The Buyer 2023 - Opening Call

Sa Sam. Hello gorgeous human being and welcome to the Buyer program. This is such a huge conversation that I want to have with you. And I'm so excited about this round because Buyer is, this is only the second round ever of Buyer and the first time I ran it I was sick. And I've been looking forward to running this program again for so long. Like, this is a conversation that is so needed and I feel like for all the business owners that get an opportunity to take this program and to have this conversation, the future is very bright for the people who end up being your clients. Because this is not a conversation about being a good salesperson. It's the conversation about attracting world class buyers. And that is a, this is a big important conversation. And these are the kinds of conversations that I have when I'm having conversations with people of, in luxury brands. When I sit down and I get an opportunity to sit with people who are in charge of huge divisions of big companies where they need, they need the buyers that have all the money and that aren't just going to buy from one person. And it's got to be the person who walks into Tiffany's and purchases the biggest thing and walks right across the street Cartier and buys the other biggest thing. It's the person who can buy. And I want to have a conversation with you about this because you're a buyer and I want you to understand the power of that and what it really means. And we're going to build this program in two different ways. This is what I love about the buyer. You will feel more powerful with your money at the end of this program. You will feel differently about your own money at the end of this program. But the other thing is you will understand and respect the people that come into your world and decide to spend their money with you in a whole other way. So what we're going to be doing in this program, there's going to be like hybrid. It's going to be a creative process. And what I mean by this is there are pieces that I've said that I don't think I want to try to replicate. I want you to be able to hear them exactly as they were said. So, so there's going to be a couple of things where like maybe in the middle of a call like this, I play a segment, we listen to it together and we, and we go in about it. There's going to be opportunities for, for Q and A's. There's going to be a lot of connection in here. I want to personalize this for you. And I want to help you really get it. This is not just about information. It's about you getting the concepts. And one, something that's so important for me as, as a mentor, as a coach, doing the work that I do is that the clients that come into my world don't come into this program thinking Melanie and Layer knows everything there is to know about having a buyer. And so let me just learn. What I want instead is for you to say, I am building a world class enterprise. I have a business that, that really deserves to have the best of my understandings. And I'm choosing Melanie to study with in order to learn how to do this so that I can figure out what my method is. I believe in me. I believe in my way. I believe in my business. And, and this is the person I've chosen to walk with. This was your move. You're here because you chose to be here. You, you're here because your business matters. You're here because you are the buyer. And I want to really have you understand how powerful that is, that you are the buyer. So before I jump in, I just want to have a look at all of us and see who I have on camera with me. IPhone with big shades. Hello. Is in the house. Mariana is here. Christy. Oh my gosh. Happy to see you. Samantha, Sandra. Claudia with a big smile. I love it. Jacqueline is with us in the house. Andrew, so good to see you. Valerie, back with Valerie. Tanya, Caitlyn. Hello. Jules, so good to see you. Natalie, Priscilla. Hi. Hi. Dana, Anna. Hello. Manira is here. Lisa is here. And then we have so many people that are not on camera but that are here. Catherine was with me before. She's back here again. We've got Kristen in the house. So happy to see you. Jasmine is here. Such good people. Hello to everyone who is here. Hang on. I just got a message from something Alpha Femme team says buddy he signed up for another year of alumni. Oh my gosh. This is amazing. I'm so excited. Excited. So true. Hello, everyone. Hello, everyone. I missed everyone. This is already a vibe. It's. It's Lindsay with the iPhone. Hi, Lindsay. Okay, okay, okay. So good to see you all. So let's, let's kind of dive into this. Just to give you the an idea, I've decided to do the buyer a little differently. Where this is not module one. This is the opening call and I think it's important for us to have opening calls. I'm going to start bringing that back into Alpha Femme programs. I always Used to have that. And then for some reason, I don't know why, they kind of stopped happening. But I think the opening call is important because it's where I can talk to you about the intention and the vibe without cutting into the material. And it's good to have these conversations. So one thing that is quite important for you to know just as navigation purposes for this group, all the replays are always available immediately because of the live streaming in the group on Facebook. But if you want to watch them on YouTube, you go to the guide section. There's going to be workbooks. There's going to be all kinds of good stuff happening in there as well. That's all in the guide section. You can use the timeline as much as you want. You can post your breakthroughs. You can post all the things. There's going to be Q and A threads. So if you have a question, wait till the Q and A thread, take notes of things, put them on the threads. If you're posting in the group and you're not getting an answer from me or from the team, it's because the group is more for you to be utilizing the program than specifically asking questions. But that doesn't mean don't. If you have a question, there's something burning and you want to post it, post it. I might see it, Jack might see it, someone on the team might see it, and it might change the and alter the program. So just no pressure. You can post your questions during the program. Just don't put too much pressure on getting an answer right away. Just trust the process is what I'm asking. Okay, so let's have a quick conversation about why the buyer is such an important conversation and why I want to empower you as a buyer. This is a conversation I was actually having in my Unity mastermind this morning. I think it's so perfect for what we're. What we're going into. Having money is powerful. Spending money is a choice based on your power. Where a lot of people get lost is they buy. Thinking buying makes them powerful. It doesn't. The fact that you have the money to buy makes you powerful. You're just as powerful when you say no. And this is something, I think a lot of people end up overspending when they're making a lot of money because they forget that you are as powerful when you say no as you are when you say yes. Because it's the fact that you had the money to say yes or no to in the first place that makes you powerful, not the fact that you say yes. This is a exponential wealth conversation, but I want to bring a segment of it into this because I think it's going to help us deeper this program, deepen this program. When I didn't have any money, I always imagined that there would become a moment where I would be able to say yes to everything. Has anyone else ever had that thought? Like when I, when I'm rich, I'm so excited to be wealthy, so I never have to say no to anything ever again, right? So I had that thought. When I'm going to have all the money that I want, I won't have to. I won't have to choose. You still have to choose. You can have anything, but you can't have everything. Even the richest person on the planet could save world hunger or could build a space rocket to Mars and build a new community, but not both. You always have to choose. Understanding the power of choice makes you powerful. Having the money in the first place and then choosing where you put it and even keeping it still makes you powerful. And so for a lot of people, they, they misinterpret that, and they see it like the power is in the spending, but it isn't. The power is in having the money to spend in the first place. The spending comes from pleasure, desire, freedom, peace, whatever it is that feels right or correct in your body. Because you could have the money to spend and feel guilted into buying, pressured into buying, scared into buying. And all those things would. Would discredit your power entirely if you have the money to buy. But it's a lack of power that makes you spend, you will actually feel misaligned in your purchase. And so when I talk about attracting buyers, the right buyers is because I honor the buying process, which means you did not feel like you had to buy this. You did not feel pushed to buy this. You bought it because you made the decision that it was correct for you. And only when you've attracted someone that purchased that way did you attract a buyer. If not, what you did is you sold. Now, being a person who can sell means that you have the power to make a person give you their money. That is a different skill than being the kind of person who attracts buyers who have the power to have all the money they want and they choose to spend it with you. Those are different powers. And I realized quite early on my journey that I didn't really care about having the power of being a good salesperson. I didn't value my ability to make a person part with their money. So I had more of it. I did not value that as a