ID - The Gateway to an Alternate Life - Day 1

Our identity as we know it begins to form from the instant we take our first breath. We start off as a blank slate, an open book waiting to be written. Our early years are filled with first steps, first sights, first discoveries. Each of these moments shapes us, adds a brushstroke to the canvas of our character. As we move through adolescence, the picture becomes more complex. Little by little, we become a mosaic, a multifaceted collage, a puzzle formed from.

The fragments of our life.

There comes a day when we grasp the paintbrush ourselves.

We realize that we need not be.

Defined solely by circumstance, that we have the power to paint our own future. We awaken to find that we can reshape our identity. Our identity continues to evolve, but now as an intentional work of art, guided by our own hand.

We are the artist and the masterpiece.

It is time to step into a greater identity. This is the gateway to your alternate.

Life, foreign beings and welcome to the Identity Work Program. I am so excited for this work with you. I cannot begin to tell you how meaningful this body of work is and how much time, effort, and intentional creation has gone into this program. It was such a big decision to make this an invisible offer, But I know that this is most definitely the most important work when deciding that we're going to go for something in our lives. Like, this is the beginning. This is the inception of us as we move forward. And I've done a lot of work in this industry with a lot of extraordinary people. But what I feel I've activated so much in people along their journey is this new identity. And it was a lot easier for me to do it in my earlier days because it felt like I was starting with people from the beginning. That's what I was doing. I was getting people right there at the beginning where it matters the most, and shaping with them their identity so that they could believe in themselves more, so they could remember who they are and what they're capable of right from the beginning. And I walked with people from much earlier stages as my brand got known a little more. What started to happen is people got it in their mind that I was too advanced, that somehow I'd gone too far and I couldn't help them anymore. And this piece of identity started to slip away a little bit. And I started speaking to people where I basically assumed they already remembered. They already knew they were capable. They already knew they were on this mission. But something quite magical has been happening in my world over the last couple of years. I'll say a year and a half is. It feels like even the people who thought they knew who they were are having another identity shift. And it started to become clear that this isn't something that just happens once. And I've contemplated this work and I realized that there are multiple identity shifts that have helped me become where I am right now. And I re understood. It's like I understood another reason, another understanding of identity work is it's not just that one day you become another person. It's that all throughout your life, your identity changes. And at different stages of that identity, you're in an energetic match for different parts of your life to be made manifest. But we need multiple identities, and they are meant to stack on top of each other. You're not actually meant to transform. You're meant to add new parts to your identity, to evolve. It's about evolution more than it is about transformation, which means there are multiple identity shifts that need to occur. The ones that have already happened, the ones that are on the verge of happening now, and the ones that are going to happen way further in life. So the way I've created this program is so that I can really affect massive liberation, transformation, freedom, change in your life and in my life during this container. This is not just going to be one where I just talk to you. This is going to be one where we enter a discussion, which means I'm going to have a module with you, and then the next day we're going to talk about the module. So you're going to notice in the way that it's scheduled that there's a live and then there's a Q and A, and then there's a live, and then there's a Q and A, and then there's a live and there's a Q and A. Yes, I'm still in Hawaii. So we are going to have a deepening of these concepts so that you can grasp it, contemplate it, think about it, ask questions about it. Now, I don't want you to put pressure on yourself. You may not be able to figure out what your questions are right away. Other people in the program will have your back. There will be a lot of questions. I won't be able to answer all of them, but I'm going to go for the big lines. I'm going to look for the patterns I can see in the. In the questions. And every deepening call, we're going to go deeper and deeper into the meaning of what we've talked about in each call. So today I've got a piece that I want to share with you. And tomorrow I'm going to go deeper through your questions. The next day I'll give you another piece and then we'll go deeper and deeper into the questions. And if there's something that you need in the program at any point, the best thing to do is to directly DM the Alpha Femme team. So you're going to notice that in this program there are multiple people that are on my team. You'll notice Tammy and Marilyn. You'll notice Cam, Nicole, Jacqueline. You'll notice Emmanuel. Vanessa. You'll notice Elisa. Kimberly. Alpha team. There's so many Alpha team members. Cheryl, Alpha team. There's so many. But the goal is not to message them privately because they get things get lost. We want to streamline anything, any question, anything you can't find. You DM the Alpha Femme team, which is the core messaging team that will help you the most during, during this, this season now, there's going to be opportunities for you in this program to really live. What I'm talking about is. And you've got to grasp them if you want this to make a difference in your life. This is not just a course. I want you to listen to you. Listening to me is a fraction of what we can do here. I want to walk with you over the next 11 days so that your life is not even recognizable because of this work. It is crazy how fast it can happen, but you have got to open your mind and test stuff. So it can't just be like Melanie Ann Layer says, so must be true. So let me see if I can get behind that. It's gotta be like, let me try this out. Let me see how I feel about that. Let me go do something in my life. Let. Let me discover. You've gotta go on an adventure, on a journey. Let this be more about your life than the program. Let me just be a person that's here whispering in your ear. But let this be more about your life over the next 11 days than. Than what I'm saying. Let just the parts that I'm talking about ignite your life. If you do this, things are going to start to change really fast. My life changed so fast. When I look at it in hindsight, the period of massive transformation