Currency - Module 3 Deepening

Sam. Hello, gorgeous. Human beings of currency. This is our third deepening call. And oh, my gosh, the questions are so good. Like, so often when, by the time we get to a few modules, the questions are trickling less and less, but these just keep getting better. I'm like, one answer, everything. Oh, my gosh, it's so good to see you. I'm seeing some of you back to back. Who was in the We Are Alpha Femme membership with me and watched Sales 7. Oh, my gosh, so many of you. That's so cool. Okay, are you starting to see. So this is a trend in my world, and I want to give you this kind of insight into the way that I do things in my, in my coaching. But if you, especially if you've been in my life for a long time, do you notice how all my work builds on itself? It's not like you do this and then you pivot and you just learn something totally different, and then you pivot and you learn something totally different. It's like you learn something and then you go deeper and this makes sense, and then you go deeper and then that makes sense. Then you go deeper and then that makes sense. And then it, and then everything you did before becomes more valuable and things you're doing now feel more valuable and everything's connected and it just feels like. So this is why I feel the people who really connect to the work and make space for it in their life, because this is, it is a lot of work. But the people who make space for this in their lives, like, it's next level, the transformation, even for me, layer upon layer, no pun intended, even for myself. I watch my own self, my past, my past modules of myself. I'm constantly like, re. Raising the bar, like, what, what I knew then, plus what I know now. And creating a next level of everything that I'm doing. I, I make space to learn from myself every day. On top of what I teach, on top of all my businesses, on top of everything else that I do, I learn from myself every day. And so when I ask people to, like, stay the course with this, I, I, I still watch myself. I still learn from me. I watched the last mod, like, if Impact Academy is coming, I'm watching last year's Impact Academy. Every module making sure that the next course I'm bringing is better than the last one. And we're taking all the best. That was true back then, plus what's true now. I don't just do the programs. I'm constantly preparing for them. So I know it's possible to run a very sustainable, extraordinary business while making space for these trainings because I do it, and if I could do it, we can all do it. That's my stance on that. Okay. There are so many extraordinary questions on this thread. I'm going to get as many in as I possibly can. I feel like Facebook has changed a little bit and I feel like the order of stuff is a little bit off, but I'm going to trust that in the divine order of what I'm seeing and we're going to go from there. Okay. So technically, this should be the beginning. Hopefully. Hopefully we're good. Okay. Let's just see what people are saying here. It's work, but not really work when it's what you truly love. I agree. That's why you're such a rare gem. Thank you. I'm so excited for Impact Academy, honestly. Me too. And I feel like everything that we're doing right now, for those of you who do Impact Academy, it's going to take the next program to the next level. Because the goal is to take the magic of this program and make it. Then how do you take all of this and make it with social media for branding and advertising and marketing? How do you. How do you take all of this conversation and apply that to that? It's always the deepening. Before this, I realized the currency welcome call visualization hits so much deeper. I feel myself connected with the inner child as a newborn. The earliest I've ever connected with me. It felt so intimate and so emotional. You are true. Managing this is true. It's unreal how much wisdom you keep providing us year after year. It's because I keep learning. And so this is the other thing. Like, I've been asked so, so many times by close family members, even employees are like, how do you still come up with all this stuff? And I'm like, well, I'm constantly watching what I learned last time. I'm an innovator. Like, my. To my core, I'm an innovator. So I'm constantly going to look for what I've learned since then. But on top of that, like, how many people have I spoken to in one year? How many people. How many different interactions? What. How many people have I studied? Hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people's businesses. Like, I. It's like I'm at warp speed with this stuff. I'm constantly knees deep in this work. So there's just always something more to learn. So there's always something more to teach. I'm excited for Impact Academy. Yay. So excited for Impact Academy. Trusted my gut joint Impact Academy. Feeling so grounded and so good with that decision. I've evolved so much being in your world. I'm a perpetual student. 13 generator. Emotional solar plexus. Love it. Alumni is necessary. I concur. I deeply desire to continue to learn from you. It's already affecting my clients. Lies for me and your energy. And this is the beautiful thing is, like, right now, it's affecting your clients. And in different programs that I do, you're gonna be like, this is affecting my marriage, is affecting my relationship, is affecting my kids, is affecting my friendships. This is affecting my sex life. This is affecting my body. This is affecting, like, the effect of this work is out of this world. And that's not even just talking. There are people in my world. If you were to look at them before and after, you're like, what did you do? The before and after makes no sense. The glow up is real. Like, as soon as you start applying this to your own value to yourself, it doesn't make sense what starts to happen. It's like, you don't look like the same person. What did you do? Lynn looks like an entirely different person. If you saw before and after of Lynn, you'd be like, that's not this. That's okay. That's not the same person. This program has been giving deep insight to my behavior in daily life and business. Now I get why I'm not where I want to be. This is huge. This is huge. This is huge. I'm here for the glow up in your world. Yes. Okay. So I want to. I actually. Before we jump into the Q A, there was something I wanted to bring to your attention. So we finished our last module with a visualization, and I have watched and seen some of your visualizations. Some of you. The way you described your experiences, I swear I saw you there. It was so descriptive. And the thing that really stood out for me is you valued your experience in that visualization. What I want you to contemplate about that visualization is how much you. How much care you put in choosing your outfit. Like, you actually know if you were to truly value your appearance and the way that you feel about you, what clothes would be in your closet. You actually know that in your subconscious mind when you chose your bag, there was an intentional decision about that. You didn't just pick a random bag you don't care about and shove too many things in it that you don't care about and rush out the Door. You didn't do that in this visualization. You intentionally took a bag and you cared about the bag. The other thing I noticed as a pattern is most people barely brought anything with them. Did you notice that you brought a couple of things? Like, you very much valued what you had, but you felt complete. You didn't just grab a bunch of things. You chose a few select things. You valued the transportation and how you got to the place. You valued where you went, the details and where you showed up, the people who showed up at the door for you, the experience of being where you were. Like, there is a deep value in every piece of that visualization that shows us something. If you're super honest with yourself, fast forward before this program, you've got to go somewhere for the day. Do you give that level of intentionality as you look at yourself in the mirror before you leave? Do you pick the bag you're taking with that much gratitude and intentionality? Do you decide what you put inside with that much intentionality? Are you that grateful for the drive there, the way you get there? Do you notice the date, the details of the place you arrive the way you did in your visualization? Do you care about the details? And so, so many of us are constantly thinking, if I had this kind of life, I would value it so much. The fact is, we have this gorgeous life, and we do not act the way we swear we will if we had more. And so you'll often see, in my world, I take pictures of the things that I have. Like, if I'm having a coffee and my purse is on the table, I'm taking a picture. That's my purse. I've had it for months. But if I'm looking at my fresh manicure and my beautiful Jew that I have in my purse, and I'm sitting having a cappuccino, in that moment, I'm feeling the kind of gratitude most people say they're going to feel. I actually do. I have to capture it. It's so beautiful. I'm so grateful. I opened my closet and I chose my outfit and I chose my purse and the things that are in it, I value them. There's a reason I buy, like, the brands that I really love. It's like, even when I take out my lip gloss, I'm like, I care intentionally. I'm putting my mascara on. It's like, I love the. The look of it. I love my. I love my makeup palette. I love. I put everything in my bag. I'm careful. I care. I care about everything. I've got. I value the things. If I just chose something because it was more convenient, less expensive, I know who I am. I remember before this level of intentionality, I'd have a purse, and in the bottom of the purse was, like, all broken makeup. Like, I couldn't put anything of value in my purse. It had been covered in a whole bunch of stuff, like crumbs and all kinds of stuff. I had this one purse. It was always the same purse. It always had stuff in it. And all I kept doing was adding more stuff in it in case I needed those things while not valuing what was already in there while the stuff would break, while I would add dirty stuff in a dirty purse. And the thought of buying a luxury purse at that point made no sense because I imagined running it through the same thing. Often I speak to people who have never bought anything luxury, and they say very similar things. Like, I would Never buy a $5,000 pair of sunglasses because I always lose mine. The goal is that when you value what you have, you don't lose them. There's a very big indicator there, like, you don't care about your stuff. So that's what it's not. If I had an expensive pair of sunglasses, I would lose them. It's that I lose my sunglasses. That's why I don't have an expensive pair. It's the other way around, because I devalue what I have. I don't have more. If you cared about your outfits the way you cared about your outfits in that visualization, if you cared about your transportation, about the people who greet you, about the locations where you go, you would have a different life so fast. It would make your head spin. Because I'm going to tell you why in this moment, this is the big breakthrough of this realization, this visualization. If in your visualization you found it easier to feel your value before you met the people, if it was like you felt so clear about your value until you met the people, and then it got wobbly. If that was your experience, raise your hand. You were clear about your value until you met the people. Okay, now, if you had an experience where in the visualization, you felt your value with the people, but what you were doing was either leading something, being met by clients who really appreciated you, People were so happy to see you. You either got a standing ovation for something, someone, you know, everybody was there for you. You were leading something. If that was the experience, raise your hand of when you were in the room, okay, so what? I want you to look at is this. For a lot of us, there's two ways that we value ourselves the most. One, when there's no one devaluing us, when we don't have the experience of someone not noticing us, in which case you would have felt more valuable before you met anybody in the room. And the other way is as long as we're recognized. So you would have projected that you were the center of attention in that room. You were the one they were, they had come to see, they were coming to say thank you, you were speaking on the stage, something of that sort. If and whether, Whether or not this was your experience, though, I want you to listen to this because you're. I think you'll get a breakthrough not just for you, but if it's not for you, for someone else. If your value was felt when you entered the room because the people were happy to see you, because you'd made an impact on them, because you were speaking, because something like that, it means that the reason you felt valuable was because people saw your value. In which case the most valuable people in the room were not you. The most valuable people in the room were the people who were there to see your value, which in turn made you feel valuable. There is a huge lesson in this. When you are in a room and you see another person's value, you are the most valuable person in the room. Because most people are so busy looking to see if they're valuable enough that they don't have the bandwidth to notice other people's value. But in your true experience of feeling valued, what made that happen is other people saw your value. This is the greatest truth you will learn in this journey. People who see value are the most valuable across the board. The person that is the most valuable to your partner is the person who sees him or her as the most valuable. The person who's most valuable to your boss is the one who values their job the most. The person who's most valuable in any situation is the one who values the person in the situation the most. Because if you value me, I feel valued. If I feel valued, I feel loved, I feel great. I feel this. What we forget is it's because of you. I feel valued because of you. Now, there's nothing wrong with this, but there's also nothing fully right with this. And I want you. I want to bring. Break this down for you very. I want you to see this. If I already feel fully valuable in myself and I know my worth, and even if I were in a room where no one saw me, I could stand comfortably in that room and see everyone else and not feel like something's wrong with me. That would be the definition of personal power. If, when I enter the room, if people don't notice me and value me, I immediately feel like I don't belong. There's something wrong, People don't like me. That is the definition, an end. But I felt super valuable before I entered the room. That's circumstantial power. And if I didn't feel value before I walked in the room and I still don't feel value while I'm in it, that's no power. Our job is to work on the both kinds of power. I want to feel valuable on my own when there's no one in the room and I know I'm valuable. I want to feel valuable when there's people in the room but they're looking at someone else. I want to feel value when I'm looking at someone else. And I want to feel value when people are looking at me. I want to feel valuable. No matter what is happening, I want that. There is not one thing on earth that makes me question my value. That means I have personal power and circumstantial power. And that is where I'm indestructible. I can make anything work. I can make anything work. I can make anything happen. I can make whatever I want come true. There is no stopping me. I am unfreaking, stoppable. You cannot stop a person that doesn't need validation. We are the most controlled. The more we need other people to tell us we're allowed. We're okay, we're good enough, we're pretty enough. We're allowed. Every time we need someone to give us permission for something, we're. We're malleable. The people on the planet that are unethicable with are the people that 100. Do not need anybody to tell them anything for them to feel their value. If you can get to that place, there's nothing you can't be. There's nothing you can't