Justin Patrick PierceYoga of Intimacy · Relationship Consultant

Dating Advice | Your Feeler is a Gift

Name: Dating Advice | Your Feeler is a Gift
Uploaded: 2026-01-26T14:00:06+00:00
Duration: 1 min 25 s
Channel: Justin Patrick Pierce
Description: In this short video, Speaker A explains a dating framework called polarity, where men are cast as the "Seer" (analytical, visionary) and women as the…

26 Jan 2026 · 1 min

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In this short video, Speaker A explains a dating framework called polarity, where men are cast as the "Seer" (analytical, visionary) and women as the "Feeler" (present, sensory, emotionally attuned). He argues that many women unintentionally compete with men by trying to match their achievements, which undermines attraction. Instead, he advises women to embody the Feeler by staying in the present moment—slowing their breath, feeling the physical sensations of sitting, speaking, and drinking tea—so that a Seer perceives a rich, trusting presence. This presence is described as a "gift" that only a woman can offer when she trusts her partner, and it can make a lasting impression on a man. Speaker B briefly affirms the rarity and truth of this insight. The overall message encourages women to shift from competitive comparison to embodied, trusting presence as a way to create polarity and deeper connection in dating.

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Most women, because they don't know better, are inadvertently competing with men on dates. This is what I used to do before I found out about polarity. It's like, he says he went to this school, and I'm like, oh, I went to this school. He's this, this, and this, and I'm trying to show him I'm that, that, and that, because I'm thinking if he thinks we're the same, he's probably going to think I'm a pretty good match to him. It wasn't until I found polarity that I realized He's looking for different. I certainly am not going to take that into he's looking for dumb and simple, because he's amazing and complex. But he's looking for different from the point of view of this. Maybe he's the Seer and you be the Feeler, and boom, you have polarity. So an example of going on a date from Omega would be to be in the Feeler. And how do you do that without it being like overtly sexual if you're not sure about this guy yet? You sit in the seat when you sit down and you feel what it feels like to sit in that seat. You slow down your breath. He asks you a question, you feel what that feels like in your body. You know, you drink a sip of your tea and you feel it go down your throat. This is a profound gift to any seer, just to be in the presence of a feeler. And if you're not sure if what I'm saying is true, try it. They just like basically like into the present moment because the moment's become so rich, so pregnant.
Yeah, it's not only true, it's rare.
So if a man does experience that, it stands out as something incredibly interesting and evocative for him, but also a gift, because the only time a woman does that is when she trusts the person that she's with. Now, whether he can keep earning that is another issue, Single is a different ballgame. You don't have to stay open when he starts losing your trust, but to initially offer it is a huge gift.