was actually quite short. But I was completely involved in my own liberation, freedom, transformation. During that time. It wasn't about learning. That's not what I was doing. I changing on purpose. And so I don't want you to take this program the way you've taken most programs in your life where you're just learning. This is actually not even about you learning because it's too much about you. This is actually. You already know. You just need to remember. So I really believe that when we come into this world, there's a reason that we get applauded more at the beginning than. Than ever before. And it's because when we're being shaped in our beginning, we. We're wanting to be constantly reminded that we're actually fantastic. And we need that because we're literally a blob of goo. When we first come into this world, we can't feed ourselves, we can't do anything. So we need the external validation of people. Like, you're walking, you're talking, you're amazing. Because if not, we would just completely forget that we're great. And we'd just think, well, I know nothing. We look at the world around us of fully formed human beings, and we'd think, there's something wrong with me. I can't do any of these things. But because we get applauded every step of the way, we actually feel like we're growing. This feeling of, I'm growing, I'm becoming, I. I am special, I'm important, I matter, I'm. All those feelings, they're required for our evolution and for our growth. It's just that eventually, I think the goal in human evolution is that we were supposed to figure out that that's how we were supposed to treat ourselves. We weren't supposed to constantly wait for someone else to tell us we were great. The goal was that by getting that. That circumstantial awe that other people give to a young child. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. You're so advanced. That circumstantial external support was meant to help us model what a amount of remembering how great we are looks like. But we don't know that. So we just become accustomed to the external validation and one day it stops. And instead of remembering how to treat ourselves, we just start looking for other people to validate us. And we forget, forget, forget how incredible we are and how much we matter. I've thought about what it really takes for a person to come into this planet. Like, I've really con contemplated my life, my journey, my past and my becoming. And it blows my mind what it took for me to be alive. And so the first thing I want to do is I want to give you a little bit of a story of how I came to be in this world. Because if you see how much I realize this matters to me, you Might be able to realize that it's important and it's going to make you curious about your becoming. Now, I want to start by saying that you may not even be able to retrieve your story. There may be big blanks in yours. You don't know who your parents are. You don't know who your grandparents are. There's a big mystery somewhere that is also out of this world. Incredible. Like, how the heck are you here when we can't even trace how you got here? Like, can it be more of a miracle? But here's where I really started to realize something out of this world. This is way more than just being born. It's even bigger than that kind of miracle. When I look at all the paths that come together, if I look at the. The side from my mother, for example, her parents were in England. My mom comes from England. And so there were. There were patterns in her family, in her dad's bloodline. The men died at age 35. For three generations. Something happened. And the men died at age 35 for generations. And her dad died when she was 35. When. When he was 35. He died of a brain tumor when he was 35. The story of my grandmother coming into this world. When she was born, they thought she was not alive. And so they just wrapped her newspaper and put her under the table while they tried to save her mother. They didn't even think she was alive. Then they heard her crying, later on, realized she was alive. But she spent the first moments of her life wrapped in newspaper under a table. Her mom died six weeks later of pneumonia, and she was raised by her grandmother. When her grandmother passed, her aunt and uncle took care of her. And she grew up loved and cherished, but never really knowing her parents and never really talking about it either. And it was so wild because she was engaged to be married. But she kept seeing my granddad, who actually grew up on a farm, wasn't a farmer, but grew up on a farm and was a builder. And they saw each other often, although she was engaged and she quite fancied him, he was quite lovely looking. But she was engaged to be married. And one day she went to see a psychic. And the psychic told her the most iconic thing. She said, you very soon will meet a tall, dark stranger and your life will change forever. And she walked out of the psychic's home or place of business and bumped right into her crush that lived on the other side of town, walking on the bridge towards her. And he asked her if he could take her out on a Date. And she told him she was engaged. And he said, well, I'd like to take you out on a date anyway. And so she went to her fiance and said, we've encountered a problem. I've. I've met someone and I think I want to find out what's there. And he said, go. Go on the date. You'll be back. You'll realize I'm the one. And that was a big mistake because she went and she fell head over heels in love with him. They got married, and he treated her like gold. He was. He did everything he could for her, and they built magical things together. He was an entrepreneur and he had big dreams, and he built the most beaut. He. By the time he was 35, he owned 24 houses. He wanted to remodel and rebuild, and they had their children and. And then at 35, when my. My uncle Paul, so the last of three was born, he got a terminal brain tumor and died. And my mom was terrified for the longest time of leaving my. My grandmother's side, terrified of going to school, had anxiety, could not even make it into the school. She. She'd get on the school bus and get to school and walk back home, so afraid her mom would never. But something strange happened. One of the teachers at school started to care for her and really helped her get back on her feet. And within a couple of years, she actually found a really strong personality and got back to finding herself and being who she was. And by the time she was 18, she decided to go across the world to nanny in Canada. And this is after she'd aced her school and gotten a great job for the government. But her next promotion could only be in a few years. So she thought, I'm going to travel from being a young girl who was too afraid to leave her house, too afraid to leave her mom in case something bad happened. Her identity shifted and she became willing to travel to Canada to be a nanny to go explore the world. And so she did that. And in the meantime, this other incredible thing happened so in another dimension, in another