do. There's nothing you can't have. As a matter of fact, let them try just for fun. So see how that goes. You're unstoppable. There's nothing that can stop you. This is the biggest thing we're working on. So when we talk about if we do things in life to try to get appreciation, try to be liked, try to be loved, we can use value in the same way. If we lose our power, we can say, as long as I give power to another person that I'm valuable. But the fact is that's not the goal. The goal is not I'm valuable as long as I give value to other people. It's I am valuable. And on top of me being valuable, I have this extraordinary desire to bring value to other people. This is rare, limited edition, unique. Not everybody wants to just be valuable to other people. This is a gift I have. Then if on top of that desire, I actually go out there and get the skills I need in order to get the result of being valuable, I actually go and do something about that. I am even more rare, unique, limited edition. There's even less people that are willing to do that. Some people don't care about anybody except for themselves. Some people care about other people but will never do anything about it. And then there's the people who are going to go and actually acquire skills so they can be more valuable to other people. Holy. Whoa. That is so rare. And then if on top of that, you succeed and people see you as a valuable person, like you are recognized as a valuable person, that is the greatest honor on earth. So it's not like if you don't have that, you're a failure. You're literally going for the most valuable thing on the planet. The people you're comparing yourself to are like the tiniest percentage of the world right now. You are not comparing yourself to all the people who are, you know, capable of doing something and choose to be on government assistance because they can't be bothered. You're not comparing yourself to the people who could do something but choose a minimum wage job where they have no responsibilities just so they don't have to think about anything. You're not comparing yourself to the people who'd be very capable of having a job but still ask their parents to bail them out of everything because they just can't be bothered. You're not comparing yourself to the people who married someone they don't even love just because that person has money and now they get to have whatever they want just because and they have money and some people do that, so it's fine. You're not comparing yourself to the majority of the population that's struggling financially and not even considering that they could do something of more value on the planet and earn more. You're not comparing yourself to like the 75% of the human planet. You're comparing yourself to the 1% and the 10% of the planet that's gone out there and done the most iconic, incredible things. And if you don't measure up within a few weeks or a few years, you're not good enough. It's like it's the opposite. You're so rare to even want this. We're so rare to even care about this. And if we see it in that order, things start to change massively. So it can't be okay. I took this program about currency with Melanie and what I got from it is I have to be more valuable for people. That can't be what you got. It's gotta be. I took this currency program and I finally got that. When I see my value, it becomes worth it for me to invest in becoming more valuable. Because I don't do it for validation. I do it for actual skills, for actual results. Because I want that kind of life, period. And it doesn't make me more or less worthy to want that kind of life. I just want that kind of life. And I get to have it because I'm valuable. And I was before I got the skills. And I will be after I got the skills and I will still be even if I change my mind. But I can add value. So much value that I've become one of the rarest human beings on the face of the planet. But I'm already rare, unique and limited edition. Anything I do just gives me more of that. When you get into that, you're so rare and so unique, people don't even understand how your brain works. Are like, how do you have this much confidence? How do you have this kind of self esteem about yourself? You're like, because who else realizes they're enough and doesn't spend their entire life fighting that? Actually desires to do more for people? Not for validation, but because it's the right thing to do. Actually get the skills to do what's right for people instead of using their not enoughness as an excuse for the rest of their life and then actually do it. How many people do that? This many people and that's us. So you've got to walk with the knowing that you're so unique, special and rare. And every single thing you're doing in your life is in alignment with that. The visualization you did, that's a representation of who you are when you're present. That's how you choose your clothes. I would say if you've been in my world for a while, if you've got 111 list, put on your 111 list to one day look at yourself in the mirror wearing the exact outfit you were you were wearing in your visualization put on your 111 list to get to a location in the exact transportation you got into that location. Put on your 111 list going to that location that you saw that you thought was extraordinary. Start to let that life come true and see if you're capable of living in real time with the same amount of presence as you do in your imagination. Because this is the other great test of humankind. We are much better in our imagination than we are in real. We are so much better in our imagination. You imagine you're going to fall in love and you're going to be this like sex kitten goddess that's confident and just moves everything off the desk and makes wild passionate love in the middle of the afternoon and never nags and is perfect first thing in the morning and has squeaky clean breath and is the greatest happy, funny, go getting person. And then you get a partner and the Kraken comes out 50% of the month and you just figure, you know, your partner's grateful, should be grateful to have you. It's like, where? How are you so different in your imagination? Where did that person go that you would be if you ever manifested your dream partner? It's like the minute you got the partner, the value of that dream scenario started to be less and less and less important. When you start to measure up with your imagination, magic starts to happen. So when you have an imagination, when you have something that comes through your soul, your spirit, your thoughts, make it come true. If it's a cool thing you just thought of, put it on your 111 list. Watch things happen in your life. You're going to freak out how much your life starts to change. When you let yourself be as magnetic, as powerful as an alignment. If you allow yourself to feel as valuable in real life as you do in your imagination, just try it, you'll see the difference. It requires something of you to do it in real life. And that's why it's so important. So the 111 list is something I do in my Resolution Revolution, my mid year manifesto programs. It's, you create a list of 111 moments you'd like to live in the next 12 months and you see how many of them you can cross off over a year. It's an amazing practice. The first time I made Kevin do it, he couldn't come up with 111. It's a lot you'll see when you try it. And things on his list were like, get three new pairs of knickers, buy new socks, and he was so happy when he crossed them off. He was like, I got new knickers today. I was like, see, I told you. It's so fulfilling when you declare you're going to do something and you do it, it could be the smallest thing. But when you say you're going to do something and you do it in the exact energy you thought it would feel like, your life starts to change. So I wanted to preface our call with that before we even started. Okay, let's start. Let's start, let's start, let's start. So, most recent. And then I've got to go to the beginning. I think this might be the beginning maybe. Okay, this question I think is very important. I feel, I feel nervous posting this because I don't want to tread on someone's toes, but I have a knot here. Please help. I love the understanding of wanting to keep the currencies that are valuable while growing the currency of my desire. After these last days, feeling into what I value and valuing my breath in this visualization, I believe that if we truly act accordingly to the teachings of this course, climate change and basically any other life threatening circumstance, world peace would be prevented immediately. Since we'd be valuing our currencies of fresh air, clean water, stable weather conditions so much, who would want to diminish it for any other currency? I barely witness rich people though that act that way. What am I missing? My question in a nutshell. How can I truly value the currencies that come from a well balanced ecosystem and still want to diminish it for the currency of a luxury item like flying a plane or buying a big car or even wanting a yacht? It seems contradictory, contradictory to me and I don't want to and I don't really value the fresh air. So here's what I will say because I think this is an amazing question. One of the reasons that people don't talk about what they do that's right for the environment, for example, or for other, other different currencies, as much as they talk about their enjoyment of things is because of perceived value. So when someone, when a person buys a jet, like Grant Cardone buys a jet, him owning a jet is proof of concept for his entire business model. But if he were to say that he also does this great thing for a charity or whatever it is, it would for the people who've decided that this person is a jerk, look entirely performative and be entirely missed. The point would be missed and people would measure it up against whether or not they think that he is really a good person because of all the other things he did. And it would feel like an entire waste of breath to do that publicly. And so the people who know, the people who are wealthy, they tend to know what these people are doing. Well, you have to be in close proximity to know. There is an assumption that is made that wealthy people aren't careful. And that assumption makes wealthy people not want to explain themselves whatsoever. I'll give you an example. We do what's called a. Basically, your carbon footprint, you can neutralize it. And so you input all the things that you do on a daily basis. How much electricity, the cars that you drive, the cars that you buy, if you charter a jet, whatever it is, and however much carbon you create, you actually can plant trees and neutralize your carbon footprint. Now, I don't need to tell anybody that I do that in order for that to be the right thing for me to do. And if I do tell people that I do that, I will tell you right now that most people that want to be right, that I'm a colossal jerk will make the fact that I go on a jet or have this or have that. They will counterbalance that against the good I do. And they will just tell me it's not enough. And I'm just not interested in that. Because I don't do what's right for the environment for performative reasons, for people. I do what's right for the environment to be what's right for the environment. When I fly a jet, I'm excited to share about it because I had a great time. It's not to show people that I'm rich. It's because I had a great time, because I celebrate that I've done something that's always mattered to me. In the same way that if I had the feeling of something extraordinary, like if, let's say I hit a milestone of how many trees I've planted, I might share that, but I won't share how many trees I've planted just so people know that I'm also a good person, because that's performative. And you will find that the people who tend to show the most the good, they do. If they're also being vocal about the stuff, the other stuff they do, they just. They get a lot of hate for the good stuff. It's the craziest thing. They get hate for the bad stuff. They get hate for the good stuff. So a lot of them keep it private. The ones that are super performative about it, they get hate as well. So I think that what would need to change in the world is people would have to start being grateful for the good moves people do. And we're not there yet, but I think it will come eventually. But in my programs and my masterminds, I get to talk about that with people and I get to tell them what I do. And that's fantastic. But I won't start posting on social media what I do in order to prove that I'm a good person. I care about the environment. But what I want you to recognize is if in your life you realize I want both. I want to be able to once in a while go on vacation. And when I do go, I want to be able to bring as much of my things as I want. I want it to be a smooth travel experience. And I want to fly private, but I don't want to hurt the environment. I care about the environment. What can I do? There is an answer to that. If you can only do one or the other, you probably shouldn't charter a jet anyway. If you don't have the money to charter the jet and to heal the carbon footprint, you probably shouldn't charter the jet. Because there's no reason valuable enough really to charter a jet until it's costing you money to not it literally, it has cost me money in my life. I've had clients that want to cancel an entire thing with me because I missed one call. Like, I can't afford to miss a call. You know, like it just. I've got to be there on time for my call. And the private jet makes me able to do that. The commercial flight doesn't. There's no question if I have a client that's paying $175,000 and they are like, you missed a call with me. I want a full refund, which has happened then booking a jet for X amount of thousands of dollars will always be worth it for the odd client that was looking for one reason to be right about something. Like, I'm not playing that game. So it's worth it for me, but it wouldn't be worth it for me if I were making the exact amount a month that the jet costs. Unless it was my dream come true to do it once in my life, and then I'm going to do it once in my life and I can make up for it for the rest of my life with the, with the environment. So it's more like who you are. If everything in life can be neutralized, the laws of abundance means more of everything, is more of everything If I, every time I fly a jet, I plant X amount of thousands of trees, I think that works. It's if I'm only one sided that it doesn't work. So you just want to be very clear that if it matters to you, you can always be both. You can do so much good for the environment and you can also live an extraordinary life. If you care about both, there will never be a question and they'll always be places you can go once you have the money to have these discuss these discussions because these are the kinds of things I talk about with my private clients. Like where what can you do? What is right for the environment? How do you make it right? How do you use your. How is your conscience okay? Is it okay to do this? What can you. Right, what can you do that's good? How can you help more? How can you provide more? Who can you help? What? You can do all these things for people, but at the beginning, when you're just looking at it and it's so far away, it all just feels like a question mark. So until you're at the place where flying a jet is even possible, you won't even consider spending all the money it costs to fly the jet and then spending all the money it takes to neutralize your carbon footprint. But on the day where it's actually available for you to do that, it will be available for you to do both. And that's the thing that's so important to remember. If who we are is who we are, then there's always a way for us to be in integrity and in alignment with everything we do. And most. And the biggest reason people don't share the good they do is because it appears to be performative. Like, I don't tell people when I've given money to a person that on the street, I don't tell people every time I give to charities. I don't tell people every time I've given to a certain cause. I