skill. What I valued as a skill is being the person that the people with money choose to, from an empowered place spend their money with. That made me feel like we were onto something. And so what I want you to sit with in this is two thoughts. First of all, when there's money in my account, I'm powerful. Spending it doesn't make me more powerful. Spending it is the thing I do out of joy, alignment, purpose, desire. There's an energy of spending that's like I spend this because I want to better my business, not because it makes me feel powerful to spend, just because I want to better my business. I buy this because I value my sense of style and it's going to make me happy, not because I want to look good enough when. And I don't want to say no, because I've got money in my bank account and if I don't buy it, it'll look like I'm broke and I don't want to look broke. So I'm going to say yes. So I look like I have the money. A lot of us do that, especially in high powered environments. Like I've, I've been to, you know, fashion stores or whatever when they're piling the things up. And as soon as it feels like I can buy two things, I could buy seven and I can feel that energy of like, oh, this person can buy. But the minute it starts to turn into pressure, I don't buy. And I've trained myself to do that. I do not buy if I feel pressured. I buy when I feel happy, I buy when I feel aligned. And in that I say every dollar I spend from a place of alignment makes me richer. And so if I feel every dollar I spend from a place of alignment makes me richer and I only align. I only let myself believe that the clients that come into my world are the clients that are buying for themselves. Then I believe that every penny they spend from a place of alignment makes them richer. In which case every dollar that came come into my business is a dollar that represents money multiplying in your life. I can get behind that. There is no more guilt in selling, there's no more guilt in receiving money. There's no more pressure, there's no more any of it. Because I'm very aware of the energetics where the money is being received. And that's ultimately what I'd love for you to have in your business is that every dollar that comes through doesn't come in with Any kind of stress or guilt when we think about money coming in, one of the biggest blocks is that we then feel like we owe people something. Like, now I've got to work hard. Now I've got to really be good enough. Now I've got to show up now there's a lot of pressure on me. And it actually stops a lot of people from receiving money and receiving buyers because they're all about receiving the money, but they're. They're afraid that they're not going to nail the delivery. And so if you've ever had a feeling in your body, like, if too many people buy from me, I'm going to be overwhelmed in my life, and I might not have the life that I want. If you've ever had that fear or block, raise your hand. This is one of the big ways people block their money. It's like if I. If I push and I sell and I let these people now feel like, okay, fine, you got me, I bought it. I've got to nail this now. There's a totally different level of pressure than the person who said, I just know you're the one. I know this is the thing I need. I know this is the trip I'm supposed to go on. I know I want this jacket. I want it. I buy this, I choose this. I want this. And so when you attract those kinds of buyers, there's a different energy, which is the, let's find out why we're here together. Let's make this exactly what you needed. Let's make this exactly what you wanted from a very calm, relaxed, I got you kind of place. No matter what you're selling, whether it's in the hotel industry, you know, you. It's so different. You run an ad that's like the best hotel stay of your life. If you come here, you'll never stay anywhere again. And then the clients show up. What if you have a busy weekend and your hotel's fully booked and the promise on the sales page was that they would have the most personalized service ever? There's fear. But what if people choose and you just happen to have a busy weekend and you just choose to have the enjoyment of having a full hotel because everyone chose to be there on their own, their own choice. Now you get to have fun. You get to say you came here during a hopping time. Everybody gets to have pleasure in over delivering, which is so different than pressure in over delivering. Having the right buyer means you can actually give your best. That's what I realized. Have you ever had the experience of someone buying something from you, and in the moment you received their money, you felt less free. Even though you were grateful for the money, you immediately started feeling like you had to fix something, change something, work harder, check in on them, that you could almost feel the fear in them or the dissatisfaction before you even started. And the pressure started from the beginning. So what I want to empower you with is having the kind of buyers that come into your world that really just wanted to buy the thing. They had the money to buy it. They were empowered with the money in their account. They desired the thing you were buying that you were selling. They bought it from a place of desire and now they're there without this pressure of you got me here. You better make sure it's everything you said it would be now. Instead, you get the freedom to over to become creative and to do more than anybody thought could possibly happen. And that's when the best things happen. Any purchase I've ever made in my life, where it all came from, my freedom and it all came from my enjoyment, incredible purchases, all the ones I've ever made from someone telling me I should or pushing me to, I regretted every single time. And what would it look like if we decide to make our businesses the place where people cannot regret a purchase because it was their choice and they choose for themselves because they know what's right for them without us pushing, without us prodding, without us making it a thing. So this program is going to bring up some stuff I want to tell you from the beginning. You may have moments of guilt or shame during this program if you realize you've ever been pushy and salesy and it's going to feel a little crappy, but that's okay because that stuff has to come up for you to realize what you want. Instead, Jacqueline is here with us right now. And Jacqueline's going to be running amazing activations throughout the program to make sure that any guilt, shame, pain, fear gets dissipated from your body as you're going forward. Because this is a double kind of experience. It's in the mind, but it's in the body. Sometimes you can override your thoughts, you can think positive, but when you sit with how it feels, there's an anxiety in your body that you just can't shake. It's because there's a bot. It's stuck in your nervous system. And I think that selling is one of the things that triggers nervous system stuff more than anything because there's the fear of not being chosen, the fear of not Being good enough, the fear of being responsible, like some of our worst things that we don't want to feel are all attached to the selling part. So we're going to be working through some of that stuff energetically as well. Every time something comes up for Jack and she's like, okay, I get a vibe, she'll. She'll schedule something in the group. So be vocal about how you're feeling and share with us what you're processing through, because that's going to help us figure out what you need to add inside of the program. My intention for this round of buyer is to customize the experience so that you get the breakthrough you came for. There is a breakthrough in every program. You can have tons of them, but there's one that you're meant to have here. I want you to get that one. And so if you lean in with what you're feeling, don't worry about being high vibe, don't worry about being positive. Don't worry about being the star of the show. Don't worry about any of that. You want to celebrate? Celebrate. You're stuck. You're stuck. Let's get you the transformation you came for. That's the most important thing. Let's get you the clarity you came for for. Let's get you the salt, the solidity you came for. Let's get you the vision you came for, because that's really the big picture now. Why is it so important for us to honor the buying process is because the people that come into our lives that already feel respected are the best clients that you will ever have. When you come into my world and you know that I respect you as a buyer, our relationship can start much faster, much sooner, much easier, because you're not trying to prove to me that you're worthy of being in the room. And this will happen sometimes. If you find a powerful person who has the money, but you get them to come in, their feeling of having been gotten comes into the container with. With them. Whether they bought jewelry, whether they bought a trip, whether they upgraded to the presidential suite in the hotel, whether they bought the expensive bottle of champagne at the restaurant, whatever it is, if they bought it from a place of being had, it's going to create this need to prove that they don't need you. And in that moment, the relationship becomes very, very hard to cultivate. Whereas when you choose your buying experience, and I'm grateful that you chose it, we're on equal playing fields, equal power, but different. My power is I supply what you need and Your power is you're able to purchase it for yourself. But if I had the power to bring you in and the money has been transferred to me, it feels like I have all the power and you have none. And this is where a lot of