing I can funnel money through it. The service I currently give does not sell much. It's automated services like HTML, CSS coding, email campaigns, course uploads and monitoring, HubSpot, AI integrations, things of that, of that type. What are some ways to uncover my value in entrepreneurship? Is it based on strengths? What did you uncover while also being grateful for the journey? And how can I confidently believe that I can funnel money outside of my day job? So the first thing why I chose this question is because in the question it says the service I currently give does not sell much. And when we say things like that what I'm offering isn't selling, there's like, it's as if you've decided that something is definitely true without contemplating what else it could be like. It could be equally true to say there's a lot of people who read about what I say, but they haven't committed to investing yet. I have a lot of people thinking about my offer, but no one has committed to it yet. Like you could believe those things. But what I get is that you believe that the current, the service that you and providing doesn't sell much. And so when we're saying like tech automation services, email campaigns, course uploads, this is going to be valuable, but it's going to be valuable for a certain kind of person who understands what that is. And so what I have found is the most important thing is when you have something that you're selling or something that you want to bring value to a person, they have to value what you're talking about. And the only way for them to value what you're talking about is for them to understand what you're talking about about. When I go live on Facebook sometimes or on Instagram and I speak for a long time, the live gets shared. There'll always be a couple of people who land there who are really not supposed to be there, and they will all say a very similar thing. What the heck is this chick talking about? What a load of baloney. And I'm like, you see no value in what I'm talking about because you have no idea what I'm talking about. You don't understand the terms I'm using. You don't understand why I'm talking about it. You don't. It's, this is not valuable to you. And so this is not like I'm not a valuable person. This is not like the way I'm explaining things is not valuable. This is like, this is not valuable to you at all. And it's so important for us to recognize that in our lives. When it's like, I feel not valuable, but in fact it's that the thing I'm talking about is not valuable to the people that I'm speaking to. So what's important when you've got a specific business, business model is that you build the entire platform, that you're building your entire network in alignment with those values. You want to make sure the people who are following you know exactly what you're talking about. And so for those of you who are continuing your journey on with me after Currency, the next program is Impact Academy. And I really help you figure out in that how to angle your entire social media so that your Marketing and your advertising makes sense for the particular person that you're speaking to. I can say the most valuable thing in the world to the wrong audience and it'll feel like I'm no good and it'll feel like they don't care. And that will make me feel so bad when in fact I'm so valuable and they need things and we're just not compatible because I'm not valuable to them. And I've got so much value, but it's not going to the right place. And so what's really helped me build this business, and I was sharing this before in another training, the year we made a million dollars, it was with 284 clients. And so 284 clients to make a million dollars means the people I'm speaking to find what I'm saying vulnerable or valuable. And vulnerable, but valuable. They're listening to what I'm saying and they're saying what, what's happening is they all see value and they're just contemplating like, how can I work with this person? It's not about, will I work with this person, should I work with this person? They don't have to wonder, is it valuable? Do I care about this? It's like just, do I want to buy something else? Do I want to buy something more? Do I want to continue with this person? So it's so much easier when you've got the right audience to be offering things because you know already that what you're speaking of is of value to those people. When you worry that what you're talking about isn't valuable, that's when you're the most scared of selling, the most scared of talking about what you have to say. The most scared, that's when you feel out of alignment, is when you know the person you're talking to wouldn't value what you do. So you want to make sure that you're building an audience that is targeted to understanding the value you provide so you can speak about it freely. So those would be the two most important things. Your value here is not questioned in entrepreneurship. Your value is questioned in the service you provide. Meaning, who here needs tech automation services? Who here needs coding, HTML coding? Who needs email campaigns? Who needs help with their co course uploads and monitoring? Who needs help with AI integrations and HubSpot? If people are like, what you could give them the best masterclass in the entire world or the best offer in the entire world, they'll just be like, but if someone needs that and they're like, yes. It's so simple and it's so easy. Or the right connection, it's a yes. So in as long as you're in the right energy, you know how to market yourself. So I would say just remembering this is not about your entrepreneurship, like, as a blanket statement, am I valuable as an entrepreneur? It's. Is my service, my product, my. My program valuable to the exact person that's listening to. Listening to me talk about it? And if I constantly feel like I'm not valuable, is it possible it's just the people I'm speaking to? And that's really important because if you start to question your worth because you haven't built the correct audience, you're going to exhaust yourself. Okay, thanks. I guess I do believe I can do it because I know people need it, but I lose confidence at believing I can do it. So this is where a lot of mindset and personal value comes into to play. And this is why courses like this are so important. And this is why I talk about the energetics being so important. Because in this, it's like I know how to do it, I know people need it, and it's my own value that I question in those moments. And that's why the inner work matters so much. And people will tell you you need a good strategy, but it's like it doesn't matter. You know the strategy, you know they want it, you know they'll buy it. You just worry, what will they buy it for me? So it's the inner work and it's the value, and it's this mindset work, and it's programs like this that just blow the roof off things. Side question, since you talked about Impact Academy, I'm new here. Which of your programs would be best for someone who doesn't really know exactly what to offer, how to create the offer, but knows their niche and what. What are good. If ever you guys have questions about programs, you can always reach out to the Impact Academy or to the feature. Hello. You can always reach out to the Alpha Femme team or ask questions directly in the group after if I miss them here. But I would say Impact Academy. If you don't know what to offer, I would say the Coach program, but if you don't know how to offer it, I like the buyer and I like Impact Academy, but Coach is like next level. Okay, next question. I grew up in a family who didn't talk about money and believed Armageddon would come any day. Once I grew up and I had a couple of windfalls, gifts and Inheritance. I used them for things that I needed and came at the perfect time, like magic money or to buy things that I wanted and buy things for my friends. There's a feeling like the money's a beautiful, yummy hot potato that's all going to disappear. This is the question I was talking about before, the one I said, I've got something about this. It's like a yummy hot potato and it's all going to disappear when Armageddon comes anyway, so why not enjoy it now? Even though I no longer believe Armageddon is coming, I can feel the underlying energetics of hot potato and Armageddon are still impacting me. Mixed with I don't look too closely or poof, it disappears. What reframe and coaching do you have to offer me for this situation? More broadly, how can I untangle knots that were imprinted deeply and repeatedly through one's upbringing or religion of birth? So this is very interesting question now. Okay. When you have ever felt afraid that your money is in trouble, have you ever stuck your head in the sand like an ostrich? Like, stopped opening your mail, not answered the phone? Like, when you know there's bad news, you just avoid. Is there anybody here who does that? Who just, like, will pretend like Lala? Okay, so the reason we do this is not that we're avoiding. The thing is that we're avoiding the feeling. And so this is why we've got to strengthen our emotional intelligence and our ability to be with discomfort. Because it isn't actually that you're feeling like Armageddon is coming. It's that if Armageddon came and you'd feel fear, you're feeling the fear of that ahead of time, which you don't want to fear. So you think, let me not think of this at all because I'm going to feel the fear. The gift here is actually to become better at feeling fear and gratitude at the same time. This is where you most value things. So imagine this. If I say to you, and I'm sure everybody can get your question, like, fundamentally, this is so easy to grasp. I keep. I've got this money and I think to myself, something bad's gonna happen. And then I'm like, don't think about that. And then you try not to think about anything at all so that you don't think about that, that's like the most logical thing to do, right? As that's how you avoid. It's perfect. But what we talked about on our last call about gratitude is that actually the More you feel pain with your gratitude, the more you value stuff. So if instead you actually let yourself feel the fear of Armageddon and you saw the money you have, and you let yourself say, I am so afraid of this going away that I'm forgetting it's here. And if I did wake up tomorrow and it was all gone, it would be so hard to feel that. But today I'm looking at this money and it's in my account. Can I take a moment to value that? Like, really value that? Though it's not gone today, it's right here. What might you do? You might go to the bank, take it all out just so you can hold it in your hands and stare at it like, this is real money. I think sometimes our issue is it's numbers on a screen. You know, how can you make it more real to you? Even if you want to take out some in symbolism, like, can you go to the bank and take out a hundred dollars or two hundred dollars? Can you just go and hold your money in your hands for a moment and feel safe with it? Bring back that childlike energy of having money in your hands where you're like, I have money. Like, sometimes we just see the numbers and they come and they go and they come and they go. So if you're experiencing the fear of it going, what do you need to do to experience it as there? Can you override the fear in your mind with the absolute extraordinary reality that there's money in your bank account right now? And are you? Can you allow yourself to fear and to say, gosh, it would hurt so much if it was gone? So how grateful can I be right now? How much can I actually value the fact that this money is here while I already know how much pain I would have if it would all go away? Can I override with gratitude instead of just not feeling the fear? And so we talk about, you know, if you don't know how to hold duality, the bad always wins because either the bad takes over the good, or there's just bad and the good can't even come through. So the idea is to hold both. I'm feeling extraordinary fear that this money is going to go away. But instead of that, I'm going to just be so grateful for this money, and I'm going to do whatever it is that I need to do to value it to the maximum. And you'll notice this can come up in relationships, too, if you have a tendency to be very jealous or insecure. Instead of it being like, what's wrong with me. And I wish I didn't feel this way. Can you just let yourself surrender into the deep value this person holds for you? If you're experiencing that amount of fear? And can you, instead of questioning the person, prodding the person, pushing the person away like we sometimes do, can you instead tell them, you are so incredibly valuable to me. If you only knew how much you matter to me. I'm so grateful that you're here. I love to look at you. I love. I love when you're here. Thank you for being here. How different would that be? How much closer would you bring the people, the opportunities, the money, the whatever it is to your life? If when you saw fear, you saw it as an opportunity to remember how valuable the thing is, you're afraid of losing. Instead of trying to push the fear away so you don't feel the fear, this makes you hold the void. It actually makes you stronger and it increases the value you feel for things and the gratitude you're feeling. So instead of trying to cancel the fear, you couple it with gratitude, you raise the value and you hold the void. This is how you strengthen yourself. So that's why I really love this question. Okay, the next question. Consciously, I really want to add salt money to my life. But it's obvious that I have an unconscious block to allowing it in. My bank account is frequently drained down to zero, which triggers a feeling of relief and a sense of safety in my nervous system, along with a thought, thank God I don't have any money and thank God I got rid of it and it's no longer in my life. I've done enough work on this now. And this unconscious aversion I have to money is a childhood fear that I'll become like my dad who did very bad things with money, which I understood, or I understand he only did due to his scarcities. Consciously and logically, I know that I won't be like him. Yet I still notice my nervous system feel a sense of relief and safety when my bank account is empty. You have tips on how I can expand the capacity of my nervous system that that can hold large sums of money. Because right now the capacity of my nervous system can hold zero dollars and I want to be making six figures a year. So here's why I chose this question. The entire question is about how do I hold money? And the last sentence is, I want to make money. These are two different currencies. You can make $100,000 a day and blow the whole thing and still have $0 in your bank account, I would say, which frequency do you want to work on first? Keeping money in your bank account or making more money? Because what's actually quite interesting is if you didn't want to have any money in your bank account, you're allowed to have that. I am of a strange belief that has helped me tremendously, that I don't actually need to resolve all of my traumas in life, because some of the traumas are what make me who I am. I don't need to resolve all of my traumas as long as I'm aware of them. And I'm like, no, I. Like, I want to live with this one. Like, I'm going to learn to love myself and navigate myself. Thank you for that. Navigate myself with this. Like this. I don't know how to fix this. I don't know how to change this. I don't know how to do that. I'm not going to spend the rest of my life thinking that I'm inadequate and not good enough. But I want to be aware that this is a thing that triggers me, right? So if I don't want to have money in my bank account because it makes me feel really, like, awful, then fine, let me make a hundred thousand dollars a day, every day, and give it away to charity. Give it away to other people, spend it on things that matter to me. Let me get. Circulate it, have businesses in motion. Let me just learn how to make money and know I can give it away every day if I want. Because when I do that and I realize that money comes to me every day and that I can create however much money that I want, it might actually become so much easier to decide one day, what if I tried to keep it for one night, and then maybe for two nights, maybe I just keep 100 bucks, see how that feels. But I'll give the rest to charity. I'll give the rest to an entrepreneur who wants to start their business. I'll fund businesses. I'll do. I don't have to keep the money in my bank account. As a matter of fact, most investors on the planet do not keep cash at all. They're like, why would I keep a hundred dollars in my bank account when I can invest it in the stock market? It's crazy. Why would anybody do that? Make. Make your money work for you. So you may have so many different ways money in your bank account feels. Well, then let's figure out where it feels good. Where do you want it to be? You want to invest it? You want to give it. What do you want to do with it? Because you get to do whatever you want with your money. Saving it and keeping it is just one of those choices. And you may need to. To learn to make a lot of it before saving it feels good. Like, for me, I was okay with going down to zero every time. I was happy with doing that. It just felt like, now I make more, Now I make more, now I make more. But then when I realized I didn't have to go to zero and I could just make more, I started building a net worth that felt really good. But there was a process for me. So I think a lot of us are just looking at everybody else's journey, thinking there's a way we should be doing things instead of just contemplating, like, what do I want to do with my money? Do I want to keep a lot? Do I want to keep some? Do I want to invest it? Do you want to give it all away? Do I want to just learn to make tons of money? And if I blow it every day, that's my prerogative and there's nothing left. But I make, I make it all again tomorrow. I have no problem with that. So I would check in with yourself. Is it really about keeping money in the bank or is it about making six figures? And if it's about making six figures, you can make six figures a day and keep zero in your bank account easily. But if you want to keep building money in your bank account, then I would practice with smaller amounts and build up your tolerance. The other thing is, and I see so many people do this when they're starting to build their money. They're saying things like, what if one day I have so much and then people take advantage of me? Or what if I. What if I become so successful, then I don't have time to do dot the dot. We forget that there's a process, that it doesn't just happen, like zero to a million in a second. There's a process. And if you ever said, let's slow this down, or I don't want it this way, you could pivot at any point. So can you keep a hundred dollars in your bank account? And what if it isn't in your bank account? What if you literally override the thing and go to the bank and pull it out and put it in a safe and have it in cash? You know, what if you go and you go buy gold with it and put gold in a safe at the bank? Like, are there other ways that you can connect with this? Money to override what you're feeling. And once money comes to you easily, then you keep a little bit and a little bit more and a little bit more. It's just getting rid of the shame that's going to create a very big difference. Next question. I love to work because to me, work means contributing and making a difference with my passion and purpose. It's easy to see how increasing money receptivity can be done by working more to earn more. At the same time, there are several solutions to receive more without working more. For example, with working with the perceived value of products and talent, making online courses for more people, etc. What is your take on receiving more without necessarily working all the hours of the day? So there's a few things about this. Working is one currency. It's the currency of doing, but it's not the currency of results. And there are different reasons people work. So let's say I hire someone to do customer experience. For me, there's no tangible result except for the energetics of my business. People feel supported, but what they need to do is do all day. They can't not be there. They've got to be there all the time. Because what creates the extraordinary service is that you're. They're there to do. Can you send me this link? Yes. Can you respond to this? Yes. Can you send me. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. That's where the value comes from. But in a lot of professions, the value comes from not doing, but the having. It's like if you worked and it didn't create a result, then it actually didn't have value. Like, oh, I got on a sales call today. Perfect. What did you sell? Nothing. Well, then that was worth $0. But if I do customer service, then you're. I'm available to help people. Oh, I see you guys all frozen. I wonder if I'm frozen. Ah, okay, we're good. I wonder if I was frozen for a moment. You guys were. So if I'm doing customer service, for example, okay, it did. If I'm doing customer service, it's not about this worked or this didn't work. It's like it's a constant evolving thing that's happening. I've just got to be present and I've always got to be doing. So the. The person at the front desk of the hotel that needs to greet people is paid differently than the person on the sales team that's booking the hotel rooms. That's a different job. It's got different value. You can't just be paid just for being there. But there are places you can be paid just for just for being there. We need a person to man the shop versus we need a closer for sales. Totally different job. So what I would look at here is when you say I love to work because to me work means contributing and making a difference with my passion and purpose. What you're looking at is saying, how can I do that? Because that's the value that I'm paid for without working all the hours of the day. And so for me, what has helped me a lot is to contemplate what I find valuable. Do I find replays valuable? Yes, because I can pause them and I can take notes. So if I were to sell something that's automated, do I find value in it? Yes. But if I said no, I don't like replays because I don't watch them, it needs to be live or else I don't watch it. And then I'm trying to sell something that's automated. I'm going to have a hard time because all I'm going to think about is all the people who don't find it as valuable because I'm not there. If I'm trying, if I only eat organic and I have this opportunity to sell this product and it's not organic, but I would never eat it, I'm going to have a hard time selling it because I'm gonna be like, I would never eat it. So how can I really, if it's not valuable to me, how do I sell the value? So the biggest thing when you're trying to figure out in your business, how do you make things duplicable, how do you make things more valuable? You've got to figure out what the value is. When I first started doing it, I'm so glad this call is very valuable. See what an amazing compliment is that this makes me happy. When I first started bringing in multiple people in courses, I feared it would be less valuable. I had a strong belief that my one on one was the most valuable thing because it was one on one attention with people. But then when I started doing work in groups, something really magical happened is people started giving each other breakthroughs. And then I realized the value of group stuff. If you have a breakthrough in this and you post your breakthrough in the group, the value of your breakthrough is so freaking valuable it creates a ripple effect. And we're seeing that in currency right now. So if you've ever doubted, is it valuable to have a group program? If you've ever doubted, is it viable to have a group? Am I the kind of person who would never usually post in a group, but because a person that makes me feel kind of like me posted, it made me feel like I could do it too. Or someone had a similar breakthrough to me that I never thought I could write publicly, and they wrote it, so I felt like I could. Or all of a sudden, through other people's courage, through other people's truth, through other people's freedom, you're like, I. I can do this. And you might find yourself participating more than you normally would. And so I find that the group programs are actually sometimes more beneficial because you can start to interact with other people's energy. So I like having the private stuff and the hybrid stuff and the group stuff, because different people value different things, but there's always someone that will value a certain thing. So how you don't work every hour of every day, number one, value that other people don't want to work every hour of every day. I don't think you want to work every hour of every day. So if it looks like I'm working every hour of every day, you're not going to find it as valuable to learn from me. If I have spaciousness in my life and I'm making all my dreams come true, there's a lot more value in that because it feels like something that you would want to have. So it's noticing, always looking for the value. How is it valuable to my. My. My followers, my clients, to know that I don't work 24 hours a day, that there is freedom involved here? If you can find that, then there's an angle in how you share, how you talk about things, why you do the things you do. It's not just about what you do. It's who you are when you do it. It's not just about what you have. It's how you got it. And you might have seasons where you really love to work hard. That might be fun for you, and you might get really excited by that. I do. I've worked more in this program than I have in a while. I've read almost every. Every time I get a notification of something, I'm like, reading every one of your comments, all of your things. I've read so many of them. Like, there's a thousand people in this group, and I have read hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of posts, but I'm like, this is so valuable for me. This is so good. This is so valuable for me. So I'm working More, but it's valuable for me. If it was not valuable for me, if it was more your personal breakthroughs and they weren't necessarily providing value for me, I wouldn't read everything, but I wouldn't need to. It wouldn't matter. And you would see, oh, my gosh, I can run a group program and I don't have to comment on everything. In other times, you'll say, gosh, even when you become really successful, if you want to still comment, you can. And another thing, you'll see another thing. So the value is the demonstration of your. The way that you operate in a way that serves you, so other people can see themselves through you, whether they would like that or not like that, if that works for them or doesn't. And you don't even have to model it perfectly, because if I did something and you were like, I would never do that, that would also be valuable to you if you knew how to recognize value and things you don't agree with. And that is a rare thing on this planet. People have a very hard time recognizing value in the things they don't agree with because they only find value in things they like. There is something missing in the energetics of that. I love finding value in things I don't agree with. It makes me wiser, stronger, and far more capable as a person in a diverse situation, like when everyone has a different opinion, a different background. If I only value what I agree with, I'm gonna have a very small outlook on, like, on life. Okay, the next question. I realized recently that while I always thought that people saw me as less than them and that this is why they treated me badly, the truth is that they saw me as equal. And it was me who was. Who convinced them that I wasn't at their level because I couldn't hold the energy of being as powerful as they saw me. How would you suggest to rewire this uncomfortable feeling of being seen as equal and being able to feel safe at the table as one of the greats? So this. I'm going to go a little further with this discussion because I think it's very important. There might be an opportunity for me to deepen this again in the program, but at least I want to have done it here because I think it's very important. So we talk about sitting at the table. Anybody ever heard this expression before, you've got to take a seat at the table? Have you? You heard this expression? Okay, so what make taking a seat the table really means is like, belong. You want to belong in the rooms that you want to be and you want to feel like you're allowed to be there. You want to feel like you can just sit down. Now, where a lot of people struggle is it feels like someone should invite you to sit at the table. Doesn't feel okay to just pull up a chair and sit down. It's scary to do that. We want someone else to make us belong. But when we really contemplate the energetics of this and the truth of this, what you've got to recognize is, like, who is going to pull the chair out for you? Who is this person, this person that you imagine that's also not in their head and doesn't wonder if they belong and isn't even considering the fact that they're wanting to make sure that their place at the table? Make taking a seat at the table really means. Is like, belong. You want to belong in the rooms that you want to be in. You want to feel like you're allowed to be there. You want to feel like you can just sit down. Now, where a lot of people struggle is it feels like someone should invite you to sit at the table. Doesn't feel okay to just pull up a chair and sit down. It's scary to do that. We want someone else to make us belong. But when we really contemplate the energetics of this and the truth of this, what you've got to recognize is valuable and that they're not just really into the discussion or the conversation or in their own mind that they're so sure of themselves that they're just over here pulling out chairs for people. Like, who is, like, who is going to pull the chair out for you is that person who. Who is this person, this person that you imagine that's also not in their head and doesn't wonder if they belong and isn't even considering the fact that they're wanting to make sure that their place at the table is valuable and that they're not just really into the discussion or the conversation or in their own mind that they're so, so sure of themselves that they're just over here pulling out chairs for people like, who is that person who. So we're looking for someone else to tell us we belong at this table? Is it their table? How do they know? Do they even know they belong? The real beauty about taking a seat at the table is that you decide belonging is something you bring into the room with you. You say, I belong here, and then you sit down if you have it in you to be so we're looking for someone else to tell us we belong at this table. Is it their table? How do they know? Do they even know they belong? The real beauty about taking a seat at the table is that you decide. Belonging is something you bring into the room with you. You say, I belong here, and then you sit down. If you have it in you to be so calm, pull the chair out for someone else. That's incredible ability that you had to be the one to pull the chair out for people. Would you feel as good at the table? What? If you pull up a chair for a person, that person ends up sabotaging the table, and you're the one who pulled up a chair. No one wants to be responsible for this. What we want to do is be responsible for our butt, our chair. That's it. If there's a table I want to be at, I want to sit there, and I want to belong there. The biggest issue, honestly, is that we want to feel like we belong at tables while secretly or not so secretly judging everyone that's sitting there. But we want them to want us to sit down. Except we've judged all of them because they didn't pull up a chair for us, because they weren't happy to see us, because they're not as pretty or not as young or not as wise or not as experienced or they're a mom or they're not a mom, or they. They've got. They've. They're richer, they're not. Or the way they're dressed, the way they're sitting, the way they're chewing their food. We've judged everyone at the table, and we're standing there going, why doesn't anybody want me to sit here? Gosh, I wonder why. So we're all so in our head about whether or not we belong at the table while using contrast to decide whether or not we belong at the table. Yet we want someone else to be responsible for pulling up the chair. So what makes us equal is the fact that we all do this to some extent. Do I belong here? Because this person's way more advanced than I am. And I don't think that they're going to appreciate me because what do I have to bring? So, okay, so you decide this person's superficial? I didn't say that. Yes, you did. You said, this person's been doing this way longer than me and they won't care about me. Why? Because they only care about people who've been doing this forever. Yeah, so they're superficial. Well, this person's Way prettier than me. So she won't want to sit next to me. So she's also superficial. Oh, this person isn't. This person is too educated. Won't. Won't value me. So this person is also superficial. All these people have no heart. They're superficial. They don't care to get to know people. Why do you want to sit at this table again? Please remind me. What is it the candles? Like, what is it that's even pulling you forward at this point? Because everybody sounds awful. I want to sit at this table where I think everyone's judging me. And everyone's either much worse than me or so superficial that they'll never see my worth. Please scoot. Someone pull a chair out for me, please. It's a party. So it doesn't work for us to want to sit at these tables when we feel this way. And so you think you don't belong, but in fact, you just didn't bring the belonging with you into the room at all. You literally made it so clear that you didn't belong. Then you just stand there making everyone wrong for not including you. You wonder why no chair magically gets pulled out. Well, this is why. So what does equal even mean? Equal means everyone pulls out their own chair. That's what equal means. It doesn't mean you're better, you're worse. You're more sophisticated, you're just as intelligent, you're as good in business. No, we're all at different levels, in different places with strengths and different weaknesses. What makes us equal is it's our job to pull out the chair. And it's just as scary for any single person to wonder if they really belong there. That's what makes us the same. So when you think, am I less than you? It's like, how do you even calculate that answer to who? Because ask my mother if you're more. If you're more valuable than me, she'll be like, no. If I ask your mother if I'm more valuable than you. If you ask the bank, maybe. If I ask your kids? Never. Who to who? Valuable to who? So because we're all valuable and not valuable, to some people, we're the same because we're all good enough and not good enough. For certain people, we're the same because we're all rich enough or not rich enough or too rich or not. To some people, we're the same because we're all the prettiest and the ugliest. To somebody else, we're the same because we're all too thin and too thick. We're the same because we're all to this and to that, to someone, depending on what they see. We're the same because perceived value makes us equal. I'm telling you, there is more people that hate me than will like most people on Earth. There are more people on this planet that hate me than people who will like most people on Earth. In your entire lifetime you'll have a few hundred or thousand people who like you. I have 10 times that, that don't that hate me. So who's more valuable? If you look at it like that, only three people in your entire world don't like you. I have about, I don't know, thousands. Why? So am I less valuable than you or is it a ratio thing? We're all equal. It's all the same. Just on different. It's different. I don't like the way you express yourself. Okay, well, 10 people feel that because only 100 people have seen you in your, in their life. When a hundred thousand people have seen you, 10,000 people don't like you. So am I, am I less valuable than you because 10,000 people don't like me on the planet, we're all the same. This is where, this is where this information starts to really land. Because we're learning to operate duality at every level throughout our life. Instead of thinking things for me are hard right now and there are other people that things are easy for. That's, that's our problem. That's what we believe. It's easier for you because you're this. And if you were me, it would be harder for you. But you don't know what they struggle with. It's true that they don't struggle with the same thing as you. That's true. But you don't know what they struggle with. That's why when we look at equal power but different, we can really help each other grow. And we can let go of this whole worth thing and this whole like, who's, who's more valuable? It's like we're all valuable unless we don't even sit at the table. Then we can't even find out. So you've got to pull up your own chair. And it's not because you're equal or less or more. It's because we're all energetically the same, but on different frequencies of power, of utilized power. So it's like we all have this huge field of potentiality and some will use 2% of their potentiality in their lifetime and Some will use a hundred percent of their potentiality in their lifetime. But that doesn't change their worth, it doesn't change their value. Doesn't change their value. If I have a hundred dollars in the bank and I never spend it, it's still worth a hundred dollars. If I have a hundred dollars and I spend it, it's still worth a hundred dollars. Just because you're not utilizing your potential doesn't mean the value of it isn't still there. A sleeping volcano is still a volcano. So these are the conversations we really need to like hammer into our minds because these are the things that make us pull ourselves out of the game. This is why you don't actualize, this is why you don't do everything you, you want to do. Because there's someone that's going to do it better or more pretty or more capable and more rich or everybody likes them more. No, because there's a ratio. So we've got, we've got to pay attention to that. And we will be talking about this more in the program. But if you can just start opening your mind to this, you're going to start to see things so much differently. Watching the people in this group that are sharing is such an eye opening thing. If you see like there's people in this group that are sharing, they're like, I have never shared this anywhere before. I'm nervous. And there are people that are sharing this, like this is a huge deal for me because I have clients in this. It's true that they don't struggle with the same thing as you. That's true. But you don't know what they struggle with. That's why when we look at equal power but different, we can really help each other grow and we can let go of this whole worth thing and this whole like who's, who's more valuable. It's like we're all valuable unless we don't even sit at the table. Then we can't even find out. So you've got to pull up your own chair. And it's not because space and this is super vulnerable. That's the same. That's terrifying. Some people are saying I, my value is about my marriage, I want to share about this. While other people are saying my value is about having kids and not being able to have them. And that's different. And some people are saying it is about money. And some people are saying it's about money, having a network and followers like who are we to say one problem is more or less valuable than Another one. This is what we're supposed to look at. And I think this is the most beautiful thing about the Internet is when you start to see how everyone values their life and their. And their dreams and their pains and their fears. We're more the same than we thought. And if we're more the same than we thought, we can actually help each other out more than we thought. We can support each other more than we thought. We can actually hold each other up more than we thought. Ali said, melanie, anybody who doesn't like you, stupid. So here's the thing. Anybody who doesn't like me doesn't value what I value. They just don't. They don't value this. And so if I'm not valuable to a person, I'm valuable. And if to you it's