don't tell people when I've just topped up someone's GoFundMe account. I don't tell people when I've paid for someone's surgery or operation. I don't tell people about that. I don't tell people about that. I've literally had people on my Facebook put gofundmes and I've. And I've paid for the whole thing. Like, I've never talked about that because I feel like if I did, there would be the people who made that a performative thing and it would devalue it so much in my heart, it's not even worth testing it. So I do what I do in private, knowing that that's. That's correct. And the things that I want to celebrate, I celebrate. But I don't need to prove that I'm good when I'm good. That's. That's the thing. Anything you do because you're proving your worth or your value falls blank anyway. So be who you are in private, share what you want in public, and trust that if you want to be an aligned human being, there are always ways to do that. You want to be fair, you want to be equitable. You want to be always thinking of yourself and the environment in a balanced place. You'll always be able to figure out how to do that. And if you can, trust that the sky isn't even the limit for you. Next question first. Many thanks for all your transmissions. I've been creating different services that are valuable for me and my clients. But I can lack connecting the dots and feel as if. If I do it more or if I do it more, the growth could be exponential, as I would be building on multiplying instead of building next to or adding. Any thoughts on how to make that happen? Why did I put a note on this one? I've been creating. Creating different services that are valuable for me and my clients, but I can lack connecting the dots. I feel like if I do it, the growth could be okay. This is what I think the thing that made me really click on this was the difference between multiplying versus adding. And so for me, the thing that has really been a big transformation on my journey is the difference between more of me equals more of a result versus more of you equals more of a result. So what this means is like before, my mindset was the more I did, the more I got paid. But now it's the more what I do does for the more of you, the more I get paid. So my work is no longer about how much I work. It's about how valuable my work is to as many people as possible. That's where exponential wealth comes. That's where the compound effect comes in. Not how much I can do, but how many people I can do it for. Not how much value I can bring, but how many people I can bring that value for. That's what makes it exponential. Like, I could have this conversation just with you. I could get on the phone with you and I could tell you these exact words just for you. But if I can do it for all of you at the same time my worth changes and my value changes. My value changes because I realize that I can impact an entire planet. And it's not like I'm not valuable if I can't do it. It's just that my value increases and my worth increases because I can make more money while I'm doing it. So I'm more valuable to the world because I can touch more people. And I'm worth more money because I can duplicate myself and get paid for the same conversation all at once by multiple people. You see how that applies? The worth and the value. The more people that I'm touching, the more valuable I become. But I was born valuable, and nothing can take that away from me. It's all a question of more. The more people I touch, the more valuable I'm going to become for the world, for the people. And then the worth comes from how much money I make. And so if I have one conversation at a time, it's going to take me a lot longer than if I speak to, like 200 people in one second, in one moment. How do you hold and lead yourself when you relate to a person who doesn't feel like they're comfortable being valued? Like, it feels like they're so far removed from feeling it's valuable to be valued. And then there's this vibe of being uncomfortable. Does that make sense? So you know how I said everything we do has value and there's value in hard times? I feel uncomfortable when I value someone who won't let me value them because I feel like I'm not being received. It's like my valuing of you isn't valued. So it all comes back to me again. But if I see it as there's a lesson in this, and I look at the lesson, what I will learn is this is how I make people feel when I don't receive, when they tell me I'm beautiful, when they tell me I've changed their life, when they tell me that I've nailed something or I've done a great job, and I'm like, no, no. When I push that away, that's how it feels. How valuable of an experience is that? It's actually super valuable. So you either focus on the face value of a thing or you focus on the compounded value of a thing. And the compounded value of a thing is what happened when you learn a valuable lesson. And it's only valuable if you care about the lesson. And you only care about the lesson. If you believe that everything that happens to you in Life is valuable if you learn the lesson. If not, lessons feel like failures. Every lesson feels like a failure unless it's a lesson. So what makes a valuable lesson is a failure that you turned into a lesson that's available. Valuable lesson. So for me, anytime something makes me uncomfortable, it's either not a valuable experience for me or I find the value in the discomfort. See where I might do this, where I might create this, what is there for me to see or learn? And then there's the value. And I have learned so much from my, from myself and doing things this way because I used to be a terrible receiver. I used to be so puzzled. My little sister is like the best receiver. And I used to want to just give her everything. Do you have somebody like that in your life? You just like they're your favorite person. If you have something to give, you want to give it to them, their face lights up. They. They freak out. You nail it every time. You're constantly thinking about them and what you could give them. Like, I love giving her presents. I love giving her gifts. She's the best. And I was like, I'm not this to people. It's so valuable for me to have this person that loves to receive from me. I don't give people that opportunity. And then on the flip side, I also don't receive. My sister gets everything. She's that person. Not just to me. She's that person to everybody. Everybody just loves to give to her because her reaction is always the best. And so I had to do some work inside to realize what is it right now that I'm. What is it? I want to look like I don't need it. I want to look like I'm not full of myself. I want to look like I don't believe it. I want to be humble. I want to be humble. And what. One of the definitions that blew my mind in life is the definition. Definition of humble. Anybody here ever been taught to be humble, either through the church or their family? Google the definition of that. You're gonna be like, oh, no. Being humble is having a less than opinion of yourself. This is not good. Like, we get applauded for that, but that is not good. We don't want to be, you know, big headed and not care about other people and think we're above everybody else. But being humble, like showing a low esteem of yourself, that is what we're teaching people to be. I have a feeling that's not what we mean. That's not correct. It's not the right word. It's not the right frequency. And so when I realized I was trying to be humble, I was trying to show like I believed less of myself. When I let go of that, I let people give to me, I actually became far more valuable for me and for them. So that's a huge breakthrough within itself. If you're with. If you're trying to relate to a person who doesn't feel comfortable being valued, take the lesson of how you make people feel when you're not accepting a compliment, a gift, or whatever it is that's sometimes hard for you to do. Notice. In contrast, I'd love a riff about evolution and growth over a lifetime in context of valuing yourself. The reason being that I'm ping ponging between feeling like a value warrior who will embody this if it's the last thing I do, and being so cold towards myself because valuing me feels so foreign. And it's a whole new language I've got to integrate in how I feel and speak about myself just for me. And to be honest, I had this idea that where I am now, I had laid all the inner foundations and there was nothing left. And I have to start. And I'd have to start from scratch or there's nothing. I'd have to start from scratch again. But then value came along and something in me just wants to go to bed and not have to deal with being a beginner again. Do you ever get that? So I love this. And I just want to say, like, the only way to make sure that you're never a beginner at anything ever again is to never learn a new skill. I don't agree with, Like, I don't. I, I'm. I'm. It's a no for me. I can't imagine that I will never again have the experience of learning something new. I can't agree with. The phase of my life of new beginnings is over. I can't be okay with. I will never again be mind blown. I will never again experience myself as having a breakthrough. Like, I can't imagine that that's okay. And so I really have two choices. I stay the same while the world keeps moving, which basically means I feel like I'm going backwards or I evolve. And if I evolve, I've got to be okay with having the experience that I'm a chicken nugget and I don't know what I'm doing. But I've got to have that experience with so much love and gratitude and value for myself. I value these new beginnings because it Makes me more understanding of my. My nephews, my nieces, if I have kids, my kids, of anybody else in my life that's starting something new. Every time I start something new and a person that's just starting their business in my life comes in, I feel like I can connect with them immediate. There's not one day in my life I haven't been trying something new in so long. Like, I'm always a beginner in something. It doesn't matter what it is. I'm always learning something new all the time. And so you come into my life scared because you're trying something new. I'm like, I know exactly what you mean. I'm still trying to figure out how to send an email through click funnels. Like, I don't know. There's things I have not mastered. You know, I'm still trying to figure out how to do this, I'm still trying to figure out how to do that. I'm still trying to figure out how to run an ad on social media. I'm still trying to figure out. I'm still, still learning new things all the time. And because of that, I'm. It's so real when I tell you, equal power, but different. I know exactly what it feels like to feel embarrassed to not know how to do something. I know exactly what it feels like to be frustrated that you can't get something right. I know exactly what it feels like to watch other people nail it and you don't get it. I know exactly what it feels like and I'm nailing it in other areas. Same as you. Equal power, but different. And the more you can ground yourself in that, the more enjoyable you are to be around. Because nobody actually enjoys being with people who pretend they know everything. Because it's pretending because you can't know everything. You can just know everything you know, in which case you're not learning anything new, which I don't value as much as a person who's constantly learning new things. To each their own. But I value people who are always learning. So I'd rather you suck at something. It shows me you're willing to try new things. I value that. I value your mediocriness at this thing while you're figuring it out because it shows me you're willing to try. I value that. So it's all about what people value always. Evolution, growth over a lifetime just basically means there will always be a reason for me to feel brand new. And I think that's a really cool thing to feel. Thank you so Much for this program. I've always struggled to believe in my value. My dad was super critical growing up and still is. So we're always made to feel stupid, like we knew nothing. Everywhere I go I see others value and my own lack. Even in this course I see how articulate and creative everyone is and it makes me feel my own lack of those things. My question is, how do I feel inherently valuable? How do I feel inherently valuable? And you think other people sound articulate? You sound so articulate. I think you just read your voice in your head and you read everybody else's voice as if the Queen of England was reading it. I think that's what's happening because you are very articulate, like on a cellular level in the face of such critical conditioning. Hello, Excuse me. This is so well written. Self acceptance. I feel like believing in my value is the missing piece and becoming an energetic match for so much more. But I've been working on it for years and I still have these feelings. Thank you. I think you are a liar face when it comes to yourself and you speak the truth when it comes to other people. You see the beauty in other people and then you lie your butt off about yourself for some reason because it was more valuable for you, for your dad's approval to agree with the fact that you were not enough. I don't know. But like it is the biggest lie. This is the most well articulated question. You're a genius. You're gorgeous. I don't know what you're talking about. So what I think is there is a place somewhere where it's valuable for you to be self deprecating. And if you can find that, you're going to break through a lot of things because your value is right there, same as everybody else's. But as long as you imagine yours isn't there, you're going to keep thinking something, doing something, acting in a certain way. This is, this is incorrect. Like I read your question and I see this is incorrect. The way you are explaining who you are and what you perceive of yourself, your perceived value of yourself is incorrect. So you've got to focus on your inherent value because it's your perceived value that's skewed. Okay, let's see. I am guilty of pretending to be perceived a certain way and I know this. However, every time I turn on the camera, I turn into this weird robot therapist person. Do you have any advice as to how to become more natural and authentic other than feeling more valuable within myself? First of all, see, this is where we Just sometimes need to talk to each other because I think you're hilarious. And I know you wrote this authentically. Like, who else has ever turned on the camera and felt like a weird robot person? Like, welcome to our brain. This is how it often feels with, for so much of us. And so the issue is, I want people to think I'm valuable instead of like, I, I'm valuable even if I suck. Even beyond this, I'm valuable even if I pretend to be a weird robot person. I'm still valuable because this actually comes from a place of me trying so hard because I care. It's like detangling sometimes comes with a full blown conversation. Most people want a question and answer. They don't want a discussion. They're like, tell me why I do this. Oh, this is why. Okay. Instead of wonder why I do this. Maybe it's because of this. Huh? That's a really good point. That's very valuable insight. I never thought of that. Oh, really? What did you think? I thought it was this. Well, that's very valuable too. What a genius. Are you. Thank you for saying that. I almost wanted to tell you no about that, but then I realized about my value. I'm not supposed to do that, right? Congratulations. This is so eye opening. I'm so glad we're having this discussion. That's the kind of discussion that creates connection with people. But everything is so immediate gratification in the world right now. It feels like you've got to nail your, the entire universe in one sentence and you got to do it right, or else everyone's decided whether you're valuable or not enough. I have a feeling you might be very funny inherently. I think you might find that if you don't try to be perfect, one of your best things that make you so valuable is people will think you're hilarious. And I would maybe try just naming how you feel. Like if you came on and you said, you know, hello, you