the power struggle dynamics come in, where it's like, I want to feel empowered with my money, and all of a sudden I've spent this money and I feel disempowered. How did that happen? So as a buyer, have you ever had that experience? You had money in your account, you felt powerful. The opportunity to buy was there. You felt powerful, and then after you bought, somehow you felt disempowered. Like, where did my power go? It went with the money. So it's so important that when we make our decisions to purchase things, we understand that it's our choice, and it doesn't make us powerful to buy. We were back. We were powerful because we had the money in the first place. There is no power in buying. There's power in having the money to buy or not to buy. Then there's choice. And when you choose to be here, we're equal power. If you try to. If you try to buy in order to have power, you come in here trying to make me feel like I. I have to do something for you. And I'm sure you've maybe experienced that with clients as well. They pay you, and then they act as if they own you there. The power isn't in the buying. The power is in having the money to buy in the first place. And there's great power in having the money to buy and not buying. This is a paradigm shift within itself. Money, sex, and power. Some of the biggest things that rule the world. Money, sex, and power. When you're feeling sexual, sensual, when you're in the vibes in yourself, you're feeling yourself totally. And a person comes in and tries to flirt with you, and you're in your power. You can receive their flirting, and you can say, of course you think I'm hot. Doesn't everybody else? But I'm married. Thank you. I'm flattered, but no, you don't feel. What did I put out there? Let me hide. Oh, no, I'm so sorry. I'm not gonna look at you. Not when you're in your power. When your power, you're like, of course I'm awesome. Thank you. Appreciate you. But no. It's the same thing with money. You can say, of course you want to sell to me. Of course you want the money that I have. But you're not my person. Thank you, though. It's that same power and confidence. How many women have and. And men have gone too far beyond what they wanted with their body because they felt, well, I invited the energy this far. I had no choice. I'd already gotten that far. Couldn't not. I'd flirted a little, I'd shown a little, I'd done a little. So it's my fault. So I kind of had to. People do that with money as well. Well, I'd browsed, I'd tried it on, I'd spent a lot of time there. Felt like I kind of had to. No, you didn't. It's your power. It's your money, it's your power, it's your body, it's yours. You decide what you do with it. Always. It's as much power for you to spend it as a person. For you. It's as much power for you to spend it as it is to not. Unless you attach that the power is in the spending. And that's when you end up seeing all the money go down, down, down, down, down. If you've ever experienced it in your life that the more money you make, the more money you spend, we're going to talk more about that in exponential wealth, but it often comes from that. I don't understand the power in having the money. I only understand the power in spending the money. And so the more money I have, the more money I spend because I've attached the power to the spending of it, not of the having of it. So these are two very important conversations, and they're different conversations. Exponential wealth is about having money. The buyer is about spending money and it's about receiving money. It's not just the having of it. Because just because you make a lot of money and because you spend a lot of money does not mean you're wealthy if you're just the conduit where the money passes through. You receive money and you spend money, but you don't have money. These are different things. So the one thing we're really going to focus on during the buyer is the receiving of money and the spending of money because they are two very unique frequencies and they work better and more sustainably over time when you're completely empowered in the entire process. So one of the first things I want you to do, we're going to have some pre work. So today is the opening of the group and I want you to contemplate this conversation a little bit. I'm going to. I'm Going to drop some pre work on tomorrow morning and on Sunday morning as well for you to do before we open the module 1. But the pre work that goes with this module is this. I want you to contemplate how you feel when there's money in your account and there's something that you want. What's the actual feeling of that? There's money in my bank account right now and I want something. How do I feel? Then I want you to contemplate there's no money in my bank account and I want something. How do I feel? I want you to contemplate this for a long time. As much as you can have these conversations, have this be thoughts in your head, talk about your about it with your friends, your partner. But at a first glance, I'd love your intuition. Do you notice that it was a very similar feeling in those two things? I have the money and I want something. I don't have the money and I want something actually doesn't feel that far away. And so how interesting is it that a lot of us think, more money, I have, more safe, I'll feel. And I'll feel like I can buy whatever I want. That's not true. That's not true. So what we want to do is become the people who buy things not because we. Not just because we want them, but because they're correct for us. And that requires power. And it requires the same power as it does with intimacy. Because there's a difference between saying, I want that person and that would be good for me to go for that. When you're married and you see a very attractive person, you might still feel like, wow, I have a bite of that. But is it good for you to do that? No. Sometimes you have the money and you say, I'd have that, but is it good for me? No. Money is one of the number one things we do not consider the way we consume. And then when there's something that's actually correct for us, that would actually do something right, good and good for us, we don't have the money for that. That's when all the guilt and the shame comes pouring in. Because you tend to not have the guilt and the shame for the pair of shoes you decide not to buy. But when there's something that you need, let's say your pipe breaks in your house and you can't buy it, then that's when the guilt and the shame comes in. So what we want to navigate here is the understanding of spending and buying, the understanding of choosing, understanding of Having money and of spending money, these are all different dynamics. And what I found with my clients over time is that they're not considering that when they're thinking of doing money work, they just think of money as one only currency, and it isn't. It's multiple different currencies. The currency of having money and spending it, Having money and not spending it. Having some, but not enough to spend on the thing that you want. Having someone feeling like you're new to give it away, Having someone feeling too responsible for everybody, so you might as well spend it before somebody needs it and somebody wants it. It's the feeling of, if I don't spend, how can I ask other people to spend? It's the feeling of, I spend so much, why doesn't anybody spend on me? It's the feeling of all these feelings all tangled, all messed up that creates our money paradigms and our buying paradigms. So the first thing to really contemplate here is, can I, can I respect that the power is actually in the having of the money. And so when a client comes into my world, when a customer comes into my store, they are not considered powerful because they bought. They're powerful because they've got money in their bank. Whether they decide to buy it with me or not has nothing to do with their power. I feel like this is something that the Internet misunderstands a lot. And it's constantly spending to show power. I bought this because I'm powerful. And so a lot of validation, immediate validation is happening through the spending. When you honor people's power, people and their power, when you understand I honor people and their power, I understand I honor people and their money. That means the minute they decide to spend it with you, it is an honor and a privilege and a joy and a gratitude, and you're in for a lot of fun. I've had so many people ask me, how is it that you still get excited now when people join your stuff after all this time? Do you really celebrate for real? Like you really actually are happy when this happens? I'm like, yes, because this is a powerful person who saw the power in me and who said, this is where I'm spending my money. I get to feel that because of the way I set up my shop. If not, it feels like fishing. I got one, and a lot of the Internet sounds like that. Did you close your leads? Do you have a good closer? Do you sell? And it's not that this is wrong, and I don't want to speak against it. I just want you to know that's not what this program is about. It's not going to be about you being able to get people to buy things. It's going to be about you attracting people with so much power and you feeling so powerful within yourself and attracting people who. Who pay for things and who buy because it's. It's up to them to do that, and it's their decision. So I would love to open the microphone for a minute and ask, who here has ever had an experience of buying something where you just felt so good, so happy, so proud of your purchase? Like, I. This is my favorite buying experience. Who has something like that? Okay, I'm going to bring Lisa up first. Hello. Hello.