the most valuable thing on earth, of course it feels stupid. It's like, how can you not value this? This is ridiculous. What's wrong with you? Nothing's wrong with them. They just don't value that. But I don't value what they value. And I think that's the other thing that we sometimes forget. You're equal or less or more. It's because we're all energetically the same, but on different frequencies of power, of utilized power. So it's like we all have this huge field of potentiality and some will use 2% of their potentiality in their lifetime, and some will use a hundred percent of their potentiality in their lifetime. But that doesn't change their worth. Worth it doesn't change their value. Doesn't change their value. If I have a hundred dollars in the bank and I never spend it, it's still worth a hundred dollars. It's like when you really look at it, the people that don't value what I value, if I were to actually sit with them in conversation and see what they value, I would probably find that I probably don't value the things they value either. In which case we're just not compatible. So there's actually no need for any of the bad feelings, really, because it's just we don't value the same things. Turn the page, move on, go back to what you value. Your people are coming. Your people are always coming. Literally activating or awakening something inside of me. I feel excited and also a lot of emotion. Michelle I thought I wasn't valuable in the industry because I say less. So I thought I know less when I just have a different depth and a broader understanding. No, less valuable. And what about the people who don't like Me because I talk too much. You're contemplated that this person talks so much I can't handle it. And you talk just enough, you know, like the curl. What was her name? The curly tops or whatever her name was. The Three Bears. Goldilocks. Goldilocks and the Three Bears. You know, one. One porridge is too cold, one porridge is too hot, one porridge is just right. You give a scolding hot porridge to a two year old, is that valuable? No. You give a. If I have a hundred dollars and I spend it, it's still worth a hundred dollars. Just because you're not utilizing your potential doesn't mean the value of it isn't still there. A sleeping volcano is still a volcano. So these are the conversations we really need to like hammer into our minds because these are the things that make us pull ourselves out of the game. This is why you don't actualize, this is why you don't do everything you, you want to do. Because there's someone that's going to do it better. More pretty or more capable and more richer. Everybody likes them more. No, the cold porridge to a person freezing in the winter storm is that valuable? No. You give a person a lukewarm porridge when they were excited for a hot one. Is that viable? No. What does that have to do with anything? Nothing. This is why sometimes we've just got to let it go. We put so much value on the value conversation when in fact we can just let it go. Because it's all perceived value most of the time the inherent value cannot be questioned and the perceived value doesn't matter. Okay. I have struggled in the area of money while also growing up in a wealthy family. It was a patriarchal culture where the wealth was created and controlled by the men. Now that I'm out of the culture, I find I have a hard time really fully stepping into my power and owning my value in relationship to money. I've had my own business as a teenager and I've always had a desire to have my own money. What advice would you. Because there's a ratio so we've got, we've got to pay attention. You have. For someone like me who is doing something no woman has ever done in her family and how do I hold the belief that it's possible Mention to that and we will be talking about this more in the program but if you can just start opening your mind to this, you're going to start to see things so much differently. Watching the people in this group that are sharing Is for me to create magic money. Thank you so much for the exponential value you've created in my life. Okay, so the first thing is what stands out to me. And tell me if you guys feel this, the sentence. What advice do you have for someone like me who is doing something? Such an eye opening thing. If you see like there's people in this group that are sharing, they're like, I have never shared this anywhere before. I'm so nervous. And there are people that are sharing this. Like, this is a huge deal for me because I have clients. And this no woman has ever done in her family. That gave me like a good feeling. Did you guys get that good feeling doing something no woman has ever done in her family? Do you realize how valuable that is? When they talk about you for generations, they will say, april did for our family what no woman had ever done. You get to have that, but the only way you got to have that was to be born into a family where generationally, the money was controlled by the men. So if you devalue that the money was controlled by the men, then you can't value that you'll be the first woman. There's always two choices. You devalue the thing that makes you unique, rare and limited edition, or you see the opportunity of the contrast that allows that rare, unique, limited edition to come through. And you value the experience regardless of the pain. You can value most difficult things on the planet. You can say, I value this experience space and this is super vulnerable. That's the same. That's terrifying. Some people are saying I my values. Even though it was the most painful thing I've ever been through in my entire life, you would not say, I'm so grateful for this experience, because that would be a lie. Unless it's been 20 years. And you can about my marriage, I want to share about this. While other people are saying my value is about having kids and not being able to have them, and that's different. And some people are saying it is about money. And some people are saying it's about having a network and followers. Like, who are we to say one problem is more or less valuable than another one? This is completely. See it in hindsight, but in the moment, you can actually say, I value this. I value this experience because I re. I know this will serve me in the future. You can value something that doesn't necessarily feel good. So how I would really approach this for you is to say the value of me being born in a culture, in a family culture where the men dominate the Money has given me the desire to be the one woman that breaks this generationally and I am so proud to be that person and I'm grateful for the value being in this provided so I can really help other people break through from this generationally. Once I've broken through from this, I will be an example for women all over the world. World. That's where you get the value. Thank you for this question. Okay. Says I had a huge breakthrough today around my value. I've been comparing myself with other coaches who are charging three times what I am and feeling like I should charge more. I know what I offer is unique and powerful, but how do I market it and share it with the world to express my work as unique and rare? How do I stand apart? I call myself a confidence coach. Supporting women to reprogram the way they see themselves in life from disempower we're supposed to look at and I think this is the most beautiful thing about the Internet is when you start to see how everyone values their life and their and their dreams and their pains and their fears. We're more the same than we thought. And if we're more the same than we thought, we can actually help each other out more than we thought. We can support each other more than we thought. We can actually hold each other up to empowerment, living in freedom and choice. I use victimization. I do a lot of inner child healing guidance and some energetic work with their connections to source energy. I love supporting people and having new perspectives and reality shifts. I'm constantly learning more to improve how I support my clients. You remind me of me when I started, when I read more than we thought. Ali said, melanie, anybody who doesn't like you said this. I was like, this person is literally walking the exact path that I was. Because when I first started this work, all I wanted to do was help people get out of their victim situation and break free for freedom. Like that's. That's what I wanted. That was. That was it. However, I was in my head a lot about how to make myself stand out once I realized there was a whole range of coaches out there. But before I knew this, before I knew there was a whole bunch of coaches, when I first started my business, I did not realize this was as big as it was. I thought there was me, Tony Robbins and Esther Hicks. Like I did not know there was another world outside of that. I just thought it's me. So there wasn't a lot of comparison at that point. And so all I did was care about how to Help people. When I look at the beginning, I just thought, I help people. How can you not be valued? How could. How much more do I need to stand out? I help people. How much more do I need to stand out? Like, I just help people that's valuable enough. I don't know a bunch of people that make their life purpose. Helping other people, that's unique, that's rare, like stupid. So here's the thing. That was enough for me. But when I first. When the online world start, anybody who doesn't like me doesn't value what I value. They just don't. They don't value this. And so if I'm not valuable to a person, I'm valuable. And if to you, it's the most valuable thing on started happening and I saw other people's pricing, I did question and I want to share this experience with because I think it's really important that, that I share this in this context. When I first started coaching online, I was charging a hundred dollars an hour. Hour. And the reason I charged a hundred dollars an hour, of course it feels stupid. It's like, how can you not value this? It's ridiculous. What's wrong with you? Nothing's wrong with an hour. Was because when I was sleeping in my car, something very traumatic happened for me. I was recommended to see this energy healer, this person, and she charged a hundred dollars an hour. And it took me weeks to put this money aside. And I did not eat, I did not sleep in hotels. I slept in my car. I didn't, I didn't drink coffee. Like, I didn't do anything to put this hundred dollars aside to have it. And I spent everything I had on this session. At the time, I found it not valuable because I was. I didn't know how to utilize it. Later on, I realized it was one of the most valuable conversations of my life. But in the moment, even after I'd had that call, it felt like it was not a valuable conversation. It wasn't a call. It was in person. But I felt like there was no value in it in the moment. That's what felt true to me. So when it was time for me to decide my pricing, I said, if I can be sleeping the front seat of my car and foregoing food for something that matters to me, I think I can charge that to other people. It felt like if I can see the value enough in my situation for this price point, I trust other people can do. It was a very connected number. It was not like, what do I think it's Worth to other people. It was like, if it was worth it to me in these difficult times and I have no money, this will be a yes for people. That's how I chose my amount. And I charge $100 an hour for a long time. Then eventually I raised my prices to $3,300. And they just don't value that. But I don't value what they value. And I think that's the other thing that we sometimes forget. It's like when you really look at it, the people that don't value what I value, if I were to actually sit with them in conversation and see what they value, I would probably find that I probably don't value the things they value either. In which case we're just not compatible. So there's actually no need for any of the bad feelings, really, because it's just we don't value the same things. Turn the page, move on, go back to what you value. Your people are month. And that took me from 2013 to 2018. So for a very long time, my prices were at a very at a lower range. Now in 2007, in 2018, I hired Amanda. So for those of you who know her, Amanda Francis, she was my first like one on one female entrepreneur coach. And when she found out the pricing I was charging, she was like, you've got to change your pricing. I, at this point, I was paying her $10,000 a month for one on one coaching and I was charging $3,000 a month. And she was like, this is unreasonable, Melanie. You can't charge that. It's not. And I was like, I can't raise it. It doesn't feel right to me. She was like, but you're undercharging massively. Like, this doesn't make sense. I could not raise the price. It didn't matter how much. She told me every call we had raised your prices. Yet I was like, no, it didn't matter that that was the right plan. It didn't matter that I charged less than most of my clients did at the time. I could not raise the price price. It didn't feel right in my body. I have never raised the price to match the industry. Never. I undercharged for years. I even had people who said to me, coming, your people are always coming. Literally activating or awakening something inside of me. I feel excited and also a lot of emotion. Michelle. I thought I wasn't valuable. I'm actually surprised by how little you charge and I don't know if you're the right fit for me. Because I thought you would be more advanced in the industry. Because I say less. So I thought, I know less when I just have a different depth and a broader understanding. No, less valuable. And what about the people who don't like me because I talk too much? In your career, I've had people not hire me because they thought I was not charging. So I was charging 3,333amonth. She was charging $10,000 a month. And she was like, you could charge. Contemplated that this person talks so much, I can't handle it. And you talk just enough, you know, like that you could charge that. You could charge $10,000 a month. You could charge. You know, you could. You could do that. But I couldn't. I could feel it. Like, if I would have tried to do that, I would have. It would have not been me. It would not been true. So it took me a year to change my prices. And when I changed them, I still didn't Change them to 10k. I changed them to 5555. That was my first leap when it changed for me because I started having a wait list and people were getting the kinds of results that made no sense months. So now all of a sudden, I was charging about 5k a month for private coaching. People were coming into my containers and they started having like 20k, 30k, 40k months when they were paying me 5555. And I was like, whoa. The value of my work is extraordinary. When people are coming in at this price point, they really are getting it. I'm helping them really leap. And so it felt comfortable to raise it to 777 and eventually 10k. And eventually I was charging 10k. I ch. I charged 10k for less than a month. It started feeling like it's not an. It's not. There was too many people. When I check. When I raised my price to $10,000, I got so many messages of people who wanted to pay me $10,000 a month for coaching. I was like, what was her name? The curly tops or whatever her name was. Ah, I've got to raise it. There's too many people. I raised it to 15,000, and still I had a wait list. And I raised it to 22,000. I still had a waitlist and 33,000. I still had a wait list, and I raised my price up to $55,000 a month for private coaching until I just decided, I've got three bears. Goldilocks. Goldilocks and the three Bears. You know, one I've got to close the private coaching because I can't raise the price anymore. And feel in alignment. One porridge is too cold, one porridge is too hot, one porridge is just right. You give a scolding hot porridge to a two year old, is that valuable? No, you give a. And I just. It's just too much pressure at that price point. Like I'm going to coach the clients that are my clients and I'm going to figure out what I want to do with private coaching after because it's just too much demand, too much pressure, too much money, too much like it's too much. So this is how my journey went. I never allowed myself to raise my prices because of the industry and then I charged ridiculous price in comparing in comparison to the industry. But the one on one clients I have right now, they pay me half a million dollars a year and they're very happy to be there because they make $10 million a year and they started making not even a hundred thousand dollars a month. One of my clients is paying me half a million dollars a year. Basically start was making $14 an hour when she met me. So it's like it was worth it because the value of the consistent growth was worth it. It. So you're going to see there's no price that's not valuable or that is valuable but it's the energy of it. You can't charge more because the industry is charging more. You can't charge less because the industry is charging less. That's never the right reason. You know what this is worth to eat cold porridge to a person freezing in the winter storm? Is that valuable? You know who you're supposed to be speaking to and what it's what's possible for them. When I raised my pricing it wasn't just that I was more valuable. Is that what I had was more valuable to a certain kind of person in that moment the, the level of energy and what I wanted to talk about would have. No. You give a person a lukewarm porridge when they were excited for a hot one. Is that viable? No. What does that have to do with anything? Nothing. This is why sometimes we've just got to let it go. We put so much value on the value conversation when in fact you can just let it go because gone over a person's head that was starting. It was more fun for me to speak to a person that was in this range and if I wouldn't have charged enough I had the experience of people saying you're not charging enough. For sure. You can't hold me. You don't even have the courage to charge the pricing I charge. How can I ask you for help? So there was this, like, thing for me. You've got to question for yourself, what have I made pricing mean? What even is the industry? Whatever industry you're in, whether you're in the. The, you know, an aesthetics or, you know, makeup or hair or massage or things like that. Like, if there's an industry, pricing, and you're afraid that people won't pay more or pay less, if you're in the coaching world, if you have a brick and mortar company, if you're in the restaurant industry, the hotel industry. Kevin and I spent in Paris on the suite at the Georges san in Paris, €25,000 a night. And when we lived, when we first met, we split hotel rooms that were $38 a night and wondered how we'd make enough money next week to buy food, what's valid. But today I would not stay in a room that's worth that $38 a night because I would be afraid that my car would get stolen. I would get. Be afraid that my. My clothes would get. Like. I just wouldn't even trust. There's no security. How do I. I need a place with top security. I need a place that I know has top security. I chose a top room because there were security guards take care of my stuff. Like, you choose. You choose differently. When. When it's valued differently. There's a time you would have told me I would have spent that on a hotel room. I would have said, are you entirely out of your mind this time? I said, yes, great idea. So there is no such thing as what's worth it and what's not worth it. It's just that there's a different pool of people things are worth it to. So you've got to recognize, like, the more I value certain things, the more different my decisions are in life. If I value as it's all perceived value, most of the time, the inherent value cannot be questioned and the perceived value doesn't matter. Okay? I have struggled in the area of money while also growing up in a wealthy family. You saving my money, I spend differently. If I value experiences, I spend differently. If I value my security, I spend differently. If I value my. I. There's so many different reasons that you're going to spend it. It depends. It just depends. So you've got to get rid of any linear thought about value, because that's not how it works. You can be valuable to People