know, Facebook Live. Let's just give me a minute to just talk nonsense for a few moments. Because when I open these live streams, I always feel like a weird robot trying to get everything right. And I'm just gonna shake that out until my regular personality comes out. I just flung my ring across the room. See? Funny. So we want to be in a situation. We want realness. People, People want realness. That's what people want. So can you be real even if you're goober? Like, you're, you're funny, you're silly, you, you're a dweeb. You're not certain you're you. You. You're flustered. You forget your words. You say all the time. You forget what you were saying. It's fine. You're valuable anyway. And I feel like it's in the pretending that you don't have any of those imperfections, that it costs you your authenticity, because I think you know exactly how to be authentic. It's just. You would have to value your mistakes. You would have to value your quirkiness. You would have to. I. Do you know the weird things that have happened to me in my time going live? Like, I. I blew a snot bubble out of my nose in one of the trainings while I was doing my trainings, like. Like on the iPhone, like this. So my phone was literally this close to my face, and I was. I had a cold, and I was doing this really dramatic mod module, and I was crying, and I breathed, and it was a big snot bubble, and I paralyzed. I was like, okay, everyone has seen this. Do I just, like, close the live stream and run away? Like, does they saw it? It's too late. Everybody was there. What do I do? And I just stared at the camera for about a minute. I could not talk. I was just like. And people were just laugh. Crying. And I was just like, oh, my God. And people were like, she's real. She's real. I swear, I had so many people love me more for this mob bubble. It was out of this world. I've done. I've done moments like this where I'm talking in one of my private calls once with this client. You know, have you ever had a client that you value so much and you're like, how have you chosen me? I feel like the most. Can't believe it, you know, One of those clients. And I'm doing a face call with her, and I'm so in it, and I'm talking like this. And a piece of spit went from my mouth directly, like, slow motion, right on the cat, like, right on the camera to cover, like, the whole. I just was a blurry mess. And I knew it was the very visible spit that I had spat that had just landed. And I was just like, like, what do you do? I was so embarrassed. She ended up being one of my favorite clients for the longest time, and we laughed about that all the time. It doesn't matter. People who are real know what real feels like. It's just real. It happens. Can you be real and can you own that? Because your value is not based on your perfection. It's actually, the more another person is with you and feels like they can be natural, the more they feel loved, the more they feel seen, the more they feel, oh, gosh, I feel like I can breathe. Like that's actually what people value more than your perfection a lot of the times. So trust that the loop of not feeling my value sets in when I try to put my multi modality work into a few words or titles. Well, yes, that I believe, and I was talking about that today in the sales savoir fair when I was saying the issue with entrepreneurs is that a normal profession, because people know what the profession is, is they can say what the profession is and people know all the things that that person does. Like if I say I am a plumber, you know that that job does not just mean I fix leaky faucets in the kitchen. It could also mean toilets and bathtubs. It could be in a garage, in a hotel, and it could be anywhere. It could be pipes. It could be the actual thing. It could be, you know, that the profession does multiple things. But when you say to someone, I do multi modality work or whatever, people are like, what? So it's because they don't know anything of what we're doing that we feel we need to explain everything. But my feeling is if they don't know anything, then they are not the person you are meant to try to explain everything to in one conversation. I would rather when and this is something I said in that training, I would rather meet mystery with mystery. If someone has no idea what I'm talking about, I would rather give them such a vague description of what I do that they're then curious because they're then on the frequency of their knowing of me. So I would say something like, I do extremely complex work that unless you're in my field, you probably would not understand. It's witchcraft. And then the person be like, tell me everything. What do you mean? Then I can take all my time explaining what I mean, but if they don't care, they'll be like, oh. In which case I would have felt like I was speaking to a doorknob with all of the passion in my soul. And the conversation would have ended and I would have felt like an invaluable nothing. When I can save myself from all of that by saying one very cryptic thing that either makes them feel more interested in or not interested. It either opens the door or it closes the door. Either way, I win. How do you ground in branding and articulating what you do when it doesn't fit in a box. And not all offers are one on one or fit under a description. This is literally my business. Everything I do doesn't fit in a box. None of my offers are just clear, like one on one. Everything is different. Like if someone comes into my world and they're like, what should I do? Should I do Currency or Impact Academy? Well, it depends. What do you need? What are we working on? Or should I do Femme Fatale? Or should I do Alpha? Alpha do Alpha Femme Experience? Because that's where we're going to do all of it together. Because if not, I need to know way more about you to be able to tell you which program I think you should do because there's too much information. But if I use my social media to talk about all the things I value, then people can find themselves and find which program to go into. But. But you've got to just know that every single one of your offers is valuable to the correct person. For me, I know and feel my value when I'm grounded in myself, in a place of beyond words, awareness, presence and connection. When I'm in this state, I trust, I know I bring value and and be met with this in front of me in the moment. But I think the biggest thing is you feel your value when you're in front of people who know what you're doing. When you're in front of people who feel like they need explaining and you don't have words to explain, that's when it feels overwhelming. It's just like I don't have the words to describe this, but when people know what you're doing, you don't need the words to describe this. So start by finding out if they know what you're doing, then you'll know where to go from there. Okay, I know money is already here. I can feel it all around me, just out of reach. What I find myself doing is working on myself to reach it instead of accepting where I'm at and calling it in from there. I would love it if you could speak on the space between the universe definitely does not desire for me to make money the hard way. Anytime I push it or I fall out of alignment. I'm going to make a post that isn't the exact match for this answer. I have a beautiful post I wrote about this, but here's what I want to share with you. Imagine a 5 year old child says I want to make $100. I want to make $100 right now. What would the how can a 5 year old provide enough value to make a hundred dollars right in this moment. It's like I don't have the answer. I don't know how you just make a hundred dollars right now. Now let's say this small child has Scout cookies and a hungry neighborhood and a very good sense of personality and a great way of expressing themselves. And a reason for wanting to sell these Scout cookies is there's a place they want to go to. I have no doubt that 5 year old can sell $100 worth of cookies like that. What's missing is what are you doing it for, what are you doing it with? And do you have the skills to do it? That's always what we've got to work on. Why am I doing it, what am I doing? And have I worked on all the skills required for me to feel confident to do it? And so if for you the feeling is money is right there, but it's at my fingertips right now. In your life you do make some money, you do have access to somebody. But if you want more, it's on the frequency of more. Which means more care about why, more care about what and more care about who you're doing it for. More value for everyone. A five year old that's selling cookies at the door is one thing. A five year old selling Scout cookies because they're saving enough money to do something meaningful, the whole thing sells out. And it's the same thing for us. It's just more complex because we're trying to look for the value in our adult life and sometimes we won't let ourselves have that and we find that we're pushing it away everywhere else. We don't let ourselves have what we want in relationships or in friendships. We don't let ourselves have what we want in our health or in our, in our, in our, you know, closet or our experiences. But we want money to just show up. But we push everything else away. We sometimes there's a healing journey when it comes to a lot. And this circles back to what I talked to you guys about in the beginning where it's like we're not asking for what's normal right now. This program isn't about asking for what's normal. What's normal on the planet is people make enough money to barely pay their credit cards. The world is just circulating debt. That's what's normal. When you become the kind of person who believes you can have financial freedom, you are rare, different limited edition person. There's not a lot of people who believe this. Most people have just decided it's never going to change for them. They've decided they can't do it. They've decided they were just born into the wrong time, the wrong place, the wrong family, the wrong culture. They've just decided it's not possible for them. Most of the people on the planet have made that decision. When you decide you can do something no one in your family has ever done, no one you know has ever done, no one like you has ever done, you're different person, you're just different. It's a whole other world. So you've got to own that difference before you can even imagine you can make more. The fact that you believe you can or that you even feel inside like you could, that makes you different right off the hop. That has to be enough. If you use that very difference to be your kryptonite. Your problem. Taking 10 steps back instead of 10 steps forward. Yes. You have evidence that you're like everybody else right now. The thing that makes you different is that you don't feel like everybody else. Your reality looks like everybody else except you know you're not supposed to be in it. That makes you different. But if you're saying, oh, see, it's difficult for me and this is how I feel, this is what I am, it's like, well, this cupcake is blue. We already know the cupcake is blue. But what do we want? What do we want to do? Speaking what is while wanting something different is not going to get us anywhere. So this is where it's super important for us to really, like, say, look, I. I want more. That makes me amazing. I'm grateful for what I have. Some people have exactly what I have and that's all they'll have all of their life and they will be fine. Some people have way less than I have and they will be fine. Some people have way less than I have and they'll be miserable for the rest of their lives. And they'll never be willing to believe they could be more. I'm already ahead of the game. I just have to deal with my feelings about my circumstances and not let them define what I believe I can be, do and have. I'm already different. I'm already valuable. I'm already rare. Just because I believe there's more for me. That's a rare thing. You would be so mind blown if I could show you a whole other room and I could have conversations and I could bring people up and with every fiber of their being, they would say, I don't need More. I don't want more. It's that. That's silly. That's for different people. That's not for me. Nobody in my family's ever had that. It would be an insult to my lineage to think I could have more. Who do I think I am? If God wanted me to have more, I'd have more. If my family wanted me to have more, I'd have more. If I was meant to have more, I'd have more. I'm not capable, not educated enough. It's my fault. I've messed up. I don't deserve it. I've done this. I've done that. I could fill a room 300 times the size of this. For those kinds of testimonials, this is rare. Just the fact that you want it is rare. If you want it and you believe it, it's rarer. If you want it and you believe it and you're doing something about it, it's even rarer. Don't discredit yourself. You're doing something extraordinary that not everybody does. Your desire for this is unique. I realize I'm grossly undercharging for my alumni and probably even my academy due to feeling bad for charging more often. I feel tired and overexerted and the money coming in doesn't match the value and results my clients get. How would you navigate this energetically and strategically? I have a few thoughts on this. This program. I had two choices. I was either going to make it a small program and Open it up 10k for a certain amount of spots and deliver it like that. And I know it would have been amazing. The other option was because I knew. I also knew this was going to go 100ft over some people's heads and they would be like, ah, I need to watch this every day for the rest of my life. But. But I was like, I think that this needs to happen. I think I need to do it for the masses. This program is requiring so much more of my energy having this many of you in it because there's so many more posts to read, there's so many more questions to answer. Like a module and a deepening. A module and a deepening for 10 participants, 20 participants, 30 participants. That's one thing. A module and a deepening for a thousand participants. That is a lot of freaking energy. And I'm probably making as much from this program, having sold it this way, as I would have if I would have charged 10k for it. So I'm making the same amount of money for exponentially more Work. But this feels more valuable to the world right now. And what I believe is that when I do what's valuable to the world the world mirrors value back to me when it's time. I really believe that. I believe that in this very room there are some of you that already know you're going to do more work with me later down the line. And that will come through afe, it'll come through the Matrix, it'll come through something else. It'll come through you saying, I came in, in this offer and I'm doing everything with you that will happen. But if I always have to have the evidence right now that what I'm doing right now is paying off right now I'm always in fear and lack. I'm always controlling how much I give because what if I don't have the energy? So the skill I've worked on in my life to get here where I am is can I hold more? Can I hold more love? Can I hold more compassion? Can I hold more questions? Can I hold more judgment? Can I hold more projections? Can I hold more responsibility? Can I hold more visibility? Can I hold more attention? Can I hold more? Because if I can then I will always receive what's meant for me. If the answer is no, then sometimes I need to scale back and I do less. You know, this year I did two free master classes last year and the year before I did one every single month. Every month I did a free master class. And then one of them caused me a lot of pain. And I had to ask myself, am I still available to put myself out there like that, this often? And there's months. The answer was no. But I gave in other ways and I did in other ways. So sometimes we do control what we give, but when we control what we give, we also control the amount of energy coming back to us. I've done it both ways. I've given open with my heart wide open trusting I'm going to be okay no matter what. I've also experienced