Hannah Rose explores the difference between loving someone and loving the feeling of being loved. She describes prioritizing how much someone liked her over who they actually were, and argues you should evaluate attraction separately from how the other person treats you.
I don't know if any of you can relate to this, but I used to be in love with people being in love with me, right? Like it was a high knowing how much someone loved me was a huge— or liked me. Pump the brakes, Hannah. Was a huge factor on whether or not I was ever interested in them. And so a lot of times my standard for dating, and this was true for many years of my life, was whether or not the other person was into me. And then from there I would say, oh yeah, I also like this. I also like this. And so one thing that's been incredibly helpful for me in gauging my feelings for someone is if I remove the way they treat me, which is very important, the way they think about me, feel about me, the way they love or strongly like me, can I look at this person as an individual and really like them? And of course, how they treat me and look at me and love me matters. It absolutely matters. But if that's the primary thing keeping me in the relationship, that's absolutely something I want to look at and kind of explore a little further.