Well, I mean, of course it's going to be buying from you. Let's be honest. But I can. But I can say that repeatedly because every decision I've made buying from you came from. I know this was right for me.

And.

And I've had so many experiences over different years thinking that and looking at other places I could choose to spend my money. And when I very first started with you, I did purchase from someone else, looking for a system like the pieces I thought I needed. And the difference that buying experience and spending my money there and the way I felt after I did that and knowing it was so wrong and the feelings I had before buying that reassured me in all the purchases I had with you. And I've enjoyed the different ways of buying from you, too. Like buying femme fatale when I didn't know that was what I really needed. Buying exponential wealth when I knew that was what I needed. How they both were ultimately perfect for me. And then going into AF repeatedly because I know there's something there for me. So it was the not knowing, but feeling the knowing and the feeling the knowing and enjoying every single. Without fail. I left my job in July of 2020, walked away from working completely. And the day I quit, the first thing I did was I turned around and I thought, I'm not going to work for a year. I need to renew AFE because for me, I knew that was where I needed my mind to be. So if I was going to spend anything before I was going to save, it was going to be, I'm staying in AFE this year while I figure out what I want to do next. And it's been. And then I got to buy the channel, which was a totally different buying experience. So it's been. I've loved the trust in my body and the joy of spending, but I even knew early on, when I barely knew you, it was that I have the money to buy and where do I want to place it? And it was so aligned to buy from you.

Okay, so I want to use this as an example because I really do think this is. This is even better than I could have ever hoped for. So in this experience, can you feel the power in Lisa? Like, can you feel her strength in that? Like, I don't feel I have any part of that decision being like, you know, you really told me that I would do this, and you really said to me, and you really, it was like, I bought this because I needed this. I bought this because of this. I bought this because of this. How. How many years have you been in. In my world now?

Since the very end of 2017.

Yeah. Okay, so like five years plus. So five years. This is what happens when a buyer makes all their own decisions.

A hundred percent.

Yeah.

That feels solid. And here's the thing there. This is the kind of. This is the kind of person. Because the solidity, the. The solidness of you in these conversations are the thing I really wanted to showcase because I knew you would be solid. I just didn't know what you were going to say. But this. The solid feeling of this is what I needed. This is what I wanted, and so I purchased it. Can you feel for the group here? Can you feel that buying was not something she did in order to feel powerful? Powerful was how she already felt, which made the buying experience correct. And the other thing, what she said is I was needing the systems. I was looking for the now she bought something she thought she needed. Buying experience was different. Are you starting to see why I sell the way I sell? I care more about the type of buyer I have than how many buyers I have. Because. And I. I will tell you this. For me, my company reputation and longevity matters more than anything else. And what. What messes my company reputation and longevity is the buyer. If the wrong buyer comes in, their experience is not what it was intended to be. That's my problem because not everyone will be. Will be happy with your purchase or with their experience, whether it's a product or a service. But bringing in the wrong buyers just to get paid is the worst thing you could possibly do. Getting in the right buyers, that. That's a good move for years and years and years. So thank you so much for sharing that. Okay, let's have. Kristi Christie also raised her hand. So tell me about an experience where when you bought this, you were like, okay, I am so happy with this purchase.

Okay, well, three come to mind. One, I bought a vehicle out of nowhere. I was testing them. I knew I wanted one. I didn't know what I wanted until I sat in it and I drove it. And I knew right at that moment I wanted it. And that was just like. That was it. Like, I. I'd already had that feeling beforehand. The second time was I woke up, I knew I wanted an investment. I wanted another house. And so I. It came up on the market. It was just happened to be. And I called my dad to come and join me. I said, just come check it out with me.

Okay.

My husband at the time was, like, sleeping in the basement. He's like, no, just go ahead. He'd worked a night shift. He's like, yeah, just tell me what you think of it. After I was the. Actually, I was the one that bought it. I bought it there on the spot. And I knew in my whole body that I needed that home. So it was like it would. Had all the things. I knew what I wanted. I knew I wanted to buy something. I knew I needed an investment or. Or wanted an investment. And I knew I was ready to make this purchase. And then the other times were both with you where I had made Matrix. Well, afe, I knew already I was wanting a certain type. I was looking specifically for a mentor. And I didn't know yet enough about you. I just knew I needed to learn all the different things that you knew about it. And so that was afe. But then I wanted close proximity, so I went into matrix. And each time it was like. And then continuum. So each time it was like, I knew already in my body that I. This was something that I desired. It was something that I was prepared to make the investment. I had the money. It was like, you were the fit. You are the right one for me. And I wanted to just continue this process. So all of those were kind of like, I already. Yeah, I already knew.

Mm. So this is brilliant. Let's take the example of the car, because I feel like this is such a cool thing.

Yeah.

There's a difference between. You need a car.

Yeah.

You go to the car dealership, they try to show you a bunch of cars. You know, you've got to pick one. They're pushing one that's a little above your budget. They maybe don't have the right color that you want. The whole thing's not really feeling right. But you feel guilty because you've been in the car dealership for a while now, and they've shown You a bunch of cars and you feel like you can't leave without one. You know you have the money, they know you have the money. You've told them you need a car, they know you need it, they know you have the money. They're not letting you leave without a car. You feel so guilty, you end up buying a car. Can't tell you how often I've heard these stories in my life. How different is that? So I knew I wanted a car, so I went and I tested them out. That's the power that makes it that the car salesman has no power. When you're like, I know I want a car. I just don't know which one. Now you're a match for service.

I have another piece of that that's kind of like you could tell me why. But there was. Okay, so it was a specific car. They got it. It was like an exclusive kind of model. Like it. I knew that going into it is probably the reason I wanted to go and test drive it. What I didn't realize is that when I came back, there was like three other dudes kind of standing there waiting to test drive my car that I already claimed in my body that it was already mine. And I was like, in the moment needed to decide. And I, in that moment decided no one else was driving my car. And it was.

I don't know if it was like.

This whole thing that I was like, no one else is going to have that car. It's my car. And maybe that's what pushed me at that in that very moment. I may have tested out a few others, but actually it fit all. It fit the bill at that time, and it was just like the right fit for me. So that was kind of playing into.