extraordinary pain knowing if I don't heal this, I'm going to, I'm going to bring my own stuff into these, these coachings. And I won't be squeaky clean. I need to take care of the healing and I've held back the energy. This. Now I knew I've got to open this up. I open this up. You've got to trust yourself and your energy. And it's not like you're not good enough if you don't put everything out on the line. If you feel you're undercharging and you want to charge more and you want to take care of your energy. There is nothing wrong about that. It's just sometimes there's an ebb and a flow necessary. You might find that you've got to hold your energy back and take care of yourself sometimes. And sometimes you got to be brave and you've got to go out there and do the big scary thing and then you've got to come back and take care of yourself. Just be willing to ebb and flow. Don't and this is where the beginning if you remember one of the first conversations we had in this program is it's really valuable to not burn the bridges and to not say I would never do this. Don't ever do that. It's so not valuable to do that. Because when time circles back, you might find that's exactly the valuable thing to do. And then you got pie in your face because you've got to go back on your word and you don't know what to do. And so you go beyond yourself or you do things that are out of alignment because you once spoke badly about them and now you're trapped. So the wisest thing you can do is stand for what you value without discrediting what's not valuable to you in the moment. Because what we value can change. Always make sure you can open the door to your values without feeling like you you did them wrong publicly in front of everybody, and then you feel guilty from bringing them back in. Always leave space for your values to change. Okay, a bit late, but maybe I can sneak this one in again from the last thread. The discussions around literal currency and this one is for the developing country entrepreneurs. My business earns rands, so South African currency, but I live in San Francisco. It's like earning a pesos rate but trying to live in dollars. After watching everything this week, I know to be grateful. I know I need to be beyond grateful and value rens. But how can I do that while also aligning my energy with dollar paying clients? I get some, but not as many as those who are South African. I've turned I've tried turning my whole business into dollars, but things slowed down massively then. So I know I have I have some energetic blocks about dollars. Maybe I put them on a pedestal. Maybe I think of them as too expensive because every time I traveled when I was younger we had an inferiority complex about rands. Our currency is constantly depreciating. My saving is half of its value in dollars than What? It was 10 years ago when I came to the States. So, yeah. Any words of wisdom? And clearing this one thing I want to tell you. I'm Canadian. And when I first made my decision about my company and how I was going to run it, I had to make a decision of what currency I was going to charge. And I chose American dollars because they're a universal currency. Most people expect something is in American dollars. Even when you are in Europe, if you buy something online, you can very well expect it'll be in American dollars. And so it was difficult for me at first because my Canadian buyers were like, you're Canadian, I'm Canadian. Why am I paying American dollars? But one of the big things is I was a digital nomad and I spent most of my time outside of Canada. And the same question you're asking me, I asked myself, how the heck am I supposed to live in the US Three months out of the year and be paying Canadian currency and be making Canadian currency? I can't. I'm going to run out of money 50% too soon. How am I supposed to live in Europe and receive Canadian currency? Like, that's so big. So what I found is I decided in this moment to be a global brand. If you can decide to be a global brand, then you can declare your currency. But that doesn't stop you. If it feels important to you to say that you have an honor system for the people who are coming to you from. Did you tell me exactly where you were from in South Africa or just anyone who comes to you from South Africa has an honor system and they can pay you in a different currency. If you want to do that, that works. But I think the question would be, would you feel comfortable declaring yourself to be a global brand? Then money can come to you in every. It can come to you in a US Currency because you're a global brand and it's a globally recognized currency. And you can have an honor system for the people who that currency would make it impossible to have. That is a beautiful way to do it. But I would start doing the identity work and the value work of. I value the work I do for the world. That makes me a global brand. That makes me able to charge global currency. And a globally accepted currency is the American dollar. And I'm also willing to have an honor system for the places where that dollar makes absolutely no sense. I think that's a really beautiful approach. Okay, let's see. I've just had a breakthrough listening to the last module, despite the fact that I'VE never been so overdrawn in my accounts. And at the same time, I've never received so much money in a few months. In all, I've received 14,000 from various members of my family. Even though I'm deeply grateful for it, I'd have preferred it if it had come from the taxman or an employer or even a stranger. My family have savings, but they're not wealthy. And I feel bad that they felt the need to give me this money. Whichever I which I asked for, which I never asked for, to help me with my financial situation, I know I'm worthy, but not more than them. And this money is being used to pay for a standard of living that I can no longer afford. A big house with a very large mortgage and the taxes that go with it at their expense. I'd really appreciate some feedback about that. I can tell you this from my perspective. One of the reasons I want to be wealthy, one of my greatest reasons, is so that when people need help from me, I can always say, yes. The people that I love, my family, the people that I love. Like, that is a very big motivator for me. I'm not saying that it should be a motivator for you. I'm not saying that's a motivator for everyone. But this is the biggest thing that I've always felt. I wanted that if someone came to me with something that I could be like a yes for them. I wanted to be able to say, I'm the path of least resistance for money in my family. I have yet to know a person that has given money to a person that would feel happy if that person felt awful and guilty about it. Anybody who gives money to a person is hoping that that person feels over the moon, grateful, like, oh my gosh, I can't believe you did this for me. You're so amazing. Thank you, thank you, thank you. So what I would work on is two different feelings. The first one is, can you give in currency back what you received? So gratitude and value is something most people don't feel on a regular basis. I can tell you I have received a lot of money from clients, but one of the currencies that felt like when I made less money, I got a lot more love from clients then the more money they paid me. It's as if they were like, I don't need to give you love, I give you money. You should be grateful. Then I created a space and I said, I'm not taking on any more private clients or any more mastermind. Clients, because I can't experience that. I don't like that. That's not why I do this work. In a space like this, I get so much respect and so much love and so much value and so much connection. Here we get a balance. So you're going to find in your life that sometimes when people give you money, you just get money. You don't also get love and connection. The gift you just got is someone who loves you, gave you money. That is an incredible gift. That is a very rare thing that someone gets in their lifetime. And if, if I could tell you in a room, if I'm speaking to women that are making seven figures plus a year, if I were to ask these women who recently has given them any money whatsoever, even paid for lunch in the last 12 months, I guarantee you less than a tenth of the room raises their hand. There comes a certain time where when you have it, no one gives to you anymore. So receiving from people who love you big sums of money is one of the most healing things a human being can do in their adult life. This needs a tremendous amount of love and gratitude. And I feel like if you can do that, you're going to open a gateway for yourself, a portal for yourself. It's going to feel different to receive. It's going to feel different to the person who gave. You're going to get rid of the guilt and whatever it is that you're feeling, and you're going to open yourself up to money coming in different ways. But receiving money from a person that loves you as a grown adult is a very rare thing, especially when you're capable. So I would have you hold all of those frequencies and work on the worthiness of the love and the money. And instead of seeing them, like pitiful or poor them that they had to do this, see it instead. Like they're powerful, extraordinary people with hearts of gold. Can you see their value, their courage, their love, their dedication to someone they love? Instead, build them up, see their value, their greatness, their love, build them up, see them even more, love them more and for yourself. Feel it, experience it, make peace with it. I think you'll. You'll heal something you didn't even know you needed to heal. Because everything else that you want to create is actually beside that. It's next to that. It's not. Instead of that, it says, well, as that this will heal one thing and other experiences will heal other things. This was actually an extraordinary experience for you to live in your adult life. Okay, let's see the surprising Thing for me was I felt fantastic during the visual ID visualization and didn't feel the blocks or resistance I experience. I expected I always had an inner knowing where I will end up and how powerful that will be for myself others and the ripple effect and the how to get there with an aligned to my values business model haunts my mind. I have an illusion about the people I feel I am meant to guide. Not choosing me or us not finding each other. I'm also aware of of let's call it my self sabotage in selling and marketing. Stopping myself at a glass ceiling that I meant to break, telling myself it's unconscious blocks and also that that they're strong. How can I break the story of not being chosen by the ones I feel I'm meant to channel to while still on my journey uncovering the exact messages I still have. I still have a lot of audience I need to attract. Let me just skip to the part. It's funny reading this back because I might know the answer on a logical level but the harder I want to go, the bigger the resistance. I'd love your perspective and I feel like your words would make a massive change for me since I feel that it might be big and meaningful if I allow it. So there's two parts of this and why I wanted to bring this one forward. You know the answer, but you value my answer more than yours and because of that I'm not going to answer this. I'm going to give you this instead. Even if my answer was more valuable in the universe, it would never be more valuable than yours. If you have no answer and you want to hear unanswer my answer is valuable. If you know your answer is valuable and you're curious about my answer, my answer is valuable. But if you have an answer and you believe mine is more valuable, my answer is the worst answer you could possibly receive. So I'm not going to give you my answer. I'm going to tell you live by yours because I think you actually really know. Like really know. And if you allowed yourself to really know this, how many other places would you immediately gain confidence would be out of this world? So I'm going to let you have that because that's a much better experience than me answering this. Okay, I've been experiencing this incredible energy that's exciting and both calm and it's creating shifts in my life. I have learned so much in these few days from you. I want to thank you so much. My question is how do you keep all of this and constantly nurture this kind of energy for yourself, especially when you're still at the beginning of your journey with your business, when you're serving others, how do you bring the forth this vibrant energy every single time? What was for you, was that there for you from the beginning? So you will become capable of holding more with time. It's not that you become better, it's that you become more capable of expressing what you already have, which in turn lands better. But I don't think we become better. I think we're born with a endless potentiality in our life and we just end up activating more of it as we allow ourselves to move. But I really think it's as if we're born this big ball of potentiality where everything and every outcome is possible. So it's not that you get better, it's just that you get more. Everything is there. Are you activating it, everything is there. Are you bringing it to life? So it's a better experience, but it's not better as if you were less and now you're more, it's just more because you allowed more to be. So when I think of my beginning, I had a lot of potentiality, but I didn't really know how to access it. So it came out in spurts. Then I'd get exhausted, I'd get tired, I'd fear I can't be more. I'd imagine someone else was better, go down a rabbit hole. What really got me was the realization of, like, if I could achieve this entire potentiality of what I am over a course of my lifetime, then all I ever am is on this journey of. From this to this. But there is no this or there that I need to be. It's. It's just this, like the opening and the. The blossoming of this that I am, that I was born being. Can I. Can I understand the skills more to utilize this? Can I learn more about myself? Can I value my skills more? Can I lean into myself? Can I trust myself? Can I develop this? Can I practice it? Can I get more courageous, more bold? Can I go in places that allow me to open up more? Can I go for things? Yes. And then I open up my potential. But not from a place of betterment, but from a place of opening. So now, of course, you can't be too much, but you can appear too much in contrast to people who are still closed. So if people are closed and you're open, you seem too much, but you're not. You're just more potential activated. Like a sleeping volcano is A volcano, whether it's erupting or not, it's still a volcano. You are everything whether you use it or not. If you use it, you're not better than those who use it. You're just more, but not more. Because you'd be less if you didn't use it more because you've used it. No, this is a little bit. But you see what I mean when you do that, you take the pedestal away and you just want to go to places where you're constantly being shown you can open more. Because it's like when I watch you open more, I feel I can open more, but I'm not able to open because of you. I was always open to open, able to open even before I knew you existed. But for some reason I wasn't opening. Now you're there, I open. So it's valuable for me to be around you because I open more. But it's not like my worthiness depends on you. Because I would have been able to open whether I let myself do it or not. I just do it because I'm near you. That's how this works. So that's why we're equal power, but different. Equal power, equal potentiality at different phases of our opening, still all capable of the same opening. And when you start to treat people like that, you start to pull out that power in people where they're like, so you mean I just open? And you're like, yes, just open. And then they watch you do it and then they open and then they watch someone that feels like them in your world and then they open more. And then it's. It's like this beautiful gift. The more of us open, the more of us open. Not because anybody is better, but because it's evidence that