The Buyer 2023 - Module 9

Sa Sam. Hello, gorgeous human beings of the buyer. I am bopping this morning. I'm in a good mood and I'm excited to do this live call with you and go and see where you're at and what you're needing. Let me have a look and see who is with us live today. Andrew in the house. Christy is here. Jonathan.

Hello. Hello.

Emily is here. Lindsay. Marjorie. Rita. Priscilla. Hey. Hello again. Samantha. Anna. Linda. Hello. Hello. Hello. Janine. And then we have people off camera, people with us in our Facebook group. And so thank you all for being here on camera, off camera, all the things. So let's have a look. Let's see who has got something from what we were talking about yesterday or one of the past modules or just something that's coming through for you and you're like, I've got questions. So, Alpha femme team. I think the best way to do this is you're gonna see the comments of people who say they've got stuff. So just grab them for me and I'll ask you who's next and then you can tell me. So Andrew says, I have a strong question I think the whole group will benefit from. That's exactly the vibe we want. So tell me your question.

Good morning.

Hello.

I'm not. I'm not going to be. I'm not. I'm being a safe driver. I'm not looking at my phone, but I'm actually about to park. I'm so happy to be here. This is. First of all, I loved the. The module yesterday. That was really. That was really fun. The magic money module. So thank you for that.

Good.

So, okay, here's my question. The whole process of going through the buyer so far has been amazing. I feel like all the activate. I wrote Jacqueline of DM the other day and just said the activations are blowing my mind. Like, it's being able to integrate just the. The internal, energetic cleanup of. Of like, what the buyer frequency is all that has been amazing. So the thing that I'm coming up against is find myself having this. This intense fear of creating offers for these buyers that we're dialing into. Because I feel like, what if. What if, like, they're empty when I sell them? And I think this is coming from. Because over the past, like, since I've been doing all these, you know, all this working out for them, I've launched a number of offers and I've had, like, I've had multiple times where like one or two people bought. And so then I'm in, like, I'm On a zoom call with one person and it feels, it. It feels embarrassing. And so I think I've developed this, yes, like, intense fear that, ah, like I would love to have 10 people or 20 people or 30 people in a program. And I feel like I look stupid when only one buyer buys. And then I think, well, did I not like, have my energy cleaned up as much as I thought I did?

So I have had that where only one person buys.

Yeah, yeah.

It's like the, the thing is, when we make this decision, it is a gamble to say, like, how many people in my world right now are on this frequency? Because I've not been talking to them, I've not been even imagining they exist. And now I'm gonna sell to them. So what are the chances that I've got one lingering buyer hanging off a branch somewhere? Like, I have not been cultivating this in my audience at all. So there really are two ways to go forward with this. The first one is to say I've never really built a buyer paradigm before. I love this concept. I'm understanding the energetics of it, and I realize that a lot of my copy needs to be changed. I probably need to do master classes that are very much targeted to this kind of audience. I need to believe that I'm the one for this. I need to embody more of this buyer energy. I see the concept, I love it, I believe in it, I believe it's right for me. But am I at the space right now that I could say, I know that there's people in my audience that are there and that need this and I'm the one? Maybe not. So do I need to be changing my, my branding, my marketing, my messaging? Do I need to do exclusive masterclasses? Like, what do I need to do in order to start believing those people are there? So that's one thing that could be happening. The other thing is just like, can I handle one or two people buying this or do I need it to look a certain way? And this is the thing that really has helped me get here is the understanding that it's not about what it looks, it's what it is. And so when I only had a couple of people in my offers, instead of worrying about how it looked, I remembered what it was. I just sold a really high ticket thing to a buyer who bought it. That's what it is. What it looks like is not a lot of people bought it. But what it is, is I've pivoted my, my positioning in the marketplace when I first Sold. Femme Fatale. It was a $97 program.

Wow.

People defaulted on payment plans.

On. There's a. What was the payment plan? Like, three payments of $33, $11 a.

Month for a year.

Stop it.

I had more defaults on Femme Fatale when it was 97, and I did it when I was 2200. And so you. You've got to understand that this. It takes something internal, which is like, I am willing for it to look however the heck it needs to look, as long as it is what it is, which is that I am selling at the price point that I want to the buyers that I want, and it will take however much time that it has to. And that's why I really do believe in saying, okay, maybe you need provider money at the same time where you're offering things and you're saying, this is for this level, and then this is for this level. And you really are saying, I create these opportunities for people who are just beginning or people who need this level of conversation. And now this is a Facebook Live or a masterclass or a thing for the people who are at this next level, and you start inviting those conversations in, and you invest the time and the energy and the resources to cultivate that part of your brand. Because the provider money is creating provider money, and the magic money is being cultivated. Where it feels bad is if the magic money is what you need to provide, then if the whole thing feels messed up, it's like, I can't only have one person buy this. It doesn't work. But in order to create magic money, you've got to be in that vibe of like this. I am transforming my business. I'm becoming the kind of person that people want to pay 10 times what they're paying me now. Yeah, it might take me a moment to build this, but I'm in.

Do. Do you feel like price point, like, the offer price point should correlate to magic money versus provider money? Like, should it. Do you recommend that lower ticket offers be the provider money part?

Not even necessarily, to be honest. It just sometimes is easier in your mind. So what? One thing that I find so, so important to remember in all of these trainings that I'm. That I'm teaching is that it's not so much about the language. It's about the vibration. I was actually talking about this in my mastermind, Right. I came on here. So there's a difference between the language and the frequency. Two people can be saying in language the exact same thing and energetically be two universes apart. And two people can be saying complete opposite in language and mean the exact same thing energetically. And so this is why you've got to be sensitive to energetics. Because if you say, look, my block is I don't believe people will pay for this, but I do believe that I could start cultivating a next level buyer and charge lesser pricing and then eventually I'll work on my pricing. That could be a very great energy, energetic strategy. You know, right now I have you plug into, you plug into responsibility for $222 or balance for $111. You're not going to say, oh, Melanie, that was terrible. You know, you could have done a lot better. I, I've just watched, I came off the buyer and then I watched responsibility. And like, clearly you don't care about the hundred dollar thing you put out. That's not the truth. You get the same version of me in both. I'm speaking to power in both. I believe my buyer is the same buyer all the time. It's just their leverage or their courage in spending money is different. And I'm helping them get stronger and stronger to be able to build that, that inner power. But for some people, it's the belief in the actual buyer that's not there. I do not believe I have people who will get this. I don't believe people will understand this level of discussion. I don't believe people will understand this level of responsibility. I don't think people will get it. Then you need two kinds of energetic containers. One where it's like, here's what it's like when you start. And others that are like, okay, this is the next level. And I have realized even in my brand that there's starting to be a little bit of a gap where a lot, some people could come in for Alpha Femme and be totally blown away. But a program like this would not, would not necessarily work. And so the future of the AFE is about to change. Like right now there's a future. A few weeks left with the, with things being the way they are and then I'm going to be releasing a new way of how it's going to look for the future of afc. Because I think a lot of people could benefit from, you know, resolution, revolution, femme fatale, impact, academy, currency, cash fempire. I am the one. There's, I have exponential wealth. Like there's amazing programs, but then there's things like manifestation, equity equation, mentor, buyer. That's like, if you don't already have a solid foundation, it starts to make you question everything you're doing. And that's not what I want. And so I'm realizing even in my work now, there's, there's got to be a split, and so different tiers. There's got to be another level. And so. And the. The buyer is changing energetically. The person who buys waf, the person who buys afe, and the person who buys the next level, that that's got to be three different energies of people. And it's not that they're not capable of understanding, but it's that they're not maybe at that place yet in their business. And so it's a different price and a different container. But that doesn't mean that the person who's in the big container doesn't value the AFE programs or the smaller programs. It means the person in the smaller programs can't comprehend the big ones. Does that make sense?