world. My dad's family was quite interesting. My grandmother had eight siblings or something. It was a huge family. And she, from the age of 14, started to feel not very well and in and out of doctor's offices where they said she just needed to exercise and take care of herself. And she fell in love with my granddad when she was only a girl. And they were married by the time she was 19. And she got pregnant very fast. And one day she was walking up the stairs, out of breath. And my great grandmother at the time, so her husband's mother said, there's something wrong with you. She was a nurse, and she said, you need to go to the doctors right now. I know this stuff. I'm a nurse. There's something wrong. When she got to the doctors, they said, it's a miracle you're alive. Your heart, the valves to your heart are closed. You don't even have one minute to live. Like, we need to operate you now. You are on borrowed time. And she said, well, you can't operate me. I'm pregnant. What will happen to the baby? They said, the baby will not survive. It's impossible that the baby survives. You have 25% chances of survival if we operate you. And if we don't, you should be dead already. She had an open heart surgery. She survived and so did my dad. He was a miracle baby. There were five or six doctors in the delivery room applauding the miracle of his birth. When he was born, he should not have lived at all at the same time as this. My granddad was born from a young family of Italian descent in a small hospital in Montreal, Canada. And his parents were too young and couldn't keep him. And the nurse who brought him into this world fell head over heels in love with him. At age 45, she adopted him. She'd never had kids, and she brought him home. And so he was brought up by the most loving, incredible nurse, who in turn saved his wife's life and his firstborn son's life. This is how these two people came to be in this world. And then my Mom's in Canada, 21 years old, and bumps into my dad in a nightclub. She doesn't speak a lick of French, he doesn't speak a lick of English. And they look at each other for months until one night she loses an earring. And he helps her find it on the dance floor and tells her she has beautiful eyes. A couple of months later, he sat in front of her and held her hand and pretended to put a ring on his. On her finger. Before he could even speak to her, he pretended to put a ring on her finger. And they've now been married for almost 40 years. I was born into this world. My parents had nothing. They had no money. They lived on nothing. But they. They made it. They made it through their lives. They made it to each other. They learned each other's language. And then I was born. And my dad just wanted to do for us what he'd never had. And he worked so hard to give me and the life that he never had. I came into this world, and it was an emergency birth because my umbilical cord was wrapped around my neck and I was losing life before I came into this world. My mom then had two miscarriages after me. How I made it, I don't know. Then my brother came years later, and then my sister came, and my parents had an amazing life until things got really hard and my entire identity got reshaped to then being an older sister and helping my parents through some really difficult times. But then in the way that they handled things in my adolescence, I became really bitter and resentful of them. And I was actually a very difficult teenager. And I completely alienated my family and broke off for my entire family. I alienated everybody. And I completely broke my life apart piece by piece by piece until there was nothing left. And then I rebuilt it. There are so many different versions of my parents and their parents. There are so many different versions of me. This life is so much bigger than our little 2024 version of who we are. What it took for me to get here, what it took for you to get here is a freaking miracle. Some people didn't make it. Some people almost made it. Some people had to go around the world to find each other. Both my grandparents survived the war. They. They. Some of them overcame illness. Some of them bridged death. Some of them died young. It. It doesn't make sense that we're here. And if you take the time today to not just think about your becoming, but actually what it took for you to be here, you might realize maybe we owe it to ourselves to do something with this miracle. Maybe if it took so much for us to be here in the first place, it deserves a little more care, this life of ours. And I remember the first time I ever contemplated this, the first time I ever thought to myself, gosh, I'm not honoring this life enough. It came with some guilt, and it came with some shame that I'd made it to age 25 without even thinking about it. But I actually have come to realize that there is a reason and there is a moment that we are supposed to break through. And it's not just as easy as from the moment you're born. You're supposed to know. Because there are things that have to happen that make us parts of who we are. It's our unique tapestry, it's the unique brushstrokes, the unique moments that make you realize that, make you love your life genuinely. Not because someone Told you love it. But because something happened and you realize how much this matters, I contemplated how the heck I got to the point where after all the beauty that my life had given me, I wrecked it all. How the heck did I make it all fall apart? And I realized one of the main things I believed, and one of the main things I believed is that I didn't matter to anybody after I'd really helped my parents so much through their bankruptcy. I don't know what I imagined, but I. I really thought that that would be something that would bond us in a powerful, beautiful way. But I can only. I don't know if you can imagine having one of your hardest times in your life, and it's one of your children that has to step in that actually probably comes with a lot of pain. And so instead of representing this, like, hero thing I hoped I would. I actually represented one of the hardest times in their lives. And their experience with me during that was very difficult. But most children think their parents should know better. And most children think their parents should only see beauty and should only be grateful and should only be proud of them. I never considered their experience. I was too young to even think about their experience. All I thought was I'd done so much for them and they should have. Whatever that is. But in the moment where they behaved in a way different than what I would have hoped, the only explanation I had was that I just didn't matter, that I helped them and now they were doing better and I just didn't matter anymore. I couldn't imagine it was anything other than that. And that started to shape a new season in my life. I don't matter. I started looking at everything through that filter. Anytime they'd go to a baseball game from. From my. Or a basketball game from my sister, I'd think of all the. The recitals they never