It a little bit. What I have found is when I ever have a program or an opportunity where I put closed spots, I put those spots there because there's one of the things, like, I don't believe in scarcity, like in saying, let's limit this just to get people to buy. But I do believe that when there actually is scarcity, it's good to tell people. For example, if I'm opening a Mastermind and there's 20 spots in it, there's 20 spots in it. Because if I put a hundred people in it, it's no longer the same kind of proximity. It's. It changes the vibe of the mastermind. So I'm going to tell you there's 20 spots. Not to scare you. I'm going to tell you there's 20 spots. Because there's 20 spots. And when I tell people that, it tends to help them know whether it's right for them or not. Faster. It's not a pressure because it's not a lie. The pressure comes with the lie. This is what I found, so I'm going to give you an example of this. They say when you don't know what to do, flip a coin. And while it's in the air, you'll know what you want it to be. So if I'm like, do I want to go? Do I want to go to Thailand, or do I want to go to Bali? Okay, heads or tails? Okay. One, two, three. Or do I want to go to Thailand? Do I want to go to Paris? Heads. Thailand. Tails. Paris. I flip the coin, and all of a sudden I'm like, tails, tails. No. Well, I don't need to go to the place I don't want to go to. At least I just know where I want to go. There's that feeling when. When it's crunch time, it's now or never. One, two, three, go. When that's a healthy thing, when there's nothing to lose and everything to gain. Sometimes you realize, what is it that I really want? Because it's now or never. And so I was actually talking about this. Where was I talking about this? I think I was talking about this in my Matrix mastermind. Actually, I was talking about in anything in life. I love the feminine energy. And the feminine comes from a lot of inspiration. And so what that looks like is what Christie shared. Like, one morning, she woke up, she realized, I want another investment property. I want. I just want one that is one of those feminine hits. Like, it's not that I saw this house, and I've. I now want it because I've seen it. It's like I woke up and I realized, I want this. I'm gonna go find it. And so that's feminine energetics, and that's my favorite way. But then people will say things like, what if the inspiration doesn't come and you actually have to do something like creating a program, selling a program, doing something in your business that you've got to do in the feminine hit. Doesn't happen. And what I explained in my mastermind is that what I do is I will give myself until the very last second, because at the very last second, if it really matters to me, something will come over me, and it will be like, it is non negotiable that I need to make this happen. And my best yeses in my life have either happened because it was totally feminine intuition or because it was now or never and I realized it was now. And my favorite no's that I've ever had have been the ones where it was just like, I can't explain why, I'm just not feeling it. Or we got to the finish line and it was now or never, and I chose never. So if I know those are my favorite yeses and my favorite no's, why would I give anybody any other kind of opportunity when it comes to buying? Trust your intuition. And then at the finish line, we'll. We'll do a cutoff. And then I'm. I'm. I'm creating the same energetics that I buy from. So what could have disrupted the buying experience in both ways is if. When. When you arrived at the car dealership and you said, I'm looking to buy a car, and they said to you, okay, well, we have this one, but there's only one left. And if you don't buy it, someone else will test drive it right away. And they tried to push the fear on you. You would have been like, I don't. I don't like that. But because you tested it, you loved it, you enjoyed it, it felt like your car and the universe put people on the path for you to say, do I really want this? It was like, yes, yes, yes. Done.

Yeah.

This is the beauty in the feminine energy. And it doesn't matter whether. Because I know there's men in this program also, it doesn't matter whether you're a man or a woman. To be in feminine energy. One is, I receive the purchase of this. If you look at the way Christy just described this, it was like I woke up one day and I wanted a property. It's like I received the desire to buy this property. I. I wanted a mentor. I didn't know who, and I didn't even know what, but I received the sign. Let's do afe. Let's give that a shot. I wanted a car. I went to the dealership. I received the sale of the correct vehicle. That's what it feels like when it's right for you. It's. You received the opportunity. You received it. Same thing with Lisa. I. I, femme fatale is like, that's what I'm receiving that this is what I want to buy. I'm receiving that this is what I want to buy. It feels so different than I feel like I should. I need it. I'm afraid if I don't have it, I'm in trouble if I don't have it. I'm going to fail if I don't have it. And so unfortunately, when you're looking at a lot of the sales tactics out there, they're not. They're not built in order to attract buyers who are already manifesting you. They're created to sell a person who didn't need anything that you were offering until you made them feel like if they didn't buy it, they were not worthy, not good enough, or they were going to struggle forever. And that really is the two angles of money. There's the places where you go because you desire it and it. It's fully desire. And there's another place you go because there's fear and there's lack and there's guilt and there's shame and there's pressure. And unfortunately they both work. That sucks. But it's the same thing in relationships. So there is a trend among. Among men, or there. There has been for a while that there's like two very distinct ways that men are taught to flirt. The first way is you are a gentleman. You be solid and loyal and strong and honest, and you tap into your feelings and you learn to be the man. And the other way is insult her a little and flirt with her best friend. And they both work. I don't know how, but I can tell you that there is a difference. Both men get laid, but one ends up laying next to a woman who's proud of herself, and the other one ends up laying next to a woman who's ashamed of herself. And that's the decision we really need to make in our businesses. Do our buyers buy from us and walk out the door proud of their power? Or do they buy from us with their tail between their legs, feeling that they got sold? And that is a decision I made very long ago that my buyers are so freaking proud of their power that they know they could say no. And I won't be mad at them that they can leave and they can come back and I won't be mad at them that they can take time to figure it out and I won't be mad with them. Like, there is no if you don't buy from me, you're not my person, you're not my friend. I cut you out. There is none of that. Although when people are conditioned to buy that way, sometimes they fear that that will happen. They'll say, I'm afraid if I don't buy from you, you're going to cut me out. And so I'm Going to buy out of guilt, even though you didn't make me. And now I feel guilty, and I don't know why that is. Instead of, I choose this because it's the best thing for me. My desire is always the buyers that buy from me buy because it's the best thing for them. That's why they buy. And the only way to do that is to come from the squeakiest clean place that you could ever come from. Okay, I'd love to take one more share. Who else has had an experience of buying that was like, this was amazing in my life. I'll never forget. This was such a good one. Samantha, you're doing a happy dance. It must be good. Oh, hang on. Okay, one. Hi.

So for me, it was really interesting. I love the conversation because I feel like it's unlocking where in my life I am the buyer. And then also where in my life.

It'S harder for me.

And for me over the past decade, where I have been the buyer through and through has always been through travel or experiences. And it's just this feeling that I have in my body, this intuitive insight, like something that just drives me and it doesn't even matter. It's like when I know, I know, and I take the leap. I go by myself, I go around the world. I'll do what I have to do. And even if I don't get the insight or the wisdom through that experience in the moment, I have so much trust in that type of purchasing experience that regardless, it could be months, if not years later, I know it was meant to be. So I'm like a through and through, like buyer during that type of travel experience. But then there's other areas of my life where I'm like, wait a second, it's a little bit more cringy and it's harder for me to access that unlock.

So you know what I loved about.

This conversation and really listening to the other woman too, I experienced it through real estate as well. Real estate purchases. Like, anytime I bought, it's been from that place. Yet there's other moments where it's like, wait, why is it easier to unlock here? And why does it feel like a bit tougher, a little bit cringier in other place? It's almost like a continuum of my power where I am and making those decisions.