Yeah, it makes sense. There was something new that you said a couple minutes ago that it's. Your buyer is always the same. It's just, where are they in their growth or in their ability to leverage?

Yeah. Because really, if you are here in my high. Let's say you do a mastermind with me or you're with me in the next level of everything I offer, you're not going to stop seeing the value in a conversation like balance. It's not like suddenly all of a sudden that stuff's crap and it doesn't help you. But when you're starting and balance is blowing your freaking mind and I try to have a buyer conversation with you or a manifestation equation level conversation with you, it'll feel like trying to smell the color 9. It's just like, I'm not. I. Yeah, I, I don't know what I just watched.

It's another color 9.

This is where people on the Internet are like, that's word salad. I'm like, nope, it's just complex. You're not there yet.

Take a second.

You know, so it's just, there's levels of comprehension, but once you get it all, it's all valuable.

Okay, so. Okay, so applying this to the question of filling a container and not caring how it looks, but. But knowing that it's the right thing. So when, when we did the. I think it was like in module four, where you said, what's the price point? That just feels totally normal to you. For me, it was 2,222. I love.

I've.

I've actually, I actually liked Angel Numbers a lot before I even Found you. So I thought, oh, this is fun. Like price number, you know, pricings with numbers that we like to see. And that, that just feels like, like a no brainer number to me. I'm at a place in my business right now where I'm still like building the business up to where it provides a provider money. So. So I guess the question I'm asking myself is, is that like the number that feels like, like that's the number that I like, I want to run like my favorite offer with. I love the offer that I've created. I like that number as a price point. So I'm just, I guess I just want it to be really find that certainty within that says that's like the space where I want to invest to build a provider money up or where's the doubt flowier?

Because I get where you're solid. Where's the doubt?

The, the doubt is I. Yeah, just like just this fear that I'll like launch my offer this week and then two people will buy and my zooms won't be very full.

Okay, so what's the price point that you would offer? The same thing and you wouldn't worry if people were coming or not?

Uh, and I wouldn't worry if people are coming or not. I don't know. Probably like around a hundred dollars.

Is that really true? If you launch it at a hundred, you'd be like for sure loads of people are going to be there.

If I launched this program, like less than that, I would feel like I was doing it a disservice. Like I would create a totally different offer. Yeah, that's not the question.

The question is if you launched it at $111, would you be like this room is going to be packed. How many people would be in it if you launched it at a hundred dollars?

I, I think I could fill a big room with $111 offer. Yeah, I mean I know I can because I have in the past.

So. So I think what's happening right now is the difference between 111 and 22. 22 is an exponential difference.

Yeah.

We're looking at like a over 10x, right? 20x. And so why it's so difficult to consider that you're going to have the amount of people that you want in the room is because you have 20 times more confidence with a 20 times less price. So the, the thing that I've had to make peace with also on my journey is this. If I can make 20 times more sales at 20 times less the price Do I believe that I will make 20 times more sales? So if you were to say how many people and intuitively how many people will buy the $111 offer? How many people?

50.

So 50 people, let's say for the fun of it, 60, because it's easier. So that means three people buying would be more money than, you know, 50 or 60 people buying. The other thing, can you get three people to buy the three to the 22? 22?

Yeah, no, I can do that.

So this is, so this is how I process. If I want a lot of people, I want to help a lot of people, then it makes sense that I sell it at 111. But if I want to go deep with people, then what makes sense is that I hold out for the two, the $2,222 thing. Because all I need is three people. I'm making the same amount of money, but I'll be able to go so deeper. The customer experience will be so much more connected. People will get a lot more one on one time with me. Their transformation will be a lot. So now all of a sudden I'm also seeing the value of this program being more expensive.

Yeah.

Because at 111, no one's getting personalization. I'm not spending. The customer experience is limited because I've got to. It's short and sweet. Whereas with the three people, I can take the time to even ask them some questions, get to know them. I could personalize the whole freaking thing for them if I wanted to. Okay, I'm starting to see the value of the two. Or you're like, no, I want to have more people. Let me keep it at one. But that's usually the question. It's like it's a 20x of everything. 20 times more energy, 20 times more people, 20 times more payments, 20 times more. So when we're looking at luxury, it's not about how many people, it's about how, how the depth or the connection that you can have.

Yeah. And it has, it has to be that like I, for this, for this program, I know it like the depth is everything.

So if you sell three people at 20, at 22, 22, you will have made more money than 50 people at 11.

And accomplish the intention of the program itself. Yeah.

And accomplished the intention of the program itself. That that's how you know it's supposed to be a high ticket program. Because that's not what you would have thought. I would not say that about, let's say balance. I wouldn't say If I charge 111. I won't. I won't achieve the intention of the program itself, but I would definitely think that about the buyer. That's how I also know they're different price points.

Okay, that cleared that up. Thank you.

Good. Awesome. That's a great question.

I appreciate that. Appreciate you.

My pleasure. Okay, so I saw someone else said something. Rita. Rita is up next. Hi.

Hello. Hello. So I'm loving this program. Really loving, loving, loving, loving. I'm not being so active because I'm in a more introspective perspective and trying to reflect on everything and so on, but I'm really, really loving it. So my question is, I was always a buyer for most of my life until I left the corporate world. That was the first time that I was not a buyer anymore.

Or.

Or I was. From time to time, I would go to this very exquisite sushi restaurant and everything. And then when I was able again to leverage my business again in the beginning of last year, I was able to become a buyer again. But then four months later, boom, the rest, you know. So it's been the last six months. I'm at peace. You know what Andrew was sharing. Like, I have many, like, two or three programs where only two people are joining. Some sometimes they are not even showing up. So I. I had to deliver with nobody watching, which was. Which was a tough but. But very nice lesson. So my question is, I feel a bit out of integrity now. If I. If I am to. To. To launch, if I am to sell again at 550 or 5500, I feel a bit out of integrity, you know, so I'm having this tendency of charging, like, the. The values that I was charging last year, which were 3,300. And I'm kind of. Is this correct? Shall I go back or shall I continue? And how can I. How can I build my confidence to not feel a little bit out of integrity? You know what I mean?

Why do you feel out of integrity?

Because I'm not buying at that level at the moment. How much would you. If. If we look at. Yeah, if we look at that. But it's like, it's a shorter monthly amount. You know what I mean? So I feel a little bit out of integrity. Maybe that's why I was asking.