came to for me. Every time they. They were proud of my brother for doing something, I thought of all the things they didn't come to for me. Every time everything was put through this filter, no matter. No matter what they did, even when it was beautiful, reminded me of what I lacked. Everything went through the filter of I don't matter. I don't matter. Everything, everything, everything, everything. If I said something and they forgot, if I didn't do something good enough and I got in trouble, if. And then it started happening outside of my home. I noticed it at school. If a friend stopped interacting me with the same. The same way I felt I didn't matter. If a teacher didn't pick me when my hand was raised, I didn't matter if. If I didn't get chosen for the project or the thing, I didn't matter. I didn't matter. It started to show up everywhere. If I didn't get the promotion, I didn't matter. If I didn't get the job, I didn't matter. If something. If someone else was chosen first, I didn't matter. If I fell in love with someone, they didn't love me back, I didn't matter. And then it started to expedite because I looked for it everywhere, not knowing, not knowingly knowing what I was doing. But it was just more evidence to support this identity that I'm just a person that doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. And so the boyfriends I had cheated on me and the friends I had found better friends. And it just got worse and worse and worse until I couldn't sell anymore, until I couldn't do anything anymore, until I broke up with my partner. Until I go bankrupt in the front seat of my car. And there came a point where I just thought, I don't matter at all. I even remember getting to a point where I was now sleeping in the front seat of my car in the snowstorm. Nobody knew I was sleeping there. I hadn't told a soul. And I thought. And the snowplow cars were coming and removing the snow. And I thought if. If I got hit by one of these snowplows and never went home, no one would care. No one even knows I'm here. How long would it even take before someone realized I was gone? I don't matter. I. I believed this so much. It was who I was. And I acted in vibrational alignment with that belief every day until I literally saw no reason at all to be here. That is who I was in that moment. It didn't even matter what people in my family had to go through for me to even exist. I was committed to the identity where I didn't matter at all. The breakthrough, the first big breakthrough I got was this moment where I had to ask myself, what on earth? When I first started in personal development work, and it was a mistake that I really got invested in personal development work because I googled how do you make your ex boyfriend cry? And I found how to have the relationship you want. But the words I typed in the search engine were not help me, they were hurt him. God changed the Google search somehow because I got a different answer. And that changed my life because I realized I. I felt ashamed of myself. To be honest, I was sitting in my car and I felt ashamed of what I typed. When I got the response and the result from Google, I was like, oh, like, why didn't I type that? And I started going through a journey, like, why did I type that? Why did I type to make your ex boyfriend cry. And you know what I realized? I think the only way I really thought I could matter was if I somehow punished him. Like, I couldn't matter by loving him. So what if I could matter by punishing him? I thought that's the extent of what I believe about me. And so what I had to start believing was that one day everything that was happening to me at that point would matter. It wasn't a belief like, I matter now. I couldn't access that. But what I started to believe was, what if there comes a day where me having gone through all of this helps somebody else? That was the gateway to a new identity for me. And then I started looking for something different. What if me changing this has an impact on me and on other people? What if I can change the way I feel? What if it just started unblocking tiny little bits at a time, Tiny, tiny, tiny, tiny, tiny. And I started really diving into personal development heavily. At this point, I had absolutely no intention of this becoming a business for me. I just hoped it would make me feel different than what I was feeling. I just. I did the work for me. But it was not long until I had a friend call me. And I ended up coaching her, unknowingly, coaching her on the phone. And she talked about me to other people, and someone wanted to hire me. And I was like, I don't do this for money. I just. I was just helping you. You know, you can tell her to read this book and this book. And my friend was like, I've read those books. That's not what you did. You did that. You did not do that. You did something else. You have a gift. It took a lot of courage to take the first couple of clients that I took. But it gave me something extraordinary. It gave me a feeling of this work matters. This is something I had not felt in a very long time. But why I'm. What I'm so grateful for is that I did not start doing this work for people. I had started doing it for me. Which means deep down in the bottom of my soul, where I couldn't even tell, I had already started to decide that I mattered, or else I wouldn't have been doing the work in the first place if I could not at all decide that I mattered, that I probably never would have done the work for me because I wouldn't have cared about myself enough to do it. So if you've been in a tough place or you relate to a lot of the I don't matter stories, I just want you to acknowledge the fact that you're in this room. There is something deeper than your conscious mind that knows you matter. Or else you would not be in the process of changing things. You would have given up on yourself entirely. And you would not care to do anything for you if the only truth was that you didn't care about you. There's got to be something more, or else you don't show up here. That's the thing. And so the first transformation that I was not even aware of is that I cared enough about myself to learn how to change. And it didn't even feel like that at the time. I didn't even recognize that at the time. So little by little, I started to believe I mattered. And then all of a sudden, other people mattered. And some magical frequency started to create itself in my life. A frequency that I had never experienced this balanced, which was the US Frequency. I realized in the past whenever I had given something before, it was, I do it for you, so hopefully you love me. I do it for you so that you respect me. I do it for you so that you honor me. I do it for you so that I feel something instead of I do it for me. And it changes me so much that I realize I can also do it for you. Because we've got this. Because we matter. Us. The US frequency. This is the beginning of the work that turned me from being I don't matter to we matter. And we matter is the greatest frequency I've ever touched in my entire life. I