Okay, so first of all, I feel the power as you describe this. So can you guys feel the clarity when she's talking about the travel, buying the travel? You're the person I wish would walk into my Travel agent office and sit in front of me because I know you're gonna buy and I know I'm not gonna have to guilt you into anything. And you're just gonna be like, show me what you got. I'll choose what I want. I have no fear that I could overpower you. I have no fear about any. Anything that's not correct. Like, I'm not afraid of anything. You're powerful. We can hold a conversation and I can get excited with you and I can say, okay, here's what I've got. Oh, my gosh, this place is to die for. And then you can pick something and then at the end, I know you're going to walk out like, oh, I'm so happy. And I'm going to be like, can't wait to see your travel pictures. This is a squeaky clean buying experience. You don't come in afraid of me that I'm going to sell you something you don't need to buy. And I'm not afraid of you that I am going to have to either manipulate you or get you to buy something because I see and feel your power. So why this is so important in the context of having clients, can you imagine what your business might be like? And this is another really important contemplation for this program. What will your business be like if you felt when you were sitting across from a client or when someone was in your inbox on social media, if you felt from them the kind of power that we're feeling right now from Samantha, if you knew they were capable like this, you wouldn't worry about your. Your offer. You wouldn't worry about how you talk about it. You wouldn't worry about the details. You wouldn't worry about whether you didn't explain it properly and then they didn't get it. I don't worry that Samantha won't understand what I just told her about Italy. If she doesn't get it, she'll be like, tell me more. I don't understand. Like, she's powerful. Look, she's powerful. She doesn't need me. She's not like, okay, I'd like to go on a vacation, but please don't mess me up. And I don't want to get hurt. And I don't want to go to a place where it's got a bad reputation and I don't have all that much money. And also, I'm giving up my college savings to go. And also, I don't know and help and please don't screw me like that, that is like, I feel guilty, I feel bad. I don't want to show you the best places. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to explain it. I feel like I need to overcompensate. And this is what happens. A lot of times when you're trying to sell, you'll notice it within you. And the reason you do it is not because you're not good at selling. It's because you imagine the person sitting in front of you is not powerful. Sometimes you're right. But what I found is if the person in front of me is not powerful, I do not entertain sales conversation with them. I have them come back when they're ready. So what I love about this, it's like I know the things that I buy from pure desire. They just make me happy. You wouldn't say I feel powerful when I buy travel. You'd say, I feel happy when I buy travel. So many people are trying to use their money to feel powerful by buying, when in fact you're powerful just because you have the money. The purchase is supposed to make you feel like, I did this for me. I'm so happy. This is a gift I got for myself. I'm so proud of me. I'm so happy. Anytime there's guilt attached, fear attached, pressure attached, then the buying experience is different. So when you're saying like, there's other places where it's a little crunchier, what I would look at is where in there, are you afraid you won't get the experience that you want? And so say, for example, I want to buy what's something? I want to buy a car, but I want to buy a fancy car. I want to buy like Ferrari. And I decide I want to buy a Ferrari. I go to the Ferrari dealership and I look at the cars and I'm just like, am I even worthy of this car? Do I? Am I hot enough to have this car? Where am I going to park it? What if I never use it? What if I scratch it? Oh my gosh. Totally my style to scratch it. My garage is always dirty. I'm going to park a Ferrari in my dirty garage. Now. I feel disempowered around the purchase even though it's a Ferrari. So it's noticing within us where this is why there's so much power in buying, is it tells us a lot about ourselves and how we feel about ourselves. When, when I travel, I feel free, I feel happy. I make the memories of my life. I get the best pictures I tell the best stories. I feel inspired. I do better in business. This is a good purchase for me. I'm empowered and I'm happy when it's like, well, I would really need to learn this skill and I don't feel good enough. And I'm going to buy it in hopes that it works sometimes. That's crunchy. Powerful. Looks like I have the money. I could choose to buy this or not buy this. Why do I want it? I want to be in a conversation about this kind of thing right now. I think it would be good for me. It would be good for my business to even be in this kind of conversation. I want to do it. I'm doing it. This feels good to me. I'm in. I feel good. No crunch. It's in the fear that I won't get what I need. But I buy it anyway. That's the problem. And so we've got to cultivate our inner power. The power is in the bank account. You don't even need to spend it to be powerful. No is as powerful as yes. But can you? But when you say yes from a place of desire and you learn how powerful you are, that means every time you give a part of your money away, it's like, every time you give a part of your body away, it's like every time you give a part of your time away, it's like, this is important. It's sacred. It matters. This is you choosing where you select to put your energy, your time, your money. So what I would look for in the future is when you get that crunchy feeling. Ask yourself, am I buying this because I think buying it will give me power, or do I. Am I buying it because there's something within the experience that I value and that will help you tidy it up.

I love it. And the other thing that kind of came to mind, too, it's like, for travel, it's so clear and clean that I'm going to be in the moment. It's like, for everything. It's like from the moment I say yes, I'm in the present moment. So I really think that in that immersiveness and like, just being in the moment with the purchase and the whole experience is where I get all my power. So I'm thinking about other areas where I feel like, yeah, I can see where I pull myself in my head, pull myself out of the moment, and then create that block.