Okay, so this is actually a very important thing because I have come into companies having to teach what I'm teaching you guys to people who make minimum wage, almost like 10. You know, back in 2013, I remember the girls were making something like $17 an hour, and the Average treatment plan they were selling was $60,000. That's their yearly salary in one sitting. And so it's. Integrity is not. I haven't bought this, so I can't charge this. That's not what integrity is. Integrity is. I don't even understand what it takes to buy this. And so when you can understand the frequency of buying something that's entirely out of your price range because you want it, then you're in integrity. So who in this room has ever bought something that was entirely out of their price range because they sincerely wanted it and they made that move and it was wild and it was crazy. Whoever has ever done that, if you have done that, you are an integrity to have high level pricing because it's not the number. It's not like, oh, you have never bought something for $5,000. You have no integrity. It's. You've never done the thing where you put yourself out there. How can you ask people to do something you don't even understand the frequency of? So what I was doing as I was sitting with these girls and I was saying, what's the craziest thing you ever bought? And they were telling me these things, and I knew that wasn't it. I was like, no, the real thing. The thing nobody knows. The thing your husband doesn't know, like, what's the thing? And I was like, oh, I once got head to toe laser treatment. The whole thing cost me like thousands of dollars over a few years. And my husband's always like, your legs are so smooth now. I'm like, don't tell you that. It's. You only knew how much this cost me. You know, like, you know, what's the most expensive thing? I would say this. No, no, the real most expensive thing. These are my boobs. Okay, okay, okay, fine. Like, I make 17 an hour, but these are not my boobs. Boobs, like, that cost me ten grand. You know, like, okay, okay, okay, okay, I'm getting it. The fact is, we tend to think about more the things that we can afford easily. The things that we're just like, you know, I buy this and I buy that. But there's. There's things you've bought that if people knew you bought them, they'd be like, what are you crazy? There's things you've done for yourself that were out of your price range that made no sense. You chose the car probably shouldn't have bought. You know, you did things that were like, crazy because it was right for you. And that's the frequency of Luxury, where it's like it's nobody's freaking business. And that's really what you're offering people when they're coming into your world. It's like, this is all about you. I'm not going to tell you you need something. I don't want to be the person who tells you that you can't survive without me. I want to be the fun best friend that we sneak off and do things we never tell anybody about. Like, I'm the luxury, I'm the fun. I'm the one that you go. Like, that's the energy of it. And so if you don't know that feeling inside, that's where there's no integrity. But you know that feeling. You know it very well. I felt it in your body when you said, I still went to the expensive sushi. It's like my money went down. And still I'm sitting there at the sushi restaurant going, I hope no one sees me here, honey, what's this? What is this big bill, this. Oh, it was client thing, was very important. Anyway, so what are we having for dinner tomorrow? So you've got to know that people are out there also wanting to make those purchases. They just, they can't feel ashamed or anything when they do it. It's got to feel exciting and like they're alive and it's fun because that's, that's the energy the frequency exists on. So in order to be in integrity, you've just got to allow yourself to remember that that frequency of when you did that still exists in your body. A lot of us think, if I didn't buy something expensive this week, then I'm not in alignment. But that's not what it is. If you've done it in your life, that is a frequency that remember forever you did it. You don't. It's not like, oh, I don't understand adrenaline because the last time I jumped out of a plane was last year. It's like one was enough. You know the frequency, you did it, you know it. And so just remembering, like, we get to value the things we did for far longer than. Than what we've done. Like, a lot of people are going for this immediate constant always. I have to do it again and again and again in order for it to be true about me, that I'm good enough, when in fact I. It's like if I did it once, I get the frequency. And so I think where we get lost in the high ticket sales is we're afraid that the buyers don't have the money. We're afraid that they're not going to choose us. We're afraid there's not going to be a lot of people in the room. We're afraid that they're not going to blah, blah, blah. Instead of we're excited. We're remembering what it felt like for us to make moves like this in our lives. We're remembering how. How incredible it is to not have a huge room. Like, let me just make something very clear for you. I decided earlier this year that I was closing my Unity mastermind, and I said to the girls that were there, if they wanted to continue with me, they could continue until there was nobody left, basically. So in Unity right now, after a few people decided to continue and some people didn't, where we've got like four or five women in there. In my high ticket Mastermind, There was once 30 people in my mastermind. Which mastermind would you prefer to join? The one that had 30 people or the one that had five? So you think it devalues you that there's not a lot of people, but that's not how your clients feel, especially if you feel solid about it. They're like, wait, what? I can buy this for 22, 22. And it's just the three of us and you. I'm in. Can you imagine if I sold something for 22, 22 and there was only going to be three of us and me in it? Like, that would be the easiest decision in the freaking world. So you've got to remember the thing. You send me the checkout link. Like, you've got to remember whatever you think is wrong with your offer is actually going to be right for someone in the right energy. So it's not. It's about not discrediting everything just because you think it should be something when in fact, your ideal buyer probably wants to hear from you. This is a really exclusive place where I get to go deep with you. Instead of offering this conversation where there's 50 people in the room, I've decided I wanted to have it a price point where I knew I was limiting the amount of people in there. And we're going to go deep. You're going to get personalization with me, and it's going to be really amazing. There's a. There's a benefit to everything. So, yeah, sometimes it's a party and it's like, oh, my gosh, there's so many people in there, and the energy is lit. This is so good. I'm so happy. And other Times it's like, it's just us and that's, that's amazing. So it's really being able to tap into the value of what the current offer is. This is a great example. So when we did Balance, I got this feeling. I was like, I need to, I want to do a VIP day where I open Voxer and I let people come into this Voxer day with me and we do like live coaching in Voxer for a whole day. I'll open it up for 12 hours. And so my team's like, how many people do you want to put in there? And I was like, maximum 33. That's the most I've ever had in a Mastermind. I was like, maximum 33. So Vanessa's like, I was thinking more like 11. And I'm like, well, I just feel bad if I open it for 11 because there's so many people in the balance thing. If I only open it for 11 people, I kind of feel bad. So let's just say 33 and however many people are supposed to be, there will be there. Obviously there was 11 people in it. Thank God. I think I would have died. There was 33 because there were so many questions, but they were all excellent and the coaching was non stop all day. But it became very clear there was no way in heck it could have been 33 people. But 11 people bought a full day mastermind with me for $1,111. And a lot of people said to me, 33 is too many. I, I don't think I'll enjoy it. There'll be too many people in the room. Little did they know there was only going to be 11. And so the thing to remember is people buy for different reasons and don't buy for different reasons. And the price point is not always the thing. Just lowering the price and having more people is not everyone's cup of tea. And raising the price for less people isn't everyone's cup of tea. That's why it's nice to have a diverse offer suite where different people who value different things can get into your offers for different reasons. So just remembering that some people will prefer that there's three people in your program. They'll be like, this is exactly what I needed. And other people will say, I was hoping for the community. This isn't enough people. Perfect. Come to my hundred and eleven offer next month. I'll make sure there's a bunch of people in that. So it's just not making it. This isn't about what it's not, it's not just you failed or you're doing something wrong. Sometimes that's the exact frequency that's needed. There's also something about when mother Nature, God, the universe sends you a smaller container. There's something for you to learn. How deep can you go? What, what, what's going to come through when you can actually speak to your clients instead of you speaking at them that they can talk back? Like there's something about that that's very special. So trust what can come through in a smaller program instead of discrediting it or feeling guilty about it, saying, let's see what the value of this is. Because next time I have a small container, I'm going to feel very proud to sell it. If I understand the value after this experience, that's my answer about that.

Thank you.

It is my pleasure.

Really, really good. Thank you.

All right, who is next? Janin. Hello.

First of all, I have to say I'm in love with this program. I've watched every module like at least twice or three times. Sometimes I'm even falling asleep with you guys. It's is really like the conversation my soul was asking for so much. I'm. Thank you. Only the buyer would be in the afe. I would be happy. It's like worth it to me.

I'm so happy. So.

What I'm contemplating on and I would love to have some insights is most of like the easy number that came to me was 15,000 and most of my programs actually the 35,000 up to 500,000. Just this year I started offering what I thought would be provider money by offering master classes for $222. But it, and it came from this intention. Okay, if my coaching business is like a Gucci, then the master classes for this price is like the Gucci socks. Like I was thinking about some entry level products because I've never had them really to my coaching and I feel every time I have to or I'm doing them, it's more this energy of like I have to, it's not really coming from my soul that I desired and I even thought, even till today I've bought everything else, let's say from Gucci. But I've never bought the Gucci socks. So my question is with the knowledge and experience you have, like what's the energy like behind when you are creating a masterclass and you have the intention, hey, this is like an entry level product for AFE or even your masterminds or other programs you are selling.

So before I answer this. Can I ask you, what is your background with money? Were you born into a family that had money or none?

None.

So how did your journey begin when you started making money? Was it in this company or did you have another business before?

I was always fascinated with money already as a little child. Like I always got everyone's wallet and was counting the money. And after university I was in investment banking for five years. So for being employed, I would say I already had a really good salary. And then I just started this coaching business five years ago. But already from the beginning I first back then it was a thing to do webinars. So I had a webinar for it was called Lunch and learn for $39. And I really didn't enjoy it and the people that showed up for it. So I'm like, this was my belief back then, if the price is higher, the people are going to be more fun. So with this mantra, I kept increasing my prices and actually it never really nothing has changed. Like people are still showing up no matter what, till I feel okay, hey, the container is full. This is the maximum I can handle. And then I close.