really profoundly believe the reason I have managed to make it through that I've been given this opportunity to help this many people that I'm able to. To really live by my work and what I love and by this incredible mission that fuels my life is because of this we Matter frequency. I don't matter just because I make you matter. And I don't matter if you don't matter. It's we matter. Everyone, me, you, us. And it's become part of my identity to live that way. When I think about who I am, I'm the person that believes we matter. That means I'm always a part of it, and I'm never alone. And that could not be further from who I was back then. But the crazy thing is that I could not be who I am now without losing myself entirely. I see that so clearly because I needed to see what it was like to live only for other people. I needed to see what it was like to not even to realize that I didn't even care about myself. And then I had to rework the order for me, for you, for us. I matter. If I don't matter, there is no us. If I don't matter, there is no relationship. And I have built this entire mission and all of its fulfillment and success off the concept and principle that we matter. For me, for you, for us. This is what has guided this mission. So part of the identity work and what really matters in what we're going to do here today is that when we dissolve the thought that we're supposed to be different or special to matter, that we have to be successful to matter, that we have to be anything but alive to matter. When we dissolve that the entire world becomes available. There is nothing you need to do first. This is the first. The first move in all identity work is the moment you realize we all matter. If you're trying to matter more, you're trying to be more important, more seen, more important, more beautiful, more validated, more intelligent, more successful, more rich. Your identity is wobbly. It's based on proof and evidence and something going right instead of it being unshakable, undeniable, and based on something real. We are really important in the making of this world. And it wouldn't have taken everything it took for us to get here if that weren't true. So I am actually going to ask you today to do some research, have a conversation with family members, try to piece together your existence a little bit, not just what nationality and what background, but like what it took, what tragedy, what celebration, what miracle, what pain, what suffering, what breakthroughs, what magic, what crazy, wild things had to happen for your existence to be. And then you just realize that's enough. That's enough for this to be. Like, how the heck did you make it here? Why you? And are you going to waste the rest of your life waiting to feel something before you decide it matters? Or how about now? How about right freaking now? Because the biggest lie is that there's something we need to prove before we can claim our deserving, our mattering, our ability. The minute we crossed that threshold into life, we claimed our place. The rest was just supposed to be remembering. So what I want for you in this, in this course is that you quiet. The noise of what society tells all of us, we need to prove in order for other people to agree, and that instead we become the ones that say, I matter and you matter. There's nothing you need to do. Not for me, not for anybody else. Like, we dismantle that part. We're already 300 steps ahead because everyone's trying to figure out what their thing is. Well, if I matter, then what's my purpose? If I matter, what's my. No, you matter first, then you figure out your purpose. What's the point of you figuring out your purpose before you know you matter? What are you going to do? You're going to say, well, I think this is my purpose, but who am I? So there's no point in you discovering your purpose before you decide you matter. The first step is you've just got to realize how entirely ridiculous it is that that's ever been a question in the first place. And what we look at is the most easy thing to see in life, is that it is a human response for the first few years in a child's life to just look at them and marvel at everything they do. This is the experience we have of coming into the planet. You're applauded for every single thing that you do so that you remember that you're a miracle. Then you were supposed to remember it yourself. We just got lost in liking other people to tell us we get to stop that. But the thing is, it's okay that that was a part of your identity, that seeking validation and needing other people to tell you you were a miracle was part of who you were. It's gonna serve you, and then it's gonna serve them, and then it's gonna serve us, and then it's all okay. But you don't need that now. Not after this discussion. Like, you could literally be dropped. This is the crazy thing. You could be dropped in a city that you don't know anybody, in the middle of nowhere, and you could rebuild an entire life with nobody knowing who you are. You could just decide who you are from scratch and build an extraordinary life from nothing. The biggest fear, the biggest breakdown is the thought that maybe who we are now is overriding what could be for us. Like, so many people need to know for sure that you're great before you're allowed to be. So many people need to agree you, you. Too many people know you as a failure. Too many people know you as simple. Too many people know you as the decisions that you've made. It's too hard to change. What does other people have anything to do with us changing Only if we need their validation. Only if we needed their opinion. But we don't. They matter. We matter. Whether I drop you in the middle of a new city and to give you a new identity, or whether I give you this conversation today in the middle of your own life, the possibility of you being exactly who you want to be is the same if you understand that it's all about you walk. The way you talk, the way you move. When you know you matter, it's different. The way you smile, the way you cry, the way you scream, the way you live when you know you matter is different the way you try, the way you go for it, the way you fail, the way you get back up, the way you do. Everything is different when you matter. When you don't matter. It's so easy to give up. Who cares? When you matter, you don't give up. You can't give up. It matters too much. And not just that your mattering remembers, reminds other people that they matter. And so it's for all of us you got to get back up one more time. Not just for you. You've got to get back up one more time. For me, for you, for us, for all of us. Because you matter in. In everything. Because you're us. We are showing the world what is possible and what is not possible. Every new child comes into this world looking at the grown ups to see what their life is going to look like. And they are basing what they believe about the world on us. They are creating their identities based on what they think is predictable, based on what we create. I think the world is ready