right now and in two months from now when you become more confident, you're not as valuable to them because it was valuable to them to watch you not be confident. It made them feel good about themselves. Now you're confident that doesn't feel so good to them anymore. They'd rather not be around you. You became more valuable to the world and less valuable to that person. You can't get that go into your head. You're gonna get all messed up. Oh my gosh. The more successful I am, the less valuable I am to that person. It was a patriarchal culture where the wealth was created and controlled by the men. Now that I'm out of the culture, I find I have a hard time really fully stepping into my power and owning my value in relationship to money. I've had my own business as a teenager and I've always had a desire to have my own money. What advice would you have for someone like me who is doing something no woman has ever done in her family? And how do I hold the belief that it's possible for me to create magic money? Thank you so much for the exponential value you've created in my life. Person who enjoyed your presence as a contrast of I love hanging out with you, I feel better about myself. And how many of those friends do we really want? How many of those clients do we really want? So you've got to question value. A lot of times value is self serving. I love. I would way prefer I could ask you guys If I charged $1,000 a month for private coaching, who would try to get on that private coaching list? Okay, now for those. Okay, so the first thing is what stands out to me and tell me if you got you who are extremely successful. Okay, so you've, you've really done incredible things in your life through this business or another business. If you met me and I was charging a thousand dollars a month, would you find that weird? So because you know me, if I were to all of a sudden drop my prices to a thousand dollars, you'd want to buy it. But if you met me, I was charging a thousand dollars, you wouldn't. Doesn't that change value? Isn't that weird? So you've got to recognize there's what people are going to experience of what they expect you should charge and then there's going to be what they can afford. It's all subjective. Guys. Feel this the sentence. What advice do you have for someone like me who is doing something no woman has ever done in her family that gave me like A good feeling. Did you guys get that good feeling? So you've really got to make that decision for yourself. What is it that I want to stand for? Doing something no woman has ever done in her family. Do you realize how valuable that is? Or what's this? What is it that I'm saying? Look, I believe that this is the person that I'm able to help the most. And that person should be able to buy this. If they value me, they will. If they value themselves, they will. Because the person at this level in their life, their relationship, their business, the person that wants this product, they should be able to purchase this at this price. And if they don't value it enough to buy it, well, then they're not my ideal client, because I want my people to value what they buy from me. And so this would be the ideal match. It's just so logical, actually. It's like Logic plus Energetics. When they talk about you for generations, they will say, april did for our. It's got to be both. If it's not both, you're always in your head or you're kind of bouncing off the walls. So you're gonna get to change your pricing over time for whatever it is that you have, because the more sought out you are, you've got to change your price. That's the laws of supply and demand. It's basic business. When. When nobody knows you and you're charging super top dollar, you have no evidence, no testimonials. That's a lot harder if you start for free, but you get these incredible testimonials, then you raise your price a little bit, you get incredible testimonials, you raise your price a little bit, you get incredible testimonials, you raise your prices a little bit, you raise your price, raise your price. Next thing, you could be charging a million dollars a year. If the value is there and the demand is there. But it's all about value and demand, and the value can't. The value can't be there unless you experience it, and the demand can't be there unless you share the value. So it's a loop. You've got to learn how to family what no woman had ever done. You get to have that, but the only way you got to have that was to feel your value, transmit your value through, like, to people to be born into a family where generationally, the money was controlled by the men. So if you devalue that the money was controlled by the men, then you can't value that. You'll be the first woman well, how is this valuable to you and how can I help you? And then make sure that other people understand that that loop exists, which is marketing and advertising. And when we can get into that constantly, it's like, I know my value. I know where to put my value. I know how to celebrate my value. Now you've got a marketing machine. Now you've got a business. If you've got just I know my value, you're a happy human being. If you've got I know my value and I'm happy to give my value, you're a happy human. There's always two choices. You devalue the thing that makes you being with amazing relationships. If you're I'm, I know my value. I love to give my value. And everybody talks about that. You probably have a really good business as well. So it's all about all the dimensions. And we're going to go deeper into this as well. There's in certain modules. This is great example. Thank you. Okay. Lisa asks. I've been providing for my parents for 10 years. I'm 34 years old. They've always been living beyond their means and I've been teaching them to budget, to be cautious when spending money, to consult their bank account regularly. But they don't understand and they're always overdrafting. They owe me a significant, significant of money. I feel anger against them and at the same time I feel guilty to feel this anger. Could you please help me? Thank you. Now, Lisa, I love you with all of my soul because this is like the kindest thing that you take care of your parents and I'm going to give you the toughest love coaching in the history of the world. Unique, rare and limited edition. Or you see the opportunity of the contrast that allows that rare, unique, limited edition to come through. And you value the experience regardless of the pain. You can value most difficult things on the planet. You can say, I value this experience. I'm going to reread your question the way it should have been written. I have been providing for my parents for 10 years now. I'm 34 years old. They have always been living beyond their means. I have been teaching them how to overdraft their accounts, how to owe me a significant amount of money, and how to harbor anger from me against them. I feel guilty that I've taught them that help even though it was the most painful thing I've ever been through in my entire life. You would not say I'm so because you did not teach them how to budget. If you give them all your money and you did not teach them how to be cautious if you gave them all your money and you did not teach them to consult their bank account if they owe you that much money. You taught them exactly what you did. So the lesson here is that we don't teach people what we teach them, we teach people what we show them, especially around money. How you're going to teach your parents how to budget is to say I have been looking at my financial situation and my budget shows that I have now given you X amount of money and is now time to stop. I have consulted my bank account and this is what my bank account says. And I've got to be cautious when it comes to continuing to help because grateful for this experience, because that would be a lie. Unless it's been 20 years and you can completely see it in hindsight, but in the moment you can actually say I value this. I value this experience because I re I know this will serve me in the future. You can value something that doesn't necessarily feel good. So how I would realize is what I see is in line for me, my financial future. That would be you showing them and teaching them. But you can't show them how to do something while we approach this for you is to say the value of me being born in showing them something completely different because they're not going to learn. I love you. You're beautiful. You smell nice. Heather's question. I don't value polished professional oozing luxury except you culture in a family culture where the men dominate the money has given me the desire to be the. My deep gratitude is anchored in the intangible simple things in life. Peace time, freedom, food in the fridge. And yet I feel there's a part of me denying seeing the value in that through fear that if I value it, people would dismiss my genuine and authentic heart. Could you speak to walking with both? FYI when I chased this before, FYI when I chased this before, I lost myself. Anything you chase, you will lose yourself because we're not meant to chase. We're meant to attract one woman that breaks this generationally and I am so proud to be that person and I'm grateful for the value being in this provided so I can really help other people break through from this generationally. Once I've broken through from this, I will be an example for women all over the world. That's where you get the value. And so anything I leave myself to go get, I leave myself behind. The goal here is that you become an expression of everything that ever matters to you without losing yourself to go find it. You take yourself with you so you get to experience it. So you get to live it. You thank you for this question. Now I understand this fully. I actually have a post that I'm sure you've read before that I can I could repost into the group but it's like like I used to I you okay says I had a huge breakthrough today around my value. I've been comparing myself to devalue luxury things because I thought they made natural, simple, eclectic things less beautiful. I thought they rivaled beauty. I thought it was like either you care about being barefoot in the sand and watch a sunrise or you care about a Louis Vuitton purse on a counter. I thought it was either you care about a roaring fire and a cup of with other coaches who are charging three times what I am and feeling like I should charge more. I know what I offer is unique and powerful but how do I market it and share it with the world to express my work as unique and rare? How do I stack tea and a warm blanket or you care about high heels and apart? I call myself a confidence coach. Supporting women to reprogram the way they see themselves in life from disentangling a big fancy jewel on your finger and then when I realized seeing the value in things means seeing the value in things. So even the way I see my Louis Vuitton purse what I'm looking at is a fashion house that cream into empowerment, living in freedom and choice. I use victimization. I do a lot of inner child healing guidance and some energetic work with their connections to source energy. I love supporting people and having new perspectives and real gated the kind of business that I really would like to be to do something where the name is recognized, where they have aligned buyers that know when it's right for them and buyers that know what's not right for them. People who don't question their pricing unless they're not the right clients for them which is so easy. You know a brand that knows what kind of employees to hire a brand that knows what type of facing and marketing they want. Someone that's a brand that stands by their quality shifts. I'm constantly learning more to improve how I support my clients. You remind me of me when I started when I read this I was like this person is literally walking the exact path that I was that has the best designers, that has access to the best materials, that has access. Like that's kind of what I saw as the value the value of the designer. This. This one piece. When I first started this work, all I wanted to do was help people get out of their victim situation. You know, when you look at a fashion line, a lot of times if it's a very unique piece, it'll never be done again. I love buying pieces I know are one of a kind. At the beginning, I didn't understand that. I thought you could always buy the same and break free for freedom. Like, that's. That's what I wanted. That was. That was it. Bag every season. Then I realized they do it. It's one season. This is the bag collection 2020 fall. Oh my God. However, I was in my head a lot about how to make myself stand out. Once I realized, gosh, you have that one bag that's valuable. Some people collect fashion. I started seeing the value beyond what I thought it was. I start seeing why is something valuable instead of that's not valuable. And when I realized that if I stretched how much I see value in so many things, I'm actually a more valuable person. If I sit at a table and there's five people there and all five of them are all working, there was a whole range of coaches out there. But before I knew this, before I knew there was a whole bunch of coaches, when I luxury industries. One person works for Cartier and they're the person who's like the ma first started my business. I did not realize this was as big as it was. I thought there was me, Tony Robbins and Esther Jeweler who puts the jewelry together. One person works for YS Yves Saint Laurent and they're the ones who are hicks. Like, I did not know there was another world outside of that. Like I just thought it's me who designed the fall collection. One person works for Chanel and they're the ones that prepare the Runway. One person works for the Four Seasons hotels and they design all of the presidential suite bedrooms. And the other person works for. So there wasn't a lot of comparison at that point. And so all I did was care about how to help people. When I look at the beginning, I just thought, I help people. How can you not be value? How could Arab Emirates, Emirates Airlines and they are the ones that. That create the first class division with this, the flight attendants for the. For that. And I am sitting there as a person who does not value luxury. How do I make all those people feel at the table? What's the point of me devaluing what all these people do for a living? We don't think about the people it takes to create the luxury, we just think it's this one. How much more do I need to stand out? I help people. How much more do I need to stand out? Like I just help people thing that's overpriced. But we, we don't consider or contemplate because we don't understand a lot of times that valuing things comes with being educated on certain things. So if I want to find something that's valuable enough, I don't know a bunch of people that make their life purpose helping other people that's unique, that's rare, like that was enough for me. But when I first, when the online world start more valuable, I'm going to want to educate myself on that thing a little bit more. If I want to really value diamonds and really understand why is a ring so expensive? Is it just the diamond? Like how much is a diamond worth? Or is it about how. How rare is it started happening and I saw other people's pricing. I did question and I want to share this experience with because I think it's really important that, that I share this in this context. When I first started coaching online, I would find one. How long does it take for them to be created? Who are the people who designed this? How fragile is a diamond? Can you chip it and break it as you build this thing? How do you create the whole piece around the. There's different grades of diamonds now I become educated on the topic. I see the value. What tends to happen is people who don't learn about certain things don't see the value. The more educated I've become on my own, the more valuable everything has become to me. And so what you really fear deep down is charging a hundred dollars an hour. And the reason I charge a hundred dollars an hour that because it seems trendy to value luxury power was because when I was sleeping in my car, something very traumatic happened for me. I was. People won't care to value what you value. But what that would mean is it's recommended to see this energy healer, this person and she charged a hundred dollars a job to educate them. Because if you make it valuable to learn, you will make people value what you believe in. So the most important thing is to grow what all the things that you value while never leaving behind what you originally valued. An hour. And it took me weeks to put this money aside and I did not eat, I did not sleep in hotels, I slept in my car. I didn't, I didn't drink coffee. Like I didn't do anything to put this hundred dollars aside to have it and I spent everything, then you can believe that people value everything. And if it's possible for a person to not to value natural equality, eclectic things, to learn about fashion and luxury and art, and to be completely fascinated and enamored by that, then it's possible for a person who's all about the luxury to fall in love with a night in a log cabin where all you can hear is the crickets and all you can see is the stars. If it's possible for a hat on this session, at the time I found it not valuable because I was. I didn't know how to utilize one to care about something so different. It's possible to the other to care about something so different. I think that's what chesit. Later on I realized it was one of the most valuable conversations of my life. But in the moment, even after I'd had that changes the world. Instead of trying to get people to value what we value, if we start valuing with all it felt like it was not a valuable conversation. It wasn't a call, it was in person. But I felt like there was no value in it. They value. We just open a door, educate yourself on what you don't know. People feel valued immediately. If you're afraid people won't value you, it's because you're not standing to educate them on what you value. Next question. In the moment, that's what felt true to me. So when it was time for me to decide my pricing, I said if I can be sleeping the front seat of my car and foregoing food for something that matters. In the beginning of August, I declared that I wanted to better my relationship with money, which for me meant to stop spending more than I had and start appreciating what I already got. Afterwards, all these weird money expenses started showing up. All my three guinea pigs pigs got sick. I had to go to the vet. It left me with really expensive bills, which left me to struggle with affording birthday gifts and even be able to afford food. I've had to take out all of my savings almost which I had saved up to invest in my business. And it's left me with a question of why. Why is the universe trying to show me how I really value what I have? Almost removing all of my savings. That felt like a security for me. Is this the universe trying to force me to feel abundance even when I feel like I have very little? I would really enjoy your thoughts on this here. My my real honest, honest truth about this. I Don't to me, I think I can charge that to other people. It felt like if I can see the value enough in my situation for this price point, I trust other people can do. It was a very connected number. It was not like, what do I think it's worth to other people? It was like if it could, if it was worth it to me in these difficult times, I don't know if I believe that the universe just like punishes us like that. I don't believe that the universe just says like, oh really? You want to test a few values and I have no money. This will be a yes for people. That's how I chose my amount. And I charge a hundred dollars an hour for a long time. Then eventually I raise my prices to $3,300. Any here, let me take it all away from you and we'll see. Like, I don't think it happens like that, but I do think that there's always a chance that everything can be taken from us and that if we could be just very logical and real and realistic about this and say, like, yeah, that's true, anyone could have everything, everything taken away. For some people, all it takes is three guinea pigs that need help and the funds drain. But for someone else, it could be that their