Okay.

However, I never had the experience of having more than I think the maximum was like 50 people in like a training and like 150 people in the master class. So I thought, hey, I want to try something new, experience something new and see how my capacity is when it comes to holding more people. So this was the attention behind when I started this.

Okay.

Selling low price masterclasses this year.

So my other question for you, so you were a banker before you had this business?

Yes.

So you saw big sums of money. You saw people with a lot of money. Okay, so here's how, what I want to share about this. When, when we have a belief that money is around us, it changes our willingness to make an offer to get it. When you see people come in and take out thousands of dollars in a day or deposit huge checks or talk about money like it's nothing. Like there starts to become a realization that people with businesses have money and it feels like I want to talk to those people and so I'm going to make offers for the people with the money. That's a very clean energy. Now when someone says, I want to help people and it's not I want to make offers for the people with the money or I want to make, it's like, I want to help people. The biggest problem with us is we do the opposite. So it's like, I want to help. So if they can't afford it, then I'm not helping. So maybe it should be free or because I. Because it's this and I'm not helping them. Maybe it should be less. Because I want to help a lot of people and I want to help people, and I want to help people. I want to help people. So it's about recognizing that everyone needs support and help. Even the people who have tons of money in life still want support and help. And so it's just that in life in general, people tend to feel like they can help people that are less successful than them because it feels easier. I can help you because I'm more advanced than you, but when you're seeing it more like you have money, let me create something I can help you with. Your. Your offer is different. So what I see for you and what happened is that you said people are going to be more fun. It's the people that have the money. They're not worried. They're not nitpicking everything I'm saying. They're. They're ready and they want to do it. And that's the kind of business that I want. Whereas where I built my business. What. What is that? It's a weird. Ew. I hate it. Anyone here ever had an iced latte in a cardboard cup? No. I am not feeling this vibe. That's okay. Thank you, Kevin. I'm very grateful, but no, thank you, Starbucks. I am not very grateful. Okay, so this is the. The difficult part is saying, look, if I, if I want to help people, then I'm going to be pulled to this lesser price because I don't want people to say no because they can't afford it. When I'm saying I want to have fun in my business and I want to help people. And I can see that people have money and I want to build something where the people with the money come in and we have fun. That changes the angle. So the reason I still sell low ticket items right now is because I want to help a lot of people. There was a time in my career where I didn't have a team. I did everything myself. And I was trying to figure out, like, I would do one low cost offer as a. As an introductory thing, and then I was trying to raise my prices in order to help people a little bit more. Then there was a phase in my business where it was no longer possible to have anything low ticket because I realized, oh my gosh, I need to answer every email, I need to answer every message, every time someone says, I want the link. Well, if there's a hundred people in the program, that's a hundred links. If it's a hundred bucks, if it's a thousand, same amount, 10 links, I can do that. I can manage 10 links, I can't manage 100. So I raised my pricing and although the money came in, I missed the people. So I eventually brought in a team. So it's this beautiful balance between I can. You can help a hundred people in your lifetime and change the world. You can help a hundred thousand people in your lifetime and change the world. What do you really want to do? And I think sometimes we have energetic protection. So if people aren't really buying the low cost thing, it's because although you think you should, deep down, that's not what you want to be doing. And if you were to all of a sudden get 2, 000 people who've got questions, who are posting, who got, who have stuff to say, who are sending you private messages, you might not have the team for that, the bandwidth for that, you might not want that. So there's an energetic protection that's occurring so that there's a question mark like do you actually want a lot of clients or do you want the amount of clients that feels the most comfortable for you at a price point that attracts the people with the most fun? And my feeling is that those are your buyers and that's why the smaller things aren't working so well. Thank you.

It's very true.

It's all energetics.

Yeah.

Tell me.

I was telling myself this year it was because I've changed from a German brand to global brand. But if I'm completely honest, it's not because of that that my business for the first time dipped this year. It's really because I've entered a world of energetics I thought I should when I'm just. It's all about for me, allowing myself, hey, those are not my buyers. And that's fine without the guilt and the shame.

So I'm going to say something that I can probably only say in a room like this, because I know you have the power to not be swayed in a way that is not resonant with you if what I say isn't right for you, but if you can get the energetics of what I'm going to say, we're going to have a good time. High ticket is often not the thing you should, it's the thing you shouldn't. It's the thing you know, inside you probably like, I should not do this. I Should not buy this. It's the naughty, naughty thing you really should not be doing. It's the I'm so bad, I can't believe I'm doing this energy. So everything on the frequency of should is like the anti luxury I can't possibly. Oops, Oopsie. Like that's the frequency of the luxury. It's like I can't possibly. Oh, I guess I did. Whoops. Sorry about that. Like anything that should is the good girl paradigm, the good boy paradigm. You did what you had to do. You're a good person. You didn't spend too much, you're budgeting, you did good. Your mom would be proud. You know, this is like my daddy will never know about this purchase. Never, never, never, never. Like those are the ones that are the ones that are that give you that feeling. And it's the money, sex and power. No one that thinks you're nice and good should even know about those purchases. That's the thing. It's like those are your naughty little badass sacred rebel vibes. That's what it is. It's like I'm not, I'm not telling you what I just spent on, but if you knew. And so anytime you're finding yourself in a should frequency, you are no longer in the luxury frequency because no one buys a luxury thing because they should. That is literally the anti reason people like is the opposite, is the 100 opposite. So we want to create that buzz, that fun, that like zing, zing, zing feeling. And that is the furthest thing away from should. And so the more you break the rules in your life a little bit and obviously don't take this like Melanie and Layer told me to break the law. Like this is not what I'm telling you. But if you break the rules in your life a little bit, you feel a little naughty, you feel a little edgy, you feel like you're like up to no good in the funnest little way. You're going to get closer to that, that frequency because the thing is, historically rich people were bad people. They're the villains. They're the super villains. They're the ones who buy sex with money. They're the ones who buy power with money. They're the super villains. And so we're coming in with this new thing. Like we want heart centered entrepreneurs where money in our hands, good for the world. And I really know that we can have that. But if we don't let ourselves have any villain era, not even a little bit, not even like I Can't believe I just did that. Never. Not for one second. We're going to be missing the sacral fire that comes with power, sex and money because it does have a little bit of, oh boy, what have I gotten myself into if there isn't a little bit of that? While you keep yourself heart centered and spiritual, there is just this like soft, flaccid energy about it that makes it difficult to like, rev up the power that's necessary to have the magnetism. So you want to find your balance of being a kind, compassionate, caring person with an incredible vision and an incredible mission that helps people and having that little sneaky, you know, version of you that's like, gosh, I'm having a time of my life and should is not controlling me today. And you find your balance in that. Because I think a lot of us struggle with making a lot of money because we're so attached to being a good person and looking like a good person and making sure that we're not doing anything bad or wrong. And like, the more you focus on that, the further everything goes. Like, you've got to be willing to be a little edgy and know that your heart is in the right place and that you're gonna do right by the world. But you're allowed to be a little bit sassy. It's your life and that's important. It's an important part of the puzzle. Because well behaved people rarely make history. Is one of the most, you know, famous quotes like, if you don't have a little bit of zing in you, you just don't have the, you know, that energy that's required to take it through the finish line. And you need boundaries and standards and you need that. You need a little flare, you need a little zing, you need a little power, you need a little oomph in you. Everything's just like, well, kind of get strong, powerful, got this and it gets to be funny and you know, like, it's, we don't want to go super villain, but flaccid little to be nice and liked is just like, oh gosh, there's just nothing there. We can't have that. There's got to be something inside of us. It's like, yes, like, get the energy going. So I think that's another part of it. You're not supposed to just be really nice and do what you should for people. You have seen people come through the bank with dollar bills. You know that those are the funnest people. You want to help the world you know who you help, you know what you do, and those are your people, and there is nothing wrong about that. And that's where your magic and your magnetism lies. So don't change your model. Stay in your frequency. I think you know exactly what you're doing.