there's a more openness that we can have. That's why I believe in the collective work of this. I love one on one and I love group work. Because you think this is the maximum until you've seen someone like this and you've seen someone like this. Then you think it's a maximum until you've seen someone like this. Then you're like, oh my God, I could do that. And I know I could because I can feel it. There's not a part of me that's like, don't want that. If we want it, it's meant for us, period. There are people who are going to stay like this their whole life, but it's what they want. If you want to open, you've got to go where people Open or else you'll feel guilty for opening because of the contrast. If you want to open, but you. You judge people who are open because they open too fast, too soon, too bold, too bright, then you're contrasting to make up for the fact you haven't opened yet when you want to. But then on the day you open, you'll be exactly like the people, people you were judging, and you'll feel uncomfortable being the openness you were going to be. It's why it's not valuable to devalue where we're not, because it's where we're going. Every experience is ours at some point or another. I've loved the meditation live. I got a beautiful designer dress. I had my bag that I promised myself for my next birthday. The Dior shoes. I walked into a resort by the beach. Everyone welcomed me. Everyone wanted to hear my six success story. But a big thing was missing. I wasn't at the arm of a strong partner by my side. And I think a lot of the ladies here will relate. As a fact, I've been divorced for 12 years, totally single past four years, and I still have that missing part feeling. No strong shoulder to lean on won't be totally successful. It crushes me over and over. As a shamanic practitioner, I can tell you I value my energy loss, I protect it. But still super hard to be consistently attacked energetically by men in my field and feel exhausted for not having someone strong to lean on when the going gets tough. So this is a femme fatale thing. Like if there's any chance you can do femme fatale with me, I feel like that will entirely change your life. But I think a lot of us, we've been shown two different kinds of women that we can be. We've been shown the weak woman that gets a lot of support and a lot of help, that's a little bit incapable. But people, people pull in for her. She feels guilty, she feels not good enough, but people show up for her. And then we've also been shown this super powerful woman who does everything for everyone, doesn't receive a lot of help, but she's super in control of the situation. She takes care of everybody. She's got it. But she never shows weakness, especially because she doesn't want to look like the first kind of woman, and this other kind of woman doesn't want to look like that woman, and that woman doesn't want to look like that woman. And where I found so much passion for my work is, is in the bridging of those Two women. The alpha femme, the one that could take care of everyone, but manifest the people who want to take care of her. The ones who can be soft and are never questioned for their power in the same breath. They're literally both. And it's a rare kind of woman. Men have their own dualities. There's the man that's weak, but it is able to receive direction. The one that's like, I don't have my own ideas. I don't have my own. Like, I'm doing this and no one can stop me. But if you want me to go get you something, you want me to go do something for you, I'm going to do that. I'm going to be everything you need me to be. I don't know who I am without you telling me who I'm going to be, but I'll be whatever you want me to be. And then there's also the man who's like, don't you think you can tell me anything? I tell you what to do. I'm going to do whatever it is that I've got to do, and that's it. And there's that duality. And so the idea here is to create the effortless alpha male, the one that's like, I'll get everything done that you need me to do, and I'm also doing everything I've got to do. I can handle both. I got me and I've got you, which is a very rare bridge. And so this is like, the work Kevin and I do is like that effortless alpha male and that alpha femme, which is the softness and the strength at the same time. It is rare, but the man that's strong wants a woman that leans in on him so that he can actually experience his strength and say, this is a. Like, I get to experience my strength with a woman who trusts me and at the same time doesn't want to feel like the only reason this person has chosen me is because of my strength. Because if I ever lost it, she'd leave me or I'm not valuable anymore. It's like, she's strong and she could carry us all, but she trusts me. And that duality for a man is extraordinary. But the same occurs for us. Us. It really helps us if we feel like if we were to break down, our partner would take over. And I feel like what happens for a lot of strong women is they just make sure no one could take over, and no one needs to, and no one feels like they have to. And a strong man in that does. Just doesn't find a place. It's like I don't feel valued for my power and for my potential. I don't feel like I actually am valued for all I can be here. And so they don't blossom, they don't, they don't change, they don't, they don't grow. And so sometimes you're gonna. It's difficult in long term relationships because people change. You might find someone when you're needing something different, and then you become really strong and your partner doesn't change, and that's difficult. And there's separation because one partner changes and the other one doesn't. Sometimes it's the other way. You have a really strong partner and then you realize you want simple things in life and that partner doesn't, doesn't show up. And they're still all driven about the same things, and you just want a simple life. And then there's a separation in that part. But I think that the breakthrough in currency is that you have something to bring to the table to a partner, and a partner has something to bring to the table for you. But there's a match in the universe that has to occur. And I remember when I was doing the manifestation work to, to manifest my relationship with Kevin, one of the things that really blew my mind, one of the thoughts I had that blew my mind, I was writing this, this list of. Of all the things I wanted my potential partner to be, all the ways I wanted him to be, how I wanted to feel. I was making this list and this thought hit me. If he exists, this guy, and he's writing a list, do I fit the list? If this exact person exists and he's saying, I want a woman who is this way, this way, this way, this way. Am I that? Do I have a sense of humor right now? Am I light hearted? Do I appreciate his quirks? Am I fun and funny? Do I have art projects or things that make me passionate about stuff? Do I have a mission, a purpose? Am I driven? Am I confident? Am I able to give and receive? Am I the match for this person? And it was like, I'm not. I could attract this person till the cows come home. If I cross paths with them, they would not be as extreme excited to meet me as I would be to meet them. And so the work became if I. If this person that I'm manifesting exists, am I operating on the frequency that they're wishing for who I am? And when I started doing that work, things changed. So where do you need to soften? And where do you need to strengthen? Where do you need to trust? What do you need to let go of? Who do you need to forgive? What do you need to not be acting in contrast to? Do you still harbor any kind of resentment towards someone else where you would hold this person responsible for being the opposite of. Or would you not trust? Or would you? There might be stuff to clean up. If you're ready to be in a partnership, that means you're also ready to be a partner. And sometimes that's the tidying up that needs to occur. Because having a partner is not what makes us happy. If it was, the divorce rate wouldn't be so high. Having a business is not what makes us happy or else businesses wouldn't crumble after a few years in business. It's longevity, sustainability and scalability that we want. It's being in love, falling in love, and committing to love forever that we want. It's everything after falling in love that matters. It's everything after deciding you're going to be in business that matters. It's the longevity and the scalability. And that's where most people fall on their faces because they want the performative. I did it. Check Mark. I got married. I found the person. I did. I built the business. I got. I had a six figure year or six figure month. I did it. And then everything after that is like you need. You mean I need to maintain this? I had not put that on my list of things I desired. The maintenance, the scalability. That's actually more energy and more skill and more requirement is to continue doing the thing than it is to actually have the thing. So I might do work about not being in a relationship but keeping a relationship. What comes up in your world? What are you afraid you're going to have to give up? What's not a match for you there? How do you navigate the stage in your life or business when the veil lifts and you suddenly become aware of the many things that need unveiling without becoming overwhelmed? Awareness is a beautiful thing, but it feels like there is suddenly so much of it that I'm struggling to catch up and get caught up in the feelings of confusion, inadequacy and shame. I wrote a post about it in the group, but I'd love your take on it. Every time. We have the choice every time to either be not good enough or be on the journey of evolution and growth over a lifetime. They're the two only perspectives available. I realized that when I realized I wanted big things in my life. There was only two ways I could see it. I'm not good enough, or I'm beginning. I'm on the journey of evolution and growth over a lifetime. So I love awarenesses of things I didn't know because they explain why things haven't just worked so perfectly or easily. For me, I would rather understand why it hasn't worked and been like, ah, that makes sense. Even if it means I'm at the beginning of something rather than find out there's no reason, because I'm an expert and it really should have worked. That would be worse if I said to you, oh my God, what? You did everything. You did all this perfectly. You do all of that. Well, then I have no idea. I guess you're the one single person in the world that this doesn't work for. That would be way worse than, ah, it's because there's this whole journey you haven't been on yet. What we tend to forget, though, is there's so much growth in the journey. Like you're on the journey of becoming a millionaire or financially free. You are going to be happy every single second. You're growing every month. That's better than last month. You were going to be having a good time. Every time you have a week that's better than a week you've ever done before, you're going to be so proud. Every time you hit a milestone you've never hit before before, you're going to freak out. It's not just going to be. You're going to be miserable until you hit a million. You actually are going to be so proud of yourself because of the growth. We don't, we don't tend to think that, but that really is the truth. And the fact is, if you hit a million and you stop growing, you'd be less grateful than who you were between 500,000 and 700,000 while you're growing. We are more happy in growth than we are hitting the result. The worst feeling for a human is the best is behind us and it's all downhill, all downhill from here. That's the worst feeling. So achieving a goal isn't even valuable if there isn't another thing to hit. It's better for us to care about the trajectory. It's better for us to care about evolution and growth over a lifetime than one target, because as soon as that target is there, it's downhill from there unless you have another target. And if there's only ever another target and you're never grateful for what you have on the journey, it Feels like you're running after a carrot. So you've. The art of evolution and growth is like the best thing you can do for your own well being and your enjoyment of your whole life. When you said the homework, what the homework was, my mind immediately went to having to learn more. And it's true because as a doctor, right now there are trainings I need to complete so that I can implement new services in my clinic. However, I'm recovering from a concussion six weeks out and I now literally have to take it easy and not push my brain. My coaching business has been halted because of it. I need to increase sales in my coaching business and complete this other training for my clinic to raise my value. But taking care of my health is the main priority. What does it look like to raise my value and continue to work to make money, to keep paying bills? This is a really great question. And when I went through my concussion, I had a realization. The more I value myself, the more valuable I am because my perceived value increases. For the longest time. And I was talking about this in my currency mastermind. For the longest time I thought I was more valuable if I gave more value, which often resulted in me doing more. But actually the more I do, the more it devalues certain areas of my life. If I go over a boundary, my, my boundary is devalued. So there's gotta be this like amount of time, energy and work that you're willing to do that's an energetic match for you. And anything beyond that is devaluing you because you're giving too much. In the same way, if you add too much salt to a recipe that doesn't add more value, it just becomes too salty at a point. And it's the same thing in my life. In my life, I've got to value myself. And so when you say I'm valuing my health right now and what I'm modeling in my coaching business is how to value yourself and not get caught up in guilt and shame. And I'm actually modeling that in real time you become the most valuable person. You can sell the modeling of your value right now and you can sell it now for a training that you deliver in two months from now because you're not ready yet, because you're still healing. And it's part of the selling that you're selling this for something you're going to lead. Once you've given yourself time to heal. The whole thing would work in alignment. Especially in this industry where people are wishing and wanting they could value themselves More but they're afraid. If you can model that for people your value is sky high. So it's always looking what am I currently working on that increases my value is I'm working on my boundaries and I'm not overdoing it out of fear that I'm going to be not appreciated or I'm not going to make money. And if I actually lead myself through that, I'm extremely valuable and then I can teach that in my coaching. So that's the angle that I would take. I've done the homework and realized that my whole life I'm improving my skills and myself as a person for myself only. And the way this process affects my surroundings is kind of a collateral benefit, which is great. But there's a but I felt trickle triggered with part of the module 3 where you were talking about the education ironically. But I feel like my education influences my value on the opposite direction by formal education. I'm a medical doctor and couple of months of clinical microbiology specialists with line one in HD5.1. I'm studying my whole life and really enjoying it. So I also educated myself in fields odd Natural health, holistic nutrition, intuitive coaching, energetic psychological psychology, Astrology, Human design. My biggest issue currently is that I'm hiding this other part of myself. I respect medicine as a science, but I believe that we can do much more of our well being before that medical approach is needed. So what I really want to do is intuitive coaching and well being mentorship. This job as an MD provides money for my family. I'm okay to do the job in parallel until the money I want becomes sustainable. But my inner conflict is that I cannot show up publicly as a coach