house gets flooded and they have no insurance or their house go burns and they don't have any insurance or the insurance doesn't cover it. Or it could be that they, you know, make a big mistake in their investments and, and they lose everything. Like people lose everything. Like this. It happens. And so instead of seeing it like a month, and that took me from 2013 to 2018. So for a very long time my prices were at a very, at a lower range. Now is it a test? It's more like, I guess I have an opportunity now to prove it. Which just feels so different. It's this. In 2007, in 2018, I hired Amanda. So for those of you who know her, Amanda Francis, same, but it's entirely different. Is this for me to prove it versus I guess she was my first like one on one female entrepreneur coach and when she found out the pricing I was charging, she was like, you've got to change your pricing. This is an opportunity for me to prove that I value what I have. Do I need evidence that this was for me to prove it? Or can I just say, look, I had declared anyway that I was going to really value and cherish what I have. So maybe this is my opportunity to do that without the whole storyline that someone that because you declared that you wanted this, that's why it happened. That's where we lose all of our energy. In fact, all that really matters is you said loud and proud, this is what you wanted to do and you have an opportunity to do it. So let go of all of the victim feeling of like, oh my God, this I, at this point I was paying her $10,000 a month for one on one coaching says happened to me because I declared it. And why is this happening? And am I supposed to let go of that and just say, I guess this is time. And in hindsight, and this is the crazy thing, in hindsight, when you look back at your life and you actually did something about it, you'll. And I was charging $3,000 a month. And she was like, this is unreasonable, Melanie. You can't charge that. That it's not. And, and I was like, I can't, I can't raise it. It doesn't feel right to me. She was like, but you're undercharging massively. Like this doesn't make sense. Get to say this whole thing happened. And then this is how I dealt with it. And I'll tell you, I could not raise the price. It didn't matter how much. She told me every call we had, she asked, I mean raise your prices. The energetics of the difference here. People often ask me like, what, why, why did this happen? You know, they say everything happens for a reason. So why did this happen? Have you ever thought that to yourself or had anyone ask you that if everything happens for a reason, then why did this happen? So I remember the first time I ever had this thought what came to me. It was just like a, an intuitive voice that came to me. I said, instead of thinking, why did this happen to me? What if. I said if this did happen for me, yet I was like, no, it didn't matter that that was the right plan. It didn't matter that I charged less than most of my clients did at the time. I could not raise the price. It didn't feel right in my body. I have never raised the price to match the industry. Never. Then now what? Then I, then I, then there's no story. I'm just right back in my power. Instead of if everything happens for a reason, what's the reason? How the heck are we supposed to know that now? But instead, if the wisdom is always everything happened. I undercharged for years. I even had people who said to me, I'm actually surprised by how little you charge. And I don't Know if you're the right fit for me because I thought you would be more advanced and for you for a reason. Remember that last time when that happened and this and that, and then it all turned out fine? I. Oh, yeah. That usually happens in hindsight. So in the moment, I don't have that. So my only actual thing that I have is if this is happening for me, if it's true that in hindsight, I'll say this happened for me, then what do I want to do about this? Because how I respond to this makes me able later to say because of that, I became this. But the whole backstory doesn't matter. You just go right into it. If life happens in your career. I've had people not hire me because they thought I was not charging. So I was charging 3,333amonth. She was charging $10,000 a month. And she was like, you could charge that. You could charge that. You could charge $10,000 a month. You could charge. You know, you could. You could do that. But I couldn't. It's for me then, now what if this happened for a reason? Then what do I want to do about it? Instead of then what's the reason? Could feel it like, if I would have tried to do that, I would have. It would have not been me. It would not been true. We don't know that till much later. Okay, next question. So it took me a year to change my prices. And when I changed. Okay, this one hurts. And I could provide a long backstory, but I'll try to make it short. My business does not provide sustainable income, so my husband is supporting us. Last week he suggested that. He suggested that all the money I make in the next three months are just mine. All fun, magic money. He's our safety. But I couldn't receive it. I broke down crying. I felt like a pity case. And all the guilt that I would feel using the fun money, not knowing where that there would be more. My body simply rejected receiving it. He and others can give me gifts, and I received those in the most beautiful way. But this one was just a huge no way. I came to the realization there must be a huge block in me receiving them. I still didn't Change them to 10k. I changed them to 5555. That was my first leap money, not just from him, but generationally in my business. My sense of worthiness and receiving trusting more money will come when it changed for me because I started having a wait list and people were getting the kinds of results that made no sense. So now all of a sudden, I was charging about 5k a month in all the things. Intuitively, I've known this, but he reflected it to me in such a beautiful way and such a divine timing right from this program. I'd love a rift for you moving forward from this realization. So private coaching, people were coming into my containers, and they started having like, you're gonna realize that there are two different energies of receiving the energy of 20k, 30k, 40k months. When they were paying me 5555. And I was like, whoa. The value of my I'm giving to you because I want to give to you, and the energy of I'm giving to you because I feel you need it. And those don't feel the same. When you're at dinner with a person and they say, I'm taking you out, they're like, what? That's so. Thank you. When they say, don't worry, I've got it. What are you insinuating? That I can't pay my meal? But you think I am. No, I will pay. I will pay, and I will pay for the both of us. I am capable. It triggers something inside. My work is extraordinary. When people are coming in at this price point, they really are getting it. I'm helping them really leave week. And so it felt comfortable to raise it to 777 and eventually 10k. Like, don't pity me. You're not the bigger. You're not. You don't have to do that. In the way that we present things, if it's exciting and it's a gift, it feels different. Then it's like, don't work. And eventually I was charging 10k.I ch.I charged 10k for less than a month. It started feeling like it's not an. It's not. There was too many people. When I check, when I raise my price to temporary, don't. Your money is not welcome here. Put it away. I got you. Like, there's something just like thousand dollars. I got so many messages of people who wanted to pay me $10,000 a month for coaching. I was like, no, about that. I don't like that. And so what's possible is that your partner didn't want you to stress and offered to. To say, look, why don't you just play with the money the way you tell a small child, don't worry, you don't need to help. Your help isn't worthy here anyway. So you felt that energy of like, look, don't stress. It doesn't matter. Just play with your money. And it felt like, no, I want my money to be so valuable. And in the way that you're describing it, it's like my money just matters so little. I could just go play with it and it wouldn't make a difference for ah, I've got to raise it. There's too many people. I raise it to 15,000 and still I had a wait list. And I raised it to 22,000. I still had a wait list and 33,000. I still had a wait list. And I press, which was not the intention, but it's how it landed. So it's okay to have. And I think a lot of it raised my price up to $55,000 a month for private coaching until I just decided I've got. People would just look at it at face value and say, you've got to learn to receive. Look, see where your channels were closed. But it's deeper than that because it's not that your channels for receiving our closes that your channels for receiving pity are. I've got to close the private coaching because I can't raise the price anymore and feel in alignment. And I just. It's just too much pressure at that price point. Like, I'm going to coach the clients that are closed and you can keep those open if you want. And. Or you can just observe it when you're like, oof. How can you reframe this, though? Because if you said to yourself, okay, if it is true that my money is not necessary, that means I am on already on the frequency of magic money. Instead of being insulted by that truth, can I actually just like, lean into it and be like, it is very good to know that my money is already on the frequency of magic money. Any money I make is magic money. I can already tap into that my clients. And I'm going to figure out what I want to do with private coaching after. Because it's just too much demand, too much pressure, too much money. It's too much. Like, it's too much. So this is how my journey went. I never. I don't need the pressure. I don't need the provider money. I don't even need it. Thank you for telling me that. That's a good refund. Never allowed myself to raise my prices because of the industry. And then I. You get to decide. Do I feel like I can be in the vibes of magic money right now? If you feel like, no, it doesn't feel like it is enough. I don't think like What I've done is enough charged ridiculous price in comparing in comparison to the industry. Yet then you would say, well, you would ask your partner, is it just as valuable for you? But the one on one clients I have right now, they pay me half a million dollars a year and they're very happy to be there because they make to let me have magic money as it is to allow me to reinvest in skills. Does that feel just as comfortable for you? I appreciate that you want me to have magic money and I appreciate that you don't want me to be stressed. Do you feel as comfortable allowing me to spend this money on strengthening my skills? If I find something that actually would better my business, Are you comfortable with me spending it on that instead of. And if the answer is yes, what you might find is that it's. It feels better for you to say to $10 million a year and they started making not even a hundred thousand dollars a month. One of my clients is paying me half a million dollars a year. Basically start was making 14 an hour when she met me. So it's like that it was worth it because the value of the consistent growth was worth it. Here your money is already magic money and you get to reinvest that. And having a more solid business model that might feel better for you than just going to blow it on ice cream and popsicles like that feels more worthy of your money. So sometimes we just make things mean things. You might actually find it much more valuable to just have play money and to enjoy your life. If that's valuable, perfect. If what's more valuable for you is to feel like you now have the money to make to reinvest in your business and that feels more valuable. Do that. But the real mindset shift here is saying if my money is already magic money, I'm already on the right frequency and detaching from the thought. It's because it feels like my money is worthless. Because there's a very big difference between your money isn't needed and your money isn't wanted. I don't need your money to pay the bills. I don't want you to be stressed versus I value your energy, I value you making this money and I would value it more if you enjoyed it than if you stressed about paying the bills. Sometimes we just misunderstand what the energetics are coming from and we feel bad about it. Okay, next question. I love today's call, which was last module. I really love the notion of leading ourselves without putting others down. That's my jam if we're doing something differently than others and want to mention so as a differentiation other than so you're going to see there's no price that's not valuable or that is valuable, but it's the energy of it. You can't charge more because the industry is charging more. You can't charge less because the industry is charging less. That's never the right reason. You know what this is worth to who? You know who you're supposed to be speaking to and what it's what's possible for them. When I raised my pricing, it wasn't just that I was more valuable, it's that what I had was more valuable to a certain kind of person in that moment, the level of energy and what I wanted to talk about would have been a judgment. How would you present that opposed to the contrasting were better than them? For example, I'm noticing I could say something like I went through a bunch of programs that left got out entirely and we're including that element here. So I love this question because I feel like sometimes we question like am I not allowed to say anything anymore? Is it always going to look like I'm trying to put other people down? It's not in what you say, it's in about why you say it. So if I said to you all of our programs are live, which is amazing because you get to be in the live energy all the time, Technically I could be. It could feel like I'm saying it's much better to be gone over a person's head that was starting. It was more fun for me to speak to a person that was in this range. And if I wouldn't have charged enough, I had the experience of people saying, you're not charging enough for sure. You can't hold me. You don't even have the courage to charge the pricing I charge. How can I ask you for help? So there was this like thing for me live then pre recorded. It's more valuable. But that's not me putting the other program down. It's me saying this is really valuable. If however, I said now there are programs out there that you buy and there is no live access. You can't ask a question. You've got to watch it all on your own time. Even if you don't understand anything, you can't get clarification. My programs are way more valuable than that. That's where you realize the energy is. I feel like I need to contrast to put value in my program rather than just explaining the value of my program. And standing in it. So if you were to say, I've been very disappointed to see that there, most people do not utilize or do not bring God into the equation when they're doing their coaching. And I think that that is just not enough and it's not valuable. But in my coaching, we do do that. That's where you're, you've got to check why, why the need to put it that way? Because for a lot of people without confidence, they might hear your message. But people who are confident and who are capable, which are really the ideal clients in any business, will hear that and see what you're doing and go, so it's better to just say, what I love about what we do is we really do have a God forward approach. And I know for me, in a lot of the containers I've been in, what I wish there was more of was that. So I added it into mine. The energy of that is clean. It's true. It's not about degrading another program. It's like this was lacking for me and so I, I, so it's there now. There are going to be times where you've, you're going to stand against things that you believe in and you've got to give contrast because it's part of a teaching or it's part of something like that. The only thing that matters in my opinion for this, and this is how I hold it, is that I always hold people in love, even when I use. You've got a question for yourself. What have I made pricing mean? What even is the industry? Whatever industry you're in, whether you're in the, the, you know, aesthetics or, you know, makeup or hair or massage or things like that, like if there's an industry pricing and you're afraid that people won't pay more or pay less. If you're in the coaching world, if you have a brick and mortar company, if you're in the restaurant industry, the hotel industry. Kevin and I spent in Paris on the suite at the Georges san in Paris, €25,000 a night. And when we lived, when we first met, we split hotel rooms that were $38 a night and wondered how an example that could be not beneficial to another person. So let's say in one of my train, if I'm telling you that this is not the ideal, I'm technically contrasting with people who do that in the moment. But I really believe that this is a good teaching. I'm not marketing my program this way. I'm teaching it. It's Different. This is my opinion. And in my program, what I'm talking about is this is my opinion and this is how I've gotten to where I've gotten. Here's how my clients have gotten to where they've gone. But by the time I've got you in a container where I share my opinion with you, I've already set the context that you've got to have your own mind. We'd make. Make enough money next week to buy food. What's valid. But today I would not stay in a room that's worth. That's 38 a night. Because I would be afraid that my car would get stolen. I would get. Be afraid that my. My clothes would get like. I just wouldn't even trust. There's no such thing. That if you don't agree with me, that's really good. That you've got to stick to your own belief systems. That what I believe is what I believe. Dirty. How do I. I need a place with top security. I need a place that I know has top security. I chose it. But it's okay that you contrast with me, which is entirely different than me marketing and using my marketing to sell to you by crushing another person's thoughts or business model. Can you feel the difference in that? So you're going to have a lot of space to share your opinion. You will contrast with people top room because there were security guards. Take care of my stuff. Like you choose. You choose differently. When it's just important that we don't use the contrasting to take away from other people. Like I'm not. I'm not trying to contrast in order to make other people make less or for you to not hire other coaches. I'm contrasting so that you don't make these mistakes that I've seen be mistakes. If I were to sell this program this way, it could actually affect other people's sales during my selling process. That I wouldn't do. Even if I completely disagree with a lot of ways people are selling. I won't point that out in my marketing because it feels like it could harm a person in my marketing. I just don't like that. That's my opinion. But I'll teach that in the pro. When it's valued differently. There's a time you would have told me I would have spent that on a hotel room. I would have said, are you entire literally out of your mind this time? I said, yes, great. I program. It won't show up in the marketing. So that's. That's kind of the Difference sometimes you will need to contrast. But yeah. So there is no such thing as what's worth it and what's not worth it. It's just that there's a different pool of people things are worth it to so you've got to recognize like the more I'm gonna figure out why it's there. Is it a teaching thing or a proving thing? Is it a opinion or a validation thing? Are you needing everybody to agree with you or are you sharing your opinion and your thoughts based on what you've seen has worked. It's all energetics. If I need you to agree with me value certain things the more different my decisions are in life. If I value then it's going to sound different when I say it. If I'm sharing what my thoughts are, it's going to feel different when I say it. If I'm open to discussing it with you when you don't agree that's going to change how how it goes. And so these are the open mindedness energetics that we need in order to really hold leadership in a strong position. Because