Thank you so much.

It's my pleasure. I think everyone is happy.

Resonates so much with me. Like, my whole body tickled. Thank you so much. I want to give you a virtual hug. Thank you.

And you know what? I'm sure everyone here is quite happy that this question happened, because that was a lot of fun. So thank you. Thank you for asking that. Okay, Christy is next.

Hi.

Hello.

Hi. Okay. I've noticed something about me, actually, that's happened through this. So my magnetism is, like, when I play in the field, where I'm, like, in that logical side because I spent years there. When I go there, I realize it's it. That's old energy. I'm not even happy about it. I'm not even excited about it. When I let that go and I kind of dip into, like, my childlike, playful, like. Like, there's, like, the magical vibes and all that kind of stuff, and I allow myself just to play there because I. I'm a pretty amazing manifester when it comes to. When it comes to things like that. So my question for you is, I'm trying to now think about the offers that are going to really keep me consistent in that magnetism, to allow me to like, just really, like, own that part of myself. And I find that when I switch out to go into the other ones, it's very similar to the. Some of the questions, but it's really in regards to my magnetism. So I want to really allow myself to play there. And I'm thinking. I'm not really sure in terms of, like, some of the offers that I know is. Are going to help so many, but they're affecting the way I sell them. That kind of stuff. Like, my magnetism isn't there. I'm wondering if there's something that I can do to. To bring that magnetism to it, if that's the case. Because I really do want to help a lot of people, but I also really love intimacy, like, close, deep connection. And also, like, I don't know, like, I would love to take somebody to Italy. Like, that was one of my most favorite, like, I've traveled. That was the place that I've been so many times. And I would, like. I don't know. I think that that would Be like so much fun. I feel like there's this part of me that really wants to just go and just book it and I know. Have all the things set up. I think that luxury part of me just really wants to come out and I'm just not sure how to because my really. The lot of the things that I did and a lot of my skills are still in that kind of logical side. So I'm.

What are you afraid of? Tell me what your worst fear is.

My absolute worst fear. Well, two things, if I'm really honest with you. One is attracting the wrong energy. Okay. So that is there, like, because the minute I turn it on, I get. I get love bombed by wherever and for whatever reason, I don't know how to hold that. So I just. I.

We're going to go with that one. Okay, we're going to go with that one. So. Yeah, because this is what. This is the coaching I was going to give you. And now really. Okay, well, listen, this is what I was going to tell you.

Yeah.

The thing with magnetism is in order to be magnetic, you've got to be able to be polarizing because you can't be magnetic and not polarizing. You've got to be able to understand both. So there's the people who don't know how to be magnetizing, really. And so they'd be polarizing because it accesses the magnetism easier. And then there's the people who don't want to be polarizing. So they try to go for magnetism, but they're so afraid of the polarity that they don't actually let them go full magnetism because they're afraid. But the thing is, all you do is switch a battery the other way and the batteries go, you know. You know, all you do is put the magnets on the other way and they go. And so it's like you would have to trust that every single person that you attract in your life is in alignment in order to be certain of your magnetism. Because if you're. If your magnet is facing this way, what you're saying is, I want magnetism, but I want no polarization. So, okay, perfect. No polarity. So that means every single magnet that's ever brought into your life has to be facing the right direction or else you're out. We can't make rules like that.

Yeah.

And so because of that, the whole thing just goes like. Let's give it a second. You know that when you turn the magnet on, there are the people that are pointing the right Direction and people that are pointing the opposite direction. And you will also get blamed for your magnetism, where people will say, well, of course I'm attracted to you because you made me attracted. And we were like, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. We all have choice. And they're like, I don't have a choice. I was drawn to you like a moth to a freaking flame. You think the moth has a choice? When it dives to its death? It has no choice. You are the one. You're the flame. You're the problem. You're the one. We don't like that level of responsibility. And so part of what we've got to work on when we want to increase our magnetism is the responsibility that comes with being magnetic with people who feel they lose their power around our magnetism. And number two is the polarity that is absolutely non negotiable in this game. People who want to be the exact opposite, as strong as you, but the opposite. And you've got to be able to hold both of those things in order for your magnetism to survive. And this is where people lose it every single time. They lose it in the fear of being responsible for their magnetism, and they lose it in the fear of finding equal polarity.

I think mine is the equal polarity one because I feel like the power one. I feel like I can handle that. I've been. I've been tested my whole life for that. I feel like.

So I would ask, though, have you had unwanted attention from men? Have you had people who come towards you and who are like, I want to hire you, and I want you to save me? And the pressure starts to build, and you're like, oh, gosh, this not the right client.

The men, for sure. Yeah, that's the biggest one for me. And the. Yeah. I have had some of those clients, but I turn it around really quick. I. I feel like that one I can handle. Yeah.

Okay. But. So what's the men thing?

I don't know.

It's.

You know, I've had it for a long time, and I. Yeah.

Okay. So I'm gonna give you some really, like, racy coaching in this moment. Okay. Ready?

Yes.

So can you imagine, because you do this thing, and I've noticed that you do this where you revert into a very childlike energy as soon as you get very close to your power. I know. Okay. So when. What would happen if you didn't do that? What would you have to do when the power is in your body and you feel it and it's bubbling over. And it feels like you're just so attracted to yourself, you're going to explode. And instead of that, you do the little girl thing. What would you do instead if you held the power? How would you sit? How would you speak if you did not give yourself the right to do the cute thing? What would happen?

Oh, my God. Okay. Well, the images in my mind. Okay, that's where it all starts. I mean, honestly, I'm working on this right now. I'm like, seriously serious on the gym. And I, like. My body is like, rock solid. It's, like, gorgeous. It's voluptuous. It's like I'm wearing all the, like. Like, I don't know. I walk with this, like a strut.

And this.

My eyes, when I connect, it's like you're dead.

Like that. That's where.

That's where it goes. And it's also my hair. Like, it's. It's very much my physical attributes. And then it's also like, I. I just. When I can hold, like, I would see myself just holding it. Like, just holding and just navigating and actually very few words. I don't need many, many words.

So who are you afraid of hurting? As that person?

Yes. Well, Rob, for sure. 1. I think I is very, like. I think I attracted him into my life because I was that person. But I think I. I think it scares him, too. I think there's a bit of that.

Does it scare you?

Not anymore. It did a long time ago. I'm over that.

So if you were walking down the street, shredding all your stuff, walking like that, with the hair like that and the body like that and the things like that, and freaking Hercules walks down the street. Is there fear that you don't have the power to handle that magnetism?

No, I could handle it.

Okay, tell me more. So what else. Who else are you afraid you might hurt in that energy?

Oh, well, there is the fear.

Thank you. Good.

I'm glad you got. Doesn't taste the same unless you have it the way that.

Yeah.

In the glass.

Okay, tell me.

So I think. I think the other one would be. Okay. Okay, here it is. There's another piece. So when I am fully in my power.

Okay.

I can't believe this is coming up. It was that power, that person that, like. Like I was. My dad and I were in business at one point together, and I was. He was like, above me. And then I came in and I built his. His business. And he got, like, a certain override and that Kind of like, I basically, like, I took care of him. But the most important thing was that. Or the part that was really difficult was that I. I got all the attention, the accolades, and the like. Like, how are you doing this? Like, he. He would. He would ask me. He would question who I was and what I was doing as a woman. And like. And my dad would feel like.

You.

Didn'T love me for a while.