for a few new miracles. Because the stories we're still talking about are very old stories. We're talking about Walt Disney and we're talking about Marilyn Monroe and we're talking about Sylvester Stallone and we're talking about really old stories. What does our generation bring to the table? Where are the miracles of our time? They're in all of us that are waiting for God knows what to tell us that we're important enough to be that change. What are the odds? A hundred percent. If we matter. The odds are a hundred percent because we're already here. That's a miracle enough. So what else? And the crazy thing is most of the people who changed their lives and did something great sucked before they did it. So there's so much hope for us, it doesn't even matter. They didn't even. It wasn't like they were on the trajectory from birth. Everything was fine and Then it worked out. It's like, in a minute, they changed. In a minute, they got it. In a moment, they broke through. We just need a minute. But you've got to believe you matter. Now, the other part of this, and I want you to contemplate this as well today, is that it's not just about you deciding that you matter. And then, poof, something should happen. It's that when you decide that you matter, everything that you're gonna do is going to be different. Because succeeding when you matter and failing when you matter is also part of the story. When you hear a story of a person that succeeded or failed, if they matter, their successes and their failures matter equally. So you can't even say I don't matter because I didn't succeed. Because in the context of you mattering, your failures matter too. It's a brain warp, a mind warp. The minute you decide you matter, every single thing that's ever happened to you is good because it's part of the story. And it helps the us. It helps the people who think, well, it can't possibly happen for me because here's my issue or here's what's not working for me. And then there's you. There's you defying their odds. There's you doing whatever it is that they think they can't do because of whatever it is that they're going through. So if you make this decision today, as simple as this, for no other reason than this, just. I realize I've not been treating myself like I matter all that much. And look at what's the identity, really, that you have tied yourself into? Because it helps to see it. Is it I need to do something more before I believe I can matter. I'm not special enough. I'm not great enough. Is it the identity of I'm just not that great? Is it like, it's harder for me? Is it. This doesn't happen for people like me. It happens to others, but not me. I'm not like that. My family's not like that. It's just not in the cards for me. Is it like if it was supposed to happen, it would have happened by now? Is it I just don't have the energy. I'm tired. I'm exhausted. I just don't have it. I don't know where to start. I don't know. What's the story about you? Who are you? I'm not beautiful enough. I'm not attractive enough. I need to do this. I need to look a certain way. I Need to get this. I need to have this. Like, what's the story? Because that identity, this is the beautiful thing that identity has made you as you are today. It works. This is the result. So there's nothing wrong. It's just, this is the result of that identity on the planet. So you can. You, like a mad scientist, like, you tested it, you tried it out, you said, let me have all these thoughts and feelings about me, and let's see what kind of life I get when I say kind of a loser. And if I was a little skinnier and a little hotter, I'd have more money and I'd have a better relationship and I'd feel better about myself. Like, let's take all of that identity and let's try it out and let's see what happens. Voila, you have it. You know, this is what happens. So then you don't have to say, oh, my God, what's wrong with me? You say, oh, this is the result. Let me try something else. The thought that it's hard, the thought that it's impossible is based on other people that you have seen. If no one else in your family has ever broke through, you believe it less because from being a little kid, you looked up to those people. You said, they know more than me. They can open a jar. I can't open a jar. They can walk. I can't walk. They can talk. I can't talk. These people are geniuses. I will listen to what they say because they clearly know better than me. A lot of who we are is based on what we've seen. The community in our school, the teachers, the friends, the parents, whatever it is, we pick up little pieces along the way. There are other people on the planet that are showing us other things. Can we open our minds a little bit? And so this is something I spoke about in my we are Alpha Femme community. Or not. We Alpha Femme in the Great Leap yesterday before I closed it. And I want to bring it back. For those of you who did not hear this part, and I want to remind you of this, because this is so important when you are experiencing your life, when you're experiencing yourself. Okay, hang on. My brain just went and stole what I wanted to say, bringing myself back. Said this in the Great Leap yesterday. Why did I feel it was important to bring it back? Maybe I'm not supposed to say it again right now. Gone. Might be gone. It might be gone. Okay, if it comes back, I'll post it in the group. It might. I'll probably watch it to try to remember. Because right now, in this moment, I just went. But one of the things that is important on this journey is that you realize you're not going to be perfect and it's not required to be. So every single thing that you test and you try out is going to have a result. And then you've got to be able to just detach from the outcome. Say, what else have I got? What other thoughts do I have? What other feelings do I have? What, what else do I have to try out instead of? This must mean I'm just not good enough, because that's an entire identity, you know, I'm just not good enough. I'm just not capable. I'm just not special enough. I'm just not this enough. That becomes an identity, that becomes part of us and what we believe that we are. The fact that we're always becoming more and more added to the previous version. That's why you forgot, so you could show it isn't necessary to be perfect. I like that. A lot of who we are is based on what we've seen is what you've said. Yes. So when we're looking at the people around us from a young age and we're deciding like, because you could, I could, or because you can't, I can't, that's shaping a very immature first few cycles of our identity work. When you say, when I look at even my, my grandparents journey, my parents journey, there are things in their identity. It was like, okay, my, my mom believed she could travel, then I believed I could travel. My dad was a businessman, and then I believed I could be a businesswoman. There are parts in this that feel like identity. You. You connect to certain things. You try it on. My dad went bankrupt. I was terrified of going bankrupt. I went