what a lot of people are doing is they're just contrasting in order to get a better result instead of contrasting in their teachings. Here's what I found works. What doesn't work, here's what I would do differently instead of never do this. Never choose this. This doesn't work. This isn't right. This isn't cool. This is not okay. Constantly devaluing another brand or another way in order to sell is very saving my money. I spend differently if I value experiences. I spend differently if I value my security. I spend differently if I value my I. There's so many different reasons that you're going to spend it. It depends. It just depends. So you've got to get rid of any linear thought about value. Very different than contrasting and teachings in order to help people have breakthrough bruise does that. Can you feel the energetic difference in that? Okay. So you'll feel it in your body because that's not how it works. You can be valuable to people right now and in two months from you'll know one is for you to feel more valuable. The other one is just your opinion and it doesn't come from a place of I'm. I'm trying to make sure that this doesn't happen or that it's like this is what I've seen doesn't work. It feels different when you say it. And to hear it now when you become more confident you're not as valuable to them. Because it was valuable to them to watch you not be confident. It made them feel good about themselves. Now you're confident that doesn't feel so good to them anymore. They'd rather not be around you. Okay, next question. I realize that using contrast as validation is everywhere in my life. Thank you for this. However, I sit back wondering, how do we move forward from here? Of course it's a decision and a matter of our level of intentionality. But what other things do you recommend to rise above this? I sometimes feel like all human interaction is rooted in judgment and talking about others to make ourselves feel better. I see that now, but I seriously have this feeling of what do I. You became more valuable to the world and less valuable to that person. You can't get that go into your head. You're gonna get all messed up. Oh my gosh. The more successful I am, the less valuable I am to that person who enjoyed your presence. As a contrast of I love hanging out with you. I feel better about my talk about to people who have not done this work. Totally get this. So this is where I find it helps us when we're wanting to hold the void or whether when we're trying to build our strength and our resiliency, our resilience. When you're saying, okay, someone does something that I don't agree with. Let's say one of the things that really got a bad rap last year was people who were posting a lot about their money wins friends. So let's say for example, I myself and how many of those friends do we really want? How many of those clients do we really want? So you've got to question value. A lot of times value is self serving. When I'm celebrating, I've made this much money. I've made this much money. I've made this much money. Some people say, oh my God, I love. I would way prefer I could ask you guys, gosh, this is so valuable to me because I'm seeing what's possible and it's stretching my belief in what's possible. Who is of that mentality? Every time you see a person say I just made this sale or I just had a month of this size, you see that and it, it activates a oh my gosh, this is so inspiring. I'm so glad people do this because If I charged $1,000 a month for private coaching, who would try to get on that private coaching list? Okay, now for those, it would be much harder for me to believe in what's possible. If I didn't see These. Who feels like that? Okay, so we have a few people now. What if you see who here, when you hear it, you're like, I don't care. I don't want you to tell me how much money you make. It bothers me. It's making the whole industry about the wrong thing. It's making the Internet about the wrong thing. It makes me second guess myself. It makes me get in my head about money. I wish everybody would just shut up about how much money they make. It doesn't matter who are extremely successful. Okay, so you've, you've really done incredible things in your life through this business or another business. If you met Matter, tell me about how valuable you are. Tell me about how great your client breakthroughs are. But just everybody stop talking about the big money. I can't take it anymore. Who feels like that? Raise your hand if that's the case. Or say me. Okay, so there are also people who feel this way now. Raise your hand if it depends who's doing it and the energy they're doing it because sometimes you love it and other times me and I was charging a thousand dollars a month. Would you find that weird? You're like, no, not you. I don't like it when you do. Okay, let's see now we've got the truth. So because you know me, if I were to all of a sudden drop my prices to a thousand dollars, you'd want to buy it. But if you met me and I was charging $1,000, you wouldn't. Doesn't that change value? So what happens is no matter what you do, the way you do it will resonate with some people and won't for others. It's not a blanket statement of what you do or what you don't do. It's who you do it and how you do it. And so the validate. When you're saying I'm using the contrast to validate, the issue is not, I'm using con. Isn't that weird? So you've got to recognize there's contrast. The issue is I'm using contrast to validate what people are going to experience of what they expect you should charge. And then there's going to be what they can afford. It's all subjective. So if I say I made a hundred thousand dollars, this is, this is how things get skewed. When I first had my first million dollar month, I remember the feeling was like, if people knew this would was possible, it would change the world. That was my real feeling. So when I said I Just had a million dollar month. There was no contrast in my body. There was just what I had done because it felt so. You've really got to make that decision for yourself. What is it that I want to stand for? What's this? What is it that I'm saying? Look, I believe that this is the person that I'm able to help the most. I don't, I don't understand how this happens. Like, I went from making a hundred thousand and that person should be able to buy this if they have dollars a month to a million dollars a month within like 12 months. How? Like, I couldn't. I couldn't believe it. I was just like, like, oh my God. I just wanted to tell people about it. Now when I said it, for some people, it created contract value. Me, they will. If they value themselves, they will. Because the person at this level in their life, their relationship, their business, the person that wants this product, they should be able to purchase this at this price. And if they don't value. Because it said, when I hear that you made a million and I compare it, to me that just made like 3,000, the gap in that makes me feel really mad. Can you see that? For other people, they contrasted and they said, oh my gosh, I've been watching you from the beginning. I remember when you were making as much as I'm making. Hearing you say that you've done that without it feeling like there's a contrast. You're not trying to make me feel bad. Makes me sue it enough to buy it. Well, then they're not my ideal client. Because I want my people to value what they buy from me. And so they were inspired. Now I feel like anything's possible for me. This is incredible. This would be the ideal match. It's just so. So depending on the person and how they contrasted with the information, it made a difference for them, but it was squeaky clean for me. And so because it was squeaky clean for me, it it logical, actually. It's like logic plus Energetics. It worked. I did a huge balloon celebration and it was amazing. But then other people saw what I was doing and they said, well, if she's doing balloon celebrations when she. It's got to be both. If it's not both, you're always in your head or you're kind of bouncing off the walls, so you're gonna get to change your. It's big milestones. Maybe I should do big balloon celebrations when I hit big milestones. And so it's tried contrasting with it like, well, If I want to be valuable, I should do what she's doing, doing. Then all of a sudden there was balloons everywhere. But there was also some people who said, oh my gosh, what an incredible idea. I've been wondering how to celebrate my, my milestone and I'm like, how do I celebrate like a six figure month? I, I've never even thought about throwing myself apart, pricing over time for whatever it is that you have, because the more sought out you are, you've got to change your price. This is genius. Thank you for modeling that. And they threw a party and it worked for them. And then some people were saying, everybody's throwing parties and popping champagne and having balloons and it's. The whole thing doesn't really land. That's the laws of supply and demand. It's basic business when, when nobody knows you. But yet some people, it was working. How come it's working for them then it should work for me. But some people weren't contrasting with the balloons. They were doing it because it felt like a good idea. And you're charging super top dollar. You have no evidence, no testimonials. That's a lot harder if you start for free. But you get these incredible testimonials and you raise your price a little bit, you get incredible testimonials. You raise your price a little bit, you get incredible. Other people did it because they were like, well, if I don't do with balloons, people won't know I'm celebrating. It all comes from the contrast you're experiencing in the moment. If I, I do it because if I don't, I'll be invisible. I do it because if I don't, people won't know I'm also good. I do it because if I don't, I'll be left behind. I do it because if I don't, it'll look like this. Or it's so different than what a great idea. This makes me feel so excited. I've been looking for a way to celebrate. This is brilliant testimonials. You raise your prices a little bit, you raise your price, raise your price. Next thing you could be charging a million dollars a year if the value is there and the demand is there. But it's all about value and demand. Energetically those things feel different. So it's the same thing when you're teaching, let's say no sale, no selling in the dms. So if someone says, I, I don't sell the DMS because I feel uncomfortable and the value can't, the value can't be there unless you experience it. I don't like receiving messages in my DMs and I don't like selling in my DM. And so they say on, on the Internet, I want to show you how to sell without having to go. And the demand can't be there unless you share the value. So it's a loop. You've got to learn how to feel your value, transmit your value through, like to people, dms. Because I don't love being sold and I don't feel comfortable selling in the end. So I'm, I'm just going to teach you how to do that. That is very different. Then if I say, are you like, people who sell in the DMs are gross. So I'm going to show you how to never do that. That's a different energy. One is focusing on. You never have to do it. One is focusing on those people are gross. Don't be gross. How is this valuable to you and how can I help you? And then make sure that other people understand that that loop exists, which is marketing and advertising. And when we can get into that constantly, it's like, I know. And if you, if you did do it, you feel guilty, you feel ashamed, and you feel like you need to learn the method. So you're, you're noticing there's gonna be contrast because people are gonna see how you're teaching something that's the opposite of what I teach. But the question is, are you teaching something that's opposite from what I teach in order for people to stop buying from me? That's the difference. Difference. And when we're talking about valuing all things is the difference between saying, you know, when we were looking at the car salesman analogy, my value, I know where to put my value. I know how to celebrate my value. Now you've got a marketing machine. Now you've got a business. If you've got just I know my value, you're a happy human being. If you've got I know my value and I'm happy to give my value, you're a happy human. Or the, the car detailing analogy. One takes three hours to clean the car. Someone comes and says, I only have 15 minutes. They say, I know someone amazing down the street that's only available if they didn't use contrasting in their marketing. Because if they would have said, it's the cheapest thing. Give your car to people, they take 50 minutes to clean it. You really think it's clean? It's never clean. How are they going to say I know a great guy down the car and being with amazing relationships. If you're. I'm. I know my value. I love to give my value. And everybody talks about that that you probably have a really good business as well. So it's all down the street that cleans 15 minutes. So there's a difference between saying we really take our time and we clean your car with a toothbrush. Like your car will be immaculate. We're so proud of this versus saying we're not going to do a cheap job like most people do or it just takes 15 minutes to clean a car. No one should take 15 minutes to clean a car. That's contrasting. Yet a person who usually gets their car cleaned in 15 minutes could still contrast and say I've never actually about all the dimensions. And we're going to go deeper into this as well. There's in certain modules. This is a great example. Thank you. Okay. Lisa asks had someone take three hours to wash my car? Maybe I should. But that would be their experience, not you pushing it. I've been providing for my parents for 10 years. I'm 34 years old. They've always been living beyond their means and providing it. Are you seeing the difference in the energy in these conversations? So this is what you want to test with your marketing because it the the mass the majority of buyers and this is a buyer conversation for those of you who are going to be in the buyer with me. This is the kind of conversation we have that kind of shape reshapes the whole paradigm. But buyers that are self led really don't appreciate the kind of conversation where someone else is getting like kicked under the bus. That's not fun for anybody. And I've been teaching them to budget, to be cautious when spending money to consult their bank and account regularly. But they don't understand and they're always overdrafting. They owe me a significant, significant amount of money to hear that the more you value other people, the more people who value people want to associate with you. The more you throw people under the bus, the more the kind of people who throw people under the under the bus want to associate with you. That's just, that's the way we are as humans. We go where we feel similar. And so when you're thinking like who's the ideal buyer? The ideal buyer is the super incredible person. I feel anger against them and at the same time I feel guilty to feel this anger. Could you please help me? Thank you. Now Lisa, I love you the all of my soul because this is like, the kindest thing that you take care of your parents. And I'm going to give you the toughest love coaching in the history of the world. And who sees their worth and their value? Who sees worth and value in everyone else? Who's, like, proud of the people who are giving it their best shot? Who doesn't need to put people down just because they disagree with it? They just go with what they love. They're willing to pay for the service they want no matter what it costs, if it's right for them, because they know they're. They know their value. They don't feel like they're in competition with people. They're constantly looking for ways to collaborate. Like, that's the dream person to be in business with. Well, that. How do you think you attract that person? You attract that person by being that person. I'm going to reread your question the way it should have been written. I have been providing for my parents for 10 years now. I'm 34 years old. They have always been living beyond their means. I have. The more you create contrast to be seen, the more you attract the people who create contrast to be seen. And unfortunately, we very often become their contrast eventually. I've been teaching them how to overdraft their accounts, how to owe me a significant. I've seen it over and over again. The people who are attracted to contrast create contrast. So they will say, I hired this person and it was terrible, and that person is now you. You know, it's like, amount of money and how to harbor anger from me against them. I feel guilty that I've taught them that. I prefer to go in a circle where people learn to really honor each other, help, and to value multiple different things because there's more space for collaboration and there's more space for, like, we all belong. Everyone can sit at the table. There is no one person is speaking so loudly about they disagree with something that someone else now feels like they can't sit down. If we're all open to everybody's value, we can have discussions and everyone can sit it. And so that's the kind of energy that I've cultivated in Alpha Femme. And it has taken me, like, exponentially further because you did not teach them how to budget if you give them all your money and you did not teach them how to be cautious if you gave them all your money and you did not teach them to consult their bank account if they owe you that much money. You taught her than I ever thought. And the people who are the closest to me, in, in like if I were to look at my competitors, my closest competitors in the similar field are my clients who do the same thing. The energetics are the same. And so I would just let them exactly what you did. Look at that. Like, there's something about this. It works. It does. It just does. So the lesson here is that we don't teach people what we does and why. Because the majority of people who buy buy because they have the money. And if they have the money, it's because they have the power. If they have the power, it's because they see value. There might be a lot more comments and likes on the sassy stuff, but who's paying is the powerful people who understand power. People and their power. And we're going to go into that a lot more in the. In. In currency along the end and then in programs like the Buyer. Teach them. We teach people what we show them, especially around money. How you're going to teach your parents how to budget is to say, I have been looking at my financial situation and my budget and exponential and you have created such a beautiful group with amazing women. I agree. It shows that I have now given you X amount of money and is now time to stop. Love this conversation. Wow. Gives me the feeling I belong with that vibe. Me too. I have consulted my bank account and this is what my bank account says. And I've got to be cautious when it comes to continuing to help because this is the thing. The more we value other people, the more other people belong. The more other people belong and feel they belong. The more we belong, the more we actually create this incredible place where everyone can sit without thinking. I wonder how many people here made posts that would make my businesses go under this week. I wonder how many people at this exact table I wish I could sit at have said that being exactly like me is the worst thing you could be. What's the point of marketing like that? Then you want. Then you never feel quite comfortable belonging anywhere. This is what I see as in line for me, my financial future. That would be you showing them and teaching them. And you're. You feel bad and guilty because you know what you've said and what you've done. And there could be a person that. That's exactly who you've been speaking up against sitting right next to you at the table. How awful would that feel? So opening your mind, strengthening your heart. Okay, this is very. But you can't show them how to do something while. Very important question. I keep receiving complaints from my husband. I'M the last showing them something completely different because they're not going to learn. I love you. You're beautiful. You smell nice. It's one on your list. I'm an entrepreneur