You don't need your relationship to change to feel alive and present. Juiciness comes from inside, from how you breathe and where you put your attention. A scattered mind blocks it; gentle focus and movement open it back up.
That juiciness doesn't happen when the stars align or the man behaves perfectly. In fact, that juiciness is what we need most when the stars don't align and the man behaves terribly. And that juiciness is something that no one and no thing can take away from you. And here's the catch: no one can give it to you either. We think that that perfect love will give us this place, when in fact this place isn't something we go to get. This is the place that is always gently abiding, and all we need to do is become subtle, subtle enough to feel it. So when you feel lost and alone and spun out, I want you to remember it is the focusing of the mind that awakens the subtle energies. When the mind is everywhere and it's all over the place and stimulated by a thousand things, it's very hard to feel this place. When you're in fight or flight, go, go, go, or fear, when you're not breathing or you're avoiding feeling, it's very hard to feel this place because you have so much control to keep the thing that you don't want to feel down. And when you're not moving and all that feeling comes, like maybe you're willing to breathe but no move, and all that feeling comes, it can be like very overwhelming. So a key part of what we did tonight was to get moving with things, because we'll, we'll notice that when we start moving, it all seems way more manageable.
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