until I'm working in medicine. I have done a lot of work on this and I feel much more balanced. But I'm still hiding myself. I work as a coach only in closed groups, not allowing myself to become fully visible so there is no fear of rejection. And a strange feeling like devaluing myself by choosing coaching only after all these years of studying and investing everything in medicine. So there's always two approaches to things like this. This. If you're hiding yourself, it's because you secretly know that you are so valuable that if you did it publicly it would get to the board of medicine which you are not allowed to be doing this and you would get in trouble. So you actually know how valuable you are and how amazing you are at this. And you know deep inside that if you go all in with this, people will notice. People will notice, people will know because you're so great, it's going to be known. So that's a beautiful thing. So if you say, look, I am willing to do this, but I'm not willing to jeopardize my license. So I will do this as a word of mouth service that I will provide other people until I feel comfortable leaving the field. Who am I valuable to when I do this? I'm valuable to my patients that still have me as a doctor. I'm valuable to the board of medicine that doesn't, that frowns upon seeing people do two careers. I'm valuable to the people who still get to work with me as a coach, even though I'm, I'm, I probably shouldn't. Yet they get to work with me right now. I'm valuable to myself because I'm creating skills in the meantime, and I'm valuable to my family because I have two streams of income. If you see it that way, there's absolutely no resistance. You want to just look at where you're creating conflict, because a lot of the times we create the conflict. Where is their value? This question will change everything. Where is there value in me doing this? And if you can't find it, then you know it's not your move. Where is my value? Where is the value in me doing this? That is an incredible question. Where do I see the value? How is this valuable to my family? How is this valuable to my patients? How is this valuable? And if you see like, oh, it's not valuable to everyone, then it could be an ego move, a fear move. But if you can see it's valuable across the board, then you make that decision for yourself. This program is so valuable, I want to cry. It's literally an answer to my prayers. And also my brain has blown up. The visualization made me understand. What makes me feel valuable for myself is knowing things. When I feel confident, I feel my best self. And this is awesome because this person is a 13 generator, which is usually how it goes. How do I access the spot from which I can make the most out of my love for finding things out and share my knowledge with HAP and happiness with people? The biggest thing is to not question whether you're valuable enough to be allowed to share it. If you stop questioning whether or not you are valuable enough to share what you learn, you will learn and teach at the same time. This is actually the greatest thing a 13 can do. You want to learn and then test it out, try it out and teach it, Learn, test it out, try it out, teach it all at the same time where a lot of us get stuck in our values. We think there's going to be a point in time where we just feel valuable enough, enough, and then we just are valuable enough and we do the things that are valuable and it just works. It's not how it works. You learn something, you live it, you experience it, then the value hits over and over and over and over again. You can't wait till you're valuable to move. You become more valuable as you move because the things you think about don't provide as much value than the things that you do. That's why in this program, I've asked you over and over and over again to take action, do homework, don't just listen to the module. You can listen to me till the cows come home. If you don't make a move that's in alignment with a thing you just learned, that thing will disappear from your brain. There are way too many things in there for a lesson to land if you don't have proof of concept in your own experience. So everything you learn that matters to you, go make a move. And this is the best way to internalize this for your design. At the same time, what increases my value to myself is following through on the promises that I make myself, being 100% true to my word, checking things off my list, getting things done, especially the things that are not my favorite but necessary for my business and my health. For years I struggled with scarcity mindset and really related my value to how much money I was earning and how I was, how hard I was hustling. I've moved past that through all of the work that I've done in your programs over the past 18 months. However, sometimes I'm affected by those around me. My question is, how do I not let the scarcity mindset of those around me creep in and start to affect me? This is especially difficult with my partner. I'm aware that this is happening, but struggle to really be able to put aside and stay fully in my mind and be in an abundance mindset. The reason I wanted to read this question is because we want to do this work and we want to help people. And the people that we want to help are struggling with something, but we want to do it while we're not struggling with anything. How's that going to work? It can work for a minute. You don't have to struggle all the time. But how could. How can it be that your life is perfect and you're literally going to hold space for People that are going through stuff, what are you going to say? I remember back in 1956 when I had a hard time, like, how are you going to help them? How are you gonna. How are you not? There's a feeling of, I get you, and here's how I handle it. I know exactly what that feels like. And here's how I led myself through it. I've been through that, and here's how it worked for me. There's. Every single person in this world has duality at every level. So when it's boring and your life's boring, you struggle with wishing you had more. When you feel inadequate, you don't have the resources to become more, you struggle with that. That when you have everything you thought you would need and it's not working, you struggle with that when you've created everything you've ever wanted and you feel bored and you've done it all for nothing and you've wasted time because you should have been doing more of that. There's duality there. The key to life is to say, in my willingness to lead my life in duality, I will always be an extraordinary mentor and an extraordinary coach. Because what makes me extraordinary is not that my life is perfect, it's the fact that I rock an imperfect life. And that's what makes me capable of being there for you. The people who devalue my life the most and devalue my work the most are the people who think I'm sort of. Sort of unicorn. It's so easy for people to think I'm something different and special. It's so easy to do that. Yeah, Melanie, you're special. You didn't work hard. It wasn't hard for you. You didn't cry yourself to sleep. You didn't go through most of the things I went through and survived and succeeded and thrived. You didn't do something amazing that took you a lot of hard work and discipline. You didn't lead yourself and change your mindset and study and become skilled. No, no, you were lucky. Well, that sucks. Like, the whole point was, if I can do it, you can do it. If you can do it, I can do it. But what if one day there's no more problems for me, then I retire on the day there's no more problems for me. I'm grateful, I'm happy, and I'm moving to Fiji. Like, why am I going to keep telling you how to move through your issues if I don't have any? I can just tell you, please don't worry one day you'll be fine. Take my pre recorded stuff and come meet me in Fiji when you've figured it out. But as long as I'm going to be there on the mountain, I'm going to tell you what's on the mountain. I'm going to work through those things so you can't devalue yourself when times are hard. That's actually part of what gives you value as a leader is the fact that you're still standing no matter what storm. And when you tell them you got this, they believe you because they're watching you got this. That's the, the greatest value we have. We're a pillar of strength in this blue moon. This week I've uncovered the fact that I'm attaching my value to having clients, working with clients. And I'm feeling like I'm using this to validate my own value within my myself. So when I don't have clients, I'm. I almost lose a sense of me. Not to mention I'm totally panicking, both because the money isn't coming, but also because I don't feel valuable. I always felt like I didn't need to convince myself that I'm worthy, that I've always known it. But this value conversation is leading me to realize it's a value conversation I need to have with myself. I'm not even sure where to start untangling those pieces. This is how you start untangling the pieces. You do this work over and over and over and over and over again. Because I can guarantee you that on every hour I've spoken, your mind has probably capped at less than 10 of what I've said. Because while I'm saying something new, you're still thinking about the one thing that got you caught up. And then you get a breakthrough on one thing. And everything I say for the next five minutes is like, didn't hear any of that. I was contemplating my breakthrough. Like, you won't have heard everything I said in this training, but the, the thing I want to tell you the most, because this is, I think, especially in this line of work as an entrepreneur, if you want to be a mentor and a coach, it's where we get this conflict the most. I would do this work for free. I would just need another job, but I would do this work for free. I've been doing this work for free my whole life. Then I figured out that I could add extra value by charging and teaching people how to have boundaries. And then I, then I found out that I Could give a lot to charity. And then I found out that I could pay employees really well, and I could be an amazing boss. And then I realized. And I realized that money through my hands is good for the world. And then I realized that I could have my calling, be my. My purpose, be my business, be my everything. And now I'm all of it. But if there came a day that none of you wanted to pay me for this work anymore, I'd still be doing it. I'd be writing books, and I'd be preaching on Facebook Lives, because I believe in this work so much. I. I'd probably not be talking about how to get paid for being a coach. Like, that would have to change. But I'd still be talking about emotional intelligence, communication, relationships. Like, I would never stop being this. I don't know how. I've been this ever since I was a kid. I'm became the friend the friends always come to. I'm the kid the parents trusted. I'm the one. I'm the one. I've always been the one. And I think you guys are as well. And that's why, you know, inherently, this is part of who you are. That mistake is to think, if I'm not being paid for it, it's because I'm not good at it. I want to help you detangle those two things because you're not being paid for what you're doing. Could have nothing to do with even money at this point. If we untangle all of the currency stuff and you got it, the next move might be like, okay, Melanie, let's work on my marketing. Let's work on my advertising. Let's work on my selling. Let's work on my messaging. I'm not a strong communicator. I'm not a strong leader. I'm not. I need to work on certain skills in order to make as much as I want to make. These are different things that you learn in business, but at the very core, this is the main conversation, and it's the most important piece of the entire puzzle because you work on everything else, and it doesn't change anything. You can write the best sales pitch in the world if you feel like you're not valuable. And neither is your product. No one will buy it. And if they do, they'll either want a refund or they'll not do the program. And if they do the program, they won't give you a referral. Like, the whole thing just breaks down. If you don't have the energy, work so that's why it's so important to start here and then build on the rest. Let's see. Okay, this one I thought was important. I love how you've been talking about the energetics and realistic approach to money. There's something within me that gets frustrated when people talk only about the energetics of money, without the realism of how it takes to create wealth and money. Money. I'd love to hear more on your perspective of the realistic approach to money. What do you exactly mean by that? What's the line between realism and naivete in the realm of money? I definitely fall into one of the groups you shared yesterday. Sometimes when I hear people share about how much money they make, it motivates me and sparks me. But then I hear that people. Then I hear that the only way they got there is through energetics and manifestation. And then I have to roll my eyes because it feels like it's not the whole side of the story. What are your thoughts? Thoughts? My thoughts are the people who speak like this are not good at explaining who they're talking to. You shouldn't even be listening to that conversation. The people who need to be listening to that kind of conversation are the people who've got all the systems in place. They're doing all the things. Money's coming in at a certain level and it is not more working hard that's going to make it work. I'm going to give you an example. I've got the alpha femme experience. I know what it's like to have nine people in the alpha femme experience. I know what it's like to have multiple hundred people in the alpha femme experience. The programs are the same. I am the same. Everything I do is the same. What's the difference? I've do master classes the same way, branding, the same way. I do brand reveals. I do all the things. What's the difference? My energy, how I feel, how I feel about myself, how I present myself, how I present myself, when I sell, whether I feel I can handle more people in the group or not, it's all energetics because the strategy is in place, because I. I've already got the product. Now, at the beginning of your journey, when you're saying, well, I don't know what the product is, I need to create. I need to create a product. If you're saying I don't know what the product is, I need to create a product, I want to be rich and I want to do it, I'm going to tell you it doesn't really matter if I Tell you what to do. I don't think you believe in yourself to make this work at all. You can, can you can pay $20,000 for the greatest business model of all times. Do you even believe that you're, you're there? Do you have any skills? What are you going to teach people? I don't know. I just want to be rich. It's got to be the, it's got to be some energetics, it's got to be some skills. So I would say it's energetics and skills, then it's strategy, then it's energetics and skills. But most the time the beginning and the end is energetics and skills. The strategy only comes when your energetics and your skills are set. Then you add a strategy and you've got to be able to change that strategy often. So you've got to be strong mentally to change a strategy often. You've got to be strong emotionally to feel like you got an add another skill without feeling that the world is swallowing you alive. It's a lot of hard work in the mind and in the spirit to say I've got to learn something else. If you don't have that in place, everything you've got to do feels like a chore. You're not meant to be in business. And then once you've got that skill, that scalability and you've got this, the thing that's perfect, but you're going to cap out with your energy, you're going to cap out with your mindset. You'll say, well, I can't do more than this. And then you'll have to get that judge of energy. So it starts with energetics and skills, then strategy and then back to energetics and skills. In my experience, you mentioned that you have a strange belief that you don't have to work through all