bankrupt. There's things we just pick up, but then we forget that we were just trying it on. We forget that we were just playing and seeing what's possible. And so this is the first module. And the intention here is to have you just question things a tiny little bit, because as we go deeper and deeper, things are going to get solidified and it's going to start to make a lot of sense. But are you already kind of feeling like, okay, hang on a second, let me start to redefine this for myself with maybe more casual energy than you ever have. Like, there's nothing wrong with you. You don't have to have this huge breakthrough, like, breakthrough's done. What do you want to try on next? A lot of people think this is complicated, and it's why they don't change. I want to make this so simple. Let's just try on different identities. So you're going to look back, and you're going to see what did it take for you to become who you are, and what can you see in who you are Right now that's mostly modeled with nothing wrong. Like, this is the thing that's the most important. Like, there's nothing wrong. You're not going to say, oh, my gosh. I realize that the reason that I'm in this terrible relationship is because I watched my mother be in terrible relationships, and now this is why I'm this way. You're gonna say, oh, my gosh. Okay. The reason I'm in this relationship is because the only kind of relationship I saw interesting. That's the energy. You're gonna say, oh, my gosh. I don't think I've ever seen a person not struggle with money. And so I think somewhere in here, the reason I've always struggled with money is I've never really seen a person that modeled. Money is kind of easy. I don't think I've ever seen that. Huh? You're gonna say, I don't think I've ever met a person that was truly, fully in love with themselves and their body. When I think of all the women in my. In my life, they always had something about themselves. I used to watch my mother suck her belly in or pull her face back in the mirror to see. Do better with my face like this. I. I've only ever seen women pick their bodies apart. Maybe they just borrowed that. Huh? Interesting. Like that. This is part of the identity work. Because this is the thing. How you study the identity work is also part of your identity. I just remembered what I wanted to say. Hallelujah. So when I first started doing personal development work, I noticed who most people were that were doing personal development. They were all people who did personal development thinking there was something wrong with them, taking courses, hoping that one day they would be better people, but with the context that they were not good enough, that they were struggling, and that hopefully this would be the thing that would make them better. And I did not want to be that. I did not resonate. I resonated with personal development when I was alone in my car. The first time I ever went to a personal development event, I thought, oh, gosh, I don't know if I want to be one of these people. Nobody has confidence in themselves. Everybody's looking at the person on the stage. Like they're Jesus. Like where, where is the personal empowerment? These people don't know. They're not like I am here because I'm studying this modality because I'm working on my life. They're like, oh my gosh, I just know it. This is going to change me. I was like, I never want to be that. That is not me. I knew is not my identity. Who I related to was the person on the stage. Every time I related to the person who had done the work and they all had the same story. I started in a, in a, a seminar at the back, in a back seat of a room just like this one. They all started their presentations the same way. I remember the first time I entered a room like this. I was sitting in the back row. I related to them. They went from being in the room to leading the room. That's the identity I'm doing personal development for. I'm not like all the people who are trying to figure out how someone's going to make me great. I am getting great so I can stand on a stage and tell people how I did it. I want you to feel that when you're in this room with me, you're not in a personal development program hoping that you're going to break through. Like this is not this. This is somehow I found a way to speak to hundreds of you at once and we are having a one on one conversation with a bunch of other people listening. But you've got to relate to what I'm saying more than you relate to the fact that you're a participant in this program. You've got to relate more to being the teacher than the student, if that makes sense at all. It's got to be part of your identity that you took this program as this, the teacher in the making. You took this program as the one who became great. Like this is the story of how you became great. So you've got to take the program that way. You can't take the program as the one who has no idea and hopes I'm going to say the right thing for you and then maybe you'll change because. Or else that's your becoming. You've got to take this like you've already changed your life and you get to watch in hindsight how it happened. You took this because you knew you were worth it, you knew you mattered and you knew you were capable of change or else you would not be here. You've got to trust the deepest knowing you took money that is was either either easy or hard to spend. And you invested it in you being here. You believe in yourself. I don't care what you tell me. Your actions speak louder than your words here. You would not be here if you didn't think it could change something. Remember that. There is something wiser than this little mind that I have trapped in an identity that I really don't care to keep right now that knows I'm a freaking genius. An identity that I really don't care to keep right now that knows I'm a freaking genius that is paving the way for me, that is making the moves for me. This is who I am. This is who I am. I am the making of the greatest story of me that I could possibly be. I will do the best I can while I'm here on this planet. And I have evidence of that now because I'm here. Can you imagine thinking like that about yourself? What would start to happen? Instead of, I hope this works. And I'm really going to listen to this one and I'm really going to try. It's like, who is that person? It's the fifth grader that was afraid to miss their test. It's not the person that's going to be a pathfinder for the world, a trailblazer for humanity. You don't need to think like that. You say, this is part of the way I changed my life and so I'm showing up for it. This, in hindsight, will matter so much. If you decide already that it will. If you hope it will, there's a match for that. So the goal here of this first session is, first of all to set a really powerful context of who I want you to be when you come into these sessions. Like, take a few minutes for yourself before we get started and psych yourself up like, who am I that's listening to this? Even if you've had a tough day and something with money