This is huge. And I will say, for me, personal development has been such an important piece of my journey. But every time I bought personal development. I felt the way you just described. Yeah, every time. Whether I was buying from Tony Robbins, whether I was buying from Rory Ray in my beginnings, whether I was buying from whoever it was, there was always this feeling like, who does this? Who invests in their mind like this, in their heart, like this, in their business like this, like, this is a huge freaking deal. I saw myself making such a beautiful choice for myself, and I made those containers mean so much in my life. And it was like, this is a phase in my life where I'm focusing on this. I let myself have an experience with every personal development purchase. And if you can do that for yourself during the buyer, if instead of seeing it like, I bought this program, if instead you can say, I bought this experience, how can I make this program fit into my life? How can I travel with this program? Can I take these conversations to me, with me to the coffee shop and on my walks? Can I contemplate this over dinner with a friend? Can I. Can I bring this into my life as this is my focus right now? Because if I do, this became way bigger than the thing I bought. It became the thing that I'm living with right now. And there's something about that experience that's so much richer for us and that taps into that feminine energy a lot more as well. It's the difference. And this is why I encourage people when they're buying. You know, can you set up a buying experience for yourself? If I'm going to buy something big, piece of jewelry, it's like, okay, I want to stay at a hotel the night before. I want to go for dinner. I want to have time to do my hair and my makeup. I want to go and buy this. I want the whole experience to be, for me, it's not just I bought, it's I created this experience. And so can you give yourself that? Those moments of, like, this is me, the I'm powerful because I have the money to say yes or no, then if I choose to say yes, it's got to be desire. How do I create this to be an experience that I take home with me? Something that's so much bigger than just, I paid or I got, I got, they got me, which is even worse. And so this is the kind of conversation now that starts to stimulate your understanding that buying is actually a really, really pleasurable experience when you're the right buyer. Why would we want anything other than the right buyer? Why would we want anything other than the right buyer? This is exactly what we want for our businesses to feel like we're going to have fun for a long time, they're sustainable for a long time. And we're going to get the right people in for the right. For a long time is the right buyer. The buyer that buys on their own term. And that is so important. So thank you so much for sharing with us, Samantha. This was an awesome interaction. Thank you. So I love bringing these conversations forward because I feel like you can tell in the energy of the person when they're talking and they're powerful with their money. You can feel it. And if I were to ask someone who here has ever had an experience where they didn't really want to buy the thing, but they felt like they had wasted the person's time too much or they had, they'd asked too many questions already, they tried the thing on, they'd done too much. It got to a point where it was like, if I don't buy this, I'm going to look like I'm poor, I'm going to look like I'm a jerk or I'm going to look like this. And so I bought it. Does anybody have an experience like that where they ever did that? And then it was like the worst purchase. Maybe you never wore it or you never used it or you, you regret it. Did you ever have anything like that happen to you? Okay, so I just want you to contemplate that. We don't need to come in and discuss it, but I just want you to see the difference. Like if I bought this because I thought I should, that's not the same feeling. My power lies before I buy. It's not the buying that makes me powerful. It's the fact that I know that I could buy or I could not buy. And I then my choosing comes from a place of desire. Buying doesn't make you powerful. And so why is this important? Because for a lot. And this is like the, the opening breakthrough for you in this session that I really want you to contemplate in the pre work, a lot of people imagine that their audience is not powerful because they haven't bought yet. Have you ever had that thought? I don't have the people in my. Nobody in my audience has the money. No one in my network will buy this. I don't know anyone that will buy this template in the pre work. A lot of people imagine that their audience is not powerful because they haven't bought yet. Have you ever had that thought? I don't have the people in my. Nobody in my audience has the money no one in my network will buy this. I don't know anyone that will buy this. People will think it's too expensive. People won't buy it. If you've ever had those fears, what you actually have started doing is you have attached the buying power to their actual power, and that is not correct. If you say the people in my audience don't have the power to buy and that's why they're not buying, that's very different than saying the people in my audience have the power to buy, and they're not. I wonder why. But we don't want to do that because that would mean there's something that we're doing that's not adequate. It would maybe mean there's something in our energy that's not sitting well. It would mean something. So what we would rather do is say, I don't have anybody in my audience with money. I don't have any potential clients with money. I don't have it. I don't have them. So it's easy for these people. They're getting all these people signing up for their stuff because they're surrounded with people that have money. The greatest art, even more than attracting people who are wealthy, is being able to expect power in people before they show you it's there. If you can take this on as a breakthrough in your life, things are going to change very rapidly. Some of the most wealthy people I have ever met look entirely poor. For fun, they're like, I don't want to. I don't want to put a. Put a shiny light on myself. I don't wear my jewelry out. I don't want people attacking me in the streets. I don't drive. I don't want anybody stealing my car. I don't drive a fancy car. I don't care about the brands. I don't want people to think I have money. I don't want people treating me different because they think I'm rich. I don't want a lot of the wealthiest people I know act as though they're not. How many people do you cross the street walking next to thinking they're all that? And really they're wearing on their body everything they own, they own. There's not a penny left in the bank account, but they're dressed head to toe in Louis Vuitton. And then how many people do you think have no power that are actually sitting on $100 million? It's kind of crazy, our perception of people. And so this is when people start getting manipulated by things where it's like the perception of me is making me want to buy or not buy. It's what people think of me instead of my experience as a person, my life experience, my. You know, when I. A lot of my life, events that I go to, I'm not allowed to post on social media. I get invited to events. You're not allowed to take your phone because there's celebrities there. It's like there's. You can't. You can't bring your phone. You're not allowed. The best of my life. I'm not allowed to show on social media. So the craziest things is like, when people are living in gratification and validation and I need to prove that I'm successful instead of, I know I'm successful, I know my power. I understand other people's power has nothing to do with whether they're flashing purchases or not. Then it comes from this really solid place. If I'm showing that I bought a Louis Vuitton purse is because I love the Louis Vuitton purse, and I took a picture of it and I thought it was beautiful and I shared it. It was definitely not for people to think, oh, Melanie has power, she has a purse. That's not the vibe. And because that's not the vibe, I tend to not get misunderstood all that much with my clients around purchases that I make. The people who misunderstand me are people who don't know my work. So they're just seeing an image and they don't even know what the context is. But very rarely does a person I work with misunderstand the way I do things because it comes from such a clean place. So what I would have you look at in your life is what would it look like? This is another contemplation. What would it look like if you did not need to prove that you had money ever? It didn't need to. Your house didn't need to look a certain way. Your style didn't need to look a certain way. The restaurants you eat don't, don't. How much you tip, whether you spend or not, whether you buy or not. You don't need that for you to feel like the world knows that you've got the money and that you've got the power. Would you buy differently if you knew you did not need to prove anything with your money, that actually the money that you hold in secret, that no one knows about is your most, most powerful money? And the money that you spend from a place of desire without need is your most enjoyable Purchase. If that was your life, how many things would you maybe cut out? Now when we do this, Chrissy says, can I just say I feel so relieved. I feel so relieved. I love that. And seen right now, this whole conversation. And Samantha says, I feel like this was the big unlock for me. Such powerful conversation. We want. We want. And here, here's the other big thing. When you buy out of guilt and you buy out of pressure and you buy out of all the things, people don't appreciate your power, they appreciate their talent. It's the same thing when a guy's learned the little techniques. Insult her a little bit, flirt with her best friend, you'll get her. If he does get you, he's proud of his technique. It's much more about the validation of getting the sale than the relationship with the client. This is why I really believe this is the new paradigm in sales. I believe it's the new era in business. And I believe that people who are conscious with their money will only buy this way in the future. And there will be a very clean line. It'll be like people who don't know how to sell this way and haven't done the work to allow themselves to sell this way just won't, won't sell. It just won't work. Value sees value 100. So in exponential wealth, we talk a lot about people and their power in the buyer. We talk about people and their power for different reasons. But the idea is you're here in the buyer because you are powerful, because you have a business that matters to you, because you have clients that matter to you, and because you are more drawn to a conversation