with two babies. I'm wondering if there's anything I could do differently to change that while continuing to learn, grow and serve the biggest thing when you hear this Heather's question I don't value polished professional oozing luxury except you. This is so difficult because when we hear that we tend to look at everything we're already giving and we feel devalued for what we've given. That's the first reaction. If you don't feel like you matter don't you see how hard it is for me to have a business and two kids? I do not see how much I'm giving. We immediately go for you don't see my value instead of my deep gratitude is anchored in the intangible simple things in life. Peace, time, freedom, food in the frit hearing I don't feel valued. When a person values you enough to want to feel valued by you that is a beautiful thing. It may hurt your ego that you're not nailing it and yet I feel there's a part of me denying seeing the value in that through fear that if I value it people would dismiss my genuine and authentic heart. Could you speak to walking with both FYI when I chase this but when a person values you enough to tell you I wish FYI when I chased this before I lost myself anything you chase you will lose yourself because we're not meant to chase, we're meant to attract. I mattered more to you. If you can put your ego aside there is an extraordinary conversation there and so if Kevin said to me I feel like you're my I'm your last priority I would have to let that land in order to be able to learn from that. If I move it, if I push it, if I disregard it, if I make him feel bad for it if I make him you don't you realize how hard I work? How could you possibly say that to me if I do that if I devalue him our relationship just took a very and so anything I leave myself to go get I leave myself behind. The goal here is that you become an expression of everything that ever matters to you without losing yourself bad turn but if I meet him with what he just said and I hear it and I say oh my gosh thank you for telling me that because I really value our relationship so much and the fact that you're willing to share something like that with me when I know you know how much I'm working and all the things I have to go find it it you take yourself with you so you get to experience it, so you get to live it. Now I understand this fully. I actually have a post that I'm sure the fact that you value us enough to tell me that even though you're probably terrified that I'd take it wrong. Like I. I'm so you've read before that I can. I could repost into the group. But it's like I used to I you grateful you had the courage to tell me that it hurts like hell but like let me just let me breathe. Let me whatever it is that you need but like receive it because the worst thing that could happen is your partner doesn't tell you that and they just go further and further and further away from you deciding that they're not valued until the relationship dies. Used to devalue luxury things because I thought they made natural, simple, eclectic things less beautiful. I thought they rivaled beauty. I thought it was like either you care about so when you get feedback, I don't feel valued. This is always a great time to look and to say how. How do I create more value then for my marriage? Because it's not about time and it's not about you're not being barefoot in the sand and watch a sunrise or you care about a Louis Vuitton purse on a counter. I'm good enough. It's like whatever I'm doing. And you might feel like I'm doing this and this and this and this isn't thought it was. Either you care about a roaring fire and a cup of tea and a warm blanket, or you care about high heels and not enough. You might find that the things you're doing aren't the things that are the most valuable to your partner. And that's really valuable to know. If you're like, I clean every day, I do the dishes, I do the house cleaning, I do this, I do that. And they're like, yes, but I don't value that, then maybe you should get a maid and go on date night once or twice a week. Week. And that would be more valuable for your marriage and you get someone else through the housekeeping. Like have a conversation. You can ask a person what. What would make you feel more valued? They'll often tell you, but if you say it like, great, okay, well, why? What would you make you feel more about a big fancy jewel on Your finger. And then when I realized seeing the value in things means seeing the value in things. So even the way I see value, that, not so much. But if you really ask what would make you feel more valued, how can I. How can I make you feel as valued as you feel to me? Because you are so valuable. My Louis Vuitton purse. What I'm looking at is a fashion house that createable to me. And I'm so sorry I haven't been making you feel that way. Hated. The kind of business that I really would like to be to do something where the name is recognized and they'll tell you what it is. And if you're not available to give them that, then there's a discussion to have about the relationship. But if you are available, you might have to say where they have aligned buyers that know when it's right for them and buyers that know what's not right for them. What I've been giving is this and this. Would you prefer that I give that instead? Would that be more valuable to you if you say, look, I've been. I've been more like doing things for you, Doing the dishes, the laundry, the things like that. What I mean, what I'm getting is it would be far more valuable for you if we just like escaped once a week and went to watch a movie or stayed at a hotel together or, you know, would you rather I get someone else to do those chores and we do that? Like, would that be more valuable? People who don't question their pricing unless they're not the right clients for them, which is so easy. You know, a brand that. That knows what kind of employees to hire a brand that knows what. That's a really great conversation to enter. And the person like, no, I also want you to do that. Well, okay, then I might type of facing and marketing. They want someone that's a brand that stands by their craft support here, or that's not possible. Then there's a discussion. But the minute someone tells that has the best designers, that has access to the best materials, that has access to, like, that's kind of you. That they feel not important to you. If they matter to you, don't try to explain how much you've given first. This isn't about how much you've given. It's about how much they're valued. And what I saw as the value, the value of the designer. This, this one piece is why that conversation we had a little earlier about just because you're doing things does not mean that's valuable. That works in a relationship as well. Like when I was saying just being the person to greet people at the door or being the person that closes sales on the phone. Those are two different jobs. Just being a girlfriend, just being a partner, just being one doesn't mean you're a valuable one. If marriage was the key to joy, there wouldn't be so much divorce. You know, when you look at a fashion line, a lot of times if it's a very unique piece, it'll never be done again. I love buying pieces I know are one of a kind. At the beginning, I didn't understand that. I thought you could always buy the same. It's not about having a partner. That's not what the valuable thing is. The valuable thing is feeling valued by a person that you deeply value. And so whenever one of those two things is at bag every season, then I realized they do it. It's one season. This is the bag collection 2020 fall. Oh my gosh, you have that one bag that's valuable. Some people collect fashion. I started seeing the value beyond what I thought it was. I start seeing why is something valuable and odds. That's when it becomes so important to have these conversations and to put the ego aside. Okay, next question. I've never struggled with thinking that other people are smarter or greater or pretty or more gifted than me. Maybe that's my five line showing. But what I have observed in myself in the past two years as I've departed my legal career and fully embraced this entrepreneurial journey is my. My propensity to segregate people, coaches in particular, into mothers and non mothers. That if that's not valuable. And when I realized that if I stretched how much I see value in so many things. I've grappled with this dynamic off and on for a few years, comparing myself to another coach, then discovering that she doesn't have children, devaluing her work or success because she obviously has it easier and obviously has more time on her hands. I'm curious how this fits into the construct of today's call. Does not valuing. I'm actually a more valuable person if I sit at a table and others mirror me and not valuing myself. So where this can sometimes come in is wanting to feel more valuable and seeing like if you have something and there's five people there and all five of them are all working in luxury industries. One person works for Cartier and they're the person who's like the master jeweler who puts the jewelry together. One person works for ys Yves and they're the ones. But it was easier for you to get it. Then I'm more valuable because it was harder. It was harder for me. That's you contrasting for self esteem. And so it's not that it's bad. You're not a terrible person. Most people do this. It's just. It's like the least powerful way for you to actually sincerely feel that way. It's always circumstantial. If I always need someone and it's my pleasure. Thank you for asking your question. If I always need some design the Fall Connect collection. One person works for Chanel and they're the ones that prepare the Runway. One person works for the Four Seasons hotels and they design all of the president one to contrast with, to see my value, then I always need someone to be not good enough. It's a difficult thing to really feel truly empowered if I already show suite bedrooms and the other person works, works for. I always need someone to contrast against. Now I have had that. I have had people say this to me. My, my. Since I started becoming successful. It's easy for you because you have a lot of followers. And I'm like, yes, but how do you imagine I got those exactly? I'm like, yes, but it's easy for you. Arab Emirates, Emirates Airlines. And they are the ones that, that create the first class division with this, the flight attendants for the. For that. And I am sitting there as a person because you already have success. You already have testimonials, but how do you imagine I got those? It's easy for you because you don't have kids. So before you had kids, were you making $70 million a year and then you just stopped when your kids came? No. So this is what I would look at. Whatever it is that we're trying to do, we're not bad people for doing it, but we're doing it because it helps us feel who does not value luxury. How do I make all those people feel at the table, feel more empowered for a minute? And so what would be better would be to just look at what would my life look like if I didn't need any of that? What can you imagine what it would look like if I just actually felt super proud of myself and other people who tried stuff? I also felt super proud of them. Other people who did stuff, I felt super proud of them. I felt like, what if I could just feel proud of me no matter what? I'm con. I don't need to contrast with. I can contrast with. I can say, you Know what's the point of me devaluing what all these people do for a living? We don't think about the people it takes to create the luxury. We just think it's this one thing that's overpriced. But we don't consider or contemplate because we don't understand a lot of times that valuing things comes with being educated on certain things. So if I want to find something, we both have the exact same lives, except I have kids and this person doesn't. So I have an added value. Perfect. But that doesn't make them less valuable. That just makes you an added. You just have an added value in this department. But then what happens if you find out that they are survivors of intense abuse? That they have got education in three different extremely valuable fields where they could get contracts of people that pay them multiple six figure contracts a year because of their education in certain fields. Now all of a sudden more valuable. I'm going to want to educate myself on that thing a little bit more if I want to really flip the agenda the other way around. Like more valuable to who? More valuable to moms? Maybe you've had an added value for moms, but it's equal power but different. Because if I've never been a mom and you hold being a mom like one of your greatest accomplishments and I've never been one, I don't even understand what the value diamonds and really understand why is a ring so expensive? Is it just the diamond like how you have. That is. So yes, it adds value, but not everywhere. So you can contrast with it for self esteem, but it's not permanent and it's not. It's. It's perceived value. How much is a diamond worth? Or is it about how. How rare is it to find one? How long does it take for them to be created? Who are the people who design this? How fragile is a diamond? Can you chip it and break it as you build this thing? How do you create the whole piece around the. So the, the most amazing thing for us in this program and what I'm wanting you to tap into is the real understanding between perceived value and just value. When you understand your inherent value, that you are valuable and there are things that you can do that allow you to feel more of that without having to perceive it as more valuable for you to just like feel it. This is the truth. This is me. This is it not in comparison to something else. Just I feel more valuable when I do this for myself because I feel more valuable when I there's different grades of diamonds. Now I become educated on the topic. I see the value and I do this for myself. Not because now I know I'm better than this person or I'm more educated than this person. Not in contrast if. Because this is the thing in life. If all the lights were to shut off and all the power were to go out and all of a sudden all you were left was with yourself and you had no one to contrast with, would you feel powerful or weak? Way too many people only feel proud because of who else is around that aren't. What tends to happen is people who don't learn about certain things don't see the value. The more educated I've become as good in their mind. What I want for you is that if the lights went out and the power went on on my own, the more valuable everything has become to me. And so what you really fear deep down is that because it seems trendy to value luxury, people won't care to value what you value. But what that would mean is it's your off and you found yourself alone, you would still feel the most powerful you've ever been. And that only happens when you don't need contrast to validate. Doesn't mean you will never contrast to validate. It means you don't need contrast to validate. And that's very different. And you might notice sometimes you do it when you're tired, when you need rest, when you need food, when you need a nap, when you need a poop because you're groggy. And your job to educate them because if you make it valuable to learn, you will make people snippy. And right now this is your best shot feeling confident. But because we've had these call you what you believe in. So the most important thing is to grow conversations. You might be like, maybe it's time for me to study right now. Maybe it's time for me to educate myself a little bit. Maybe it's time for meditation, forgiveness. Maybe it's time for something back invested within me. I think you might glow in the dark Melody maybe. Who knows what all the things that you value while never leaving behind what you originally valued. Contemplation. Contemplation. Yes. Okay. This question was very important and I'm. I have a feeling for those of you who are getting the. The understanding of why I choose certain questions, you're totally going to get this. I'm. Then you can believe that people value everything. And if it's possible for a person to not to value natural Eclectic things to learn about fashion and luxury and art and to be completely fascinated and enamored. Not sure if this will get seen with the volume of comments, but I might as well try. My question is how can I attract high ticket clients into my coaching business? I value my worth. Do I even need to continue? Why would you think. To think to yourself, to even write it down? I don't know if this is even gonna get seen, but I may as well buy that then. It's possible for a person who's all about the luxury to fall in love with a night in a log cabin where all you can hear is the crickets and all you can see is the stars. If it's possible for. Well try. Where else does that show up? I don't even know if anybody's going to buy this offer, but I might as well put it out there. I don't know if anybody can even afford this, but I might as well ask for that price. I don't even know if this is one to care about something so different. It's possible to the other to care about something so different. I think that's what okay to charge but I'll try it. That's probably the energy in the offers. If you really go deep down in the same way you knew your question was valuable or you wouldn't have asked, it changes the world. Instead of trying to get people to value what we value, if we start valuing what they value, we just open a door. Educate yourself on what you don't know. People feel valued immediately. If you're afraid people won't value you, it's because you're not standing to. You know that your offer is valuable or you wouldn't want to offer it. But in the same way that you know that question is valuable and you still felt the need to say it probably won't be answered. You probably have that same underlying fear with the buyers. And so what is high ticket? This is, this is an important thing. What is high ticket? It means expensive. That's what it means. High ticket means expensive. Educate them on what you value. Next question. In the beginning of August I declared that I wanted to better my relationship with money, which for me meant to stop spending. It doesn't even necessarily mean more valuable, it just means more expensive. Because I have, I have given this program is a hundred and ending more than I had and start appreciating what I already got afterwards. All these weird money expenses. 