your trauma to live a good life and make tons of money. This is such a refreshing perspective as there is so much noise there about healing all your trauma first in order to reach wealth and money. But something about that makes me feel like I'm broken and that in order to feel value in life, I've got to first resolve all of the trauma would feel. Which seems like a never ending loop. Can you share more in depth about your perspective on this? The thing is trauma, I feel like, okay, this is my opinion. It could be an unpopular opinion, but I believe that trauma is entirely misunderstood. Like I don't know a person on earth that has never had trauma. That's not possible. If you're Alive, you've had trauma. Trauma. Like you get a bruise on your leg, that's trauma of the skin. Like people get traumatized. It's the level of trauma that changes for each person. The depth of the scar, the permanence of the injury that will never go away. Like if you lose a limb, that's trauma. If you have a bruise, that's trauma. Those are two different traumas. And so if I say I need to never have a trauma on me ever again in order, in order to be worthy, I need to live in a glass bubble. And then I'll be traumatized that I was locked in a glass bubble. Like there's no way out. So I feel like when people always need to be completely healed, they can't really move because every move you make will create a trauma. It will reenact, it will bring back an old trauma, it will open something, It'll make you feel a certain way. What I have found for myself really helps is the awareness that there is trauma, that there is trauma in all of us and in me, that I get to work on as much of it as I want. But it doesn't define my value that I have trauma or not. And it doesn't define your value that you, you have trauma or not. It's just, do I want to live with this trauma? Do I want to work on healing it? But the more I think it devalues me to have it, the bigger the rabbit hole. I feel like healing your trauma should be an incredible, beautiful thing you do for yourself. Like, to be honest, I think that it's a very privileged life experience to get to work on your trauma. Most people never get to work on their trauma. You just think of people 50 years ago, 100 years ago, they didn't get to work on their trauma. There are people who went to work war and, and died with the thoughts in their mind and the feelings in their body. They never got to sit with someone to help them unpack that. Like the fact that we're working on this as a world, that there are places where you can work on your trauma like that is an honor. It's a privilege. It's the most extraordinary thing that you get to work on that. So instead of seeing it like there's something wrong with you, you've got to see it like the most beautiful gift you give back to yourself. But if it's the most beautiful gift you give back to yourself, how can it be costing you your money and your well being? That doesn't work. Work. So I Feel like that's where it gets tangled. Everyone has trauma. Not everyone has the privilege to work through their trauma. If you have the privilege to work through your trauma, that is an extraordinary life experience. You should see that as an added value to you into your life. You're not less valuable because you've been traumatized. Everyone's been traumatized. You're unique and special because you have the willingness or the abilities or you've manifested someone that would support you in getting the healing that you deserve, that you get to have in, in healing that trauma. But I really feel like this, this is a new world. People who just have access to this level of, of taking care of themselves, this is an amazing thing. So if you're going to use the very opportunity you have to devalue yourself, it's a loop you'll never get out of. That's my feel feelings on that. Okay, let me see. I want to do one more and I want to say like a lot of these questions, I know my answer would be so identical, very similar. So you might think my question wasn't answered. But what I would open my mind to is if I've seen a question and then I've seen another question and I'm like, I feel like I would answer this the same way I would answer the other question. That's why I didn't answer. Not because your question is the same, but because my answer would be very similar. So I just to trust that there was one that I really wanted. This is the one. When you first started coaching from your car and you had no proof of what you were doing, did you ever feel like you were making it all up? I notice sometimes I question what I'm doing. This whole coaching thing sometimes feels like I'm just making things up. Even though my clients experience massive breakthroughs and shifts, I'm like, what am I doing? A little voice says, how can this be a serious life career? I want to share this. I want to, I want to talk about this because I think that that is, that is something that a lot of industries feel like. A sports player that's being paid multi millions of dollars that's not playing well, I'm sure has a feeling of like, what am I even what like how am I? I don't, I don't know. I don't know. Like we get in our heads. But when I first started, this was actually when I felt the clearest about this career. Because I became my greatest client, it has actually felt harder for me to believe in this work When I've watched people behave appallingly, people who pretended they were doing the work, like people who showed up and looked like they were doing it, but really just did it for applause and money. And then I realized what they were doing and I felt sick to my stomach and I was like, what the heck is this? I questioned this work more after a decade and thousands of people who told me they changed their lives in my work than I did in the beginning. Because at the beginning I was the only client I knew and I was the greatest client there was. A client that was willing to do the work, to change their life for the right reasons. And so in your career there will always be the people who utilize your service or your product for the right reasons and their lives are changed by it. They are the representation of why this is valuable. They are the people you need to spend your time with. They are the people you need to think about. They're the people you need to talk about. They're the people you need to connect with. They're the people you need to take on as clients. They are the ones. Then there's everybody else that's trying it on, that's not taking it seriously, that wants a miracle fix, that wants this, that wants that. Those are not an accurate representation of your industry. The people who create, who invent false pills to make you lose £30 in a week are not an accurate representation of the health industry. The people who create a seven step program on how to become a millionaire overnight are not an accurate representation of the coaching industry. The people who create, you know, miracle creams that make you reverse age 20 years in one application are not an accurate representation of the skincare industry. There will always be the people who do things for the money and that find an opportunity and those get into our head because it becomes superficial, it looks superficial. It's like, oh, you're doing this just for the money. You want to be rich, you want to look like this, you want to be this, you want to have this, buy this, I'm fantastic. And you can too, like buy my thing, it's so cheap. And you get you question, is this real? But what I would really look have you look at, no matter what your career is, why did you want to do it at first? And that's your answer about how valuable this, this industry is or this career is, whatever it is for you, you were changed by this. That's why it's valuable. If you don't forget that, you will go everywhere. And if you ever forget it, the Most important thing is to focus on you again more. How can you loop yourself through your work one more time? How can you loop yourself through your product one more time? How can you take yourself through the thing that changed your life, that made you believe in this in the first place? You are your greatest proof of concept. You will value yourself and this work way more when you do it for you first. That's why I always say for me, for you, for us, you're the greatest proof of concept there is. You are the one. The more you live in alignment with what you believe in, the easier it will be for you to believe in it. When you forget and you start doing everything for everyone else, if they're not, if they're not, you know, doing it properly, or if they miss the mark, or if they're not confident and they fall short, you're going to start second guessing what you're doing. You've got to constantly be your greatest proof of concept. So the last piece of this and what I want to give you as we end this call for today is that this is a big deal, what you're doing. There are not a lot of people on the planet that care about spending hours of their time to understand the currency of money. This is the gateway to big wealth. And so the things that are required for big wealth, they are bigger than you would expect. They are more challenging than you would expect because what you're asking for is what, like 10% of the population touches or what 1% of the population touches. They do things that most the population will never do to have those things. And those are the things that inspire you. You want to know what, what it takes? This is what it takes. It's not hard work like it's work outside of us, though. It's work that will keep paying off for the rest of your life. It's a work you're going to look back in hindsight at the end of your life and say, that was the most valuable thing I ever did for myself. That's how I know it's worth doing, because none of it is lost. It can all be taught to someone else. It can be utilized for a better life experience. And there's no chance of me getting to the end of my life wishing I'd worked on me less. That's how I know it's worth the investment. That's how I know it's worth my time. That's how I know it's worth my life. That's how I know not to question it is. I Cannot picture a reality where I wish I hadn't done it. So whatever it takes for us to become the most open, actualized version of the potential we were born with, if we, if we were born with the desire, if we were brought up with a desire, if we cultivated the desire to see how far we could go, then all we need is the trust, the strength, the mental strength, the emotional intelligence to go and to keep following that path. Where the crumbs are left, like, oh, there I can see over there, there's more information for me. There's another skill for me to uncover, there's more for me to learn. And the constant celebration for every milestone along the way and the real appreciation and value for the spirit we have because there are people flipping, flip, flipping through Netflix right now, not caring at all about any possibility of doing anything better. And we're over here talking about life changing things and on personal betterment and value. This is a unique thing. You just have to remember that over and over again. I value my mind, I value my heart. I value my desire for more. I value that I'm a person that's probably going to push things forward in my lifetime. I value that the impact I'll make on this planet I probably won't even get to see in my lifetime. It'll probably self actualize even more after I'm gone. I value that I'm willing to dedicate my life to something bigger than me. I value that I care about this for my family, the generations to come. I value myself and my willingness to show up for these kinds of things. I value me and I value everything that'll come as a ripple effect from this. But I was worthy the minute I was born. And I was, I was valuable the day I was born. And nothing can take that away from me. All I can become is more of who I was born to be. And that's something I get to experience because I'm one of the greats and I'm one of the only ones willing to live a life on this journey, which makes me unique and rare and limited edition. So thank you for these conversations. I'm. It's an honor for me to be able to have these conversations. I. I'm in Voxer sometimes with my one on one clients and my mastermind clients and they're like these conversations, like, this is it, this is it, this is it, this is it, this is it. And I don't know, often get to have this feeling in group containers in this program. I have a very similar feeling to What I have in masterminds in my private coaching. This has been such a unique experience for me and that tomorrow is a very big module. I'm excited for it. Tonight's another one where I would just let it sit and let it simmer. There's nothing more you need to do. I would just really let it land. Like any day I learn a new thing, that's a valuable day. If I'm new at something, I'm brave. If I'm brave, oh, it's Monday, the next one. You have the whole weekend. So if I'm brave, I'm brave. Like, I want you to experience valuing your life. Not what you do, who you are, every moment you can. If it's sunny outside, can you value that? Like, how will you value the sun on your skin when it's one of the last years of your life? How would you value the summer, knowing it's one of your last summers? How would you value a meal if you knew it was one of your last meals? Practice that sometimes it'll edge you on sadness. But see if you can hold the void of deep reverence for what you have, it's going to move you to tears and it's going to make you realize how far from that you normally live. There is something so beautiful about this life. And every piece of art that was every ever brought forward on this planet makes us tilt on that. That realization of joy and pain at the same time that it's so beautiful it takes my breath away. That beautiful sadness. We don't want to live in that all the time, but touching it shows us value, just value. If you have a partner for everyone else in the group that doesn't have one, go kiss. Go kiss like everyone else wish they could. If you have a child for everyone here that couldn't go hug your child, like live not just for you, but for in contrast of the. The things you have that others don't. Just in a moment, not always, that's not. You can't live your life completely dismantled all the time, but from time to time, let it be so beautiful it takes your freaking breath away. Because that's how incredible this life is. And the people who get that, they do more for this planet. They do so love more than you've ever loved this weekend. Kiss someone like you've not kissed in a long time. Like you're the youngest you will ever be this weekend. What do you want to do with that? What do you want to do about that? How. How can you enjoy yourself like this? Is a gift. Like we're just adding in a gift of time in the middle of your life. So much awareness. How can you value the currency of time at the maximum? Because it'll come a day in your life where you would pay every second you have for more time with someone or even in your own life. We don't know how it goes. So what if you could use this weekend as if it was the time you had bought back with every dollar you had? How would you utilize this weekend? Enjoy your life. Sometimes you've got to go to the edge of beauty and pain in order to feel the intensity of this opportunity that is this life in this moment. But you will not regret moments lived like this. And you will remember them for a very long time. Share with us your weekend. Show us what you do with your time. Live. Live. Not like you just found out you're dying. You know how people say you've got to live like you're dying? Don't live like that. Live like you just got back from the doctor and they told you you're not. Live like you just found out you're not dying. You've got the whole freaking weekend. You're free. You're alive. You're well, you're loved. What do you want to do? Be wild? Be free. Be young. You're extraordinary. Enjoy this frequency of time, this currency of time. And on Monday, I got a big one for you. Tonight is like I made a move. Make a move. Have fun. I love you. And I will see you on Monday.