about attracting better clients than you were about being able to get people. And that is a huge freaking deal that makes me want to help you so much. Like I want to give you everything. Because that's what you said yes to. You didn't join this program to be a master at sales and manipulate whoever you wanted to buy anything. You came in here to attract people who are in alignment with themselves, who say yes and who buy from the right place. You're world class. And if you realize this is the paradigm we're in and this is what most. This is what people are going to start to realize. Like I am, I am worthy of my own decisions. No one gets to tell me what I should and shouldn't have. No one tells me how to buy or what to buy. I choose. I lead myself, I guide myself, and then I'm proud of my decisions. And I want clients that have the Same thing. So we're going to enter some pre work tomorrow and Sunday and I'm going to have you contemplate some other things. But the beautiful thing about the buyer right now is any breakthrough that's easily available for you from this conversation, anchor it in. So if you hang up from this and you're like, oh gosh, this is making me realize stuff, journal it, think about it, write it down, don't let the thoughts escape you and see if there's something that you're feeling called to either change, adapt, or just, just make a note of. I think from this point forward I'm going to do this, or I wonder if I could change this. Share with us in the group. Let's see what came up for you. These conversations are so important because most people model what they see. They don't even talk about why they're doing it. They don't think about why they're doing it. They don't even think about whether it's right or not what they're doing. They just copy what they see that looks like it's working instead of having conversations about what's correct for them. So this is like the opening of one of the most important conversations your business will ever have. Christy says, seen because sometimes it's frustrating when there are so many others who expect to see success or see wealth in order for them to treat you with the respect that you feel that you would treat with me by way. So here's, here's a big piece and I think this is very valuable. Sometimes we do it so that we'll be treated with respect, but that's not respect. If you treat me different because I'm rich, you don't respect me. And that took me until I was rich to realize it. I thought I'm so I look forward to having the money so no one looks down at me again. And then I realized the people who didn't look down at me then don't look down at me now. And the people who did you look down at me then, who don't look down at me now. It's definitely not a respect that changed. It's a piece of them that they were trying to position themselves with. Because I don't, I don't care whether you have money or not. I respect you the exact same way. It doesn't matter who you are is who you are is who you are is who you are. What it affects is will I, will you be my business mentor? No. You know, will I go into an equal partnership with you where we're both responsible equally for a financial investment. No, like, there's things that make it that we're not a match. But do I respect you less? Nope. And I thought people would respect me less. Only the people who wouldn't respect you anyway only look like they respect you when you're rich. But they don't. They're probably looking for all the ways that you shouldn't be rich and you're not good enough and it's not fair anyway because in real fact, that's just not how humans real. It's not the way we really respect each other. Respect comes from you matter. You're valuable, you're alive. You're a human. You have kids, you have a family, you're someone's child. You, you've been through adversity, you've learned different skills, you've seen the world, you've traveled, you've. I value you because of everything, because of your life, because it's not like, oh, you're rich, I value you. And if that is the case, then it's not real value and it's not real respect anyway. So if you try to show people that you're worthy of their respect and that's the only way you get it, that's not, that's not even real respect. And you know it. And that's why you're terrified that if you ever can't continue it, you're going to lose all their respect. And that's the rat race a lot of people fall into. Because I see a lot of sales conversations on the Internet. Like I, you know, there, if there's a dip, I feel guilty. Like I, I don't have the consistency and I want it to be all the same. I want to have all this consistency. Why? Because I finally have respect. And if I don't have the consistency, the respect will go. Then you don't have the respect. You have admiration, you have pedestal, you have something else. But respect comes when you find it. It's the, it's the energy that Samantha walks into the room with and says, I want to travel and I want to buy travel. And I know this is going to be good for me. Whether she buys the travel from me or not, I respect her. It's the energy of Chrissy that says, I'm looking for a mentor. I don't know who. I don't really know you much. I think I'm going to start here. And doesn't buy the big package right away because she wants to find out who I Am. I respect her. I respect her. I respect. I respect her. She's doing what she's got to do. I want to buy a car. I want to buy a second property. I want to do the things. And it's also in the. I'm. I'm not buying right now. This is not correct for me. I respect that also. So respect is something that happens because you are doing what's right for you. I respect people who do what's right for them. You know, even in intimacy, when we turn this into. Because sometimes it's cool to see it because everything's a sale. Everything is a sale. Even intimacy is a sale, you know? Yes. Or I have a headache, but it's a sale. Something's happening or something's not happening tonight. And so there's a difference between the feeling that you have when you're powerful and you're up for something. And it's like, I desire this and I'm excited and I'm happy, and this is a good experience versus fine. That's not. That's not the same feeling, no matter what. And you could say, like, I respect you. I respect you because I respect you. Because what? Like, because you gave it up? Usually it's the opposite. Men will say, I respected a woman who didn't give it up, but she had it to give. The parts were there. She just said no. But so many young girls will give it up because they think if they do, they'll be more respected, they'll be more desired, they'll be more something. That's the cheapest form. I give it up to show I have it instead of, I don't need to give it up because I have it. Your sex, your money, your power, it's yours. Whoever gets it is because you chose it. That's when you're powerful. And when you understand that, you start to see power in other people. And when you see power in other people, you call up power in other people and they start to show up in that kind of power. And then we're talking. That's when your business really starts to see a different turn. It's when your relation starts to see a different term. It's when your intimacy takes a different turn, and that's really what we're wanting. I don't need to give it up to show I have it. I have it and that's enough. And then I choose what I want to do from pleasure. And I don't care what people think. I don't care if they think I'm A bum or a prude or cheap, because it's not, it's not the truth. And that's what they imagine is true about me because that's how they experience their poverty. That's how they experience their lack of connection to their own body. And it's an absolute projection. But I will not change the way I give my money, my intimacy, my body, my money, my power. So someone else feels like I'm powerful because then I wasn't to begin with. So in this, we start to have a lot of respect for people. I respect every person that's here. This was your decision. This is your thing. This I respect. And I want you to get what you wanted. That's not the same feeling. If I had to push you to get you in here, that's not the same feeling. If I had to drag you to get you in here, then it feels like I need to make it up. I need to make sure you get it. I worry about you, I fear for you. I, I have all these feelings about you, but it's definitely not respect. I respect my clients because they make their choices. You deserve to have a business like that. This is how long term business occurs. This is how repeat clients come back because it's their choice and they don't feel like they were gotten. They feel like they did something that was right for them. And as often as that feels like the right move, they come back over and over and over again. So before we even enter the deep conversations of how to set this up and how to start bringing this into your business, I want you to just contemplate the energetics of it for yourself. All the little moving parts we talked about, how did that make you feel? Where did you get triggered? Where did you realize that crud? I did, I did this. I, I, I bought that way or I've sold that way or what comes up. And Jacqueline's going to be putting in an activation rather soon for the first thing, just to move some of this because in order to add new things, we can't build it on top of any kind of shame or guilt or fear that that's the only way. So if you had any kind of reaction to this, there's something you're struggling with, if there's something that you didn't like, if there's something that you're afraid of, if there's something, I would really love it if you shared it in the group because it'll help us mentor you better. It'll make sure that we navigate the program and nail it for you every step of the way. So don't be ashamed, don't be worried. The fact that you're here, you're powerful. The fact that you show up for the teachings and the coaching means you're utilizing the thing you bought. That's power. You don't need to look like anything for anybody in here. This is you and your business and your clients. Everyone else here is a peer with as much value as you do because they led themselves to this container. You don't need to prove anything to anybody. You don't need to look more polished, more capable, or less afraid for anybody's benefit. The goal here is that you leave with what you came to get. That's the plan. So enjoy this experience. Do it for you. Don't worry about anything else. This is for your business. We'll see your comments in there, in the group, whatever it was that, that really, you know, came out for you. If you need to watch this a couple of times, no problem. There'll be pre work tomorrow and Sunday and then module one on Monday. Thank you for being here. Welcome to the buyer. Let's have the time of our freaking lives. I will see you on Monday. Bye, Sam. It.