11 and I think for some of you, like for the people who got it on Invisible Offer the people who bought this as an invisible offer. I have people who've literally messaged me that this is the best course they have ever taken in their entire life. So started showing up all my three guinea pigs. Pigs got sick. I had to go to the vet. It left me with really expensive bills, which left me to struggle with affording birthday gifts and even be able to afford food. I've had to take out all of my savings almost which I had saved up to invest in my business. And it's left me with a question of why. Why is the universe trying to show me how I really. What is. What does it mean? High ticket? High ticket means there are so many people who did not buy this program because they're. They didn't think it would be advanced enough because of the price. It's a thousand dollars full price. Right now they're saying I'm not gonna buy this. There's no way this is valuable. So high ticket changes value. What I have almost removing all of my savings that felt like a security for me is this the universe trying to force perceived value. And it is important because how me to feel abundance even when I feel like I have very little. I would really enjoy your thoughts on this. We value different currencies in our life changes with money. So I'm going to give you a very valid example for this. You make a hundred dollars a week. I charge a hundred dollars for this program. You buy it. How dedicated are you going to be to this program? Like hear my, my real, honest, honest truth about this. I don't know if I believe that the universe just like punishes us like that. I don't believe that the universe just says like oh really? You want to test if you value my. This is everything I have invested everything. I'm going to give as much attention as I have, as I will time, as I have money, like everything's at its maximum. What if you make a million dollars a day and this program costs a hundred dollars? Are you going to dedicate the time or if something comes up, if there's a possibility for a client call, there's a problem. There's a person, there's a. There's money here, let me take it all away from you and we'll see. Like, I don't think it happens like that, but I do think so many things that are happening in your life when you're making a million dollars a day. There's so many people that need you. Like my. That there's always a chance that everything can be taken from us and that if we could be just very phone goes off the hook with stuff all day every day. If I had paid a hundred dollars for something if I can't make it it might be like honestly it was a logical and real and realistic about this and say like yeah that's true. Anyone could have everything, everything taken away. For some people all it takes is three guinea pigs that need help and the, the funds drain. But for someone else it could be that their house gets flooded and they have no insurance bucks. Worst case, I lost 100 bucks. That feels very different now how we perceive value for things in our lives is based on. It takes me this much energy to create this and so I'm going to give the a very, I'm going to give a very similar energy experience this now this or their house go burns and they don't have any insurance or the insurance doesn't cover it. Or it could be is not universal across the board because it's perceived value and perceived value always changes. And what I mean by that is I have my private clients, people that have finished private coaching that have bought this at 100 that bought this at you know 100 or they bought it when it was 700 or they bought it 111 that they you know make a big mistake in their investments and, and and they lose everything like people lose. And there's private clients that still show up for my free stuff. So when you give value everywhere, everything like this it happens. And so instead of seeing it like people will show up everywhere but I'm going to flip it for you so you understand. Is it a test? It's more like I guess I have an opportunity now to prove it. Which just feels so different. It's this and the value opposite because I think you can get the picture with this. But I'm going to flip it. If I were to deliver for you the kind of one on one coaching call that I'm able to offer for people who have seven figure businesses and you've never built a business and you haven't even started. Do you think all the things I'm going to say are going to be as valuable for you now as they would be once you've made a million dollars? Same but it's entirely different. Is this for me to prove it versus I guess this is an opportunity for me to prove that I value what I have. Do I need evidence? So this is not even a question of like am I valuable? It's just is what I would tell you as valuable before You've even started a business or maybe you don't even have a business or you don't care to do a business. Is it going to be as valuable for you now as it will be once you've got a seven figure business and there's all these questions and there's all these things I can help you with? It's going to be more valuable that this was for me to prove it or can I just say, look, I had declared anyway then. So what I found for me is that when we're looking at that I was going to really value and cherish what I have. So maybe this is my opportunity to do that without the whole storyline that someone that because you declared that you wanted this, that's why it happened. That's value. What we're looking at is perceived value to a person. For me, it's worth more for me to spend a lot to get personalized attention, to ask exactly the question I need and only spend the time to get exactly what I need when I need it. That's more valuable to me because I don't have the time to sit and to decipher all the, all the information. But if I'm working with a coach or something that does not offer private coaching and the only way I'm going to learn is through the programs, then it's super valuable for me. It's where we lose all of our energy. In fact, all that really matters is you said loud and proud that this is what you wanted to do and you have an opportunity to do it. So let go of all of the victim feeling of like, oh my God, this is the only way I'm going to learn from them. This is how you decipher value. So you want to have high ticket clients in your life. How is it more valuable for them to work one on one with you? Why is it more valuable? Because they can ask you questions? Do they even know what questions to ask? Ask because they spend more time with you or because it's more personal? This has happened to me because I declared it. And why is this happening and am I supposed to let go of that and just say, I guess this is time. And in hindsight, and this is the crazy thing, in hindsight, when you look back at your life and you actually did something about it, you'll get to say this whole thing happened and then this is how I dealt with it. And I'll tell you the energetics of the difference here. People often ask me like, like why, why did this happen? You know, they Say everything happens for a reason. So why did this happen? Have you ever thought that to yourself or had anyone ask you that? If everything happens for a reason, then why did this happen? So I remember the first time I ever had this thought. What came to me. It was just like a, an intuitive voice that came to me. I said, instead of thinking, why did this happen to me? What if I said, if this did happen for me, then now what? Then I, then I, then there's no story. I'm just right back in my power. Do they know that? Do you tell them that? One way that I think it's really valuable to offer private coaching is to say you get my program for free and then we get to deepen the program. Like let's say I offered an opportunity and I said, okay, I'm going to open X amount of spots where we deepen currency together. It's a one on one opportunity and we get to talk about the modules and everything you've learned and you get to ask me your questions. We have one on one discussions. Would that be a different value than the program? Like the program is one thing you learn, but the other one is like one on one. We're going to discuss the program. So that's where you want to look at. Where's the value? It shouldn't be able to be replaced. It's like it's so valuable for me that I can listen to this and then a million things come into my mind and I can ask you about them all. That's a mate. That's incredible value to me. So it's either because I get to go deeper with you, or it's either like I don't have time to show up, 10 hours to watch this over, over the course of however many modules. But if I could pay you 10 times this price for you to tell me everything that I need for my particular situation and I could get everything I need in a fraction of the time, I'll pay 10 times the amount to get get 10 times the time back. That's value. You've got to contemplate what's valuable to who. High ticket means expensive. Why is it valuable for someone to pay more? What's the reason? How is it better for them? I think a lot of people don't. Instead of if everything happens for a reason, what's the reason? How the heck are we supposed to know that? Now contemplate that when they're raising the prices. If you don't know why it's more valuable for it to be. But Instead, if the wisdom is always everything higher price, then you won't have people pay a higher price. For me, it's usually like I can make. I can have a lot of people in this room because of the price of it and for you for a reason. Remember that last time when that happened and this and that and then it all turned out fine. Oh yeah, that usually. But if I wanted to have really intimate conversations with you, I would have to cap it at a certain amount. Then I would have to change the price place for it to make sense for me to do it. But it would be more valuable to certain people, not everyone, but it would be valuable to certain people to get to be in a clear happened in hindsight. So in the moment I don't have that. So my only actual thing that I have is if this is happening for me, if it's true that in hindsight I'll say this happened for me, then what do I want to do about this? Because however close proximity space with me and ask super high level conversations based on their level of business. Like how do I apply this to a million dollar business? How do I apply this to a hundred million dollar business? How does this apply to this? How do I, you know, that would be. That would make such a big difference. Applying the currency conversation to a hundred million dollar business will create more millions than this week than having the currency conversation to a starting business. But to the person it could be equal value. But to respond to this makes me able later to say because of that I became this. But the whole backstory doesn't matter. You just go right into it. If life happened business, it won't. So the money changes. Are you starting to see how value is? So it. We are putting it. We're putting something about this in our head. We think it means something. It doesn't mean anything of what we think it means, like none. We've put so much pain on this word. We've put so much pain on ourselves. We've put so much like the whole thing is just not what it is. This is not as appearance for me. Then now what? What if this happened for a reason? Then what do I want to do about it instead of then what's the reason? It's not what it appears, it's not what we think, it's not what we've made it mean. I want to detangle this until you. We don't know that till much later. Okay, next question. You're literally looking at value. Like, whoa, I get to choose whatever this is. I choose my value. I choose my worth. I choose how I feel about myself. I choose. Choose like I choose. That's really where the freedom comes from. So. Oh, okay. So we. I'm getting a. Oh, my gosh. There's still so many good questions. Okay, this one hurts. This is so hard. Okay. There was one that I really wanted to get to. I'm going to do that one and then. And I could provide a long backstory, but I'll try to make it short. My business does not provide sustainable income, so my husband is supporting. That will be it for today. Where is it? This is it. How do you know whether the goals you desire to create need more work in the 3D? I guess last week he suggested that. He suggested that all the money I make in the next three months are just mine. All fun, magic money. He's our safety. But I couldn't receive it. I broke down crying. I felt like so strategy or the energetics. This pity case. And all the guilt that I would feel using the fun money, not knowing where that there would be more my body simply is one of the questions I've probably been asked the most in all of my career. They always need both, in my opinion, because everyone gets sick of the same strategy eventually. If you had to do the same thing in your business every day for the rest of time, you would get so bored you would want to change careers. Most probably you rejected receiving it. He and others can give me gifts, and I received those in the most beautiful way. But this one was just a huge no way. I came to the realization there must be a huge block in me receiving them. So the reason I've loved changing my strategy is not because one strategy works and one strategy doesn't. It's because what's most important is that I love my Strat money. Not just from him, but generationally in my business, my sense of worthiness and receiving trusting more money will come. And I tend to not love something I've got to repeat over and over and over again. The energetics are the whole feeling of the whole experience. The confidence and the value and the almond in all the things. Intuitively, I've known this, but he reflected it to me in such a beautiful way and such a divine time. All the rest. So what we want is to find a strategy that we absolutely love coming right from this program. I'd love a rift for you moving forward from this realization. So that feels fun mixed with all the right energetics that make something work and to constantly be playing with new strategies. And staying super aware with the Energetics, it's always both. It's just if something is not working, if you're gonna realize that there are two different energies of receiving the energy of I'm giving to you because I want to give to you, and the energy of I'm giving to you because I feel you need it. You're like, this doesn't work. It doesn't work anymore. Then change the strategy. But if you change the strategy and that doesn't work, and then you do another strategy and that doesn't work, usually it's not the strategy. And what I prefer to work with, with people is their energetics. Because once you. When you get in the right energy and you know yourself any strategy and those don't feel the same when you're at dinner with a person. Energy I put in is going to work. I have had over my career so many strategies, and they say, I'm taking you out. They're like, what? That sounds. Thank you. When they say, don't worry, I've got it. So many of them. And they've all worked because they were all right energetically. But when you're not in the right energy, you've got to hope that there's a strategy that works just because. And that's, like, exhausting. So I prefer that entrepreneurs work on their Energetics first because ultimate. What are you insinuating? That I can't pay my meal? But you think I am. No, I will. And this is what I. This is what I really profoundly believe. When you work on yourself, you become the kind of pay. I will pay, and I will pay for the both of us. I am capable. It triggers something inside person that can make anything work. You can change your career halfway through and you'll be valuable anywhere. I could literally now stop being a coach and a mentor. I could work into any brand, any store with what I've built and what I've done. And I could present myself and say, this is the kind of impact and influence I have. Like, don't pity me. You're not the bigger. You're not. You don't have to do that. This is the kind of leader I am. This kind of vision I have. This is the way my mind works. This is what I'm able to create. This is the. In the way that we present things. If it's exciting and it's a gift, it feels different. Then it's like, don't work kind of money I bring to a business. I would like a job here. And they will Find me a place very fast. Hurry. Don't. Your money is not welcome here. Put it away. I got you. Like, there's something just like. Because the value I provide to the marketplace is huge. I could do anything. I could. I could do anything with. With what I've built, anything. But if you're like, what? No about that. I don't like that. And so what's possible is that your partner didn't want you to stress. Should I be. When I grow up, Should I be a coach? Should I be a network marketer? Should I be in fashion? Should I be. Be an editor? Should I be an artist? Should I be an investor? Should I be. You can be all of it. When you work on and offered to. To say, look, why don't you just play with the money the way you tell a small child, don't want your own self. And you know what's correct for your energy and you know your identity. And you. You build your network and you build your. When you build your yourself, you can be anything and you can pivot at any time. You can try any strategy. You'll know this is right for me or not. If you don't know your energy, sorry, you don't need to help. Your help isn't worthy here anyway. So you felt that energy of like, look, don't stress. It doesn't matter. Just play with your money. And it felt like, no, I want my money to be so valuable and in the way that it's very hard to know what the right strategy is. Your strategy tends to be the most in alignment with the energy of who you are. So energy first, strategy next. But usually you need those both. Although it has happened way more in my life that I didn't have a strategy, but my energy made a miracle happen than that I didn't have any energy, but my strategy made a miracle happen. You're describing it. It's like my money just matters so little. I could just go play with it and it wouldn't make a difference for us. Which was not the intention, but it's how it landed. So it's okay to have. And I think a lot of I could say that that has never happened, but many times I have attracted a miracle and been like, I was in the right vibe because I cannot explain how this happened, but it never happened. I was like, this was the worst. I was the worst. Everything I was doing was terrible. I was like a dark hole. Nothing was going well. And I just tried this strategy and it was perfect. Like, people would just look at it at face value and say you've got to learn to receive. Look, see where your channels were closed. But it's deeper than that because it's not that your channels for receiving are closed, is that your channels for receiving pity are closed. And you can keep those open if you want and. Or you can just observe it when you're like that. That's never really happened to me. That's my thoughts on that. There are questions left here. I have them. We're not. They're not being lost. But there's a lot of these that I know are going to be good in future modules. And I don't want to answer something that needs to be delivered squeaky clean in another module. This is how I want you to to to navigate the next while before the next call. I don't want you to do anything about this program. How can you reframe this though? Because if you said to yourself, okay, if it is true that my money is not necessary, that means I am at all your homework is to see me being there was valuable. My presence was valuable, my listening was valuable. And I'm full. This was a huge module. You don't need to do anymore. Just let it sit, let it rest. Because the next step is me giving you more. So there's nothing already on the frequency of magic money. Instead of being insulted by that truth, can I actually just like lean into it and be like. It is very good to know that my money you need to do now. Just rest, relax, drink water, have a nice walk, call somebody you love. Just breathe, relax. The next module is huge. We're going to is already on the frequency of magic money. Any money I make is magic money. I can already tap into that. I have so much fun. It's a good one, but you need to be open for it. So don't fill yourself up too much. Don't watch another module 100 times. Don't re listen to this one. Just breathe and give space. So I don't need the pressure, I don't need the provider money. I don't even need it. Thank you for telling me that. That's a good reframe. You get to decide do I feel like I can be in the vibes of magic muddies for the next module? This is all I ask. Take all of your energy back. There's been a lot of energy in this room. Take all of your energy back. Wiggle all the stuff off. That's not meant to stay. I love you, you're beautiful, you smell nice. And I will See you very soon for the next part. Hey, right now, if you feel like, like, no, it doesn't feel like it is enough. I don't think, like, what I've done is enough yet. Then you would say, well, you would ask your partner, is it just as valuable for you to let me have magic money as it is to allow me to reinvest in skills? Does that feel just as comfortable for you? I appreciate that you want me to have magic money, and I appreciate that you don't want me to be stressed. Do you feel as comfortable allowing me to spend this money on strengthening my skills? If I find something that actually would better my business, are you comfortable with me spending it on that instead? And if the answer is yes, what you might find is that it feels better for you to say, to hear your money is already magic money, and you get to reinvest that. And having a more solid business model that might feel better for you than just going to blow it on ice cream and popsicles like that feels more worthy of your money. So sometimes we just make things, mean things. You might actually find it much more valuable to just have play money and to enjoy your life. If that's valuable, perfect. If what's more valuable.