How old would you have been then?

Well, I was magnetic all the way through my life.

I was.

I was like everyone, like my whole family. Like, I dance in the room. I was just that girl. And then I became aware of it, like, I guess when I was in puberty, like 14 or so.

Yeah.

But there was a falling out in our family at that time, but it was actually later, so at that time I was in my. I was. I just came back from Denmark, so 30. I was 31.

And did you ever have a thing with your mom where you felt she was jealous about anything?

Yeah, she.

Yeah.

Yeah. I mean, I think I'm. I've always been the one that's kind of lived like. Like freely. She's always loved that part, but never allowed herself to do that. And my dad, a long time ago. My. My parents are great. We have great relationship, actually. But I didn't realize I'm carrying this still. But he, like, he cheated on my mom, and I wanted my mom to leave him. And I was like 13 or 14, and I was the one that held it together for her and for him. And. Yeah, I was kind of like. I was angry for a long time at her and at my dad, both of them for different reasons. And so. Yeah. So later on, that's kind of. That's. My mom has always looked at me like, how did these things happen to. To you, for you, like where. Where you know, everything.

Any.

I don't know, all the things actually, is all the big things. Anything in my life that I've done has always come through this place of magnetism and power. Yeah. And then there's always money too.

Yeah. So this is what I will have you work on and really spend time with yourself here because you are playing the game of keeping everybody else comfortable.

Yeah, I see that.

And it's not that it's bad thing. It's just you've got a vixen in there that is terrified of what her mom's gonna feel about it and terrified of what her dad's gonna say about it and terrified that her husband is gonna fear it. And then she just Ends up being this cute little instead of this smoking hot. And you've got it, You've got it. But you're so afraid people will stop loving you. And they won't. They're just going to be faced with what they feel about themselves. That's the polarity. They don't stop loving you. They just have to be faced with what they feel about themselves because of what you've become, which is a polarizing experience. But you can't have magnetism without that experience. So a lot of regulating your nervous system. You're okay when people are upset around you. You're okay when people make you responsible for something that has nothing to do with you. You. You're okay, you're okay, you're okay, you're okay, you're okay, you're okay, you're okay, you're okay. It's not yours to hold. It's not your job to make everybody comfortable. That's not part of the assignment.

No, that's right.

Because people on a wait list to be in Italy with you is what's supposed to happen. Not you wondering how you could get people to come because you love Italy. And oh, my God, if people could just come to Italy, like, it all be like, no, that is not how that this is supposed to feel. It's like, I'm going to Italy whose bags are already packed. Wait list. But that's on the other side of your money, sex, power, vixen energy. You might be vilified a little bit, but it won't be because you wanted to hurt people. It'll be because of how they feel about themselves when you don't protect them. That's their journey. And it's very difficult for us to ever become the power that we can be if we're not willing to let go of the need for everyone to like us. So there's a choice we need to make one day. And if you choose not to make that choice, you're still going to be okay. It just. You change your business model. You. You alter the way you're looking at things, or else it's just too big of a battle. Yeah. Yeah.

Thank you for bringing that out. And, you know.

Yeah.

This always happens when I'm with. When we have these moments. Yeah, it's. It's so deeply rooted, isn't it? When. When it's there and you're not even aware of it.

So this is why the people that are successful in the money or the sex or the power, when you watch them, you get so freaking Triggered is because they're doing something that deep down there's so many layers on why you won't let yourself do it. It, it feels like they've got to be a bad person because in order for you to let yourself be that level of free, how many people would be hurt by that? How many people have they hurt? That's how we justify getting triggered by people who do things because we're like, I, I know what I would have to do in order to do that. I would never do that. The self righteous. I've decided that their hurdles are my hurdles and that they just ditched everybody when I would never do that. Or, you know, I'm triggered because they must not be taking care of this in order to be like that. They must not have been taking care of that to be like that. They must have given up on this. That's the story we tell ourselves to pacify our dissatisfaction. It's got to be a little bit more zing, a little more fire, a little more me in the for me, for you, for us equation.

Okay, I have one more question then. So mine. I want to embody this energy and just. I already have it. Like you said, just allow myself to go there. So if I were to create an offer for my next offer, I've got a few that I've been thinking about.

But you're not there in the energy. I can already tell you, even if you tried to build the energy now, you'd build it in your head and it wouldn't happen. And then you'd be, you'd be trying to figure out how to fix the fact that it didn't sell. I would really just trust yourself. There are offers you're making right now that are working. They're an energetic match for the person you feel comfortable being. The first step is the embodiment of the woman that you see in your mind. Choosing her. Everything that you do. Choosing her. Yeah, everything. Because she's the one who knows the offer.

That's true.

You dream the offer. She knows the offer. You got to get into her body, you got to get into her psyche, you got to get into her magnetism. And then you'll know exactly what to do. But the first step is you can't be here trying to invent the thing where you're there. You gotta get, you gotta get yourself into yourself. Then everything will come together. So step one, you let go of the pleasing and you go into self actualization. And it'll. It happens fast, it doesn't take a long Time. And there's nothing evil about being a little bit of a villain. In this energy, you're not evil. You're just a little bit of a villain because. And it's not like you're a villain on purpose, it's just you're going to get vilified. People will say, how dare she? People will say. Few new people say whatever they've got to say in order to justify that. They're also not doing it. So if you can handle being a little bit of a villain in this era. Oh, sky isn't even the limit. Gotta work on that big hearted, badass villain hell energy like you, it you're not evil, you're just vilified. And you can handle that. Because if not, you've got to sugarcoat everything for it to not taste bitter. And that's just not fair. Okay. Okay.

Yeah, that's good. Yeah. Thanks. Thanks.

That was great. Love these conversations. I know, me too. Like, I'm already planning a villain move for my Thanksgiving tomorrow.

I love you.

Okay. Lindsay. Lindsay Perry. Hello. Hello.

Hi.

Hi.

Okay, so I have to share this off the bat. I came into your world through Resolution Revolution, and it was the first ever shop with me. And you talked about the buyer. This is in January. And I was like, I have to be in that room. It took me until, you know, two weeks ago to finally be able to sign up for it. But being in this room with each of you in the conversations, Melanie, I am unlocking on levels I never knew possible. I am like, let's go. I'm here. I'm making moves and it feels so good.

So thank you. Oh, my gosh, I'm so happy. It just.

It's so good. So one thing I've noticed is, and I'm hoping this kind of resonates with the group and Christy, I think it's a great follow up to your question is, you know, I. I'm feeling this in currency. I had this beautiful breakthrough when it comes to provider and magic money. And in my life, I had never been in a position where provider money was taken care of. I am married to the most incredible man, and I. I don't have to worry about provider money. It's taken care of. And I feel like I get to tap into the magic money for me, for him, for our families, for the world, for strangers. Like, and I'm getting to create this company based off of that energy and in that frequency. And I've mentioned it to my husband a couple times, and he's like, oh, yeah, I Love the magic money. But then he goes very much into his masculine mindset. And so I've been noticing that I'm getting a little triggered. And I'm really kind of diving deep into this experience, especially with the conversations in buyer, because I'm going and speaking with him, having some conversations. And yesterday I had a really cool opportunity present itself to be featured in an editorial magazine. I get or no, an editorial feature.

That's what it is.

But it's a global magazine and it costs money to be in it. And I came out and I was so excited and I was like, babe, I have this really cool opportunity.

Like, this is what it is.