and something with your partner and something with your health, like, when you sit here, you'd be like, this is the part where I get to lock in and focus on who I know I am. This is the making of me. Let me be sharp an hour, one hour a day. You bring your brain here, you bring your mind here. You bring your spirit, your body, your soul. You bring everything to the table here. You say, this is who I am, and watch things change. Now, you may have questions from this first module, and some questions might show up that are coming later in the program. So if when I'm reading the questions, I'm like, that's coming. I won't answer them tomorrow, but I will keep them in mind and I'll make sure that the answers are clear when they come. But we're going to open a Q and A thread and you'll be able to start thinking and asking questions on there already. Don't overthink it. If you don't have a question, trust that the right question will come out through someone else in the group. If you do have a question, don't overthink it. Like, can I ask this? Should I ask it? Ask the question. And tomorrow I will deliver an extraordinary Q and A session and a deepening call from what we've talked about today. But you have two parts of your homework. One is energetic and one is actually doing it. So the energetic part is you're. You're just deciding that you matter. There is no huge breakthrough that needs to be had. The breakthroughs will come after you decide you matter. It's that simple. But the other thing I really want you to do is take some time and look at your family lineage. Call a parent a grandparent, an uncle, an aunt. Try to figure out, piece together some of the crazy stories of how you got here. And I'm telling you, even if it was complex, if you're like, but, Melanie, your story is so beautiful. Mine's terrible. This happened to my grandma, and that's how my mom came to be. And then this happened to my mom. Then this is how it came to be. And then I got adopted. And then that's crazy, amazing. Like, we need to, we need to step out of the what it should have been and move into the how on earth could this have been? The bottom line is, how the heck are you alive? That's what I want you to figure out. And so the more tumultuous the story, even if it feels like it's negative, it isn't. It's just wild. And if it was simple, if you're like, I wish I had a crazy story like yours. My, my family just met and just kind of met. I'm going to give you a story that feels a little different than this, just completely different energy from my story. Now, obviously, I'm not going to go as far because I don't know the whole background. But just to give you an idea of this, Kevin, his mom and dad literally lived five minutes apart in the geographical map of the world. They didn't have to cross countries for each other. As a matter of fact, Kevin's mom knew of Kevin's dad because he won all the curling things. So she had a picture of him. She cut it out of the newspaper and stuck it on her wall. Next thing she knew, someone introduced her to him, the person she had on her wall in her room. And then they fell in love and got married and had two kids. And then six years later, boop. Kevin, which they funnily say was an accident, shows up in this world. And so, from a loving family that lived, these people lived five minutes apart, she totally manifested him. She thought he was hot. She cut out his picture of the newspaper, and next thing, she was dating him. Next thing, she was marrying him. Next thing, she was having kids with them, with him. And they have been married for over 55 years. That's a simple story. And it's just as miraculous that you can manifest everything that fast, that quick, that easy. So don't go doing the thing you do where you even find a way to make your extraordinary becoming not matter. Well, my story isn't as cool. My story is more simple. My story is more this. Stop it. Tell it in a way that blows your socks off. Don't discredit the story. That's your job as this new identity of the person who gets it. This is who I am. I get it. I see it. I know it. Tell yourself the story that way. I look forward to seeing you tomorrow. Let this linger in your mind. If you have breakthroughs, if you have thoughts, post them in the group. Your voice matters. Your thoughts matter. You are the one. You're the only one that was you in this world. Like you, there's a reason you're here. So any thoughts you're having, post them, talk about them. Any breakthrough you have, are people going to care? Stop it. Is it good enough? Does it matter? Stop it. Stop it. Like it is time to put all of that down. Because it all happens in an instant. You start living in. In alignment with a different kind of identity. Just a millimeter off. You don't need it to be huge. You just change trajectory just a little bit. And the further you go down that trajectory, the further you will be from the person you were just days ago. It's not hard, but it takes everything. It takes commitment and devotion to an identity. But there's no heavy lifting. You're gonna be fine. We've just got to stay focused. And you've got this. And I am bringing the energy like I am here. I. We have got this. This is the moment where you pick up the paintbrush and you paint the rest of your life, not because the rest of your life is not beautiful, but because you realize now that you get to paint the rest. You're not basing your identity on what anybody else has done. You're defying the odds and you're rewriting history, and it gets to be fun. And you don't need evidence that you can. You need evidence that you could, and you just got it on this call. It's enough. The breakthrough is done. Now we build. Thank you for your presence. Thank you for your connection. I felt the vibes. I can tell you're, like, in the zone. This is good. Do the thing, do it fast. Hang up with me and call somebody right away. Like, let me figure out my story in the synergy with the synergy. Go figure out the rest. I look forward to seeing your breakthroughs, your stories. I look forward to tomorrow already. Thank you for being here, and I'll see you so soon.

Our identity as we know it begins to form from the instant we take our first breath.

We start off as a blank slate.

An open book waiting to be written. Our early years are filled with first steps, first sights, first discoveries. Each of these moments shapes us, adds a brushstroke to the canvas of our character. As we move through adolescence, the picture becomes more complex. Little by little, we become a mosaic, a multifaceted collage, a puzzle formed from the fragments of our life. There comes a day when we grasp the paintbrush ourselves.

We realize that we need not be.

Defined so solely by circumstance that we have the power to paint our own future. We awaken to find that we can reshape our identity. Our identity continues to evolve, but now as an intentional work of art guided by our own hand, we are the artist and the masterpiece. It is time to step into a greater identity. This is the gateway to your alternate life.