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Jesse Pujji argues that parenting from resentment stems from feeling forced into it. He suggests arranging childcare so parenting feels voluntary, not obligatory, and warns that guilt drains your effectiveness as a parent.
Jesse Pujji argues that parenting from resentment stems from feeling forced into it. He suggests arranging childcare so parenting feels voluntary, not obligatory, and warns that guilt drains your effectiveness as a parent.
There's this thing in conscious parenting, conscious, you know, leadership parenting stuff of anytime you're doing something from victimhood, meaning you have to do it, you end up building resentments. I mean, there's stories of parents who resent their children, like, and it's not an uncommon thing. You know what? It's building resentment in my wife. It's like, why did she want us to have a third kid? You happen to be blaming her instead of the baby because you don't want to blame the baby. When you, when you do things from victimhood, it generally builds resentment. I tend to think of the flip of that as like, how do you have the most indulgent childcare possible? Not because you might need it all the time, but because every time you, you, you parent, you want it to feel like a choice. Your kids, by the way, see that you respect yourself and your time. They also get the best energy out of you. One thing that I see in you is just a lot of guilt that I have to do everything. But I think guilt is a big driver of not wanting to fully have your best.