And immediately he shut it down. And he was like, when are you going to stop spending money? Like, you're not seeing results. You need to be like, basically cold calling kind of thing. And I'm like, cold calling is not in my soul. Like, that's not how I resonate with people. I don't want to be sold to that way. And I'm not attracting that type of buyer. And so I went into our conversation yesterday and I tapped into like, that anything at any time, like, anybody can buy anything from me at any time. And that to me, feels like magic in my body. Like, I just can feel it. So I know I gave a lot of backstory, but I feel like it leads into the question of, like, what wisdom do you have to share? Like, I love my husband and he really is one of my biggest fans, but I don't agree with what he's saying. And I want to make these bold money moves. Like, I'm ready to join AFE and like, I'm ready to go. I know he doesn't support it, but I'm like, can I just trust, like, the money is coming, the aligned clients are coming. Like, it's the power of one and I just need to start moving.

But.

But how do you handle the triggers of, like, someone you love kind of coming at you with the negativity and not wanting to do. I don't want to do things his way.

Okay, so there's a couple of things. First of all, in the masculine, the energy is the provider energy. It's all about safety and it's all about making sure that you're making the right decision. So whether this is a man in his masculine, a person and they're masculine, a woman in her masculine doesn't matter. The masculine energy is the safe providing energy. And so the agreement you have with your husband is that he is the safe providing energy in the relationship. And so it would make no sense for him to be that energy and for him to also be able to get as giddy as you and be like, like, that's not his frequency in the relationship, that's your frequency in the relationship. So I think what's happening for him is there's a fear that his safety and his stability that he's trying to bring to the relationship doesn't matter right now. And it's not being honored and it's not being respected and it's. It's like almost like you need to be more like me instead of. I so respect and honor that you're this way. And I think that we're the perfect balance and we need to find a way that you continue to be level headed like this. And I get to be a little wild and nuts because the way I want to build things is very different. But I still need your poised intellect. Like in the way that I feel your energy, the thing that I think is the discrepancy is that in wanting him to see what you see, you're telling him he should see things differently. And in the way that he's trying to have you see what he sees, he's telling you you should see things differently. Instead of the both of you understanding that the reason your relationship works is because is this gorgeous balance of feminine, masculine energy. So the conversation I would have with him is like, I first want to tell you how freaking grateful I am that I've attracted someone like you as my life partner. Someone who is able to not easily be swayed by my shenanigans. Because it is very important that we have this balance. And my. My desire is that it always feels like when I come to sit with you, I know I can't sway you unless what I'm doing is excellent. It's so good for me to know that. Now I want to talk to you about something that's really lighting me up. And I want to tell you why I feel really connected to this and why I think it's going to be very good for me. And, and then we'll have a discussion about it. Are you open for that? And what I want you to know is you don't need to sell me out of it. You just need to tell me how you feel. You don't need to sell me out of it. Just tell me what you think and then I'll sit with it. If it's possible for you to not try to sell me out of it, just tell me how you think, what you Think and what you feel about it. And if you're not in the convincing energy and he's not in the convincing energy, you're going to find a middle ground. Because what you might find is when he's saying you haven't had the results to spend at this level, what he's saying is you want me to provide from what I've built for us in safety to spend on something that is unsafe. And it's me that created the money. So it's like, if you want to create magic money, go create it and then spend your magic money on magic things.

Things.

But as long as you're going to ask for safety money to make magic things, we're gonna have a problem. And there's. There is something to respect in that, because it's true that safety money is very hard to spend on magic. It was built for safety. He's not, he's not telling you that he's filled with magic money. That's not his goal. He loves that you want to do that. But I can tell you that if we fast forward five years down the line and you're making tons of magic money and he make. He presents you with this super cerebral plan for where to put your money and where to invest it for you guys to be safe forever, you're gonna be like, no. Like, this was magic money and it was not intended for you to safety it. Do not touch my magic money with your dirty, filthy little safety fingers. Go away. And he feels the same way. Right now with your magic money is like, get your grubby little magic money finger. My safe money. This is for us and it's for our future. And you do not get to do use it for this. So there's got to be a real connected conversation for you because he has created the safety money, not for it to be spent on magic. And there has to be respect for that. And so you guys have to come to an understanding of either. Where do you see the logic and where does it land? Like, a magazine feature is an incredible opportunity. And turning down a magazine feature is also a great story. You know, sometimes we think something is going to be the be all and end all for us, when in fact, until it matters, it doesn't matter. Like you, you can use the story. However, just the fact that you were invited already matters. I had. I turned it down because of these reasons. I said yes because of these reasons. I'm in this or I'm not in this. Like, you don't need any of it. It's all magic. So I think where he's fighting is that the frequency you're presenting him with is not magic frequency. You're speaking to him on a need frequency about something you want to buy in magic that was built in safety, money, energy. The whole thing is not going to work. So you either have to have a very logical reason why this money needs to be spent, or you need to make magic money to. To spend on your magic dreams. But if not, you need to have a healthy conversation with a lot of respect with your husband because you are asking him to do something that goes against why he built the money, and that is going to need a lot of respect for it for it to stick. Beautiful.

I mean, you. You nailed it. You're right. Because when I do go to him, it is from this place of excitement, from the magic. And I tell him all the time, like, Frank, thank you so much for like the life you've created for us. It makes me emotional how blessed I am and getting to do life with him. And. And then you're right, I'm having these conversations in a different frequency than the frequency that my husband's on of like, providing safety, loving me, like wanting me to have the greatest life and supporting my dreams within. Within the safety net. Right. And so that. Thank you, Melanie.

It is my pleasure. So we want to make magic money so that when it's time for us to spend magic, we can do it. And it's just magic money. And this is the thing, like, whether you're. What. It doesn't matter what your gender is. We all have masculine, feminine energy, but the feminine energy is the mystical, magical muse. It's the enchantress. It's the temptress. It's the one where you're like, I did not ask anybody for permission to buy this. That. That's the female magic money. It's the feminine magic, temptress, seductress energy of like, I can't, I can't. I couldn't not. And the masculine is the strong, safe, trusting. Everything's above board. You can trust in me energy. And if you don't have both, you lose yourself. That's why we need balance. We want to be a little bit feisty and sneaky and temptressy and magical. But. And we want to be strong and integral and ethical and. And truth youthful, because that's the balance that creates longevity. And that's where you feel proud of yourself and your success. If it's all in the temptress villain era, you get yourself in Trouble. And if it's all vanilla, it just gets boring. Eventually it's like, might as well get a job and be free on the weekends. If I'm gonna make this whole thing feel like a job, you've got to be able to say no, because no feels sexy. You've got to be able to say, I'm not available right now. You've got to be able to fire clients that you don't want to work with anymore. And in a fiery temptress way, you've got to be allowed to have those moments. You've also got to be able to make logical decisions to make sure your business survives. And so it's just really making sure when you have a partner that's exactly the opposite of you. Because polarity is all about balance, or magnetism. And polarity is all about balance. So you could be very balanced in your masculine and feminine and attract a partner that's very balanced in their masculine and feminine. Those discussions might be a little easier. It's like a figure 8 discussion. But when one is very much in the feminine and one is very much in the masculine, there's got to be an intense level of respect because it's the only way you make it through such a solid difference without trying to break one person down saying, if you saw it like me, it's like, if you saw it like me, our relationship would die because we'd be too much in the feminine. We'd go broke. If. If you saw it like me, thank freaking God you don't see it like me. It's the only reason we're surviving is that I see it like me and you see it like you and. And somehow we have a balance. So just remembering that along the journey, both are so valuable and so important. The masculine is necessary to. To survive in business and thrive in business, and the feminine is necessary. We've got to honor both. There's not one business on earth that survives in only one energy. Everything dies very fast if it doesn't have that loop to feed itself with constantly. Okay, I can take. Take one more question. Did we have someone else that had something? Jocelyn.

Thank you so much. This has been another mind blowing call. All the questions in the coaching, like, my brain's still trying to process everything. And I originally had a question about the breakthrough I had when I heard you speaking about that bank meeting about speaking from value. Because I'm still trying to wrap my brain around thinking that way. But then another question popped up through someone else's question. And that question is Right now I sold an invisible offer and I have five like dream clients in this invisible offer. I sold my Quantum Leap group coaching, which is 888 for six weeks as an invisible offer for 111. And it's amazing, but it's, it's basically the energy of my Transcendence Mastermind dream, which is the next level price up there. And my dream ultimate program is the Transcendence Mastermind program, which costs a lot more right now. I get to run it with these people and it feels amazing, but I don't know what the next step is to actually get it to the price point because right now it's not even at the price point at what I had sold. Would you recommend promoting the Transcendence Mastermind more or is this just a natural build that I need to go through, like when I'm selling my programs because I have Quantum Need Group Coaching, Transcendence Mastermind, and then I put one on one coaching there just to have that for if there is a dream, you know, dream client that does come through. But my goal is like the Transcendence Mastermind. That's what lights me up the most because I can go super deep with them. And the people that came in at the 111, I can go deep with them, but they, I don't think they're going to. I, I've told them they can use their credit to upgrade, but no one has. So I don't know where the next step would be.

So my, my intuition as I'm listening to you is there's a protection from being responsible for something. So is there something like some you're afraid people are going to spend on, on something with you and they're not going to get results? Like, is there something like that?

Yeah, that, that, I mean, that's kind of in the back of my mind. It's not as strong as it was before, but it definitely is a little bit there. And I think that's why when I listened to that responsibility program, I got a lot of physical triggers, like allergies and stuff came up because I had to work on it.

So what I would ask myself is who is the level of person and power you would have to speak to in order to not be afraid for them?

Well, yeah, I, I mean, I can envision all these people in there paying it because I would pay it.

Not paying. That's not what I'm asking.

Oh, okay.

What's the level of person that you would be able to serve through your program and you have no fear that they would get the results. Like you trust that they. This. There's no way it wouldn't help them because they're already that successful. They're already that powerful. You see them in a certain way where it would be honestly impossible for you to have any doubt that this wouldn't help them because they're already. It. It would just be a small tweak. Like, can you feel the energy of the person that you would have? No.

Fearful as me in my last. When I was at the top of my last career.

Okay. Do you believe you can attract people like that?

I'm working on it. I'm getting allergies.

Okay. Why wouldn't you. What would be the reason that someone like that wouldn't choose you right now? What's the first answer that comes to mind?

I guess that they don't see me. I have to find them still possibly.

Do you see.

That, May? Yeah, that I guess they don't. They don't see me yet, I guess.

Do you see you?

No, of course they don't. So I still have to do more of that work. And then eventually it will get there. Okay.

You'll often hear me say, I have no fear for you. I say this to my clients. I have no fear for you because I attracted you with the knowing that you could do this. I have never sold anything to a person I thought was incapable. You're not about to be the first.

Thank you.

So when you. When you are in your body and you know, like, I. I know who I've called in. I know who I'm calling in with my clients. These are not people who need my help or they're going to fall to their demise. These are like super incredible people. I remember being at the top of my game and I remember that help would have been really great at that point as well. And so I've got to see me at this level so that the people at that level can see me. Me. That's my job. On the day that I see me, they see me while I don't see me. Doesn't matter what I do. Doesn't matter what I say. The people who are the right people for me don't see me. And the only ones who do are the ones who need me. And I'm so afraid of be held responsible because they don't know how to do it. And I actually secretly fear that they don't know how to do it because the people I think would know how to do it. I don't think see me this is the loop.

Yes. 100 million percent.

Yeah.

Thank you so much.

Of course. Thank you for sharing that because this is really valuable for the entire group. And so I know there were other questions. I. I feel like I saw other ones, but I want to respect. I've got, like, a bunch of calls today, and I want to respect my energy, but this is something I want you to really take with you for the rest of the day. Today, people on the planet are all going through a journey. All of us, we're all going through a journey. And there's a. There's times where we feel so afraid that we're not good enough. And there's times where we feel overconfident that we're God's gift on Earth. And there's times where we make a mistake and we think we'll never recuperate. And there's times where we fear if we ever make a mistake, we'll never recuperate. All those things are very real experiences, and we have them all throughout our lifetime. In order to be the person that people choose to invest big amounts of money in, there's got to be a solid thing in us. There's a solidness that has to come in. If it's not there right now, that's not a problem forever. It's just a. It's just the moment you're in. And every time you surpass that hurdle, every time you go past that block, you become stronger and you take yourself to a whole other level every time. If there's something that's scary about that other level, you'll resist this level just a little bit longer, and that's also okay. But this is a journey of ascension, and if you can only imagine the fear of physical heights. I really believe human beings have the fear of emotion height. They have the fear of spiritual height. It's a real thing. You've got to regulate your ability to go higher because it feels like if you fall, it's going to hurt. The higher you go, the. The further the fall. That's a real thing. Physically, spiritually, emotionally. So you've got to know you're going to be okay. If you fall spiritually, you get stronger. If you fall emotionally, you get stronger. It's just that we attach the heights in emotionally and spiritually with the same heights, physical, and it's not the same. You can't die from emotional height or spiritual height. You just. You go through a storm and you become stronger every single time. So just trusting in your ability to heal and to bounce Back and to become stronger and to see this as a lifelong journey, because every conversation like this makes you go one foot, foot up more on the ladder. Yeah. Okay. The vertigo comes in. Yeah. It feels a little high. Yeah. But if you can get your mind around it, this is more responsibility. This is more power. This is scary. Can I hold this? These are the conversations that really take us to the next level. I was on a podcast yesterday, and the person asked me, what do you think was the difference? Why did you go from, you know, where you were to skyrocketing? What was the difference? What was. Was a skyrocket difference. And I realized the difference was I went from being a person who helped people to being the person that helps the people who help people. And that was a huge height in my energy. It was a lot more responsibility. There was a lot more energy to hold. There was a lot more expectation. There was a lot more. But because I was willing to hold it, I got catapulted into another dimension, and I was ready for it. It. So you. If you're saying, I'm ready for this big thing, you're gonna have tests. It's gonna be like, okay, let's strengthen you. You want to go walk on the roof. Let's make sure you can climb the freaking ladder. It's gonna be wobbly, but you want to walk on the roof. Let's climb the ladder. Every time you get that wobbly feeling, that vertigo feeling, that stress in your body, feeling where you want to walk back down, don't beat yourself up. It's normal. You're scared of heights, and you want to walk on the rock roof. Let's just be kind to each other, kind to ourselves. And just remember, this is a very interesting, energetic situation. Becoming rich, becoming successful, becoming wealthy, it's very misunderstood. You're going to need to find what that looks like for you. You might be a little sassier than you've let yourself be. You might be a little sexier than you've let yourself be. You might be a little tougher than you've let yourself be. You might be afraid of becoming that, that you might be resisting, that you might need to solidify your heart a little more as you let yourself be a little tougher. All of that is important, but we need to get to the point where you are entirely embodied in this. Not just that you have money, but that you are wealthy. Not just that you have power, but you are powerful. Not just that you have it, but that you are it. And that's where the challenge lies for longevity. You can have power for a weekend. That doesn't make you powerful. You can have money for a year. That doesn't make you rich. Everything I'm teaching is on the frequency of longevity. And for that, we need to become the people who. And that is an. It's an interesting journey. That's why a lot of the mindset stuff and the past and the stories and the what's hidden starts to bubble up. And if we don't like it, we shove it down. It takes longer, but you're allowed to do that too. So just notice what's coming up for you and share it in the group because we want to do more activations with you. We want to make sure that we. We're catching the frequencies that are coming through for you so we can help you ground them and move through them. So do the work, contemplate, see what comes up for you so we can create more groundedness and more work for you to work through emotionally as well as mentally, as well as spiritually. Thank you so much for being here. All of these questions were next level. This. This was a phenomenal session. Thank you all so, so much. I've loved every second of this. And I will see you so soon for the next module. Sam, It.